He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 25 March 2013: I think you're over thinking things, too. Maybe you have a fast metabolism or something, but I'd suggest just taking it slow and going with the flow for the time being.
Not everything has a meaning. Sometimes people don't feel good, sometime... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 12 March 2013: Some people are just out of touch socially. So maybe he just had an "intense" personality. I don't think it has to mean anything bad. On the other end of the spectrum he could be someone who doesn't get excited about anything and looks like he's ... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 21 February 2013: Oh my god, its so obvious she is done with you, love quotes or not. Her real life actions and words are not leaving any room for doubt.
I hope you come back here in a year and read all this. If you do and aren't embarrassed, then you really n... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 20 February 2013: No offense OP, but you should stop spying on him. If he's earned your trust then you are being disrespectful by continuing; everyone deserves some privacy.
As SVC said, pregnancy does make you and your hormones a little crazy. Thank god a woman ... (read in full...)
Girl I am dating does not know I am older than she thinks! HELP
Q. Ok, I met a wonderful woman online, and we really, really hit it off. She is 31, and I am 48. We want the same things. Neither of us have children and both want them, and believe in marriage, commitment etc. Very attracted to each other and both ...
A. 19 February 2013: You're already aware that she may walk away so that's a good place to start.
I'd just say, "look, I have something I need to tell you that I hope doesn't change things between us." then tell her what you said here about getting hit on by older la... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 19 February 2013: If you keep being secretive you're going to get buddy's wife pissed at him. I can see it now, she's been suspicious about the hang up, then you call again and say wrong number, so she just starts spying on her husband like you're doing.
Just ... (read in full...)
Am I pervert because I have fantasies/crushes on younger girls?
Q. Hey Guys ever since i can remember i have had fantasy/crushes on "youthful cute girls" Im 21 and this still remains, Although the problem is this trait is mainly in younger girls(not preteens I'm not a pedo) with the exception of a few in there 21+! ...
A. 19 February 2013: This is one thing most men don't like to admit, but the reality is that a "developed" girl is a developed girl. For thousands of years that was the age people started having kids because they might only live to be 35 years old.
In modern times th... (read in full...)
Boyfriend always accuses me of having sex with other men but then gets off on it
Q. This might seem strange but the guy I'm currently with is extremely jealous , through out our relationship of nearly a year he has constantly accused me of havin sex with other guys. If I go out for a few hours and am late back he would take me to ...
A. 19 February 2013: I don't think it's abnormal to fantasize about your women having sex with other guys. In fact there's a theory that it's derived from distant history where the women were shared, because it was more important that a baby was born than it was ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you date a freshman if you were a senior?
Q. Hi, I have a quick question, mainly for the guys out there. If you were a college senior, would you date a freshman? I'm asking this because the guy I like is going after a girl who is a senior like him. The thing is she looks a lot like me, not to ...
A. 19 February 2013: It's not a deal breaker but for the most part he has more in common with her. Not to mention she's above the drinking age and they'll be able to move on with their lives while you have 3 more years of school left.
There is more to this than who... (read in full...)
Husband's phone has a name as "buddy" who turns out is a girl! Should I be worried?
Q. So the other day while my husband was in the shower, he asked me to find a number in his cell phone (a friend of his that we were meeting later) and call him to confirm the time. When I was doing that, his recent call history showed up, and I ...
A. 19 February 2013: My guess is that he knows how nosy you are and hid it to avoid a situation like this. If it said "Jennifer" you would have probably asked him who the hell Jennifer is, right?
If he hasn't given you a reason not to trust him then in wouldn't... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend has 20,000.00 he borrowed from me. Will I get it back?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 2 years broke up with me few days back, he was very abusive during the last 1 yr. Im still under depression and i did all things like begging, sending him mails, calling him to take me back. He didnt repond to anything, i gues...
A. 19 February 2013: I hope you:
a.) learned your lesson
b.) didn't give him cash
If you withdrew it from your bank as a check or something and he deposited it in his bank, you should have enough evidence to sue him. I'd guess a judge would find a 20k gift hard... (read in full...)
How do I find out if this girl is up for fun?
Q. hi probably not the best site to post this, and imagine ill get some abuse, basicly my mate works at a shop and has started bringing a few friends out with him for me and our other friends to meet, we all smoke weed (his new buddys included) we go ...
A. 19 February 2013: It should be natural, she's obviously into you. Just do what you think makes sense, keeping in mind her feelings. ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend keeps saying he'll come over but he never shows up. What should I do?
Q. Saturday. My boyfriend went home after lunch at my place, saying he had to change his clothes. He never came back. Sunday morning. He texts saying he had to work. Which is acceptable. He said he was very, very tired and that he was going to tak...
A. 19 February 2013: Stop asking him, since it only results in heartache. If you stop contacting him to ask him to do stuff he'll notice the absence and maybe take a hint and put in more effort for fear of losing you.
OR, you could talk to him! ... (read in full...)
How can I tell him that I love him
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together just over 3 months and Im in love with him. The problem is that I've held back in telling him so because of commiment issues from my last relationship. I'm scared of his reaction. He tells me when he is dr...
A. 19 February 2013: There's no reason to rush into the "L" word. If you're nervous about saying it than its too soon. ... (read in full...)
I feel like we are best friends and nothing more
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's my best friend and I enjoy spending time with him but lately I am starting to feel like we are just best friends, nothing more. I don't have any sexual feeling towards him and sex often makes me cry. I ...
A. 19 February 2013: Who do you feel is mostly to "blame". I know that's not the right word, but what I mean by this is, are you responsible for the way you feel because you might be depressed or have some other issues, or do you feel like it's simply because he's not ... (read in full...)
My wife confessed that she cheated and our 4 year old daughter isn't mine. How do we proceed from here?
Q. I'm 32, and my wife's 31; been together for 9 years now. We have a 5-year-old son and 4-year-old daughter. Last night she told me she had something to confess; I asked her what it was, and she admitted to me: "Our 4-year-old daughter isn't m...
A. 18 February 2013: Yes the math isn't adding up. How did you not notice this? Are you trolling?
If not get a dna test and a brain test for you. You should be suspicious that your wife had an affair and got pregnant AFTER YOUR DAUGHTER WAS ALREADY BORN! ... (read in full...)
I have proof that my boyfriend cheated but how do I get him to admit it?
Q. i had a suspision that my boyfriend was cheating so i set up a recorder one nite and sure enough i got my evidence but he stil denies it. How to i get him to tell the truth?...
A. 18 February 2013: What do you need a confession for? You already know he cheated. If you don't leave him you're condoning the behavior and it'll happen again.
If you have a guy denying undeniable proof that he's cheated it shows a huge character flaw on top of t... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 18 February 2013: I'm sorry, but this is insane! You should be embarrassed with your behavior! When you look back you will be.
She has made it so obvious that she's not interested in your mistakes or apologies. I can't believe she replied to you; I think it has m... (read in full...)
My away from home soldier boyfriend gets upset about everything! What can I do?
Q. I am in a relationship with a currently deployed soldier. We love and respect each other very much. But the fact is, he tend to get mad for every single reason. For example, today he got mad over the fact that I want to go to the gym (because he ...
A. 18 February 2013: What are you getting out of this relationship? I hate to say it, but love means little without compatibility. If he's on your case about everything you do how are you going to be happy?
In his defense he has probably heard all the stories ... (read in full...)
Did I mess up with my crush by this stupid "love calculator" ?
Q. Hello dear aunts and uncles. Unfortunately, like most of us here, I've made a huge mistake. There's this freshman (I'm a sophomore) girl in my High School that I think it pretty. I was looking at her instagram profile and then checked out one ...
A. 18 February 2013: Iamheretohelpyou: I know that. He seems to be under the opinion that they'll tell her so I was addressing that possibility. ... (read in full...)
Does he want to date me just because I'm different?
Q. I met someone at work. He'll be leaving to work somewhere else in about 4 months time. He seems into me but I am very hesitant to develop this any further. He'll be leaving in months so why even start? He's been touchy and I am afraid he's after the ...
A. 18 February 2013: There's nothing wrong with having a thing for someone because they're exotic. It's called attraction; for some people its where the other person is from, for others its hair color or the clothes they wear.
I can tell you that I find myself a... (read in full...)
He says the problem is the condoms -- should we try a different brand?
Q. I'm 22 and my boyfriend is 39. We've been seeing each other for a while now and things are escalating pretty quickly in the physical side of our relationship. I'm a virgin. He's not. I want him to be my first. But every time we try to have sex, he ...
A. 18 February 2013: It's the condoms. I've rarely had satisfying sex with them. If you trust him you should get on the pill and have him take an std test.
It will feel better for you as well. ... (read in full...)
I don't want my ex to call me but can't change my number right now. What can I do?
Q. Dear Cupid My bf who broke up with me few days called me yesterday. He was abusive towards me for the past 6 months. I wanted to attend his call but got scared that if i hear his voice i might crawl back again. Also scared that if i didnt attend h...
A. 18 February 2013: Call your cell provider and ask them how to block a phone number. You should also look into Google voice. If you have an android phone you can port your number over and either block him or have a special voice mail message just for him that tells ... (read in full...)
Can there be ONLY friendship between men and women?
Q. I have a bf and he is very outgoing, talkative, and humorous... I'm attracted to him because I'm not that out-going, at times shy, so I find him very charming. But what I don't understand is, he seems to have a lot of female friends, and wou...
A. 18 February 2013: Yes it's normal, and unless he's given you a reason not to trust him you shouldn't make a big deal about it because it will be the beginning of the end of your relationship. ... (read in full...)
He is too intense - could this be a bad sign?
Q. I have been divorced 6yrs and i'm 48yrs old. Last week I met a guy as I was window shopping in the town. He stopped me and told me I am the woman of his dreams and can we talk.(Of course I was flattered, and would like to be in a relationship after ...
A. 18 February 2013: In my opinion you can do whatever you want as long as it's not hurting anyone.
I don't see why coffee the next day was too soon since coffee is just a way for two people to talk, it's not a date.
But the guy is out of line by being so persist... (read in full...)
He said we were more like friends and we haven't spoken in 3 days. Is it over?
Q. We've only been together for 2 months, I know it's really short but we like each other so much. Me and my boyfriend were completely fine, then all of a sudden our conversations have gotten shorter and shorter, then finally I asked him whats going ...
A. 18 February 2013: It's either over or he suffers from some self esteem issues or something of that nature.
Don't be a doormat trying to get him back, it'll only make things worse. The best thing you can do right now is leave the ball in his court. Let him contact ... (read in full...)
I want my baby's daddy back but he has a new girl
Q. Me and my Baby Dad still love each other. he has a new girl he is dealing with and thats fine because i know i ran him away in some sense. I'm women enough to admit my faults i keep giving him baby mama drama and i cant seem to stop even when i t...
A. 18 February 2013: You can't get him back until you stop messing up. The reason she says you're stalking her is because that's what he's telling her. He's probably exaggerating so she doesn't get mad, but as you said you are giving them fuel.
What you need to work ... (read in full...)
Why hasn't this guy replied to my facebook message?
Q. I added the guy I like on Facebook and all my friends have been telling me to message him, three weeks later after a lot of persuasion I sent him "Heyy (:" I sent this on Wednesday, he has been online since as he has added people and liked pages but ...
A. 18 February 2013: Wait while I read his mind....
Apparently he read it but didn't have time to write back and forgot about replying.
Wait... He actually remembered but didn't know what to say to "hey".
No, I'm reading his brain wrong. I think he did kn... (read in full...)
What did my ex mean "sorry means nothing to me" ?
Q. My best friend said he saw my ex out last night and we didn't end it in the best way to say the least, i feel terrible about how i ended it. Point is, he went and spoke to her and he said apparently she said she didn't want to talk about me. And ...
A. 18 February 2013: Sounds pretty obvious to me. She doesn't like you, doesn't like what you did and isn't interested in an apology. Case closed. ... (read in full...)
I need to buy some pills that help me last longer sexually. I don't know what to buy!
Q. hey i need help..everytime i have sex i only last 3min! sometimes even less! i always had this problem there been a couple of times i really last 30 minutes but that was a long time ago. im thinking of buying some pills but i dont know which on...
A. 18 February 2013: I'm 99 percent sure that any pill that claims to make you last longer is a scam. There are supposedly creams that dull your sensation. You could also wear a condom if you don't already.
It's mental more than anything. Stop watching porn, it can m... (read in full...)
I haven't given my b/f oral sex. Is that a bad thing?
Q. The guy I am seeing is really great and patient because I have only ever had sex with one other guy so I am still a bit new to all of this. My best friend was so shocked because he has gone down on me and I haven't on him. She made it sound like a ...
A. 18 February 2013: Yes it's a bad thing (not too bad) but you can fix it by reciprocating.
BTW its not rocket science. 99 percent of guys are thrilled just by the very idea that it's happening, especially at your age. Just do what you imagine feels good and, if ... (read in full...)
What is the right age to get engaged?
Q. I know my question seems a little bland and broad, so let me try to rephrase... How old should a couple be when they get engaged for the first time? I am 18, currently and proudly dating a soon-to-be Marine. He hasn't been home for a few months. ...
A. 18 February 2013: Your reasoning is perfect: when you've been dating long enough to know you get along is a great start. Love is important, but compatibility just as much so.
My opinion is that you shouldn't get married until you've been together at least 2 years.... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: Alpha female or not, her priorities are messed up and you'd be better off with someone else. ... (read in full...)
I signed up to personal training with him and I feel there's something there. What are my chances that he might like me?
Q. So I really like this guy at my gym and he's always looking at me whenever I look up and my thought is that he might like me because I don't think it's a coincidence that a guy would be staring at me for seven months. Anyway I signed up to per...
A. 17 February 2013: If he didn't look good he wouldn't be doing his job. If he wasn't flirty he wouldn't be doing his job.
So, that alone doesn't mean he likes you. Just don't fall for it by buying a bunch of sessions to spend time with him. (I guarantee the olde... (read in full...)
Frustrated that online guys only want sex.
Q. I am extremely frustrated in my dating life! I seem to be attracting guys who are just interested in me for sex. I am not sure what it is, it could possibly just be my ethnicity. I do not dress scantily, or act flirtatiously or inappropriately. When ...
A. 17 February 2013: Another issue you may have is if you have a full figure. I've dated a number of girls from all ethnicities and with different body types.
The one that got the most inappropriate attention from men was the one with DD breasts. She wasn't the best... (read in full...)
What am I doing wrong? Why doesn't she like me?
Q. It will sound a little wierd. I am a little possesive by nature. I have a huge crush on a girl. She is my junior.she is realy open and friendly with everyone. We have spent quality time together. I make her laugh a lot and she is realy happy around ...
A. 17 February 2013: What are you doing wrong? You're getting hung up on a girl that doesn't like you.
You can't make someone like you, all you can do is be the best "you" that you can be. If that's not enough, then find someone else. ... (read in full...)
How can I make my husband love me?
Q. i love my husband more than anything. i am very possessive for him. i do not like when he take very interest while talking to any other women. when v go out he always look at other women admiring them. i just hate this about him. he always dress up ...
A. 17 February 2013: "i think i am some what very needy"
THIS is your problem, it's not your husband. You need to work on your self esteem, maybe go see a psychologist. That doesn't make you crazy, it makes you want to be a better person (for your husband).
Bein... (read in full...)
Frustrated that online guys only want sex.
Q. I am extremely frustrated in my dating life! I seem to be attracting guys who are just interested in me for sex. I am not sure what it is, it could possibly just be my ethnicity. I do not dress scantily, or act flirtatiously or inappropriately. When ...
A. 17 February 2013: I'm sorry to break this to you, but guys are very interested in sex.
Why do you think your ethnicity plays a factor? I find that very interesting.
Are these guys trying to have sex with you on the first night? That usually means sex only. ... (read in full...)
How can I get past this doubt in my heart that she's being faithful?
Q. I've heard some rumors about my girlfriend from a friend of mines on campus. He says that someone he knows has been saying he and my girlfriend had a thing a few months back. We're weren't a couple back then so naturally this was something that ...
A. 17 February 2013: Her wanting to keep the relationship on the down low probably has more to do with her insecurity than anything. And it's a good thing she got upset when you confronted her about cheating; that's the strongest sign of innocence.
Combine all that... (read in full...)
Did I mess up with my crush by this stupid "love calculator" ?
Q. Hello dear aunts and uncles. Unfortunately, like most of us here, I've made a huge mistake. There's this freshman (I'm a sophomore) girl in my High School that I think it pretty. I was looking at her instagram profile and then checked out one ...
A. 17 February 2013: Yes, that's a little embarrassing, but not for any good reason. Do something similar to what youwish suggested.
You should learn this lesson asap: have the confidence to admit your mistakes and not hide from them. People appreciate it.
Also... (read in full...)
Should I try to initiate a relationship with him even though he isn't a fan of such?
Q. I have always had a thing for my best friend and he recently told me that he likes me. He isn't a player but he doesn't like having a girlfriend because in the past they have always gotten clingy and caused drama. I feel a really connection between ...
A. 17 February 2013: I was like that at his age. I'll tell you what, when I finally let my guard down I was happy.
Take it slow with him and you shouldn't have any problems. ... (read in full...)
Suggestions for activities that cost little to no money?
Q. Any suggestions on fun activities that aren't so costly or cost no money at all? I want to show my boyfriend that we dont have to spend so much or no money at all to have fun. And how can i encourage him to do fun activities?...
A. 17 February 2013: Explore the great outdoors! Depending on where you live there are SO many things you can do outside. Explore your city, take a hike, people watch, etc.
Some of the best times I've had with people were spontaneous because we were explorin... (read in full...)
Don't want to care what people think, but I do, what should I do?
Q. Hi Agony Aunts, I'm a 17 year old girl, and I've recently got talking to a boy. He's lovely and hilarious, and I'm really beginning to like him. But there's a problem; he's autistic. See, this isn't a problem to me, I really COULD NOT CARE LES...
A. 17 February 2013: You may care now, but after you start dating him and getting feelings for him, you won't care in the same way; instead of being embarrassed you'll be upset when people talk about him.
I love my wife and I know she's a great person and anyone w... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: If you ask a liar for the truth about a sensitive subject what do you get?
So you don't "know" how often she does whatever she does because you're taking her word and, as you said before, she's lied to you in the past. ... (read in full...)
No matter what he does I can't have orgasm from my boyfriend
Q. Why can't i orgasm during sex or when he licks me out or fingers me? When i'm on my own i can orgasm easily with clitoral stimulation from the pulsations in my shower head, but when it comes to my boyfriend, sex doesn't even feel that good, he is ...
A. 17 February 2013: I might have missed it, but have you had sex with anyone else? Did you manage to have an orgasm?
I keep seeing people say most women don't orgasm, but I haven't had that experience. Some take more time than others to figure out. My wife was rela... (read in full...)
Why was I ignored on Valentine's Day?
Q. My girlfriend and I currently having a long distance relationship , it transitioned to long distance only a few months ago . There is a guy where she lives that she sees often at the gym and i know they text often . Yesterday valentines day she ...
A. 17 February 2013: So, your LDR girlfriend spent Valentines with another guy.... There's no excuse for that, NONE, whether she was telling the truth and just being emotional support or lying and she was actually "with" him.
He is a big boy, and doesn't need you... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 16 February 2013: Since everyone here has said "leave her alone" and that goes in one ear and out the other, why don't you do it your way and see how that ends up?
Just be sure to report back, maybe we could learn something new. ... (read in full...)
To Contact Or Not To Contact. Dumped And It Was All My Fault.
Q. Hello! Thinking about breaking no contact by leaving chocolates at her door on vday. She broke up with me 2 weeks ago because I pestered her for a non committed relationship to test if she really loves me because before we started dating, she said ...
A. 15 February 2013: Chocolates: creepy and inappropriate.
No contact: better.
Accept that the relationship is over and move on: priceless. ... (read in full...)
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