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My husband is never affectionate, I try to discuss it with him but he says I have no say as I do not work...

Q.   me and my husband have been together on and off for about 4 years~we have always had our ups and downs but he always would rather go hunting or spend time with his friends than me and our child he tells me that because i dont work i dont really have ...

A.   9 June 2008: Whats the connection between you not working and showing affection.....dont understand...I would say day to day looking after him and your child is more than enough work...sounds as though you are married to a "plonker" Does your husband understa... (read in full...)

Relationship problem's--he hit's me sometimes! Is he fixable?

Q.   Hey i have a question, now i'm sure you've heard this god knows how many time's. But Let's start out short. I have a boyfriend and i'v been dating him for the pass 7 month's ( NOT THAT LONG ) And i really super love him, i feel that ther...

A.   9 June 2008: Sorry to hear of your problem.....no you ahould not accept this treatment no matter how much you "love" him...this situation will only get worse...some people are born this way.... For your own safety and future leave him...walk away, I know tha... (read in full...)

She wants sex but I'm not at the legal age yet..?

Q.   i have been with my girlfriend for 7 months now and she wants to have sex i do to.problem is is that she doesn't know that im still a minor so i keep putting it off she's getting a bit frustrated.what should i do?(she's 22 im 15)...

A.   3 June 2008: Yeah??...just a baby teenage fantasy......get youre action man out or your skateboard....... (read in full...)

I want to bring his birthday to him in his hospital room (he's got a private room). Anyone got any good ideas of how we can celebrate it?

Q.   My boyfriend will be in hospital for his birthday, he is having an operation tomorrow and has been told he will be in hospital recovering til the following Monday - his birthday is on Friday. We had planned a big night out but obviously that's...

A.   2 June 2008: yeah as other posters....jelly...cake...baloons.......Im sure he would appriciate it.... And whisper in his ear you have something "special" waiting at home when he feels better....if you know what I mean... Wish your BF happy birthday from me... (read in full...)

Why cant she get pregnant?

Q.   My girlfriend and i are trying to have a kid. We have had sex so many times so why wont she get pregnant?...

A.   2 June 2008: I hope to God you have hit the wrong age button........ (read in full...)

My best friend doesn't seem to care about me anymore... I can't just walk away!

Q.   me and my best friend/ex used 2 be close ..we used 2 spend everyday together until he met this lad.. who edged his way in and turned him against me..well made him take pictures of me and him off his myspace.. mentally tells him to stop seeing me. ...

A.   29 May 2008: Sounds like your "best friend / Ex" is gay....never mind...chin up..you deserve better.... It hurts..but it does get better...move on with your life...keep your eye open for the next hunky guy... Good Luck... (read in full...)

Any advice on how to ask my mum about going on the pill?

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together a while now and we're ready to have sex. But i'm 15 and i don't know how to ask my mum about going on the pill. Also i don't know the places where we can. Anyone got any advice? ...

A.   29 May 2008: wait until your 16...then its legal !!!!... (read in full...)

Should I have sex with this friend?

Q.   hey, im wondering should i have sex with one of my close friendds for the first time. actuaally what im asking is would it be right? becausei can see myself doing that with him, ive done stuff with him before. were really close and it would be ...

A.   28 May 2008: LJ001....what a fantastic answer you have given....my compliments to your maturity..... Anon (poster) please read what LJ001 has written......... (read in full...)

My boyfriend hits me and calls me names. I don't know what to do.

Q.   Ive bin with my boyfriend now for 2 years, at first he was lovely now he hits me pushes me, calls me names fat, ugly etc, wont help with the kids if he dont get his own way. one is his. he works in the day he comes home helps a bit with the children ...

A.   27 May 2008: Sorry to hear about your situation.....you should not put up with this mans behaviour one moment longer....OK...im a man but I know how hard it is with two kids...plus all the house work on top....for him not to pull his finger out and share the ... (read in full...)

Is it so bad to cheat on my boyfriend with my ex? My bf has not been able to satisfy me sexually...

Q.   i cheated on my boyfriend.. w my ex................. i dnt want to be back with him but i have been dating my current bf for 5 months. He was a vifgin and has not been able to satisfy me sexually. He tries and has gotten somewhat better ... he cant ...

A.   27 May 2008: Doesnt it drive you insane when people continue to use "text" spelling..... This generation will be unable to spell.....very very sad... (read in full...)

I keep crying knowing that he hates me and believes I would want him to go to jail... but I did not mean to call the police, the row degenerated!

Q.   My bf of 5 years broke up with me. A week ago we had a row about the washing load. It was such a trivial matter but the argument escalated and we started hitting each other. I asked him to leave my studio flat by which he kept refusing so to scar...

A.   27 May 2008: Hi, Im not so sure from reading your post that this is the only time this has happened?? OK...yes I have had arguments we all do...but for it to escalate into you getting a friend to call the police something like this must of happened before.... (read in full...)

Are oral sex and anal sex classed as "real" sex?

Q.   is oral sex and anal sex classed as sex? some of my friends think that a blowjob or anal is no different than kissing someone,but i dissagree i think that they are different types of sex but when i tell my friends they laugh at me and call me an ...

A.   26 May 2008: Good on you marion...the truth at last...as if we didnt realise this in the first place...just takes someone with the brains to spell it out...well done anonymous...picture this..one of your friends is forced unwillingly to perform oral on a blo... (read in full...)

I want my first time to be special, so I want it to happen in a hotel. But he's done nothing about booking one!

Q.   I have been wanting to have sex with my bf for about a year now. It is my first time, so he wants it to be right and make sure i know what i am saying. I have thought long and hard and i know i want it to be with him. I have told him this. Howeve...

A.   26 May 2008: Tremor...you took the words right out of my mouth.... Thats exactly what I was trying to say....men eh??...LOL Yes....I agree...IF the hotel is something you desperatly want to make the first time special....book it yourself....get ... (read in full...)

I want my first time to be special, so I want it to happen in a hotel. But he's done nothing about booking one!

Q.   I have been wanting to have sex with my bf for about a year now. It is my first time, so he wants it to be right and make sure i know what i am saying. I have thought long and hard and i know i want it to be with him. I have told him this. Howeve...

A.   26 May 2008: Hi...not sure WHY it HAS to be a hotel room....I understand you want it to be a special time, but the place dosent actually make it special......thats between you two... Theres many ways of making it special...even at home...you know...c... (read in full...)

He has me on a 7 pm curfew! And he blames me for what he does to me! Am I doing the right thing planning to leave him?

Q.   I'm now 21 years old. I was barely 19 when I MOVED IN with my boyfriend. Things have gotten worse since I turned 21. He has me on a 7PM curfew! If I'm a few minutes late he doesn't talk to me for the rest of the night. Hes even locked me out for ...

A.   25 May 2008: Hi, what a terrible situation you find yourself in.....GO...dont look back....as DOC says...out there is YOUR man...somewhere.... DONT ever let anyone treat you this way..its not normal and not safe. Whats the next thing, chained to the b... (read in full...)

My girlfriend thinks I am sexually unattractive

Q.   Hi, I just got off the phone to my girlfriend and we have been having problems lately. She said the problems were due to her not finding me sexually attractive due to me not being 'big' enough. She said big as in how i was built and that I'm too...

A.   18 May 2008: Sounds like she is a complete B.I.T.C.H.....hard as it is, move on.....there is someone out there for you........ (read in full...)

I am very inexperienced with sex and relationships, and was raped 6 years ago by a bf, now I've started dating a new guy...but I need some advice!

Q.   Hi I've never posted here before, and I kind of need some advice. I'm in my late 20's, and am going out on a third date with a guy I've known for a couple of months. We get along really well and really dig each other. The thing is, I know that in ...

A.   2 May 2008: Hi, Im sorry to hear of your past experience. I am in complete agreement with the posters here, tell your BF of your concerns / past....if he is the one for you he will treat what you tell him with respect and NOT pressurize you in to anything..... (read in full...)

My wife abandoned me and our kids for her online lover!

Q.   I am 49, and my wife is 31. A year ago she started an online relationship with a man in Hungary, which she physicaly carried out by taking a vacation with my 4yr old daughter for two months, leaving me with my 12yr old son. While there she ...

A.   28 April 2008: Hi, I know it is very difficult not to be very very bitter towards your wife but I would not do anything...well....I think the best thing would be to prove to her that YOU are the best thing since sliced bread for your kids, at some point she WILL ... (read in full...)

Should I stay or should I go, he's out of prison and seeing another girl

Q.   my boyfriend has just gotten out of prison march 1st, after serving 7 years. we met 14 months ago, while he was out on a furlow from work release. well, he decided to go to the strip club with his brothers and friends, where he met a girl who i ...

A.   22 April 2008: Leave him..get on with your life...I imagine you are a fantastic person...having waited for 14mths for your BF to return....he doesnt deserve you....plenty of guys out there for you....who will give you what you need...... (read in full...)

Is it me with the problem, or is it her not taking our relationship seriously?

Q.   I'll try to cut this down to as small as i can. I have a girlfriend of 4 and a half months. Shes 15, same as me, and she is bisexual. She has hooked up with 4 different girls before in the past two years. One of them though meant a lot to her, and ...

A.   22 April 2008: To be honest I feel that when you are both old enough to enjoy making love / sex you will be so sexed out you wont be bothered.... Yes, she has no real ambition at this stage to be true to one person....this in time she will regret...open relation... (read in full...)

We both like each other but he's older and married!

Q.   i like this guy who is 10 years older than me he is married and has 3 kids,he likes me too.what should i do?...

A.   21 April 2008: I agree with both posts here.... 1. Why tie yourself down with baggage at your age? 2. Dating married men rarely works out as they have the best of both worlds, mostly females such as yourself are a bit on the side to give him what he wants w... (read in full...)

My boyfriend lost his "size" due to steroids, can he regain it?

Q.   My boyfriend used steroids at one point in his teens to get bigger. He got bigger, but his tool (if you know what I mean) got smaller. About as long as his middle finger and three times the circumfrence. This is not really a problem for me (he ...

A.   21 April 2008: Anabolic Steroids and the Male Reproductive System As anabolic steroids are so strongly associated with male traits such as strength and muscles it seems tragic that the side effects of the drug are: Increased erectile dysfunction, and imp... (read in full...)

I just had a baby but could I be pregnant AGAIN?!

Q.   I just had a baby a month and a half ago and I had sex for the first time 6 days ago and continued all weekend but we used a condom. I know this is alot of detail but at one time we used the same condom for 2 to 4 hours and for the past 3 days I ...

A.   18 April 2008: Still stand by my original answer to this post...10-12....18-21...she still has NO idea of the birds and bee's......... (read in full...)

I'm 16 is it possible for me to move in with my 21 y-o boyfriend?

Q.   Hi ok so there is this guy ive never met him but hell be 21 soon and im 16(5 year age difference)and lately there have been family problems going on and my mom is actiung much of a mom is it possible i can move in with him right now instead of w...

A.   17 April 2008: Ummm...you have never met him???....and you want to get engaged???....you want to leave home??? 1. You never met: How can you even consider getting engaged to a person you have nerver met / spent any time with "face to face" 2. You have , b... (read in full...)

I just had a baby but could I be pregnant AGAIN?!

Q.   I just had a baby a month and a half ago and I had sex for the first time 6 days ago and continued all weekend but we used a condom. I know this is alot of detail but at one time we used the same condom for 2 to 4 hours and for the past 3 days I ...

A.   17 April 2008: Cant really be bothered to respond.....BUT if it is a true story, which I doubt, relating to the other post by this BABY....I feel so sorry for you.....11 years out of your mothers womb...still a baby and you have one of your own...very sad.... ... (read in full...)

Is looking at other women disrespectful? It makes me mad and I need more affection!

Q.   hi i need help from the guys(girls can if they want) my boyfriend i think anyway doesnt show enough affection how can i make him show it more. he tells me that i have great sex appeal and that he cant ever take his eyes off of me because he loves ...

A.   17 April 2008: And dont females EVER look at blokes??....come on girls its a two way thing.... For me I am very happy with my GF, but that doesnt stop me admiring a good looking woman and vise versa.... Look at the produce....but dont touch....... (read in full...)

My husband keeps asking me why my body doesn't look like the women in porn!

Q.   My husband keeps asking me why my body doesnt look like the women in porn...I tried explaining to him that after a few kids things change...Im not at all overweight but womens bodies do change in ways that cant be helped after babies like stretch ...

A.   16 April 2008: Oh forgot to add...most porn stars have pussies that you could drive a greyhound bus through...load up with passengers...do a three point turn and drive out again...... (read in full...)

My husband keeps asking me why my body doesn't look like the women in porn!

Q.   My husband keeps asking me why my body doesnt look like the women in porn...I tried explaining to him that after a few kids things change...Im not at all overweight but womens bodies do change in ways that cant be helped after babies like stretch ...

A.   16 April 2008: Well...I can only guess you have a normal sexy body of a woman who has had kids.... So your husband prefers plastic tits...asses...lips... For me and MOST normal men you have a body we crave... Leave the ass hole if he wont change... (read in full...)

A question of who should be president?

Q.   During the recent presidntial election many have talked about relgion and morals. John McCain is remarried while his first wife is stil living that is adultery. Hillary Clintons husband is an adulter. Barrack Obama has no cases against h...

A.   16 April 2008: Who cares...who ever gets in will balls everything up and blame the previous office..... You must be from the woods....who says it is adultery if you divorce then remarry...come out of the trees...... (read in full...)

My boyfriend does drugs and tells me I need to deal with it!...

Q.   So my boyfriend is a very big pothead, and I can't stand smoking weed. I have told him several times how I feel about it and I'm not asking him to stop altogether, I just want him to not do it everyday like he does now. It's senseless and he always ...

A.   16 April 2008: He is asking you to deal with his problem....fine deal with it...leave him...what future do you have together?...Kids...work...money.....what future do you expect if he cant raise his pot ridden ass out of bed cause he smokes too much........doesnt ... (read in full...)

He has a problem with anger when drunk, can this change??

Q.   I have the most wonderful boyfriend. He treats me very well, he's respectful, loving, attentive, everything you could possibly want in a man, and I am madly in love with him. But he has a problem with anger when he gets drunk. Normally, he;s f...

A.   15 April 2008: Hi...sorry for your problem...but dont understand how you can say "I have the most wonderful boyfriend"...thats BS.....and deep down you know it I really do not understand why females stay with men such as these..please tell me why???....the ne... (read in full...)

Whoops! I've been hitting on him and just found out he has a girlfriend! What should I say in my apology?

Q.   For about two months or so, I have been hitting on this guy at work. At first, it was just a little flirting, to make him laugh, and he would make me laugh... It evolved into a few emails and he would stop by my department some when I was working ...

A.   15 April 2008: I tend to agree with "rythamandblues2"...... he should have been up front with you at the start........ (read in full...)

Is my online friend really starting to fall for me?

Q.   Well this is kind of a long sry ok i met this guy we can call him B well i met him online and we haven't met in person but we've exchanged photos and i've seen him on cam and things. we've been tlkn since sometime last year n we still are til this ...

A.   14 April 2008: Just be very very carefull...people can be who you want them to be on the internet, when in reality the other person is completely different....if you do meet...please take a friend with you or meet in a VERY public place... I know the age diff... (read in full...)

I gave in to his request (oral sex) but he did not return the favour. Am I right to be upset?

Q.   I recently gave my 1st blowjob to a guy I was dating. He wanted it so much and so I gave in. Although personally I felt the act demeaning, I didn't mind doing it as I was attracted to this guy so much. However when I asked him if he would return ...

A.   13 April 2008: What a selfish bloke.....you have to be happy with giving a BJ...if the bloke doesnt accept you dont like giving them or wont return the favor...BIN him...... (read in full...)

I am a emotional mess, I need closure and I want to be happy once more.

Q.   I am so torn. I have been with this guy for 5 years. He has been verbally abusive to me for the past 3. I am only here because I think I might be afraid of starting over. Worse, he has done a number on my self-esteem. He's put me down so much and ...

A.   13 April 2008: Very difficult....but why stay with an abusive person??the next thing physical violence...then the "I didnt mean to do that" "I wont do it again" (till the next time)...that goes for both sexes....you have your whole life ahead of you...why ruin it ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with him, but I have future plans that he can't be involved with.

Q.   I'm dating a 25 year old man and i'm 17. I am in love with him, but secretly i don't want to be with him forever, because i have future plans that he can't be in. He has a beautiful daughter who I love and see as my own, and i truly don't want to h...

A.   13 April 2008: I think you need to tell us what your plans are to enable the "aunts" to give a more constructive opinion... But I agree with the posts already here....if what you are planning doesnt include your BF or his daughter why carry on??...it will onl... (read in full...)

She's defending the guy that sexually assaulted her whilst she was drunk?!

Q.   Hey guys, Well i have a wonderful girlfriend that is most definately the best thing that has ever happened to me! This much i promise.....but i have a problem...... I have come on this site and asked a couple times about what to do when dealing wit...

A.   13 April 2008: LazyGuy...you make complete sense...100% agree with you...excellent post... (read in full...)

I dearly want to rediscover the spark that we had between us in the "honeymoon period" but we're both so busy! How to spice things up a bit?

Q.   I've been in a relationship with a girl for almost a year and a half now. We both love each other to bits and we get on so well with each other. We have lots in common with each other and do lots together. I'm 25 and she's 24 however our sex ...

A.   12 April 2008: I cant really give an opinion on your situation, but if it were me I would do a few things 1. Make time for both of you, try to finish earlier in the day...surprise her by being at home with "something" on the boil when she walks in... 2. Romant... (read in full...)

My soon-to-be husband is cheating on me, what should I do?

Q.   I'm due to get married soon , but have just found out that my future husband has join a singles web site, and has give out his phone number, and is now having sex txt with this woman,she has also sent him dirty pictures. what should i do ....

A.   12 April 2008: Hi...sorry I agree with Mandy...as hard as it is...you wouldnt want to be married to a guy who is already cheating on you......... (read in full...)

What is rainbow kissing? Should I try it?

Q.   I might sound really stupid asking this but what does rainbow kissing mean? My current boyfriend is pretty kinky and like trying everything out. I was a virgin when we got together so he's taught me everything i know. He asked me at the weekend ...

A.   11 April 2008: LazyGuy....LOL...LOL...LOL... (read in full...)

What is rainbow kissing? Should I try it?

Q.   I might sound really stupid asking this but what does rainbow kissing mean? My current boyfriend is pretty kinky and like trying everything out. I was a virgin when we got together so he's taught me everything i know. He asked me at the weekend ...

A.   10 April 2008: Barf city...eeeuurrghh g1605...you got the nail on the head...... (read in full...)

My wife abandoned me and our kids for her online lover!

Q.   I am 49, and my wife is 31. A year ago she started an online relationship with a man in Hungary, which she physicaly carried out by taking a vacation with my 4yr old daughter for two months, leaving me with my 12yr old son. While there she ...

A.   6 April 2008: Hi, thanks for your comments to my answer.....I do understnd completly the situation you are in 100% How am I now: Well this all happened to me 6 yrs ago, I wasnt lucky enough to be in the position to have my children, so they went with her, som... (read in full...)

My wife abandoned me and our kids for her online lover!

Q.   I am 49, and my wife is 31. A year ago she started an online relationship with a man in Hungary, which she physicaly carried out by taking a vacation with my 4yr old daughter for two months, leaving me with my 12yr old son. While there she ...

A.   5 April 2008: The internet / mobile phones have a lot to answer for...I was in the same position a few years ago...my now ex wife texting all the time.....and it turned out to be a "new" man....but as usual denied everything...anyhow...water under the bridge... ... (read in full...)

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