To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 21 February 2013: Oh my god, its so obvious she is done with you, love quotes or not. Her real life actions and words are not leaving any room for doubt.
I hope you come back here in a year and read all this. If you do and aren't embarrassed, then you really n... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 18 February 2013: I'm sorry, but this is insane! You should be embarrassed with your behavior! When you look back you will be.
She has made it so obvious that she's not interested in your mistakes or apologies. I can't believe she replied to you; I think it has m... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: Alpha female or not, her priorities are messed up and you'd be better off with someone else. ... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: If you ask a liar for the truth about a sensitive subject what do you get?
So you don't "know" how often she does whatever she does because you're taking her word and, as you said before, she's lied to you in the past. ... (read in full...)
No matter what he does I can't have orgasm from my boyfriend
Q. Why can't i orgasm during sex or when he licks me out or fingers me? When i'm on my own i can orgasm easily with clitoral stimulation from the pulsations in my shower head, but when it comes to my boyfriend, sex doesn't even feel that good, he is ...
A. 17 February 2013: I might have missed it, but have you had sex with anyone else? Did you manage to have an orgasm?
I keep seeing people say most women don't orgasm, but I haven't had that experience. Some take more time than others to figure out. My wife was rela... (read in full...)
Has my ex husband changed or is this a threat?
Q. I have an abusive ex husband who I've recently left, and he really wants to get back together -he's out to a new place for work and has sent this to me - what does this email below mean? Has he really changed or is this a threat or why is he sending ...
A. 17 February 2013: What here indicates that he has changed? Not a single thing. Is he going to counseling? Did he apologize for the way he treated you? No.
Never go back to an abusive partner because of their words. They aren't worth a thing. ... (read in full...)
I gave money to my boyfriend to pay bills but he got a stupid video game!
Q. Hey guys im haveing money issues with my bf and im 17 and need advice. background info is im 17 turn 18 next month my boyfriend is 20. He had a rough life growing up parents on heavey drugs ended up in foster care for awhile. Hes been my bestfriend ...
A. 17 February 2013: He'll be a broke old man and no amount of complaining from you will change that, it'll just make him resent you.
What you can do is stop helping him financially. No food or money. If he's not willing to take care of himself you can't do it for h... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: So, your LDR girlfriend spent Valentines with another guy.... There's no excuse for that, NONE, whether she was telling the truth and just being emotional support or lying and she was actually "with" him.
He is a big boy, and doesn't need you... (read in full...)
Boyfriend tends to go to the main event too quickly. How do I slow him down?
Q. Hi, I've recently entered a new relationship, where I am his first proper sexual partner (apart from a couple of drunken one night stands) but he's not mine. In general, everything is great, the relationship's really good and very open and as much ...
A. 16 February 2013: He's a man and your are communicating with him like he's a woman. Don't "beat around the bush", just be honest and to the point. Tell him that women need more time to warm up than men so, so he needs to slow down. Tell him that more foreplay makes ... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 16 February 2013: Since everyone here has said "leave her alone" and that goes in one ear and out the other, why don't you do it your way and see how that ends up?
Just be sure to report back, maybe we could learn something new. ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to have a child, I dont. What should we do?
Q. I’m 31 year old man and I’m having a trouble in my marriage. My wife ( she's 32) wants a child, I don’t. We are married for 4 years. We discussed this subject many times before our marriage. I told her I never want to have children and asked whether ...
A. 15 February 2013: Unfortunately your situation isn't one with a solution that allows you two to stay together and both be happy.
The desire for kids isn't something that can be talked away. And hating kids means that you shouldn't have them. Your wife's friend i... (read in full...)
My highschool sweetheart cheated on me while Drunk
Q. i have been with my girlfriend for 15 years we are high school sweethearts. ROck solid relationship for 15 fun years. On new years eve she got really really drunk and cheated on me. she was so drunk she hopped in a car with her new slutty manip...
A. 15 February 2013: Sometimes it can feel like the worst thing in the world to be a cheated on. It can make you feel like they don't love you and so many other bad things.
But I've also been the cheater. It doesn't have to mean anything at all. You could be perfect ... (read in full...)
Its been 4 years but I want closure. Should I contact him?
Q. Hey, I was really attracted to a celebrity(about 5 years ago). I would watch all his movies,I thought he was really good looking. He was pretty active on a social networking sight we started talking,then we exchanged emails,spoke on msn messenge...
A. 15 February 2013: 4 years is too long and the "relationship" too minor to ask him why he stopped talking to you. It wasn't him that you were interested in, it was his fame.
It would be one thing if you were married or in a long term relationship. But you briefly ... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 15 February 2013: Chocolates: creepy and inappropriate.
No contact: better.
Accept that the relationship is over and move on: priceless. ... (read in full...)
How can I get her to open her heart? Its been 6 weeks since I saw her
Q. My girlfriend is giving me the cold shoulder and I've done nothing wrong. It's Valentine's Day and we should be kissing and cuddling together not being apart. I don't know how to get her to speak to me. Last time I saw her, her mum screamed at ...
A. 15 February 2013: What girlfriend?
The one that never wants to see you again, who's mom hates you and who threatened to call the cops on you?
Move on, you're stalking your ex, not "trying to get your girlfriend to open her heart".
Let me repeat that: Y... (read in full...)
We've been married 5 years and my husband sends his ex wife a Valentine's Day greeting?
Q. My husband has been loving and generous towards both me and his daughters this Valentine's Day. However, he sent an e-mail greeting 'Happy Valentine's Day' to his ex wife. We have been married nearly five years. How should I feel? React? ...
A. 15 February 2013: Feel however you feel. It could be perfectly innocent to say such a thing to the mother of your children. Ask him about it why he sent it, although you'll probably have to admit to spying on him. ... (read in full...)
Is it worth staying in a relationship when its difficult to get along?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a solid 9 months. He is older than me. I am 18 and he is 27. HE is an illegal immigrant and he has a 1 year old daughter with his ex. I found out about his daughter and literatly unbalanced ex 2 months ...
A. 15 February 2013: I don't think the issue with his legality is about his humanity, it's about stability. I have known a few people who have been deported and it's a life ruining nightmare for many people. They have been in this country since they were kids and don't ... (read in full...)
I pushed my boyfriend away with my insecurity and jealousy. I want him back!
Q. My boyfriend, of 2.5 years, has basically had enough of my drama and won't even reply to my texts now. I've been super jealous and insecure and am constantly accusing him of cheating on me without reason. 90% of things I think I'm right about he ...
A. 15 February 2013: Him not wanting you to get with another man doesn't mean he wants to be with you, fyi. I've been on both sides of that coin.... (read in full...)
The new guy is too much and I don't trust my ex. What am I supposed to do?
Q. Ok... I am a 20 years old girl turning 21 in 3 days time. I have dated a guy for 4 years we broke because i was insecure due to him befriendings girls. Okay november 6th 2012 i broke up with him cause i've had enough. Few weeks later i decided to ...
A. 15 February 2013: I'm married but would never ever cheat on my wife. That being said, there are girls I know who I'd ask out if I wasn't married.
You give him too much credit here; HE didn't turn you into a jealous wreck, you turned yourself into one.
I mean,... (read in full...)
How can one tell the children about divorce when your spouse is too emotional to be rational?
Q. For many years now I have been unhappy in my marriage. My wife and I have been together for twenty years. After our children were born my wife became very emotional, and she tends to react to situations by shouting, swearing and crying. She's bee...
A. 15 February 2013: It seems you've already done that then she runs out and tells the kids and you feel guilty. ... (read in full...)
My younger boyfriend told me I'm ugly, stupid and I'm not smart enough for him! How do I cope with this?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years tod told me that i look ugly, im stupid and i dont measure up to him and he wants to break up. We had problems before like he never spent anytime with me, always ignores me and never responds to my mails or texts. ...
A. 14 February 2013: Treat him like the piece of shit he is and flush him.
I've never seen you before but let me tell you that this guy is emotionally abusive. Him telling you all these bad things should go in one ear and out the other because he was just saying i... (read in full...)
How can I stop my dad from being racist towards my girlfriend?
Q. [Mod Note: Personal and location details have been removed for anonymity] I'm 27, my girlfriend's 28, and she's Polish-Mexican-American (well, Polish-American on her father's side, and Mexican-American on the mother's side), and we've been together...
A. 14 February 2013: +1 for standing up to him. Bullies act like that because nobody does anything about it.
Tell him that you care for her and any negative comments about her will not be tolerated. Ask him what he'd think if someone spoke that way of your mother. ... (read in full...)
Marrying my gay best friend and need some advice.
Q. I have a gay best friend and he and I have been best friends for 15 years. I am 30 and he is 33. We love each other in every possible way but sexually. He is my soul-mate and all I have ever wanted in a man. He treats me better than anyone ever has ...
A. 14 February 2013: Sounds interesting but to me the big question is do you want him sexually? If not, great. Unconventional relationships are common, but nobody talks about them for some reason, so it always makes people worry that what they're doing is normal, will ... (read in full...)
Should I tell her he's been cheating on her with me???
Q. I've been messing around w/old fling who has a girlfriend. Come to find out, she is a really good woman. I feel horrible, should I tell her? I am 27 and we've have had little flings since my senior year in high school. He has always been a do...
A. 14 February 2013: While she has the right to know it shouldn't come from you. As stated she is probably not going to react the way you would expect her to. Not to mention his reaction....
Some people sort of have a "don't ask don't tell" policy with their S. O. ... (read in full...)
I pushed my boyfriend away with my insecurity and jealousy. I want him back!
Q. My boyfriend, of 2.5 years, has basically had enough of my drama and won't even reply to my texts now. I've been super jealous and insecure and am constantly accusing him of cheating on me without reason. 90% of things I think I'm right about he ...
A. 14 February 2013: So when he was with you, you always thought there was someone else, but now that your relationship is just about over you don't think there is anyone?
Look, as much as you like the guy you're not ready for a relationship. You have to change o... (read in full...)
My wife wants everything but doesn't want to work for it!
Q. Is it rong for me to won't my wife to want my wife to work ther no kids at home she wants house she like to go out to diner she wants every thing I told her get a job and we Will work on getting a home I don't no if we are right for each orther any ...
A. 14 February 2013: You could start by getting your own bank account and putting all of your money in it. Tell her if she wants anything she can get a job and stop being a leech.
Having said that, has she always been this way? Did you marry her knowing this? If... (read in full...)
Will my promiscuous past put off decent men?
Q. So I am 21, slept with 25ish guys (never counted properly because I am too scared to. I just know its less than 30 more than 15) Anyway. I started talking to boys in a more than friends type of way when I was 15 and since then I have spoken to about ...
A. 14 February 2013: Do you live in such a small town that your past is common knowledge?
If not then don't worry about it. You don't have to tell guys things like this.
And I agree, if a guy doesn't have to be committed to you to have sex with you then he's no... (read in full...)
Who to choose, my controlling bf, or the one I always wanted?
Q. I have been dating my bf for 2 years now,and i love him incredibly, but at times, he makes me extrememly misrerable, especially with his controlling attitude..i've been cring for the last week because i feel like a bird trapped in a cage. To make ...
A. 14 February 2013: After you put his pluses into one column and his minuses in another and are STILL not sure what to do, ask yourself this: are you happy? I don't think you are and I don't blame you. He's treating you like his property. Admittedly a piece of property ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that he wants to go out for our Valentines dinner at the weekend?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together for about 6 months. Now its valentines day..i know he is trying to save money for a house and i am not materialistic in the sense where i expect us to go out to dinners all the time..i even contribute towar...
A. 14 February 2013: You don't need to ask the internet to tell you if you should be upset. But since you did..... NO!
V-day is bullshit to say the least. The thought of going out to a romantic restaurant filled with guys feeling obligated to be affectionate to their... (read in full...)
Should I leave a rose and chocolates at her door?
Q. A girl im close to being in a relationship with, talk to everyday by txt, and usually call end of the day. She has had busy schedule and is not free till next week. It has been 2 weeks since we met. I know she likes me alot, and I like her too. ...
A. 14 February 2013: For the right girl it'd be sweet, for the wrong it'd be creepy (since she never told you where she lives), but for most it would just seem kind of desperate.
I'd say don't do it. "Close to being in a relationship with" isn't enough yet consider... (read in full...)
I want to be more than his booty call!
Q. i met a guy 4 months ago started texting wich quickly moved on to sexting and naked pictures met him 8 days after meeting him and had sex with him 10 minutes later ive met up with him a further 2 times but always on his terms. i really really like ...
A. 14 February 2013: It's relatively common for a friends with benefits thing to progress into a relationship.
What you have here is the very definition of a booty call. No offense, but you might as well be a free escort as far as he goes.
You may feel a conne... (read in full...)
Are all guys like this with their baby mamas? Or just my guy?
Q. I'm only 20 and in my first real relationship. We have been dating for 2 and a half years but he is 27 and has a kid. The thing is he always freaking calls his baby mama and what's worse anything she asks for she gets its horrible I don't know what ...
A. 14 February 2013: Sounds like you're being selfish to me. ... (read in full...)
The new guy is too much and I don't trust my ex. What am I supposed to do?
Q. Ok... I am a 20 years old girl turning 21 in 3 days time. I have dated a guy for 4 years we broke because i was insecure due to him befriendings girls. Okay november 6th 2012 i broke up with him cause i've had enough. Few weeks later i decided to ...
A. 14 February 2013: Why don't you just be single?
BTW what's wrong with female friends? ... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 14 February 2013: Well, I guess the bottom line is that it's hard for anyone here to know what someone else is thinking in a situation like this.
I'd guess that if she was temporarily mad, it wouldn't have been for this long. A month is a long time to be mad. Als... (read in full...)
I just feel so alone in the world, as if it's all my fault
Q. To make a long story short, I feel so alone. I'm a student at university and this year my housemate has decided that it's her or my boyfriend and after trying and trying to accommodate them both, with the problem (supposedly) being that he spent too ...
A. 14 February 2013: This isn't your family we're talking about, these are people who you don't have to be friends with. Move out and find a new roommate.
Make sure your new roommate is aware of the situation with your bf. ... (read in full...)
Why don't I care about falling in love?
Q. I am a 20-year-old girl. I don't know why, but I have no interest in dating or being "in love." I used to get crushes and feel a desire to be close to certain people, mentally and emotionally at least, but that never happens any more, and hasn't for ...
A. 14 February 2013: Maybe you're asexual. If it doesn't bother you then you'll probably be fine. You'll be like the guy in the 40 year old virgin with all the hobbies.
Not wanting a relationship is normal, sometimes they can be a hassle. But not being attracte... (read in full...)
My girlfriend is so jealous its absolutely crazy!
Q. Hi!!! Please some one help me. I'm engaged to my girlfriend of 3 years. She's soo jealous it's not even funny. We have had our issues in the past mainly because she's goes crazy when I look at girls. Or a movie with a sex scene in it...not a porno...
A. 14 February 2013: You could start by postponing the wedding indefinitely! Don't marry someone like this or you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
You did absolutely nothing wrong by sane standards, unfortunately for you, you're with someone who is less tha... (read in full...)
Would you help your ex raise a child from another woman? He says we can't get back together except as friends
Q. ok, has anyone ever encountered this before? my husband, well ex now once asked if he went and got someone pregnant would i help him raise it? i told him no im too old i have already raised my children. oh we could not have any together because of a ...
A. 14 February 2013: That's an awful lot of speculation there.
I'd do whatever you want when the time comes. That time hasn't come so I'd stop worrying about it. ... (read in full...)
I'm going through a divorce and my 2 year old wants to call her father at night. Is this a bad thing to do?
Q. Going through a divorce and I have full custody of our two year old daughter. She's very sad, mostly around bed time. Saying she misses daddy and wants to go home, I comfort her and it breaks my heart she's hurting. He doesn't try to see her and I ...
A. 14 February 2013: Don't worry about how something makes you look, just do what you think is best for her. I think you need to tell her ahead of time that daddy is having problems or going away so he may not answer the phone for awhile. That way she doesn't take it as ... (read in full...)
Does a man like it when a woman talks sexy to him?
Q. Does a man like it when you tell him that you want him to be deliciously sore when your done having sex so he can remember being inside you and how amazing it felt?...
A. 14 February 2013: Yes, unless he's inexperienced or shy. But at your age that shouldn't be an issue.
I'm not sure about exactly what you said but talking dirty bis fun. ... (read in full...)
I was abusive to my ex boyfriend. Is it appropriate for me to send an apology now that he has a girlfriend?
Q. Dear All, I'm ashamed to say that during my 10 year relationship with my ex boyfriend I was very abusive, I put him down and was even violent towards him and even tho we split nearly 3 years ago and both in new relationships I can't forgive my...
A. 14 February 2013: As long as you don't go trying to get back with him I think it's a very mature and kind thing to do. ... (read in full...)
Was I being shady or is he overreacting?
Q. My boyfriend and I got in a big fight tonight and I need some advice. So he's seemed a little distant for the last few days, even though he told me nothing was wrong. Maybe he just needed some space, I don't know. Anyway, I was supposed to ...
A. 14 February 2013: He may be overreacting, but that's how you've taught him to act by deceiving him in the past, then not taking that into consideration when you disappear when he's expecting you.
Let's just say that I'd be upset as well because the bottom line is ... (read in full...)
What to do when my boyfriend who had cheated before does not care about rebuilding trust and has nearly a hundren women on his contact list?
Q. My bf cheated on me a year and a half ago. I can't seem to get past it. I do not trust him at all any more. And he's not doing anything to help me trust him. He gets pissed every time I get mad because of his 205 contacts which three fourths r ...
A. 14 February 2013: He may be annoyed with your insecurities. If he's being honest with you and not cheating, he probably feels like you need to just get over it. After all its been a year and a half!
If, at this point you're not over it then you won't be able to ... (read in full...)
I am inexperienced in sex but boyfriend is comparing me to his ex, who was better in bed.
Q. Last night me and my boyfriend had sex for the second time. I told him to take things slow and pace what we were doing, he suggested we tried some positions, I agreed to see what was best for me. Although it didn't end up going so great, he was ...
A. 14 February 2013: Congratulations, your boyfriend is a jerk!
You need to move on. Somehow I don't think you're going to listen to our advice since you're so inexperienced.
So what I'd recommend is talking to him and telling him that you really didn't like your... (read in full...)
Do I continue to keep seeing this guy in hopes that he warms up to me? Or do I just do my best to leave and save myself from heartbreak?
Q. I have been seeing this boy for about 3 months now. And, in that short amount of time I have fallen head over heels for him. I have told him that I love him, and he says he loves me too, sometimes. He said he doesn't feel comfortable saying that he ...
A. 14 February 2013: Aside from having a short fuse I'm not seeing a big problem here. You might be expecting too much from him, which basically means that the two of you are incompatible.
Move on. It's only hard for a while, but being with someone you're not comp... (read in full...)
Is this online relationship over?
Q. i have an unusal situation. i met a girl online. i know many people feel on-line relationships are insane. her best friend told me "your insane, get a real girl you can see face to face, she has a man." i showed this to my on-line friend and she u...
A. 14 February 2013: Sageoldguy hit the nail on the head.
She's ignored you for 4 weeks. Do you really need advice on this? Does the expression "get a clue" have any meaning to you?
... (read in full...)
Who to choose, my controlling bf, or the one I always wanted?
Q. I have been dating my bf for 2 years now,and i love him incredibly, but at times, he makes me extrememly misrerable, especially with his controlling attitude..i've been cring for the last week because i feel like a bird trapped in a cage. To make ...
A. 13 February 2013: "But at times he makes me extremely miserable." How much of your relationship do you feel this way? You should be happy, fyi. Once the word "miserable" starts to present itself its time to reevaluate things.
Leaving your bf would be hard, no... (read in full...)
How can one tell the children about divorce when your spouse is too emotional to be rational?
Q. For many years now I have been unhappy in my marriage. My wife and I have been together for twenty years. After our children were born my wife became very emotional, and she tends to react to situations by shouting, swearing and crying. She's bee...
A. 12 February 2013: I was going to say the exact same thing as So Very Confused.
It's not fair of you to punish your children because of your wife's irrational behavior. There is no reason not to tell the kids first and react to them without the presence of your man... (read in full...)
Is it worth staying in a relationship when its difficult to get along?
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for a solid 9 months. He is older than me. I am 18 and he is 27. HE is an illegal immigrant and he has a 1 year old daughter with his ex. I found out about his daughter and literatly unbalanced ex 2 months ...
A. 12 February 2013: Making him choose between his daughter and you is a great way to end up single.
I don't see one reason why you should stay with him. This is a ridiculous situation and you should both be with someone who you're more compatible with. ... (read in full...)
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