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Should i change myself for him?
Q. I am 17 years old and fell for a friend of mine (23 years old). i just recently found out that he has feelings for me too. i have liked him for a long time and would really like for us to start a relationship together. the reason i fell for him in ...
A. 16 August 2007: I dont think you could behave more maturely even if you were trying, you're seventeen and therefore are bound to behave like a seventeen year old!! It would be very hard to constantly try to act more mature, and in the end you'd be unnatural and not ... (read in full...)
I don't know if I'm happy being with her or not, but she's blindly in love with me! What should I do?
Q. Hi all.. I have a question which i may already know the answer to but reading thru other peoples similar problems i really need to ask.. I am in my mid 20's and i have been in a relationship with a girl who is 19 (im not sure age matters but hey...
A. 20 June 2007: I have been in a similar situation. With me, I went from not knowing how I felt, to knowing I didnt want to be in the relationship anymore but having committed so much (i.e. living together) it was harder. I think you know you need to just be ... (read in full...)
What is going on with him? And why hasnt he asked me out?
Q. There is this guy from my workplace who had been showing an interest in me since before Xmas. He would always stare at me and smile when I walked in the room. He would also sometimes rub my shoulder. Although I was always polite and professional ...
A. 15 June 2007: Have you considered this guy maybe shy? Maybe you should just try talking to him more, or even ask him out yourself. Considering you dont talk much right now, you probably dont have much to lose. Take care xxx... (read in full...)
Am I wrong to marry my ex best friend's ex husband?
Q. Am I wrong to marry my ex best friend's ex husband? I was her maid of honor in her weddng 12 years ago.I always been a good friend always giving not recieving.but thats ok.We stop takin 2 years ago. One day he asked me out on a friendly date I said ...
A. 15 June 2007: If Im honnest, no, I dont think youre wrong. Youve met this person and fell in love. Youre not even friends with your ex friend anymore. Please try not to feel bad, thats just the way life goes sometime. You should feel happy youve met someone you ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with him even although I'm only 15 and don't want to yet?
Q. i have been wiv my boyfriend for about 2 years and we havn't had sex yet because i think am too young (am 15) we're both virgins and i think he wants to have sex do u think i should or not even though i dont want to yet?...
A. 15 June 2007: I think you already know the answer to this. If you dont want to, you shouldnt. Dont be pressured, and dont rush things, take care xxx... (read in full...)
Can anybody tell me why men are such commitment phobes and why they like to lead women on?
Q. Can anybody tell me why men are such commitment phobes and why they like to lead women on?...
A. 15 June 2007: Its not just men, its women too. Im scared to death of commitment! People get scared, thats life. Im sorry I cant be much more help! Take care xxx... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity a couple of weeks ago and ever since I've been pissing blood is this normal?
Q. erm I lost my virginity a couple of weeks ago and ever since I've been pissing blood is this normal? ...
A. 15 June 2007: Erm, I know Im not male, but is pissing blood ever normal? You need to see your GP, just to get checked out. Theres probably a variety of things that could have caused it, but you should see medical attention. Take care xxx... (read in full...)
I cried the day she called me telling me she lost her virginity (during Holy Week, too).
Q. I have a friend who is really pissed at me, and I understand; but she doesn't understand me. I haven't spoken to her since March of this year. She's tried calling me, I avoid her calls... and when I moved away, I disappeared from the world. Now, the ...
A. 15 June 2007: Hmmm... thats quite tricky.
Ok well you have to ask yourself, do you still want her in your life? If no, then move on. If yes, youre going to have to deal with this somehow.
Your friend might simply be the kind of girl who just loves sex, which is... (read in full...)
Would it hurt to lose my virginity when I'm drunk?
Q. I'm almost 17 and am ready to have sex. I'm going to be honest, I'm gorgeous and a party girl - so boys date me under the impression we'll have sex. Of course once they find out I'm a virgin they run. If I have never done anything beyond making out ...
A. 15 June 2007: No lectures here :)
Seriously though, I think you might regret it down the line. My own opinion on this is to wait unitl you find someone who actually cares and wont run off just because youre a virgin. Dont rush things hun, Take care xxx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend forced me to have sex, but Im sure he didnt mean it, what should I do ?
Q. I love my boyfriend. I'm 16 and he's 22. I told him I wasn't ready for sex until I'm 18. He said he feels the same way and would never force me to do what I didn't want to. Well, that was a lie. He got drunk one night when I was over at his house ...
A. 15 June 2007: PLEASE get away from this relationship. He has raped you, plain and simple. There is a reason why youre scared. Please follow mine and everyone else's advice on this matter, tell someone and make sure youre safe. Take care xxx... (read in full...)
The girl used me as a rebound but I am in full denial
Q. hi problem started on the 02.02.06 the girl i like got with someone else. we were close at this point and she was torn between two of us. i slightly messed around with her making my feelings unclear . She was having a party it was my chance to tell ...
A. 14 June 2007: Thats rubbish, Im really sorry thats happened.
I think that you should maybe stop seeing this girl for a while. Yes, she probably was on the rebound. Im going to lie, theres a strong possibility thats all that will ever happen between the two of y... (read in full...)
I want to finish with my boyfriend
Q. I dont know where to start really... My boyfriend and i have been together for 2 years now and sinse i was 16. He was my first boyfriend, love and evrything even though we are both young recently we have started looking to move into our on place, ...
A. 14 June 2007: Honnesty. You need to tell him how you feel and do it before you start getting tied into living with him.
There is nothing wrong with you for feeling like this, even though he's trying to tell you otherwise. You need to simply say what you feel... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me, or am I just wasting my time?
Q. Okay. So, I met this guy at a grad party a couple of weeks ago, and we started talking for a good hour or so, and I thought he was flirting with me--he had a good many friends at this party and he spent his time there talking with me--he got me a ...
A. 14 June 2007: Hmmm... I would be a little bit confused by all this too. He either likes you, but as a friend. Or, he does like you in the way you want!
The only thing I could suggest right now is spending a bit more time with this guy as friends. I dont honn... (read in full...)
Are all women are like this?
Q. My fiance would only only accept me if i was nice to her all the time or no complaining to her, get angry on her and keep entertaining her with talking interesting things. Are these unrealistic expectations on her part or all women are like this?...
A. 14 June 2007: haha yes! just kidding.
As long as youre sure you genuinely havent done something which would upset her (ie: you just arent nice to her ever), then I believe its her problem. Yes, women can be a pain, I should know! (men can be too may I add.) But ... (read in full...)
I liked her and hoped for a relationship! Now she's dropped contact..what can I do?
Q. Well, a year ago, I lived in Australia. I went to a nice school. I had a crush on a chick there. I would have asked her out, but she had already shut down about 12 guys. So, in order to stand a better, chance, I became her friend for 2 years. But ...
A. 14 June 2007: Ahh this is why playing games isnt a good idea. hehe. I would definately suggest that you don't try to make her jealous. Ive had someone try that with me and to be honnest it was irritating and ended up costing our relationship.
But you need to thin... (read in full...)
She's been excessively distant, and is obviously being thrown by the constant need for approval and reassurance... help!
Q. Hey people, I was just hoping for an opinion here. I met my current gf about 6 or 7 wekks ago, and she lives in a different city so I only get to see her some weekends. I've recetly come to the realisation that I have some underlying personali...
A. 14 June 2007: Hi there, Im glad youre taking steps to get your personal issues sorted out. A lot of people dont have the guts to admit when there is a problem.
I agree with what has already been written here, You may have pushed her away. The best thing you can ... (read in full...)
Her ex-boyfriend is back on the scene, offering a house and stability, all things I cannot give to her now...
Q. I wonder if someone could offer me good advice? Deep breath, as I don't know where to start with this one :). I'm 26 and have been having a rather hard time of it for the last nine months. I met a girl on the first day of a university course we were ...
A. 14 June 2007: Hey, sorry seems like ur going through a rough time right now. Reading this though, has kind of made me think thats its not the ex boyfriend who is causing the heart ache. If you both love each other as much as you say, he's not going to be an ... (read in full...)
I love her but she's ignoring me on MSN messnger to flirt with another guy! What should I do?
Q. Am i being selfish for wanting more? i love my girlfriend of 3 months. shes everything i don't normally look 4 in a girl thats y its working so well i think anyways. in the past month shes seems 2 be ignoreing me more than ever. i tal...
A. 6 June 2007: Well, seems like youre in a hard situation at the moment! I think I'll start by saying that moving in together when things are like this might not be the best idea. It seems to me like shes got something going on in her head, but I wouldnt say it i... (read in full...)
My gf of one month said if she's pregnant shes going get rid of the baby! I don't want that..how do we deal with this?
Q. My Girlfriend of a month thinks she maybe pregnant she told me tonight if she is pregnant shes gonna get rid of the baby well she said " Honestly i dont know what to do but if i was i dont think ill be able 2 go throw with this " in 3 weeks t...
A. 19 April 2007: I think that if youve been going out for only one month its far too early to be trying for a child. If she is pregnant, then you need to sit down and seriouslt talk it out. She might just be scared! Dont rush things, I hope things work out for you ... (read in full...)
My ex said he still likes me but tonight I saw him kissing someone else!!!
Q. I need advice and asap! normally I'm good at giving out advice but this time I'm stuck. My ex contacted me and said he still likes me but he had a girlfriend at the time, now they have broken up but i keep seeing them together and tonight I saw them ...
A. 4 April 2007: Hey huni, Ive been in a situation where I had to watch my ex be with someone else, and I know its not nice.
Trust me: your life is not over!!
If I were you right now, I would try not to see him/talk to him as often (or at all for now), because ... (read in full...)
After we broke up he said he still loved me but now...the past 2 months he sends me hate messages! How do I move on?
Q. My Boyfriend broke up with me on January 23rd 2007. He always told me he loved me and even after he ended it he still said he loved me and always would and said he wanted to get back together later on. The past two months though all i've had is hate ...
A. 24 March 2007: Hello! I have been in exactly this situation. I know it hurts like hell now, but I promise its going to get better. The best thing you can do is stop speaking to him (if you see him just be polite, say hello and walk off). Its going to be hard, but ... (read in full...)
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