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writes: Ok here goes, when I was younger I got best by my bf at the time and he messed my teeth up really bad. It was to the point where they couldn't be fixed so I had to get dentures. Don't get me wrong I love my dentures and ppl that doesn't know me can't tell they are fake. So here's my question when I decide to date again should I tell the guy I'm dating that I gave fake teeth? I'm a very honest person and wasn't sure what to do about this. Reply to this Question
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (13 November 2013):
 Would you tell a guy that you used to have glasses and now wear contacts?
I would compare it to that.
There is NO shame in you having dentures. If you two DO have a conversation about your past violent relationship you can tell him about it, IF you want to. I can't see you having dentures would be a deal-breaker for ANY man.
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reader, Tisha-1 +, writes (12 November 2013):
 Eventually what you will need to disclose to the new boyfriend is how you came to have your teeth removed. Being beaten so badly by a boyfriend must have been a very traumatic experience and I expect any decent new boyfriend will be more concerned that you aren't still experiencing aftershocks from that beating. PTSD (post-traumatic stress disorder) comes to mind. Did you receive counseling when this all happened?
I expect the new boyfriend would like to know that you are well and happy and feel safe with him. I think when you talk about your life history with each other would be a good time to tell him. Expect questions and then probably, more followup questions at another time.
You didn't put up a country flag so I'll give you a link for the US site: http://www.thehotline.org There are forums and blogs there that might help you decide how best to move forward.
Best wishes to you.
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reader, R1  +, writes (12 November 2013):
 Not straight away. Wait till you know they are committed and a decent person (however long this takes). It's important not to give everything about yourself away too soon, it may sound like a game but it's actually a way of staying safe and ensuring you build a healthy relationship. It will be fine, I doubt a decent man would be out off.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (12 November 2013):
 No need to tell him till there comes a time he will need to see you without them.
My mother had false teeth from the time I was 16 years old.
NO ONE not even my father saw her without her teeth.. they came out while she was in the shower... other than that she wore her tops 24/7 (even to sleep) only the bottoms came out for sleep)
Be advised that there is something called "a gum job" that many guys would DIE for...
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 November 2013):
Btw, sorry if this is offensive, but I actually knew a guy who's wife had an illness in her 20's that caused teeth loss and she had to get dentures too. He said that he actually loved them because when they were intimate it was amazing when she took them out.
That may not be for everyone, but my point is that it's not that big of a deal.
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reader, CMMP +, writes (12 November 2013):
Just because you don't want to tell everything about yourself to someone doesn't mean you are dishonest. Tell him when you feel comfortable.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (12 November 2013):
 No, there's no need to tell you have fake teeth. Everyone has dental work done, it's not necessary to bring it up. It's very normal. Of course, if the theme comes up, feel free to share. By all means, it' snot something you need to keep hidden. But it's also not something that you absolutely have to share, because I don't think anyone cares about it, to be honest. It's not interesting for a first date conversation to lay out all ones medical history. I would also say if you bring it up without it being on topic, then it will just sound weird. Like, I wear glasses normally, but if I was wearing contacts I wouldn't make a point of informing a person I was dating that I wear contacts...
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