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writes:I'm involved with a married man who's still with his wife.we have a 1 years old baby we've been apart for 10 months because he lied about being married and I couldn't take him getting his cake and eating it too.But now we've been back together on for about two weeks and I love him more than the first time.The first time we just went to clubs and sex sex sex. I loved him but he would do stuff to keep me at a distance and this time he found out that I was single and he's doing every thing I wanted him to doAt first he took me out to eat we took the baby to the park and etc He works 12hour shifts and afterwards he's with me and we're planning out our day.He goes home twice a week to play a role I guess.He tells her that he's doing this and that over time etc. I'm pretty sure she suspects cheating.He talks about starting this whole new life.As much as I want this I feel so bad inside side for the other women.I don't want to be the reason the marriage ended I don't know what's gotten in to me I'm doing things I normally wouldn't do and wouldn't agree with I'm confused. I'm in need for any advice I don't know wat to do.
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reader, deirdre  +, writes (7 July 2011):
''i feel bad for the other woman'' she is not the other woman, she is his WIFE! you know this was a great mistake to make before you had his kid, it is a messy situation but you know the best thing to do yourself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): ".....I don't want to be the reason the marriage ended I don't know what's gotten in to me I'm doing things I normally wouldn't do and wouldn't agree with......."
deep down you know that you have become a hypocrite.
deep down you know how wrong you are for keeping this married man.
deep down you know that you cannot trust him.
one day soon your world will come crashing down: listen to your conscious. it is telling you that you cheating with this married man is so wrong, just so wrong.
what to do?- have the moral conviction and the dignity to move on. build your self esteem and decide that you slinking away with this MM is no future for you.
this man belongs with his wife. does he have any kids? who takes care of them while he is with you?
you need to decide whether this cheating lifestyle is all you will have.
LoveGirl
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 July 2011): I'm sorry to say but you already know this isn't going to last. He's married and the fact that he's STILL getting his cake and eating it too doesn't seem to bother you. If you're feeling remorse for the woman then that's a great sign you two shouldn't be together. You're taking her husband away from her and if this is how you two got together, how do you think its going to last? Eventually he'll be playing another woman. Please leave. This isn't the way to be happy and he's only going to talk about starting a new life; it's not going to happen. And if you're doing things you wouldn't normally agree to, then why are you with him? Stay true to yourself and find someone better. He's not worth it. The only time you two should ever meet or talk is to talk about your child because he is the most important thing of thissituation.Sorry to be negative but its the truth and the thing to do.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (4 July 2011):
 It's difficult to gave up something we like just out of selfless, generous impulses to do the right thing for someone else.
Then do the right thing for yourself. Don't feel bad for his wife. feel bad for YOURSELF:
What have you got here ? A callous cheater and chronic liar, a guy that you'll have to share with another woman, a man who for his selfish convenience bullshsits and "plays a role ", role, which, I have not doubt will include regular sexual performances with his wife , a man that's fickle, does not keep his committments and has no respect for women.
A man who uses his 10 months baby as an excuse to meet up with his lover.
Yuck. If you can stomach that, congratulations for your excellent digestion.
But, wouldn't it be about time to question how healthy is this relationship equivalent of crappy junk food, and decide you deserve something more nourishing ?
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