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I fantasize about guys! Am I straight, bi or just really horny?

Q.   im a bit confused right now with my sexuality .I have always liked girls and i still do .I love them but i like anal n when i realy horny i thikn of a girl givin it to me then somtimes a ithink of guys but id only let them bum be . i couldent kiss a ...

A.   3 June 2010: Hiya, I'm a lesbian myself and I think it's just your hormones. If you don't feel attracted to men or want to be in a relationship with a man then you are hetrosexual. (straight) I hope I have helped. S ... (read in full...)

My cat is acting weird!

Q.   hi, my cat just suddenly turned into different behaviour. shes always following us and she never used to but then shel suddenly turn round hiss at you, growl, then start faoming and dribbling at the mouth. im worried what sort of illness it is c...

A.   25 September 2008: hiya. we found out someone gave her an ectasy tablet we paid out £360 to get her better. she is now acting normal :D x... (read in full...)

My cat is acting weird!

Q.   hi, my cat just suddenly turned into different behaviour. shes always following us and she never used to but then shel suddenly turn round hiss at you, growl, then start faoming and dribbling at the mouth. im worried what sort of illness it is c...

A.   2 September 2008: yes me and my mum said maybe she eaten something but its a bit more than that because even the vet doesnt no whats wrong with her, poo keeps dropping out of her bum im so worried cause i dont want to loose my 2nd cat thanks for your help x... (read in full...)

I am worried about a piercing I had done, does anyone know whether what I did is alright, please advise?

Q.   hi i had a auricle piercing its about an inch up from my lobe so quite low. i got it pierced at a professional tatoo, hairdressing and piercing place but pierced it with a piercing gun and have got a stud in it. i was wondering weather it shoul...

A.   4 August 2008: omg thank you so much i was worried for a bit lol it seems to be ok and it the 3rd day ive had it in and it dont hurt i cant feel it so its cool!! cheers x... (read in full...)

Married to a gay man - do I stay with him for the sake of the children?

Q.   I am married with two children. Three years ago I found out my husband was having an affair with another man. He still lives at home and continues his relationship with this man. I don't have it in me to throw him out and get on with my life. I am ...

A.   4 August 2008: ask hime if he wants to stay with you and the children and see his bf regulary or go to his bf and look after his children once in a while or work out a schedule so he has them one week then you or watever i hope this helps x... (read in full...)

I am a bit chubby and my body image is not what I would want it to be, is this a big deal with guys, any

Q.   i recently lost about 60lbs now my chest has gotten a bit saggy is it that big a deal if the girls arent so perky? but thats not whats really bothering me my issue is with my vagina not my actual vagina itself im totally happy with that part but i ...

A.   4 August 2008: dont worry about your body image if a boy finds he loves you and is happy the way you are there shouldnt be a need to change for him as he loves you for who you are i hope this helps x... (read in full...)

I do not like alcohol, she drinks, and it bothers me, I want her to stop, if she doesn't, should that be the end of our relationship?

Q.   So I am in a great relationship right now and have been for almost 7 months now. We get along great and love each other dearly, and it is very happy relationship. However, we recently came to a rather large bump in the road, and I don't think it is ...

A.   4 August 2008: i think you are scared the same will happen to her. it wont if she drinks normally try not to be as paraniod but just say to her can you cut it down a bit as i am worried the same will happen to you. it is normall for everyone to drink. my mum ... (read in full...)

In a four year relationship with kids, very unhappy, went back to work, met a guy I like, torn between keeping my family together and developing a relationship with this guy, what should I do?

Q.   Ok,Im in a relationship and have been for 4 years, recently we have had a few issues and we have tried desparately to correct them but unfortunately the result will last a few weeks and then he slips back to his old ways. I always thought this would ...

A.   4 August 2008: hi ask the man you like if he feels the same way about you before you do anything if he does have feelings for you and your sure say to your other guy that i dont have feelings for you and like this other guy and hopefully he will go away the new ... (read in full...)

Please help! Should I go into a lower grade at school, or put up without my fave teacher?

Q.   sorry this is long but i do need help! i am coming to the end of year 9. i have loved this year it has been an amazing time. when i go into year 10 i will have new teachers and be moved into new sets. im going to be having the same teachers...

A.   18 July 2008: hi i found out today that i have actualy got her and she said she can still help me get the grades i can achieve even if its higher than what she is teaching the class so i am thrilled!!! thanks for your help guys!! xx... (read in full...)

Should I lose my virginity to a prostitute?

Q.   I am considering to lose my virginity seeing a prostitute. Now I would like to hear some people's advice who have been in a similar situation. I am male, 23 years old and suffer from a quite bad case of virginity - so to say. I have never even ...

A.   2 July 2008: hi i think you shouldnt have sex with a prostitute because they say you never forget the first time and never forget there eyes i think you should do it with someone you love and never regret it i hope this helps xx... (read in full...)

I'm thinking my husband may be gay or bisexual; what should I do?

Q.   I really need help figuring out if my husband is gay or bisexual. I have a gay brother and we have been going out with him pretty regular to the local gay club. I have no problem hanging out there just to be around my brother. This past weekend we ...

A.   2 July 2008: maybe he is just having fun or maybe he is findong his real sexuality and experimenting.if he was gay he would try and tell you nicely without doing it behind your back but wait a couple of months to see if he changes if your worried just talk to ... (read in full...)

How can I persuade my friends to accept my relationship with my former teacher?

Q.   Ok, so I have just finished school (I mean A levels - I'm 18), and I have got into a sexual relationship with my ex teacher since finishing school (we were really friendly for years whilst I was at school). He's 36, and a really great guy. I get...

A.   2 July 2008: well i dont think they should be like this, they should be suppoertive and happy for you. just because he was your former teacher and they know him just as a teacher they dont know what he is like personly. there is 18 years difference between you ... (read in full...)

How do you get rid of a sunburn really quickly?

Q.   Sorry, this isn't a relationship question BUT basically I got really sun burn at Glastonbury Festival and its SO SORE and RED and painful!!! im slapping on the after sun like there's no tomorrow but the problem is im supposed to be getting a t...

A.   1 July 2008: put ice on it to cool it down n maybe put some alo vera on it and that really works for me its amazing i hope this helps xx... (read in full...)

Why am I getting bullied because I like to perform?

Q.   Well i have this weird problem in school that i cant really understand. Well when usually its talent show night i seriously want to perform. Everytime I always perform they seem to like it but then when i go offstage they bo0 me ??? It seriously ...

A.   1 July 2008: hiya they props love what you do and bully you at lunch times when not alot of people are around is because they are jealous. just ignore them at least you can do something good other than bully people for who they are and what they do. i hope thi... (read in full...)

How late is too late to enter the dating game in the modern world?

Q.   How late is too late for guys to enter the dating game and start experiencing relationships. 20? 23? 25? 30? I mean, to really just START! Never been on a date before, never had sex, maybe never even kissed a girl. This could all be due t...

A.   1 July 2008: no its fine at any age i think.you can start whenever you are ready and when you find the girl that you think is right for you i hope this helps xx... (read in full...)

I think my mum is having an affair

Q.   I think my mum is having an affair. About 5 or 6 years ago, whilst taking my younger brother to school, my mum met this man whose son was in the class as my brother. They got talking, and my mum was having problems with her computers, this man ...

A.   1 July 2008: to be honest it does sound like they love each other but maybe your mum feels lonely at times and wants somebody to be there for her as you said your dad is away quite alot of the time. if you are worried talk to your mum about it privatly and say ... (read in full...)

If I hear whispers or laughing in school I automatically think they're talking about me! How can I stop feeling like this?

Q.   Hey, I have a very annoying problem, and was wondering if any of you could give me some advice. It's nothing too serious just I am totally paranoid, in class if I hear whispers or laughter I assume they're talking about me (not in a nice way obvoi...

A.   1 July 2008: hiya i used to feel like this. and i think i was too quiet and not much confidance. you just have to build up your confidance and if they ARE talking about YOU its just a sign of insercurity of themselves. Also they might not even be talking ... (read in full...)

I want to tell my long-distance friend I really like her but I don't want to risk losing our friendship. Should I tell her? How?

Q.   So I am living abroad right now and have known a girl for about 9 months. When I first met her, I actually didn't know if I liked her or not, although I found myself being extra nice to her. But since I haven't had a girlfriend for a while, maybe I ...

A.   1 July 2008: hiya i would tell her how you feel but say if you dont feel the same way i still dont want to loose our friendship and i dont want you to ruin your relationship with your current boy friend i hope this helps xx... (read in full...)

What should I do since my parents don't trust me and my BF sleeping in the same room?

Q.   me and my new bf have been dating for a month and my parents still don't trust him sleeping in the same bed as me even if they are in the same room. what should i do since my parents don't trust me.please help...

A.   30 June 2008: well your parents are just thinking of you and dont want you to get hurt.... (read in full...)

Have I started my periods or just broken my hymen??

Q.   hi! i am very worried! about a week a go my boyfriend fingered me! everything was ok ... then i started bleeding 4 a short while then it stopped.i have not started my periods yet but now there is this short discharge(marroon colour...

A.   30 June 2008: hiya to me it sounds like you hav started your period but if you are not sure wait about 4/5 weeks to see if it comes again then you will no for sure you hav started your period i hope this helps xx... (read in full...)

Who should I believe???

Q.   ok i was single for bout maybe a couple of months and i found this guy that i really liked......so i asked him out and he said yes.....and then a couple of days later my best friend tells me that it was a dare......and so i called him up and asked ...

A.   29 June 2008: if i was you i would go and see him face to face. and ask him if going out with you was a dare and say i wont get angry if you say the truth.if he shuts the door on you or gets angry just say you only wanted the truth as rumors was going round and ... (read in full...)

No period yet. What can I do?

Q.   hi im 14 and i havent stared my perid yet what should i do ...

A.   29 June 2008: i started mine when i was 12. all i can say is enjoy life while your free!! lol its perfectly normal to start when your an older teenager. dont worry! xx... (read in full...)

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