Why does this man adhere to what his Mommy says, always? Why is my mother in law so resistant to allowing her son to grow up?
Q. Dear Cupid ,I am love with this guy that I have known for many years. We have a daughter together. I broke the relationship off and moved to another state. We talk to one another on the phone from time to time and every time I hear his voice it mak...
A. 10 February 2013: I agree completely with male anonymous. You dumped him and took his kid to another state. If that happened to be I wouldn't be very happy. If that happened to my child the last thing I'd want was for them to get hurt again.
Parents (should)... (read in full...)
My Boyfriend says I'm boring and I "mother" him. How can I regain his interest?
Q. my boyfriend recently told me that hes bored with me and that i dont "challenge" him enough. After 2 years together he thinks we have nothing to talk about and that i mother him too much. i was shocked. I thought he was happy with how things ...
A. 10 February 2013: Most people are boring, but their partner is usually boring as well so they're content sitting there watching tv tigether.
A relationship that consists of working, eating, and sleeping can't be exciting for everyone.
The best relationships, a... (read in full...)
Why does she take days to respond to my texts? is she playing hard to get or is she disinterested?
Q. There's this girl I really like whom I met about 4 months ago. We see each other only once a week along with a group. I am friends with her sister but not too close to her (although we get along great). At first, she use to reply to my texts in a t...
A. 10 February 2013: Most people are done playing hard to get at 4 months. You should accept the reality: you guys aren't meant to be. ... (read in full...)
Should I allow him to "brand" me with a tattoo? He's 24. I know he will not take me back if I refuse.
Q. So, me and this guy have just been through a break up, our relationship was a little rough around the edges mainly because he's 24 and I'm 16. I know I know, forget about the age a second. I'm really desperate to get him back and he says I need to ...
A. 10 February 2013: WOW! The tattoo would only be the first of a long line of disasters if you don't walk away from this guy and never look back.
You probably don't love him- he's just mind f*cked you into thinking you do. The fact that you're even consider... (read in full...)
She's 19 and I'm 23. If I accept her invitation to go to a nighclub am I likely to have trouble getting her into venues that only accept over 21 year olds?
Q. I've been dating this girl for over a month now and tonight she invited me out to go dancing with her at a nightclub. The issue is I'm not all too familiar with nightclubs as it was never really my thing and the last time I went to one I think I ...
A. 10 February 2013: Yeah it is kind of a dumb question but that's only because you misunderstand something. It's not an under 21 club its an all ages club, which means you don't have to be drinking age to go there. ... (read in full...)
What can I do? I don't like it when he calls me bad names, but I'm also scared of him.
Q. I have been hanging out with this man for about 5 months, he says we are just friends but we act more like a couple, heres my question!! I have been giving him b j a lot and there have been times he pushes my head down and he calls me bad names a ...
A. 10 February 2013: The whole name calling thing is called "talking dirty". He is probably not doing it to be an asshole. But if you tell him you're not into it and he still does it then he is definitely an asshole.
Judging by your passive nature you haven't ... (read in full...)
Two weeks ago I asked my BF for a break, but he is pushing me to end the break. He's so controlling.
Q. If you were in my situation, what would you do? Long story short, I've been in a long distance relationship for almost 8 years. The first 2 years in our relationship were amazing, he was loving, caring and very sweet. We talked about moving in ...
A. 10 February 2013: If I'm reading this correctly, you've been in a long distance relationship for 8 years? If so it's absolutely time to end things. What could you be getting out of this that you can't find near you?
I realize that you have a history together... (read in full...)
Porn users: how valid is my Bf excuse that he 'forgot' his user name on a porn site? Was that said to prevent me seeing his porn use log?
Q. Right this question is slightly different than most porn questions. It is directed at the techies. My boyfriend told me the site from which he downloaded his porn from, I asked his username. I discovered I could try and find out when he last log...
A. 10 February 2013: This question is more of the same in that it's a woman trying to force her man to stop watching porn and he's telling you he doesn't.
The results are pretty predictable. ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her to give up her sex toys? And consider a real guy like me for sex?
Q. I a year a 25 year old male with a new girlfriend who is 21 years old. We have been going out for about three months. After the first week of dating the subject of sex came up She told me that she had bad sexual experiences with her last boyfrie...
A. 10 February 2013: For her to choose sex toys over the real thing is a pretty big deal- beyond the scope of you "convincing" her.
A better idea would be to find someone you're compatible with and let her do the same. ... (read in full...)
He makes me feel secondary to pornstars. Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough?
Q. Right my situation might be perceived to some as someone who has got their priorities wrong but I will continue.... Is it a stupid reason to dump someone because they don't make you feel sexually desirable enough? I am sure that he cared l...
A. 9 February 2013: This guy has his priorities. They're messed up but that's his choice. Excessive porn use can certainly cause ED among other things. So if he's happy with porn, you need to find someone who'll be happy with YOU.
In most circumstances I believe ... (read in full...)
Is he worth my time anymore? He says he's apprenhensive about calling me his Gf. Yet he's happy to share my bed
Q. So basically, I've been seeing this guy (let's call him C) for 2 and a half months now, I've been keeping count! I don't know about anyone else, but I think 2 and half months is a long, long time to be "seeing" someone and not even be official yet! ...
A. 9 February 2013: People are all different so his argument sounds valid to me. That's how I am. Yours sounds important to you as well, but you have to realize that you shouldn't force him to do anything he doesn't want to, that will lead to him being resentful.
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I've fallen head over heels in love with him. And he's flirted with me. But there's a catch: he has a Gf. What can I do?
Q. Okay, so... I've met this guy about a month ago, and even though it's only been a month, I've quite quickly fallen head over heels. Like, I've never really felt this way about anyone before so he's obviously special! Now over the course of th...
A. 9 February 2013: If you're not trying to be a homewrecker then don't try to break up their relationship!
If you really don't care then just proceed as if he didn't have a girlfriend. You can't convince him to break up with a girl he's got history with and is h... (read in full...)
Is it unhealthy or bad to make love every day?
Q. I live with my bf and we make love almost everyday,very often. Right now I am thinking on how bad it could be for me as a girl,I don't really think it good to do it everyday. I spoke to him about it and he explain how much he loves making lov...
A. 9 February 2013: It's a great form of exercise. It's only unhealthy if you get pregnant or an STD. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has had money troubles and now he wants to transfer my name over onto his bills. Why? Is he just using me?
Q. My boyfriend has had quite a few financial troubles in his past, and has had a few court cases in which people owed him money and vice versa. He seems to be paranoid and wants his name off a lot of things. For instance, he has a mailbox in anoth...
A. 9 February 2013: That's a great idea, and while your at it I have a gun that I want you to get your fingerprints all over and then give back to me so I can go rob a bank.
Listen, don't worry about him using you. He is, but his intentions aren't necessar... (read in full...)
My b/f knew I was ill but told a friend how dirty and smelly I was!
Q. When I started going out with him, I was going under some medication, due to an infection I showed him my medical test result and how am taking care of myself, due to the infection, when I pee I had a bad odour, but I had been to see a Doctor. My doc...
A. 8 February 2013: It was probably a turn off too soon in the relationship for him. You have to save that stuff for later. It was a little insensitive of him but as you say it was the truth.
Your issue should be him sharing details of your relationship with oth... (read in full...)
I was about to end things with him and he turned his act around. Now I'm confused.
Q. I am 26 and have been with my boyfriend for 3.5 years. I love him a lot, but for the last couple of months I feel like I don't know if I want to be with him anymore but at the same time I can't imagine not being with him either. What should I do? We ...
A. 8 February 2013: I'd give it some time. My wife and I had a "near divorce experience" and ended up working things out. But she "snapped" as you put it. She wasn't sure if she'd ever feel the same for me but she stuck with it and things are a lot better now.
Make ... (read in full...)
Guys, do you prefer shaved or natural/trimmed pubic hair?
Q. Dear guys, This is just a question for you: Do you prefer women to be all hairless/shaved/waxed in the pubic area or is it also okay for you if a woman is just a little trimmed or even completely natural? Would it be a turn off for you if you ...
A. 8 February 2013: I'm pretty open minded and appreciate the differences of either.
In all honesty if a girl was excessively hairy it wouldn't be appealing. But the last few women I've been with were very sexy either way. ... (read in full...)
My ex has moved on but I don't feel ready to
Q. Hi I've quite recently just broken up with my girlfriend of 3 years (or so). I have been trying to distance myself from her for some time now but recently I have had to get back in contact. We still get on amazingly well (and I think I still lo...
A. 8 February 2013: Just because she's dating someone else doesn't mean she's over you. Some people need rebound relationships to try and get over their exes.
Besides my wife the girl that I was into the most broke up with me. I moved on, but she changed her mind... (read in full...)
My husband masturbates 5-6 times a week but cant get me pregnant!
Q. [Mod Note: Please give more information. Do you use protection? Are you trying for a baby? Has he been to the doctors? How often do you have sex? How often does he masturbate? Have you talked to him about this? More information will help you get ...
A. 7 February 2013: You didn't ask a question here but I assume it's "how do I get him to come inside of me more?"
I get the feeling he doesn't really want a baby. There's no non medical reason that would prevent him from being able to perform his duties.
Talk... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is thinking about getting back with his ex. He doesn't know that I know!
Q. Found out my boyfriend of 4 years is thinking about getting back together with his ex-wife. He does not know that I know this...what to do?...
A. 7 February 2013: You don't really have a lot of options. You can do nothing and see how things play out, confront him, or leave him.
If you ignore it then you'll have this hanging over things and you'll probably have issues trusting him.
You won't be able to... (read in full...)
Where is this relationship going? I think her feelings may be more serious than mine. Nor sure what to do?
Q. Been with my girlfriend for about 9 months now, first few months didn't really count as we started dating towards the end of the uni year, then I went travelling over summer, and we live in different areas but still spoke frequently and met up when ...
A. 7 February 2013: You should say to her much of what you wrote here.
If she cherishes her virginity then it's especially important. If she doesn't why should you? Just date her and take things one step at a time and enjoy your time together. ... (read in full...)
Is it weird for someone straight to like gay porn?
Q. Hey, this is really embarrassing but I was wondering if anyone else had this problem: I'm 19 and I'm completely straight, like I've never been "confused" or anything like that, but from the age of about 15 I've only liked gay (guy on guy) porn, an...
A. 7 February 2013: Of course it's weird. But, it's pretty normal and nothing to be ashamed of. Shoot, what's the difference between you and all the guys that like lesbian porn?
I had a friend in high school whose girlfriend offered to pay us to have sex with eac... (read in full...)
Betrayed! He lied about his age and said he had no children. I was infatuated with him. Should I tell him I know he lied?
Q. I need help and opinions. Keep in mind I know how reckless I have been with my own heart and I don't need you to tell me that... I am 19 years old. I met a man at work I was completely infatuated with and I gave him my number. He ended up calli...
A. 7 February 2013: Well, he might have really liked you and been afraid that the truth would turn you off. Sort of the same way if someone asks how tall a shorter guy is he always adds an inch.
So his intentions might not have been to deceive you as much as it se... (read in full...)
I'm really disappointed in myself. How can I motivate myself?
Q. So lately i have been feeling like a nobody. I dont have a job, i dropped out of school back in 2008, havent been able to get my g.e.d and have been a house wife ever since my son was born in 2009. Ive had two jobs between 2009 thru now but didnt ...
A. 7 February 2013: I think this is a situation that many women (possibly even men) find themselves in. You're not alone, nothing is wrong with you.
Keep in mind that you and your life are in transition; right now your child needs you. In just a year or two they... (read in full...)
When is the appropriate time to talk about sex?
Q. So I have been seeing this girl for a little more than 3 weeks. I am 25 she is 21. She is really sweet, we have a lot of fun together, and I definetly see potential. Thing is she is kind of shy, she told me straight up she moves slower...
A. 7 February 2013: I don't think you should be asking her about it. Talk about not being smooth, "So, do you want to have sex?" just doesn't have a ring to it. Instead, why don't you read her body language when you get into a romantic situation?
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How can I find out if she is serious about our relationship or if this is just for fun?
Q. I was chatting with a girl from last 8 months and unexpectedly she proposed me and im happy with this relationship, but sometimes somewhere i think she wants relationship for fun because she doesn't msg and call me often in a day...so how can i come ...
A. 6 February 2013: Go with the flow. If you're happy with her and your relationship, great. If you're not then move on. Don't worry about what someone else does, just worry about choosing the right person for you. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants a divorce after rushing the marriage, was she just using me to get over her ex? What should I do now?
Q. Seven months ago, on a dating site ,I met American girl who was 16 years olders than me , means she was 46 and I was 30 then. In just matter of two months , she came to Pakistan and married me. Honestly speaking, she was doing all that too quickly ...
A. 6 February 2013: You are accusing her of this and that and she seems to be guilty but you are just as guilty as her. If you had used common sense and some good judgment then you wouldn't be having this problem. ... (read in full...)
We tried to move past his cheating but I'm recently starting to resent him for many things, how do I approach this situation?
Q. I don't even know where to start with this be here goes. So I have been in a 3 and half yeah relationship with my boyfriend. He cheated on me but we decided to move on together and move past the situation. We have gone on to have a little boy and...
A. 6 February 2013: It can be hard to leave someone, especially if you have a child together. But I'm not seeing any reason for you not to just push through it. His welfare is his responsibility, so don't let that hold you back.
He'll probably beg for you to not l... (read in full...)
What are his intentions? ignores me for several weeks, then sends a text.
Q. I dated this very good looking man for about 6 weeks. He texted me as soon as he woke up every day and we saw each other once or twice a week. Then we had a fight because I got jealous over his female friends and he put me in my place by clarifying ...
A. 6 February 2013: 7 to 1? Where is this? I'm moving there if I get a divorce.
He probably hopes you'll give it up. If he was interested in a relationship he'd be trying a lot harder. I'm sure he's seeing other people and when nothing works out for the weekend ... (read in full...)
My roomate is trying to sabotage my relationships!
Q. i've got a real problem with my roommate. we've been living together for quite some time now; about 4 years. and she's really caused me a lot of issues in my social and dating life. she's practically a recluse. we work together, that's how i kno...
A. 6 February 2013: There are roommates websites. Find someone to take over your lease. ... (read in full...)
My experience of an LDR has been flawed by his need for a FWB as well. I refused the latter. Can LDR partners stay faithful?
Q. can people mix up long distance friends with benefits relationship with a committed faithful long distance relationship meaning? I was in a long distance relationship and thought he was faithful for the year prior to my trip to meet him. He ke...
A. 6 February 2013: The only LDR's that make any sense at all is when you have been with the person for long enough to know you really like them and circumstances temporarily separate you. I stress TEMPORARILY because dating someone with no specific plan to get back ... (read in full...)
Why did he go out of his way to NOT mention that he has a Gf when he talked to me so often, and more recently flirted with me?
Q. I went out with my coworker two years ago. Things didn't work out between us, and we both (especially him) moved on... but lately we'e been flirting a lot again. [Please don't tell me it won't work out because we work together. If he had expresse...
A. 6 February 2013: It's not uncommon to omit that fact, either because you two have some history or because he wants to keep flirtation a possibility between the two of you.
Don't read too much into it. ... (read in full...)
My roomate is trying to sabotage my relationships!
Q. i've got a real problem with my roommate. we've been living together for quite some time now; about 4 years. and she's really caused me a lot of issues in my social and dating life. she's practically a recluse. we work together, that's how i kno...
A. 6 February 2013: You could tell her that your girlfriend doesn't want to come over because she doesn't like the way your roommate acts, so the next time she does come over you'd like your roommate to keep to herself since she can seem to control herself when she ... (read in full...)
We have children. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. Will he ever change? All his money goes on his lifestyle and we struggle at the best of times
Q. I guess like a lot of girls do, I thought I could change my boyfriend. He smokes weed and drinks a lot. His friends are no good and he doesn't look after me or our children as he should. I don't work as my youngest is 3 weeks old, and my olde...
A. 6 February 2013: He may change, who knows. You may have to give him an ultimatum that he either quits or you are leaving him. If he doesn't quit you need to leave. And you have to follow through.
Give him all of the reasons he needs to hear and be as supporti... (read in full...)
I never told my crush how I feel, and now he's moving to another country. Help!
Q. Hi I'm a girl of 15.. I met a guy since the begining of last year. He is in my school bus but we are not in the same school. From the start I had not noticed about him, but after sometime he started to smile at me and so on.. and I really had a ...
A. 5 February 2013: Your options are:
1.) Get over him. Shouldn't be too hard since your relationship only consisted of smiles and Facebook chats.
2.) Convince his parents to stay in the country.
A reminder about "love": save that word so that when you us... (read in full...)
Suspicious of my friend's request
Q. Dear cupid i know this sounds stupid but a good friend asked me to return some items to a store for store credit because she lost the receipt . I am starting to think she stole them . Would you take them back can i get into trouble?...
A. 5 February 2013: She stole them. They'll ask you for ID and put you in the system when you make a return. Then if you start making too many returns they'll ban you from making any more because they assume they're stolen. That's what happened to her.
I know thi... (read in full...)
Other than a credit card? How to purchase sex toys without the small town bank staff knowing what I purchased?
Q. Hi! Very childish question here, but Im worried. Its a very miniscule problem but I am looking to purchase some "bedroom toys" but Im worried that if I use my debit card the bank will see my purchase! I live in an extremely small town Im taking ...
A. 5 February 2013: PayPal has a debit card so you're good there. ... (read in full...)
Her boyfriend saw the message I sent to her telling her I missed her, and now she claims I've ruined her life! What can I do?
Q. So this girls boyfriend of 3 1/2 years dumped her last year and said he never wanted to speak to her again. We started seeing each other and hav been seeing each other constantly the last 10 months but it was never a relationship, always in ...
A. 5 February 2013: She's upset because he's mad at her. You weren't the one doing anything wrong, she was. Anyone that gets mad at someone when they accidentally expose their lies is just immature. Forget about her, don't respond and don't stress. ... (read in full...)
First date and I got really nervous. Should I skip class so I don't have to see the guy?
Q. So I've been (sort of) talking to this guy whose in one of my classes a little bit and recently we had our first 'official' coffee date after already having made out/ hung out at a couple of parties before and having class together. Weeelll, ...
A. 5 February 2013: That's not a very mature thing to do. Just go to class and talk to him the way you would have before your date. ... (read in full...)
Is it or is it not disrespectful to a wife when a man chats it up with some strange woman and ignores you completely.
Q. I do not know how to add my age to my account but I am 43 years old and my husband is 49. My husband was single for many years after his divorce. I was single for a 2 years before we met, then we were together 4 years before getting married. Yet ...
A. 5 February 2013: You had me agreeing with you until you accused him of sleeping with some of these women. There's no reason to jump to conclusions with no evidence.
In his defense I've found myself in similar situations and forgotten someone's name then not want... (read in full...)
Other than a credit card? How to purchase sex toys without the small town bank staff knowing what I purchased?
Q. Hi! Very childish question here, but Im worried. Its a very miniscule problem but I am looking to purchase some "bedroom toys" but Im worried that if I use my debit card the bank will see my purchase! I live in an extremely small town Im taking ...
A. 5 February 2013: Buy it from a place with a non sexual name. They certainly won't know what you bought but may be able to see where you bought it from. Although even that is unlikely unless there was a reason for them to be looking through your bank statement.
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