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My husband is rubbing his affairs in my face!

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Question - (29 October 2010) 10 Answers - (Newest, 5 November 2010)
A female United States age , anonymous writes:

I have been reading your colume for awhile and i felt it was time to reach out to someone. iv been married for 24 years my husband 2 years ago took out a young girl out for valintines night.for the past 2 years their has been 2 different women call my home looking for my husband.the young girl who my husband took out showed up at my home to be with my husband told her to meet her around the couner of my home . my husband has continually lies about where hes been he leaves work and dissapeers constinally. he never does nothing with me he wont take me out or do activities ect.he only wants sex everry 2to4 weeks at a time 1night stands. he makes me feel used ,worthless a roommate.please help me . i hope you can give me some good advice.from brokenhearted women.

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A male reader, soon567 United States +, writes (5 November 2010):

Sometimes we don’t realize what we have until it has been taking away from us. Your marriage has been over from sometime and you need to come to grips with it. It’s over and I am truly sorry. I hope you’re not sharing the same bed with this guy. You need to take precaution with him if your still having sex with a guy that’s is running from woman to woman. It’s much easier for a man to transfer STD’s from one to another and still remain negative.

After two years of this cheating (if he see it as cheating) why are you still hurting? No way can you still love him now. Forgive me, but this is over and long ago. Why does he need to give you play by play? He has a piece of paper that’s worthless. Do you honestly see this man as your husband? It has run its course.

Do the right thing, Here:

http://www.divorcelawinfo.com/

CNN

They're known as "alienation of affection" suits, when an "outsider" interferes in a marriage. The suits are allowed in seven states: Hawaii, Illinois, Mississippi, New Mexico, North Carolina, South Dakota and Utah. If you’re in Texas you can sue both of them for damage’s.

http://articles.cnn.com/2009-12-08/living/cheating.spouses.lawsuits_1_suits-lover-law?_s=PM:LIVING

Let this go no matter how hard it is and make sure the joker support you until you can make it without

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A female reader, PatientlyWaiting1 United States +, writes (30 October 2010):

You really truly need to see someone about your self-esteem. That is very important, it is very low and I am sure he has made it that way. You will get over being broken-hearted but you must take yourself out of that situation. He is a real loser and I feel terrible for you. Please get your self strong and do whatever you need to do for you and move on

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A reader, anonymous, writes (30 October 2010):

I read all the great advice you have received so far. And it all is great advice however if you could, would, or were able to leave this man I think you would of done that already. So my heart hurts for you my dear because you’re allowing yourself to be used and that never is ok. My advice work on you! Get your butt in gear babe do whatever it takes to make yourself gain some confidence then let see how much you let him get away with!!!! You are a woman of worth even if you don’t feel like you are!!!!!!

I promise you that you are stronger then you think!!!

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A female reader, mystiquek United States + , writes (29 October 2010):

mystiquek agony auntHe is rubbing your face in it because you ALLOW him to. What are you? A doormat? Show him the door and say "See you in court, and thanks for everything, because I'm taking half". Nothing else to say. There are still nice men out there, and after the dust settles, if you want to find one, you will. Stop being the victim, and take control of the situation. You are strong and you will find the strength to get through this, I promise. But don't let him continue to treat you this way. Its called divorce. Get yourself a great lawyer, and take him to the cleaners.

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A female reader, sofirex Greece +, writes (29 October 2010):

sofirex agony aunti agree with everyone else. leave him you don't deserve this. don't be afraid just do it. You'll see take the risk and it will be worth it. please dont do this to yourself the bastard doesnt deserve you, you are just too good for him. go now dont waste anymore time!

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010):

Yet another enduring marriage, for what????

Two wrongs don't make a right - and why would you want a younger lover, it then makes you no different to your husband. I'm sure you are a perfectly nice, emotionally mature woman who like to be in a grown-up, loving respectful marriage, which you do NOT HAVE.

Don't ask why he does this, does he need more romance, he's had a tough time, he suffers with this or that...HE is openly treating you badly, and I'm sorry NOT even in the name of marriage should that be permitted!

Yes, get a good lawyer, and please do leave him, he's not going to change into prince charming!

Jilly

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A reader, anonymous, writes (29 October 2010):

1 word-divorce. if you allow it he will dish it out

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A male reader, CaringGuy United Kingdom +, writes (29 October 2010):

Leave. That's the best option, and I think you know it deep down. We had a woman on this site earlier asking why men treat women like slaves. Not all men do, but your husband is nearly there. There is no way at all that you can make this marriage work. He's there because you are taking this treatment. He wont' suddenly stop, because he's been doing it too long. He won't turn into a Knight and make it better. He will never care.

You need to leave this man, and find one who knows how to treat you properly, and not like a doormat.

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A male reader, TimmD United States +, writes (29 October 2010):

TimmD agony auntI'm not trying to be rude here, but I must ask - since you know this, what have you done about it? Have you confronted him? To me it seems that he will continue to do it as long as he feels he can get away with it.

What can you do? You can tell him that if he continues to have an affair you will divorce him. The only way he will stop is if he feels he has something to lose. I would hope that the thought of losing you and the married life that he has would be enough to get his attention. Otherwise, he is just completely disrespecting you and is really giving you absolutely no reason to stayed married to him.

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A female reader, eyeswideopen United States +, writes (29 October 2010):

eyeswideopen agony auntWhy are you still there? Leave the son of a bitch, get a good lawyer (the best your husband's money can buy) and take him to the cleaners.

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