My boyfriend is terrible in bed - will he ever get better?
Q. Hello! So, I am starting a serious relationship for the first time, and I want it to work. I am, however, very unsatisfied with my boyfriend's sexual performance, and I need some good help because I tried what I could and that didn't work. I will e...
A. 1 March 2013: I'm speechless... uhhhh... It's almost as if it's a comedy because I can't imagine him being worse. Many guys need time to learn, I know I did, but it happened relatively quickly.
I think you're just going to have to continue to teach him and ... (read in full...)
My friend thinks this guy is too old for me but I could see him being my FWB
Q. A few weeks ago I went to the pub with my friend (20) her parents, her boyfriend (also 20) and her male friend from high school (who again is also 20) Her male friend had been flirting with me all night and when I had gone home, he messages me on ...
A. 1 March 2013: Why do you need your friends approval? ... (read in full...)
Is it him? Or I am too controlling towards my boyfriend?
Q. Im having problems with my boyfriend. We are one of those couples who have been through alot! one minute we are arguing the next minute were kissing and best friends again. But its always me who wants to work it out even if he's been really ...
A. 1 March 2013: First of all, you have the right to expect whatever you want from your partner.
However, they have the right do do whatever they want.
When those two rights cause conflict, you have two options: learn to accept things about them that may bo... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has been reading stories about incest and beastiality. Should I worry?
Q. My boyfriend has been reading stories about incest (father/daughter) and stories about girls having sex with dogs, I don't know what this means or if I should even worry about it. Help?...
A. 1 March 2013: I don't think she's referring to the news, most likely they are sexually explicit stories or she wouldn't be here.
I'd worry about being with someone like that. It doesn't mean he's a bad person and would act on his curiosity/fantasy, but beca... (read in full...)
I feel suffocated in this relationship! I don't know what to do
Q. I have been dating my bf for 6 months now, when i first met him he had lost his gf of 7 years due to terminal illness, he was a total mess and pretty depressed obviously. I made it my mission to somehow bring him back to "life" and went through a ...
A. 1 March 2013: He needs counseling, you should help him to understand that his borderline obsession with you is really more about his fear of loss than his relationship with you.
It's understandable; I can't imagine losing my wife of 6 yrs.
If you want t... (read in full...)
Does this guy in PE like me?
Q. sorry it is long I am a new student at a high school. Their is this guy in PE class I am wondering if he likes me. I did not have a locker the first few weeks so i changed in the ladies bathroom so i came through a different door than all the other ...
A. 1 March 2013: Probably, but none of that is a dead giveaway. Just flirt with him and see how he responds. Even if he's not interested he seems to be friendly with you so he won't be mean about it.
Good luck. ... (read in full...)
Could he still love me after this time?
Q. A boy proposed to me in high school, i loved him secretly but i told no thinking he already have some girlfriend, after school i got married n have two childrens now, secretly i still love that boy each day, we met on fb after 8 years i told him tht ...
A. 1 March 2013: If you're married you need to work on your relationship with your husband, not some guy from high school who you have romanticized.
If you're not married what's the problem? I can't really tell what you're talking about to be honest with you.
... (read in full...)
The 4.5 year boring boyfriend or the exciting new guy
Q. Hello, (Sorry, this is a long one, but I feel that each factor is important) I'm 20 and have been with my boyfriend for 4 and a half years. We are currently in our 3rd year of university. Anyways, last Summer I spent 3 months of it in my home ...
A. 1 March 2013: I second what Iamheretohelpyou said.
You have had only one experience with love and it began when you were a kid. You can't fall in love in a few weeks. So don't go dropping everything to be with this guy.
You may not realize this yet but peo... (read in full...)
Do you think this is a legitimate reason to end an engagement?
Q. Is this a legitimate reason to end an 3 month engagement and a four year relationship? February 25th 2013, I’m 23 and my ex-fiancé is the same age. 4 months ago my fiancé broke up with me because of something I did, or rather did not do, a few da...
A. 28 February 2013:
As you're aware that's a pretty uncaring thing to do and I doubt that's the first time you've done things that have made her feel like you don't care about her. She probably just decided that the two of you aren't right for each other. ... (read in full...)
I think I'm in love with my husbands older cousin.
Q. I've been with my husband for 5 years, married for 1. Even before we got married I was having doubts. I still love him and would never want to hurt him, but I don't love him the way I used to. But now we are staying with his cousin. His cousin i...
A. 28 February 2013: Get a divorce, you're not mature enough to be married yet. Dating and flirting is for BEFORE you get married, not after.
In the future don't get married if you have legitimate doubts about the person you're marrying, it'll save you and your par... (read in full...)
I need help overcoming my addiction to prostitutes
Q. Hi I've been seeing prostitutes for 15 years. It started off out of boredom. I have always had a strong sexual appetite, I started masturbating from a young age. Every time I use a prostitute I beat myself up about it. At first I had protecte...
A. 28 February 2013: An Internet advice website isn't going to help you, you're going to need therapy. I'd also suggest letting your wife be in charge of your finances. ... (read in full...)
I don't like him but I don't want to hurt him by breaking up
Q. ok so i been dating this boy for 2 weeks and i feel so embarrssed like everyone says im to pretty for him and that he is ugly and stuff and i just feel sad and im not attracted to him either and he is in love with me and im afraid if i break up with ...
A. 28 February 2013: The only other option is to marry him. ... (read in full...)
Her awful childhood has led her to a lot of problems, I don't know whether I should try to help her and stick around. Help?
Q. This is a long winded story but I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible. I've known my girlfriend for 4 yrs and we have been dating for about 2 months but we started really talking a month before that. Word around town was she was a easy ...
A. 27 February 2013: I know it's hard, but she needs to want to help herself before anyone else can help her, you can't stay with someone to babysit them.
If you leave her, do it in a compassionate way and make sure you let her know that you'll be there for her if s... (read in full...)
How do you deal with constipation caused by too much time together?
Q. Hi =] I've been with my boyfriend for two and a half months now and things between us are going great =] However I do have an unusual problem and wondered if anyone else had experienced this. I know it's not very pleasant, but I get constip...
A. 27 February 2013: Get him a pair of headphones that stick in the ear and say I'm going to the bathroom, listen to some music. ... (read in full...)
Her awful childhood has led her to a lot of problems, I don't know whether I should try to help her and stick around. Help?
Q. This is a long winded story but I'm going to try to keep this as brief as possible. I've known my girlfriend for 4 yrs and we have been dating for about 2 months but we started really talking a month before that. Word around town was she was a easy ...
A. 27 February 2013: I didn't bother to read anything you wrote because the bottom line is that you won't be able to change her. If you like the way she is, stay, if you don't, go. It's that simple. Yes, it's easy to say something like that as opposed to doing it, but ... (read in full...)
Why did he go soft? Am I a turn off?
Q. If my boyfriend n i been together 7 yrs n lately everything is a argument. We juss had sex n i was on top seems to me everything was going well. Out of no where he gets soft.. What does that means?? Am i a turn off? Alot of thoughts are running ...
A. 27 February 2013: It probably means he is married to someone else and he just found out she's pregnant and he doesn't know how to tell you that it's all a lie.
KIDDING! This kind of thing happens to the best of them, for no reason that the guy himself knows. I... (read in full...)
We are yin and yang sexually!
Q. my boyfriend just doesnt get me sexually. He likes it hard and fast and athletic and it takes him a very long time to come, I like it soft and slow. I try and guide him but he just takes over!! and Im swore and eager for it to be over :( tried to ...
A. 27 February 2013: I don't think it's going to devastate him to hear that you'd like to make love every once in awhile. Let him "f#ck" you sometimes, other times tell him what you want.
So many problems in a relationship stem from this idea that women have that men... (read in full...)
Me or your cyberwoman?
Q. Here goes have asked questions before and it has been helpful. I met a man about two years ago, he is on the shy side and awkward. My daughter is in sports, that is how I met him. He always would come and support her at her games and fundraisers ...
A. 27 February 2013: I get the feeling you didn't write this very clearly, but I too wonder why this guy would be supporting your daughter at sports games and fundraisers.
This guy sounds all around fishy, I'd stay away from him if I was you. ... (read in full...)
The man I'm supposed to marry in 2 months has been cheating on me!
Q. I need help. I love my fiance and he loves me. We have been together for seven years. I recently found out he has been flirting on his job sites and got a girls number and was texting her. And he hit on a friend of ours. He keeps telling me how ...
A. 27 February 2013: It's one thing to "make a mistake". This guy didn't make a mistake, he disrespected you and put his sexual gratification ahead of your relationship.
Is that the type of man that makes a good husband? If you can't bring yourself to break up with ... (read in full...)
We broke up but it hurts so much. If I leave it too long, to contact her, will she will settle in with her new choice?
Q. So i was in this wonderfull relationship, with my girlfriend for 2 years, We are both in our 20s Over the past couple months our relationship has gotten worse. We were not very close, i tried to do what i could but i guess it wasn't enough or the r...
A. 27 February 2013: There comes a time for many people when they realize that someone they are with and care deeply for, just isn't the right person for them. It sounds like the two of you have come to that realization.
Now comes the hard part. You need to let her ... (read in full...)
I want to see him again. Shall I turn up at his home unannounced? Or text him when I am nearby to give him a choice of seeing me or not?
Q. I'm in a recent FWB relationship, with a good friend of mine. Both of us have been hurt in the last year by bad relationships so we don't want anything other then just sex. Both of us have been real busy so in the last two weeks since we discusse...
A. 27 February 2013: I don't know why all of your options involve turning up with little or no warning, because if you don't know him well enough to know which is a good option then they're all bad options. You should always call before you go to someone's house for a ... (read in full...)
My g/f likes to flash her guy friends just for fun?
Q. My gf likes to flash her guy friends just for fun I don't care but she continueisly says that she feels bad and that she dosent want to do anything that we as a couple don't agree on she asked me if I mind and even though I say I don't care she says ...
A. 27 February 2013: If it was me it'd bother me if it was a habitual thing.
Regarding men vs. women flashers: if a woman was flashing her vagina to strangers people would not be happy; I think it's a silly comparison. If a man wants to flash his chest nobody w... (read in full...)
What goes through a man's mind after a breakup? Can they really feel nothing?
Q. I broke up with my boyfriend, of 2.5 years, a week ago today. I'm struggling to even make it through the day. I'm truly heartbroken. He was the first man I'd ever fallen in love with. He's 34 and I'm 30. The reason I broke it off was because after ...
A. 26 February 2013: If I had to put money on it, I'd guess he feels as bad as you do. Of course he's not going to show that publicly, but he very well could be crying himself to sleep at night as well.
You made the right decision; if you guys weren't compatib... (read in full...)
I lost my overseas b/f because he found out what I do for a living!
Q. Hi, I'm 22 years professional bargirl in thailand, I had boyfriend for 5 month overseas, I love he very much. But he find out of my work and now he finish me and say he want no more to know me. He a very nice man with good heart, not like the no ...
A. 26 February 2013: It's your job AND the fact that you lied about it. Thai bar girls have a gold digging reputation, but at least if you had been honest he'd have been able to trust you to a small extent. He probably thinks you were just playing him.
There is nothi... (read in full...)
How can I tell if my BF is telling the truth or not? What lengths will some men go to, to tell lies?
Q. How can you tell if your boyfriend is tellin the truth whether a "friend" is just a friend orwhether he has slept with her. He denies anything happened that hey were just friends. I somehow believe him, just want to know to what lenths will you ...
A. 26 February 2013: Your question won't really help you know if he's cheating.
You have to take a look at the situation and use your best judgement, don't worry about what he'll do to avoid getting caught.
Has he cheated or lied before? Do you know if he lied ... (read in full...)
What girls mean when they say and how to work on to show how good I am?
Q. hi little about me : (not boasting) I am confident, easy to approach and Like jokes and talented. I play sports (four currently at campus) , write , and down to earth and honest. Helpful and kind with people. I have lots of other hobbies to...
A. 26 February 2013: Hey sorry for dogging your writing, I'm just realizing that English is probably not your first language. ... (read in full...)
Is my Italian penpal starting to like me?
Q. Good afternoon, I have a pen pal from Italy almost 6 months ago. I am from US but a Latin emigrant. I am 22 and he is 23. I really really like him and his exact words in his last email were: "Every time I read your plans I admire you more and mo...
A. 26 February 2013: I think those are words of encouragement. It's not enough to know if he likes you.
As romantic as it may seem to have a boyfriend from Italy, it doesn't make a lot of logistical sense. You should let your friendship grow so when you go to Italy... (read in full...)
I'm broken hearted and confused over boyfriend's cheating. Can anyone explain?
Q. so I had dated a guy for 2 years. he had kissed a girl i had been friends with in high school last year. i was kept in the dark for so long, she still partied with him and talked, he even asked me for her number. i didnt have any idea, i thought ...
A. 26 February 2013: I can tell you exactly why he did this: because he is a selfish asshole.
It's not because your boobs were too small, you didn't have sex in the morning, etc. Those might be reasons that you two aren't compatible, but they're certainly not flaw... (read in full...)
I want him back, but I don't want to go back to somebody that is just going to hurt me like that again. Any advice for me?
Q. Hello! I am having major heart anxiety and I do not know what to do. I have been dating and been hopelessly in love with a guy since the beginning of my junior year in high school. We were together for almost two years, but about seven months a...
A. 26 February 2013: I've been in the same situation (wanting to be with someone who had hurt me) and I think you have to follow your brain not your heart.
My situation was different, but things worked out great for me because I didn't go back to her. ... (read in full...)
My g/f broke up with me saying she needs to find herself but wants to be friends
Q. Hi,I'm 20 years old and me and my girlfriend were dating for 3 years. She left me yesterday telling me that she wants to be my friend again and that she needs to find her own identity.Please help.I really want to get her back....
A. 26 February 2013: If you really want to get her back think twice before you do ANYTHING. Don't embarrass yourself by begging or pleading. Send her a text that says that you understand that she needs to find herself and you support her 100%. Say something nice but not ... (read in full...)
He's hot and cold and I'm shy! How do I talk to him?
Q. Why is he hot and cold? I really like him:(? So I've liked this guy for months now. It all started when whenever I'd look up he'd be watching and would look away when I catch him. He'd talk to everyone but me. Now we talk and sometimes he a...
A. 26 February 2013: He's not hot and cold, he's shy just like you. It sounds like he likes you but I can't give you any tips on how to interact with people other than to say you probably won't sound like an idiot.
Just gather some courage and talk to him. Ask if h... (read in full...)
What girls mean when they say and how to work on to show how good I am?
Q. hi little about me : (not boasting) I am confident, easy to approach and Like jokes and talented. I play sports (four currently at campus) , write , and down to earth and honest. Helpful and kind with people. I have lots of other hobbies to...
A. 25 February 2013: Man, I don't mean to burst your bubble but, given what she said, not to mention your own statements, you might not be quite as amazing as you think.
I'm only saying this because a little bit of reality is needed; I'm sure you're awesome, but it s... (read in full...)
Why won't my amazing, lovely wife have sex with me with the lights on?
Q. My wife is amazing in bed,even after 20+ years together,3 kids I still think she has a fantastic figure,the only problem is she still won't have sex with light on,let me me see her naked or have sex in daytime,I keep telling she's got a lovely ...
A. 25 February 2013: Look, her tactic has worked; its been 20 years and you're still dying to see her naked! ... (read in full...)
He needs some foot hygiene help! How do I do that without embarrassing him?
Q. My 28 year old boyfriend and I were hanging out at my place. He was exhausted from work, so I offer to give him a foot massage. His skin is a little hard and dry but the feet don't smell. At a certain point I notice that he has some white cotta...
A. 25 February 2013: I think you are worried too much about his feelings. If he can't handle truth in this case than he has more problems that foot fungus.
It's nothing to be ashamed about, people tend to forget their feet.
However I wouldn't recommend a pedi... (read in full...)
I don't want to divorce. Yet what can I do? Since retiring my husband likes to behave like a bachelor.
Q. I am a 55 year and a working adult. My marriage was never and easy one because our was a arranged marriage. I have been married for 35 year. My spouse is a highly egoistic character. Since day one i was not able to communicate with my husband....
A. 25 February 2013: You don't want a divorce, so you basically have three choices:
1.) Ask him to go to marriage counseling (he'll refuse).
2.) Accept his behavior and stop being upset about it. Be his version of the perfect wife: one that never questions him an... (read in full...)
My world is crumbling around me. Are there any strategies that could help me deal with all this?
Q. I have a problem. Basically the world is crumbling beneath my feet. I have studies at Uni to finish, I'm in my last week of my internship and everything is going to hell. I really need some advice or at least a listening ear. This is my situation...
A. 25 February 2013: If you don't go through a really bad time in your life then it can be hard to appreciate the good times. It's temporary and you should keep reminding yourself that when things are rough.
Regarding this internship. If you aren't getting paid the... (read in full...)
Are we Platonic or not? While telling me he's a "Player", now he wants me to meet his sister.Why?
Q. If your guy friend wants you to meet his sister(after 9 months) is my relationship with my guy friend platonic or not? Why am I confused? It's because he has been saying that she wants to meet me, and now he's actually putting something to...
A. 25 February 2013: Labels are there to keep you from having to think. It's Rock? Oh, I like rock music. It's Healthy? Great I'm trying to eat healthy.
But the reality is they can be a problem. For music it makes the label more important than the music (instead... (read in full...)
Is he the right Bf for me? He prefers vanilla sex. I want threesome,s sex toys, bondage, role plays, sex outdoors and dressing up
Q. I'm 24 and my partner is 28 and we have been together for a year and a half. Although we love each other the chemistry in the bedroom isn't sizzling... We keep fighting and getting frustrated with each other about whether we are having sex or n...
A. 25 February 2013: I find your suggestion that he needs a sex therapist kind of amusing. There's nothing wrong with him (except maybe premature ejaculation).
As everyone else said, you two are simply too different to be together and be happy. Sometimes relative... (read in full...)
He broke up with me. I "lost" it . Should I apologize to him for how I acted and try to accept the breakup?
Q. last night my boyfriend broke up with me after 2 years together. i took it pretty bad. he said he was no longer happy and doesnt think we are a good match anymore. i cried and begged him to try to work things out but he's firm about it being ove...
A. 25 February 2013: Everyone is entitled to one embarrassing break-up.
If you feel you HAVE to apologize then go ahead. He probably doesn't care either way.
In my opinion, the best way to handle a break up In most cases is to stop all contact with them. It ma... (read in full...)
Relationship ending due to cheating but stuck in an apartment together
Q. hi Im really hard a time thinking about this me and my ex gf of almost 4 years broke up with me she said she couldn't love me anymore because she cheated on me she says she doesnt want me to get hurt anymore, i did forgive her for the cheating, i ...
A. 24 February 2013: Screw your lease. Talk with the landlord, see if they'll work with you. You may need to find someone to take your lease over, but you need to put space in between you two. ... (read in full...)
My abusive ex is still controlling my life today.
Q. I was dating this guy a month back, we broke up because my so called 'best friend' was a lying cow and took advantage of his paranoia to break us up then tried to get in there herself. But that's another story. The important thing here is that my ...
A. 24 February 2013: If you want him back you must like being controlled. Because him and his behavior are a package deal.
This is an important decision for you to make. Young relationships can determine your future... If you let this be the type of guy you go for y... (read in full...)
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