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writes:Would anyone else agree with this? Looking at porn the morning after you've slept with your girlfriend is a bit odd and uncalled for? Why would they want to look at someone else that soon?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (2 February 2013):
 It's not weird.. I'm not sure what you're aiming at. You think that after having had sex, one should not feel any sexual desire for the next.. oh say.. 72 hours?
People have different sexual drives, some want it several times a day, some want it two times a month or once a year. "That soon" is a VERY relative statement. Maybe it is soon to you, but clearly it isn't soon to him.
Having a sex drive isn't about not being satisfied properly. If I had amazing sex one day I'd just want more the next, not less!
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (28 January 2013):
 36 is still not over the hill :). The refractory time ( the length of time it takes them to be physically ready for round no.2 ) is longer than at 18, but, as far as I know, a 36 y.o. guy can definitely be very horny at night - and very horny again after a night's sleep ( and thanks God , I am tempted to add ).
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86 +, writes (28 January 2013):
He was 36 at the time.
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reader, CindyCares +, writes (27 January 2013):
" That soon " ? But it's not that soon at all ! Particularly if he is in your age range.
Of course a young man can feel sexual urges at night, - and more sexual urges the morning after ! In fact , probably he was not even fully awake ...when exciting memories of your last night together started drifting through his mind, et voila', - good and ready for a nice session of self -love .
Not terribly romantic perhaps, but totally unexceptional from a physiological point of view .
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reader, Pr3tty_in_pink86 +, writes (27 January 2013):
I wasn't there the next morning, the thing is he had to finish with his wrist in the early days.
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (27 January 2013):
 You asked:
"I'm saying wouldn't the satisfaction from the night before still be there?"
Especially if it's a young guy, the refractory period after sex could be as little as 20 minutes and many guys could go again in a couple of hours, so even if the sex the night before was the sweatiest, nut-busting, sweat-dripping mass of arms and legs and bodily fluids that left both of you in a quivering post-coital ecstasy, it wouldn't make a difference how horny he was the next morning. He could get up in 5 hours with a raging erection and ready to go again.
So he could be satisfied and really horny at the same time, which suggests to me that his sex drive isn't as low as you think it is, and he very well could be using porn a bit too frequently for your taste. I wonder if he also assumes that you wouldn't want some morning delight since he thinks your sex drive is too low to want some in the morning, so he goes to the porn because he thinks you'll turn him down, or that it's easier to just relieve himself by himself.
Like you said, for YOU, having sex in the morning is excessive, but he might like it! I don't think it's unreasonable. I think that if you're a willing person for some morning love (better than black coffee and much healthier and more fun!), his turning to porn would be weird, but he's doing it because his drive is higher and you're not up for encore sex in the morning.
Like everyone has said, it's not about looking at someone else...it's about relieving excess sexual tension using random images, like a mental vibrator.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 January 2013): He is not looking at other women, he is using the visual stimulus to help him wack off quicker. He was more than probably thinking about the good time he had with you the night before and wishing you we're there. This is pretty normal male behavior but I don't know how you got to be discussing it? One thing for sure, it's certainly not excessive !
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reader, olderthandirt  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Assuming you gave him what he wanted then yeah a double dose could be a bit wierd.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): I'm saying wouldn't the satisfaction from the night before still be there?
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reader, Sageoldguy1465 +, writes (26 January 2013):
 It's "a bit odd and uncalled for..." because he OUGHT to be pulling YOU back in to the bed and doing a morning encore performance!!!! What IZZIT with your boy?????
Good luck...
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reader, Jimmy.L. +, writes (26 January 2013):
He will have been looking in on the act, not looking at "other" females.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): I wasn't there though, he never once showed interest in porn when I was there, he knows that is beyond bad. I'm saying why would he not feel strange looking at someone else so soon.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (26 January 2013):
 Usually women like sex at night and not in the morning. Men get hard in the morning because their testosterone levels peak. Your boyfriend probably didn't want to wake you up and ask you. He wanted to take care of it himself quickly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2013): His sex drive isn't that high though, not when he was with me but to me doing that the morning after is quite excessive when you think about it properly...
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (26 January 2013):
 IF it's your partner and it bothers you then it's uncalled for. Did you tell him? Did you ask him why he feels the need to do this.
Why would he do it? I am not him so I have no clue
maybe it's a specific star and he's hot for her (my hubby loves Sunny Leone and is nuts for Angelina Valentine)
maybe it's habit and how he starts his day (I have to read dear cupid every morning out of habit)
The only way to know WHY he did it is to ask him.
I asked my husband the other day "hey did you look at porn last night before you came to bed?" (his actions when he came up made be think he had and I was curious so instead of posting here I asked HIM. he just laughed and said he had. and i said "thanks I was just verifying a theory"
and I made dinner and he went back to his gaming.
I know many women dislike porn and that forces their partners to hide it.... I find an open honest dialog between partners works so much better than asking a bunch of strangers who don't know you or him.
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reader, YouWish +, writes (26 January 2013):
I know, it's so weird, right?? I've never quite understood that either! No one's given me a straight answer. My husband's best answer was "I don't know!" which was quite helpful. heh.
So my best theory is that it's not about looking *at* someone else, but rather simply that there's excess sexual energy and tension after a great night the night before, and often by the next morning, people are getting back to the daily grind, so often there isn't a dessert "quickie" happening.
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