No matter what I do, girls still don"t like me!
Q. What am i doing wrong , girls still dont like me ? Im a junior in hs and alot of girls dont like me . Idk y though , i tried be confident, an asshole, ect. pretty much everything Nothing works !!!! And all my female friends say im real attr...
A. 31 August 2013: Just be yourself unless there is a problem with yourself. Pretending to be something else is fake and people don't like fake people. Plus you're probably not doing it right.
Just be cool, find a girl that you're interested in (not just because ... (read in full...)
I snooped on her computer and don't like what I found!
Q. a couple of months ago i was visiting my LD girlfriend and i had lots of time alone at her place while she was at school. i snooped into her computer historial out of couriosity and i found she had visited some hook up site afew times for the last ...
A. 31 August 2013: Well, I wish I could tell you something you want to hear, but you CAN'T bring it up because she will be too upset that you violated her privacy and didn't trust her. It's sort of like evidence obtained illegally is not admissible in court.
That'... (read in full...)
He can't respect that I'm sensitive
Q. I'm posting here because I would appreciate someone's input on this. My boyfriend and I have been dating for several months now. I noticed this before but recently it's been bugging me a lot more. I'm pretty sensitive and emotional at tim...
A. 31 August 2013: When you talk to someone in what you believe to be a calm and rational way and they basically blow you off, the only other thing you can do is try couple's counseling. If he's not up for that or it doesn't work, then you have to make a choice. Stay ... (read in full...)
Secretive girlfriend! How do I approach this?
Q. Been reading through articles on here and they are very useful. However I need some advice still. My g/f has become extremely secretive with texts and calls over the past month or so. There's a guy she's been speaking to and she has become quite ...
A. 30 August 2013: I think you should, no offense, "grow a pair" and tell her that she's obviously hiding what's going on and you've caught her lying about who she's messaging. Tell her you met the guy and he was very awkward with you.
Then tell her that she need... (read in full...)
What are the signs that would show if it is just casual with my coworker?
Q. Hey everyone I've found myself in a difficult situation with a guy I like. We work together and have been good friends since I started there about 3 months ago. We had flirted a lot but never let that come in the way at work. One night we ended up ...
A. 30 August 2013: This is easy: a guy's words are meaningless if his actions don't match.
Stop sleeping with him for a little bit and see how long he sticks around. Go on a real date with him and at the end of the night give him a kiss and when he implies he wants... (read in full...)
I'm curious about what my girlfriend meant.
Q. My girlfriend told me that she will always love me for who I am no matter what comes or happens in between....From a female perspective, what does that mean? I'm just curious as hell. Please help............
A. 30 August 2013: It has nothing to do with snooping or hiding, it simply means that she thinks you're a great person and she thinks she'll always feel that way even if things don't work out in a relationship.
This isn't necessarily an impending sign of doom, it... (read in full...)
I hate this job but don't want to be seen as a quitter
Q. Would you quit a job you've been at 4 months if you hated it? I know it hasn't been long but I feel myself wanting to give up and walk out the door some days. I work with infants who are very demanding at a daycare. The crying babies, high ...
A. 30 August 2013: It doesn't sound like you love "doing what you love".
Doing what makes you happy is fine if it allows you the opportunity to enjoy life outside of work. But if you're barely scraping by now, how will you afford the things in life (such as trave... (read in full...)
Am I overreacting or being unrealistic? Am I wrong to distrust her?
Q. This will be a long question, thanks to anybody who reads it and tries to help me! I have been dating my girlfriend for about two and half years. We're both strong-willed people but I guess she's probably a little more hard-headed than...
A. 29 August 2013: I don't think you're overreacting but with this arrangement complications were bound to happen. Why don't you accept the fact that people need a little privacy and cease this untrusting agreement you have.
Tell her that you don't want to fight ab... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend "like" girls on facebook?
Q. Hello, my bf and I are together more than 2 years. We love each other very much (at least I think so), but what bugs me that he "likes" strange girls on facebook from time to time, the pages like Pretty girls etc. I don´t know why he does that, it ...
A. 29 August 2013: Your logic is a little confusing here. He tells you that you're "beautiful and great" but you're suggesting that liking other girls on Facebook means he doesn't?
So if my favorite food is Mexican, but I also like Chinese does that mean I don't ac... (read in full...)
He is begging for us to get counselling but I think he's lying!
Q. I have been dating this guy for almost two years and we have had our share of ups and downs. Lately, we have been fighting because he cannot understand the concept of me telling him no when it comes to the bedroom activities. I don't say no all the ...
A. 29 August 2013: Step 1: talk about the problem. If that doesn't work try Step 2: counseling. If that doesn't work or they refuse you have a few options. Live with the problem indefinitely (and the fighting that comes with it), accept that this is the way things are ... (read in full...)
I don't understand my ex. Does my ex have issues?
Q. My relationship with my ex ended almost 6 months ago as she had been raped 12 months ago. She was able to tell me just a couple details to start with but admitted she had an orgasm. she said she couldn't get it out of her mind or understand how i...
A. 29 August 2013: What are you trying to figure out? What's the point?
It's not uncommon for women who were raped to feel pleasure and/or orgasm. It's probably one of the more difficult things to deal with for many victims.
The penis size thing I can't he... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking I should be cautious about marrying him?
Q. Hi. I have just found out my boyfriend has court judgements. (Not sure of the term) for unpaid bills. He says his ex wife named him as liable as the expenses were for his child, and he says he never received the bills until it ended up as a legal ...
A. 29 August 2013: You should be cautious before you marry ANYONE. There's no reason to rush into marriage... Wait until the time is right, that way if it's never right (in your case he never fixes his financial issues) then you don't have your marriage ruined by it. ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with my family? Why can't they be happy for my result?
Q. HI! A year ago a started the toughest job selection on the planet dreaming I would get my dream job. The firm said they would hire 12 people: 6 in Sept 12 and 6 in Sept 14. The competition was ruthless- I had to undergo 3 super selective exams an...
A. 29 August 2013: @wiseowl:
There's no shame in failure. Sometimes the only way to learn how to do something right is to do it wrong first.... (read in full...)
I love him but I'm feeling suffocated
Q. I've been in a relationship with my boyfriend for about 6 months! I've not been happy for about a month as we work together and spend all out free time together, it's getting a bit full on, I haven't seen the girls for ages and he makes me feel bad...
A. 29 August 2013: It's his insecurity that's causing this. If he says that you won't want him if you move out, tell him that if he continues suffocating you that you won't want him either way. People all need space, and there's nothing wrong with that.
If he says ... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with my family? Why can't they be happy for my result?
Q. HI! A year ago a started the toughest job selection on the planet dreaming I would get my dream job. The firm said they would hire 12 people: 6 in Sept 12 and 6 in Sept 14. The competition was ruthless- I had to undergo 3 super selective exams an...
A. 29 August 2013: The problem is that you're letting "insensitive, unsupportive jerks" determine your self worth.
Anybody with even remotely reasonable expectations knows that what you did was pretty amazing. Don't let these people convince you otherwise.
Btw,... (read in full...)
Creepy Guy: Ignore or Confront?
Q. Almost all of my friends are males. Most of them also work in my department at work. Usually this has never, ever been a problem. However one of my male friends just... can't take a hint. I'm not interested! A few months back he told me that he ...
A. 29 August 2013: It's hard to answer because everyone's tolerance for weirdos is different. My reaction would probably be to tell him that you don't want to sound rude but you'd appreciate a little bit of space. Tell him that you feel like he's always looking over ... (read in full...)
Husband works from home and I hate it!
Q. Hi, Does anyone have a husband that works from home? Mine started recently and I hate it. He makes me feel like the villain but I adore him. I just don't want to spend every second together. He goes to a room as his office but there is still a ...
A. 29 August 2013: If you live in an urban area he could get a work studio/loft. It'll cost you a little, but it's worth it for your sanity. ... (read in full...)
Battle of the exes! What do I do about this proposal from my ex?
Q. Dear Cupids, I'm at a major crossroads.. I was seeing a guy for 10 years..We broke up and remained friends..Great friends..No bad feelings.. I adore him and our friendship. He was an emotional boyfriend-always saying he loved me etc,still makes ...
A. 29 August 2013: What's wrong with dating both?
However it sounds to me that the new guy is just not a good fit. If you question the relationship now, imagine how you'll feel after 10 years of marriage (or 20!). One of the reasons marriages fail so much is peopl... (read in full...)
He has a girlfriend but she's no good. How can I get him to like me?
Q. Dear cupid, There's a guy at my school my age. Our dads know each other so I know a bit about him. He has a g/f of 9 months. I've liked him for a year so I was gutted to find out he had a g/f. She's so horrid and flirts with his friends. We aren't r...
A. 29 August 2013: Just show him that you're interested. If he's interested in turn then the choice is his. Don't try to break them up or anything. And, how you show your interest is up to you, I'm not a teenage girl so I can't help you. ... (read in full...)
She said she likes me, but I don't want to lead her on!
Q. About a month and a half ago, I told a girl that I liked her. After a few dates she gave me a letter on my birthday that told me she liked me back. Ever since that, I've been worried about it and regretting saying that, because I don't want to be ...
A. 28 August 2013: Do whatever you want, and don't be afraid to tell her the truth. Not everyone is perfect for everyone else. ... (read in full...)
My g/f broke things off, slept with a man and now says she doesn't know how she feels about anything
Q. I'd been with my gf for about nine months. I was the first woman she had ever been with, and she assured me that sexuality mattered none to her. That if she fell in love with a man, she would be with a man. And since she fell in love with me, she ...
A. 28 August 2013: Well, there's no magic way to mend a broken heart, but a couple of things help. First, you need to recognize that it's over. She may be unclear about this, but her words are very much the words of someone who is done but trying to spare the other ... (read in full...)
I have never been unfaithful but like looking at shemale porn. Why?
Q. I am a married man who look at shemale porn all the time, never been unfaithful other than looking at porn, my question is why do I desire shemales with large cocks?...
A. 28 August 2013: Well... You have a particular fetishes that can't be satisfied by your wife. I think it's kind of weird but to each his own. I think porn's strong suit is the ability to satiate people who have unusual fetishes that can't be taken care of by their ... (read in full...)
Emotional affair that I'm having trouble getting over
Q. I was in a long distance relationship and at this time I met another guy I had a crush on. Since it was just a crush, I never mentioned it to him and we became friends. The more we got to know each other, the more I realized he was recovering from a ...
A. 28 August 2013: If it hasn't been very long, you probably just need more time. It might also help if you started doing things with your husband that made you closer to each other.
Btw, I commend you on recognizing that you were crossing a line when you started ... (read in full...)
Tells me to be honest, but he gets mad When I am?
Q. My boyfriend always says that he wants me to be open and honest with him about everything no matter what it is. Especially if it has to do with another guy an he would do the same But the thing is, when Im open and honest with him he gets upset wi...
A. 28 August 2013: So he gets mad at you either way.... I think it may be time to make a decision about the future of this relationship.... (read in full...)
Tells me to be honest, but he gets mad When I am?
Q. My boyfriend always says that he wants me to be open and honest with him about everything no matter what it is. Especially if it has to do with another guy an he would do the same But the thing is, when Im open and honest with him he gets upset wi...
A. 28 August 2013: Don't always believe everything people say... Next time this happens I'd remind him of what he said and tell him that if he wants honesty he needs to stop treating you in a way that discourages it.
At the same time there's no reason to tell him... (read in full...)
I'm worried about boyfriend's immaturity and lack of boundaries
Q. Hi, I'm trying to figure out if my relationship is good for me or not, me and my boyfriend have had a fair few disagreements, we do usually talk it through sensibly and both feel good afterwards. But there has been one topic that keeps coming...
A. 27 August 2013: I don't think you're overreacting AT ALL. I don't know a solution to your problem, which leads me to this: at what point do you decide that you're not with the right person to spend the rest of your life with? ... (read in full...)
What is the best way to handle sexual frustration?
Q. This maybe a silly question.. but its not meant to be in a crude way.. but lately I've been finding I'm very sexual frustrated, understanding as I have been without a partner in 3 years.. but lately this year it has been worse, I keep seeing ...
A. 27 August 2013: The best way is to fix the problem... Step out of your comfort zone and find a woman. ... (read in full...)
I think I've lost my g/f and don't know what to do
Q. So my gf and I have been dating for just over 2 months. We recently moved in together and things have gotten bad. It seems as if everyday I do atleast 1 thing wrong, most days it's several things. It's almost as if she looks for things to complain ...
A. 27 August 2013: Well, you moved in with her after a couple of months dating, this is the result. It's obviously not working so move out and start working on your relationship. ... (read in full...)
I now have an erection whenever I kiss my gf. How can I stop this awkward reaction?
Q. My girlfriend and I were making out and it went a little further. We ended up doing oral. Now I every time we kiss I get an erection. Even just regular "goodbye" kisses. I didn't have a problem with this before. How can I stop it from happening? I ...
A. 27 August 2013: It's easy, get a little more experience and it'll go away. Your penis has a separate brain. When you're kissing it says "oh yeah, I'm about to get a bj." After awhile it'll realize this won't happen every time.
Or you can just wait a few years. B... (read in full...)
Am I being unreasonable feeling unwanted?
Q. i have been living with my boyfriend for 4 months i thought i'd feel closer to him but i feel even more so like i am second best to his friends/activities. He goes out every friday, watches football every other saturday and plays alot of golf - we ...
A. 27 August 2013: It sounds like he's just enjoying life as opposed to neglecting you. You don't say whether the two of you ever do anything together. If you don't, that's a problem. If you are just thinking that he spends too much time doing things away from you, I ... (read in full...)
How do I relieve my loneliness? Many guys just want one thing.
Q. I am 30 years old and a single mum of 2 kids. They are 11 and 7. I have been single for 5 years. I recently graduated from university and have a good job. I live in a nice part of town. I have a good circle of friends many are settled down wit...
A. 27 August 2013: Men want easy sex... I think sometimes women confuse that desire for "just wanting sex". I'm not saying there aren't guys out there who only want sex, but I think there are plenty who want sex AND a relationship.
When you're dating, just don't sl... (read in full...)
My husband blames me for all the damage caused to our relationship
Q. Hello this is going to be a long question but I need advice. Me and my husband have been together for 5 years now. Married for 6 months. We have a three year old son together. He is my first everything and we've had a lot of ups and downs througho...
A. 26 August 2013: Couples counseling... If you can't afford it there are often income based options.
At this point you've probably said everything you can possibly say, so further explanations will not help.
At some point you may just come to the realization ... (read in full...)
How soon is too soon?
Q. Dear Cupid! I've been dating my best friend for a two weeks now. We have been friends over a 6 years and now it finally became real relationship. He's 23, I'm 21 and we are crazy about each other. The thing is, I'm a virgin and he is not. In...
A. 26 August 2013: I don't know if I can answer the "is it the right time?" question, but I can tell you the secret to having a good time with him: don't just lay there, interact with him.
Honestly it sounds like he's almost as inexperienced as you, so you will bot... (read in full...)
Why do I attract more attention from guys when I am travelling, but not when I am in my own country?
Q. My questions is why do attract more attention from guys when I am travelling, but not when I am in my country? I travel a lot:3 months out of the year. Sometimes it's for work but also for pleasure. I am always looking forward to my trips because...
A. 26 August 2013: Because you're "exotic" when you travel to another country, and a lot of other travelers are trying to make the most out of their trip so they be more likely to approach you. ... (read in full...)
Busted by my 8 year old, butt ass naked in the kitchen!
Q. Hello. I am a just turned 31 year old, married mother of an 8 year old daughter. Last night, our daughter was having a sleepover with a friend a few houses down from ours. My husband and I took the opportunity to enjoy our alone time. We wer...
A. 25 August 2013: We were all born naked, don't make it out to be a big deal and it wont be. My parents weren't nudists, but I saw them both naked over the years growing up and it never bothered me. ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend found my post here, got upset and dumped me on facebook.
Q. im heart broken and lost, my now ex found a post i made on this website asking for advice to help me help her really. i talked about how she is a nutter but i love her anyways, and that i would do anything to make her happy, and i was worried about ...
A. 25 August 2013: First of all, block her and initiate "No Contact" for your own good. Even if she wants you back, you are damn well sure that you are better off without her if you use your brain and not your heart.
As to why you want her even when she treats y... (read in full...)
Am I prudish for not wanting to ejaculate in her mouth?
Q. I have a girlfriend for the first time in my life. We've been together for almost 6 months. She told me before we committed to a serious relationship that she was very sexual since she was 15. I was a virgin but lied and told her I had a few sexual ...
A. 25 August 2013: Well, everyone is entitled to their preferences, but it does seem a little prudish to me. I don't necessarily disagree about kissing her after, I've always thought that was weird.
In my experience, it's better to be saying "yes" to sexual a... (read in full...)
Is it rude to masturbate in front of your boyfriend?
Q. Hello, So my boyfriend and I had been on-and-of together for more than 2 years but I was never able to reach an orgasm. Not sure if it is because some women are just hard to get one or it is my problem. We don't see each other as often as we want...
A. 24 August 2013: If my wife was masturbating next to me I'd be into it, but she's able to cum from sex so it may be different. ... (read in full...)
Guys are attracted but never want to date me or have a relationship. Could this guy be different?
Q. I just recently got a text from a guy who I use to chat with online. We use to talk all the time. One of our conversations led to phone sex and he told me that we would look good together. One day I noticed that he had closed his account. So I ...
A. 24 August 2013: You say guys don't often want a "real relationship" with you, but apparently you're not aware that a long distance relationship Isn't exactly a "real relationship" unless you've been dating in person and the LDR part is only temporary.
Find ... (read in full...)
Do I have the right to feel jealous if my on-and off bf sleep with another girl?
Q. Hello, So technically my boyfriend broke up with me a year and half ago (in Jan 2012) but he still keeps me around. He said long distance isn't for him but I still love him and have a hard time letting him go. So, every break when I get a chance, ...
A. 24 August 2013: You have the right to feel whatever you want, but what good is it? He has no obligation to behave in any particular way.
You have to ask yourself this: do I love him so much that I'm going to continue keeping him around as long as possible... (read in full...)
He is pushing me away and here I am, crying my eyes out!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years. He's 35 and I'm 31. My boyfriend has basically been neglecting me. He's always been the initiator in the relationship when it comes to texting/contact and anymore he doesn't even try. We don't live together ...
A. 24 August 2013: There comes a point where loving someone just isn't enough. In your case you're miserable, so what is the point? There are millions of guys that will love you AND treat you the way you want to be treated.
At this point you need to tell him that... (read in full...)
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