Am I too young for alcohol and smoking? I'm 15...
Q. Ok so im 15 now but I starting drinking when i was 14 and there are only a few people in my grade that do because we are like the popular people...so is it really that young i mean it doesnt feel that way at all and also i smoke not pot but ...
A. 16 April 2008: Hey there,
I started smoking at 13, I first tried to stop in college because I was broke and it was costing me a fortune. I was 18 then, I eventually quit when I was 34! It cost me 10's of thousands, ruined my health, stained my teeth, made me ... (read in full...)
My husband is back from detox, now he's drinking again, any advice?
Q. Is there anyone who has any advice for a mother of two young children whose husband and their father is an alcoholic? He just came out of detox a week ago and is back to drinking again. What do I do?...
A. 16 April 2008: Agree with 1.
Im a recovering alcoholic (10 months this month) and I lost good friends, good relationships, good jobs, the respect of my family and ultimately my self respect long before I got it together and quit drinking.
He needs to get bac... (read in full...)
My boyfriend does drugs and tells me I need to deal with it!...
Q. So my boyfriend is a very big pothead, and I can't stand smoking weed. I have told him several times how I feel about it and I'm not asking him to stop altogether, I just want him to not do it everyday like he does now. It's senseless and he always ...
A. 16 April 2008: As someone who has lots friends who 'enjoyed' drugs and alcohol I really hope your BF doesnt go down that route. Many of them started smoking pot first.. just messing with it, no big deal right?? Wrong, maybe your BF will not do anything else but ... (read in full...)
Responses only from readers who are experienced with what I'm speaking of please
Q. I'm an adult male who is experimenting with anal sex for my first time with my girlfriend of a couple years. She's had anal sex in previous relationships though. I only mention this in case it may be a factor in some way. When inserting a fing...
A. 16 April 2008: Good God man, advise that woman to a Doctor!!!
As for anal sex, i have had several partners who very much enjoyed it and one in particular who had the most tremendous orgasms from anal! If it gives her pleasure then go for it, but health comes fi... (read in full...)
Why do men have such problems with my past sex life?
Q. Why do men i date find my one night stands in the past distasteful?...
A. 16 April 2008: agree with eyeswideopen.. dont broadcast it, problem solved
Unless now you are holding some sort of world record or something? In which case you need a secure bloke.... (read in full...)
My wife wants a 21 year old guy for 24 hours for her 50th!
Q. Hi I am looking for anyone who has been through this situation before. My wife is turning 50 next month and i asked her what she would like for her birthday. (she has every thing you could wish for) or so i thought. She could come up with an...
A. 16 April 2008: tell her the 21 year old for 24 hours was busy.. so she can have a 63 year old for 72 hours instead?
man in fairness, ye are swingers... this should be such a shock.. you are just feeling bad cos she wants the younger model this time... I dont kno... (read in full...)
My husband keeps asking me why my body doesn't look like the women in porn!
Q. My husband keeps asking me why my body doesnt look like the women in porn...I tried explaining to him that after a few kids things change...Im not at all overweight but womens bodies do change in ways that cant be helped after babies like stretch ...
A. 16 April 2008: Option 1) rent a porn movie along the lines of 'massive dicks at play' and ask him why his knob doesnt compare to the knobs in the movie? THEN go to the sex shop and buy the BIGGEST dildo you can find and leave it on your bed..
LOL... but dont lea... (read in full...)
Urgent! Pimples and blackheads advice needed!
Q. i need help!first i want to thank you for the help i already recieved!!!! how do i get rid of pimpels and black heads in my face???please its really depreasing so please help me...URGENT...
A. 16 April 2008: Alright mate.
Agree with the other guys. I suffered from acne as a teen and right into my early 20's! Im in my 30's now and I STILL get the odd pimple!! First thing, dont worry about it.
The most important thing as far as I can tell you is ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden I'm obsessed with my age, mortality and grey hairs. Is this normal for a guy my age?
Q. Do you think its possible to be having a midlife crisis at 34??? All of a sudden Im obsessed with my age, mortality and grey hairs... Is this normal for a guy my age?...
A. 15 December 2007: mm, that does help Anon. Thanks!... (read in full...)
All of a sudden I'm obsessed with my age, mortality and grey hairs. Is this normal for a guy my age?
Q. Do you think its possible to be having a midlife crisis at 34??? All of a sudden Im obsessed with my age, mortality and grey hairs... Is this normal for a guy my age?...
A. 15 December 2007: That reminds me of Homer Simpson when he said "Marge m'dear, I havent learned a thing"... (read in full...)
What was my best friend thinking?
Q. A few years ago, I met an incredible guy who I ended up becoming fast friends with. We're what's called kindred spirits. We are so much alike in our personalities that we joke that we must have been siblings in a past life. We talk to each other ...
A. 11 December 2007: Funny old world eh?
1)Why didnt he tell you: Fear of rejection perhaps, maybe he needed to hear it from you?
2)Horrible chick: to get himself 'back in the game' and get over his feelings for you. This would tie in with 1, if he thought that ... (read in full...)
All of a sudden I'm obsessed with my age, mortality and grey hairs. Is this normal for a guy my age?
Q. Do you think its possible to be having a midlife crisis at 34??? All of a sudden Im obsessed with my age, mortality and grey hairs... Is this normal for a guy my age?...
A. 11 December 2007: hmmm... you know what I think it is? Ive been quite lucky with the ladies and now Im noticing that the 20 somethings dont seem to even notice me anymore...oh well, theres always plan B, get em drunk...(kidding)
Thanks guys.... (read in full...)
I've met a beautiful new girl... But conversation seems a little arkward! What do you think?
Q. Confused about a girl. Ok we'll theres this girl I saw today in my gym class and as soon as I saw her I was like OMG, she was like the prettiest girl I have ever seen. I am very into vampires, and lets just say she looked like a slightly darker ...
A. 3 November 2007: win some you lose some. She sounds a bit off bro. Plenty more fish in the sea, you sound like a good, outgoing kind of guy, you will have plenty of other girls.
Enjoy
Dr T... (read in full...)
I've met a beautiful new girl... But conversation seems a little arkward! What do you think?
Q. Confused about a girl. Ok we'll theres this girl I saw today in my gym class and as soon as I saw her I was like OMG, she was like the prettiest girl I have ever seen. I am very into vampires, and lets just say she looked like a slightly darker ...
A. 5 October 2007: so bro..how did it go?... (read in full...)
He never makes a sound during sex. Should it bother me, or are guys just not as verbal as girls?
Q. My boyfriend is not verbal at all in the bedroom. He never makes a single sound when we are having sex. He always turns his face away from me when he is coming too. Like he doesnt want me to see him (i guess thats why his fave position is doggy ...
A. 29 September 2007: give him time..
On the verbal... whisper things to him, pull his head close to your ear and ask him to talk to you.. dirty is always good.. or just ask him to tell you what he likes, how hes feeling etc. This also means his O face is hidden .... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is perfect... but he hardly ever calls (or texts, or emails for that matter!)
Q. my boyfriend of four months is perfect in every way, but he hardly ever calls me.most of the time i have to contact him to make arrangements and he is always very happy to meet me.he says he is just not good at phoning people and even worse at ...
A. 29 September 2007: youre going to dump him because he doesnt phone?
If thats the case the whole bloody species would have disappeared long ago! AG Bell didnt save mankind from extinction he invented a new form of communication.
This is what this guy is like, doe... (read in full...)
I think my bf has been hanging out with my ex! It's weird, b/c when I introduced them they didn't get along! This is so odd! What do I do?
Q. Last week a friend of mine told me that my boyfriend has been spending time with my ex-b/f. I asked her if it was true, and she said, yes, she'd seen it several times during the week. I've only introduced my boyfriend to him once, and they ...
A. 29 September 2007: hmmm... did you and previous BF not end on good terms?
Either he knows something that your current BF didnt want to hear (but asked about before he committed to moving in with you) or maybe XBF wants you back and is getting the competit... (read in full...)
What is it I'm doing wrong for girls to get bored and walk away when I start chatting to them?
Q. I'm in a spot of bother. I'm a confident man, I am friendly, I keep my apperance neat and I'm hygenic, I can be funny, yet whenever I try talking to a girl or ask her out they always get bored and go away. People who read this will probably say it's ...
A. 29 September 2007: Yeah Bro.. any examples?
I mean no woman I have ever met has really reacted too well to chat up lines.
Are you talking more about yourself or then or just the world in general?
Give you an example, in a former incarnation I was a busi... (read in full...)
Why do some women not enjoy giving head?
Q. i dont understand why some women love giving head and others wouldnt dare even if you gave them thousands of opportunities to do it. whats so wrong with it? you ladies out there what do you think?...
A. 29 September 2007: Sorry 'love-him' .. dont like 'the smell' ??
If a man cant keep his d*ck from smelling then he shouldnt be asking a woman anything... ... (read in full...)
I've met a beautiful new girl... But conversation seems a little arkward! What do you think?
Q. Confused about a girl. Ok we'll theres this girl I saw today in my gym class and as soon as I saw her I was like OMG, she was like the prettiest girl I have ever seen. I am very into vampires, and lets just say she looked like a slightly darker ...
A. 29 September 2007: sounds like she is shy Bro... if you like her dont give up on it... if she is shy she will appreciate that you do like her by your presistence in starting a conversation with her... maybe get her out of the school environment to a neutral place like ... (read in full...)
She cheated on me, and I was going to propose! How do I get through this?
Q. me and my girlfriend have just broke up because she has had sex last wendnesday with a random bloke in the toilets of a night club and i was going to propose to her how do i get over this with as little pain as possible?....
A. 29 September 2007: Kennys right bro..
Better you found out now than in a couple of years when youre married to someone who shags strange blokes in the loo at clubs! Sounds to me like youre FAR better off without her... just keep reminding yourself of that. Now you... (read in full...)
I am finding it hard to accept her love/trust her but I don't know why.
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been together for 3 months now and just recently both told each other that we love each other. I had said it first a couple of weeks before and knew she was not ready at the time but couldn't help it. I am finding it ha...
A. 7 July 2007: First relationship...yip, its tough bro...no nice way to say it...new, very strong emotions...at this stage of your life you are just getting to know yourself and then someone else is a huge part of your life and they are in the same boat...
I rem... (read in full...)
How do I best please my girlfriend so that she will forget how clumsy I was the first time?
Q. I had sex for the first time with my girlfriend (and ever) a few days ago. It was so bad even I had to admit that to myself, and it was my fault. It was really clumsy among other things. Should I just ask her what makes her aroused or should I just ...
A. 8 May 2007: Just as the others said..doing anything for the first time is hard & alas you cant really have someone with you to tell you what to do!! 8-)
Relax, relax and relax. Talk to her, tell her what youre thinking so its not such a big deal. Sex is m... (read in full...)
My needs aren't being met in this relationship. How I can be more assertive, to improve life for us both??
Q. Objectively speaking, the girl I'm seeing is a real catch: smart, confident, caring, thoughtful, successful and hard working. We have a lot in common and share similar goals for the future. She has said she loves me many times and clearly means ...
A. 8 May 2007: well brother the answer is in the question..."on the other hand, do not feel so strongly about her"... says it all really doesnt it?
Life is very short..are you just killing time because you think you should be in a relationship with someone ... (read in full...)
The sex has lessened to once a week, does my bf just not fancy me anymore ?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for just over a year and we used to have sex like 3 or 4 times a week. but now i'm lucky if we have sex once a week. is he just no longer attracted to me?...
A. 19 March 2007: Perhaps you should try increasing the quality of the times you do make love over the quantity. The end Honeymoon period is often hard to bear and it does mean less sex and often questions such as the one youve have asked.
Best way to find out... (read in full...)
Is it normal to get so wet?!
Q. hello...i was just woundering if there is somthing wrong with me! I seem to get very wet down there! I find it really embarrsing when my BF fingers me or goes down on me...is this something to be concerned about or not...plz help me x ...
A. 21 August 2006: nothing to worry about...means youre enjoying it and believe me your BF will too, knowing that you get turned on by him...I have heard this a lot before...so if you have any friends worrying about this tell them too!! Its all good!! enjoy... (read in full...)
Why do they play games?
Q. Why do girls play games with ya??? Any help would be vvv greatful please....
A. 7 July 2006: Why does the rain fall man? Its just the way it is, always has, always will be. Take some power back bro...you dont always have to be on the receiving end you know?? Think about it.. become the messer Mister!... (read in full...)
I want to be independent but can't seem to get a job. Help!!
Q. I am 17 years old and i don't understand what i am doing wrong! Every time I apply for a part time job, the place never gets back to me and people with less qualifications than me get the job. I have been trying to earn some extra money for abou...
A. 19 June 2006: Hi ..I work in recruitment so I have seen all the mistakes candidates can make that you can imagine and a few more to boot! - Ensure that your CV is properly formatted - several online recruitment solutions will offer you free advice with this. In ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend but scared that she will cheat when she drinks.
Q. I have been going out with my girlfriend for about 2 years now and i love her. she is 24 years old. there are things about her that i have found out that i cant understand though. she told me one day that she slept with almost 30 guys before she met ...
A. 19 June 2006: sounds like A) this is putting a lot of stress in your life B) she has a lot of growing up to do. Sit down and have a serious facetoface somewhere neutral and quiet where neither of you have been before. Tell her how you feel about her drinki... (read in full...)
Does he or doesn't he?
Q. how can i tell if my boyfriend mastorbates?...
A. 19 June 2006: He does - no doubt - 110% - perfectly natural - every guy you have met and will meet masturbates.... (read in full...)
GF didn't want me, but saw me with a model, then called me a fool! What did I do wrong?
Q. I have an ex and we broke up because I cheated on her. I know I was wrong and I know that I hurt her deeply. She means the world to me. The problem is I tried to work it out and put the past behind us and she wouldn't. She said she just wanted ...
A. 15 June 2006: Forget her...she hasnt moved on (bit understandable perhaps) and doesnt want you to either (not at all understandable)... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but fancy her sister, what should I do about it ?
Q. I fancy my girlfriend's sister but i still love my girlfriend what should i do about my feelings? ...
A. 15 June 2006: Get a grip...if 'fancy' her but you 'love' your girlfriend. Do you know what a devastativing blow it would be to the woman you love if something were to happy between her partner and her sister? My advice: forget about it.... (read in full...)
How do I get through the World Cup ? Need some attention from him, any ideas!?
Q. I know many women will be able to sympathise with me on this problem - I'm sick of my man leaving me alone to watch the World Cup!!! He's mad about football but now, there's like 3 matches on a day and I never get any attention whatsoever!! Mos...
A. 12 June 2006: OK...this aint from a lady but here goes: obviously when England arent playing get his soccer jersey ..pop it on with nothing else ..that'll get his attention!... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is being difficult!
Q. I'm going through hell with my b.f of 1 yr! Saturday, I found him chatting with his ex (whom he dumped miserably while she was pregnant... for me. She had an abortion). Everything was fine till Friday. And on Saturday I had the feeling somethin...
A. 12 June 2006: I agree with Wendyg - sounds like you've made your mind up - go with you're gut. To be honest from reading you're letter I was a bit surprised to learn that you are planning to get married! Doesn't sound like you guys know each other well enough to ... (read in full...)
He is sweet and very courteous, always compliments me, does this mean that he likes me ?
Q. I like this guy, he's sweet, courteous and likes me too. well i think he does. he told me i was beautiful, and when we were talking about fun i said i didnt have much of it, he said well u need a boyfriend, i said im looking. would that have went ...
A. 12 June 2006: sounds like he likes you to me. a lot of guys (myself being one of the foremost culpits) would miss a come on signal from 1 foot away..in fact unless you approach with a sandwitch board and scream into my ear thru a tannoy the chances are I wont ... (read in full...)
Are all the fights and hurt feelings worth it?
Q. My boyfriend has become very controlling in the last 9 months. He tells me I cant hang out with other guys and yells at me when I spend the night talking on the phone to them. He says he's just greedy, but its like he doesnt trust me. I've tried to ...
A. 9 June 2006: Hi there...sounds like youre going through a tough time. When you say he has become controlling in the last 9 months I take it that you have been together for longer than this? I would also assume that he wasnt like this at the outset. Alas, people ... (read in full...)
How do I ride my boyfriend, without actually having sex?
Q. Hi there, I'm a little unsure of something. Me and my b/f have not have sex but have come very close to it. We have decided to as soon as we get some time alone, but until then I just want to know how to ride/straddle him without inserting his peni...
A. 8 June 2006: Semen can be a very powerful substance!! be very, very careful! have fun!... (read in full...)
She lied and said she was older, but now I'm a married man in love with a 14-year-old!
Q. What action should I take? I am a married man in my late twenties, who has fallen for someone much younger. We met in a chatroom last year, when her profile stated she was older. After a while, we spoke on MSN when I noticed that she was actu...
A. 8 June 2006: seriously man...talk to a councellor about this...not a 14 year old CHILD!... (read in full...)
Is it okay for hair to grow in certain places?
Q. is it normal for a teenager boy to have hair grow on his arms, both lower and upper, on his back neck and borderline, stomach and legs same as the arms, and im 15 and im really worried because you can see the hair plzzzz help me...
A. 8 June 2006: Alright Man..chill, this is all natural - your body is going through a phase of change that will last for a while. Pop along to your Doctor, dont be in the least embarrassed - your Doctor wont be - and have a chat. I know you feel self conscious ... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 8 June 2006: Christ..Get to your Doctor ASAP. Some guys do enjoy rough sex but a normal guy will have the common sense to discuss this with a partner/potential partner before doing what this animal did to you. This is definitely not normal behaviour and if this ... (read in full...)
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