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*idsummer
writes:My bf left for vacation to see his fam n hasnt txted me or anything. I tried texting him bt he doesnt reply. I know he is with his fam n his enjoying his time, bt just texting to know how I am is not much. Afterall, I was the one who volunteered to take him to the airport n pick him up. We've been dating for 3 months. Last time he texted and called me more.
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reader, Daisy_Daisy  +, writes (28 December 2013):
 Putting it into context with your other post, where you're anxious about him leaving in 12 months and wanting to avoid getting hurt: I'd take this as a warning sign that he really meant what he said and doesn't see the relationship as a long term one. If he did, if he believed in LDR and really cared about you, he'd manage to find a few minutes to text.
Before reading the link from SVC, I was thinking along the lines of 'let him have family time, maybe his phone has no signal' etc but now I think he's showing you that you're not a priorty, he's reinforcing his earlier message that he doesn't consider this a long term, serious relationship.
Based on that I would advise you to minimise attachment. Since that's pretty much impossible since you're intimate with him, I think I'd abandon ship and look for someone who at least has the potential to stick around.
Good luck OP.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2013): Hey young lady am sorry about writing as if you were a guy before, but what I was saying it goes both ways, good luck.
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reader, So_Very_Confused +, writes (27 December 2013):
 OP you are doing all the rowing of this relationship:
" I was the one who volunteered to take him to the airport n pick him up. "
YOU OFFERED... that does not mean HE owes you anything.
If this is you: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/should-i-continue-dating-someone-i-know-will.html (name and time of dating is the same so I believe it is)
then you are way more invested in this than he is. YOU are setting yourself up for a world of hurt.
yes it would have been nice to have him say thank you when you dropped him off but if you offered did you think that meant he owed you something?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2013): Hey this happened to me also, it only takes a minute to tex you they landed ok, to me that is wrong, am not trying to scare you but mine I found out, was with her ex, that's why she didn't contact me, I hope every thing works out good for you, but you will never know, ask her how would she feel if you did that no contact, I feel for you buddie.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2013): He needs a break. I'm sure you mean a lot to him. Right now, his family time comes first. Give him a call when you think it is a reasonable hour. Like I said before; he'll be back. Now it's all about family.
To those who would advice OP to be rude or intrusive, or vindictive. Shame,shame. This is not the time of year for that. We aren't talking about married people. We're talking about texting, and OP can call.
When I'm with family out of town, I shut my phone off. The world doesn't stop and relationships aren't nullified. I can always leave my car at the airport or take a taxi, or call a friend.
If she doesn't want to pick him up, and end the relationship; it will show just how petty she is. He'll just have to move on. I don't think she's going to do that anyway.
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reader, Midsummer +, writes (27 December 2013):
Midsummer is verified as being by the original poster of the questionFirst of all, i am not asking him to give me all his attention all the time while he is with his fam of course tat wud be selfish. What im saying js that at least he could text me once in awhile. Also he has never negleted his fam for me n neither wud i ask him to do tat. Family comes first especially in the holidays, bt tat doesnt mean u sud forget entirely tat someone else whose sopossably important to you, exsist.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 December 2013): Try and let him enjoy his family. He'll be coming back to you.
Sorry, but you need a dose of this.
You miss him; but he doesn't have to check in with you regularly.
It's rude to be checking his phone every few minutes; and if his mom is like most, she would have told him put his phone away when company is around. Sometimes a guys likes a break from constantly reassuring his girlfriend every hour on the hour.
If he is polite, he would do it without being asked. It's the Holidays and every moment of his time is filled with family and family activities. Believe me, you're on his mind. I wonder how long he has neglected contacting his mom; because he was spending all his time with you?
He's not going to be gone indefinitely. He's with family, he didn't suddenly forget he has a girlfriend. Maybe he needs a breather. Everybody does! If you've been needy, curb it a bit. At least long enough to allow him to spend some time with his folks. Seriously!?
This is when you'll have to act more like an adult. You're not a little girl anymore; and all his time doesn't belong to you.
Don't you have a family who requires your love, affection, and attention?
Get to it!
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reader, Intrigued3000  +, writes (27 December 2013):
 Maybe he doesn't have a long distance plan on his phone, so he turned his phone off, or maybe he unplugs from technology when he's with family, especially if his phone is also used for work purposes. I know when I'm spending time with family I switch my phone off.
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reader, Ciar +, writes (27 December 2013):
 How long has he been away?
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reader, M Proops +, writes (26 December 2013):
Strange he hasn't texted you to even thank you for the lift or if he arrived safely.When he comes back who is going to collect him? I presume he'll text you then.This is rather selfish of him i'd say.Still it's early days 3 months.Don't be doing all his running them until he appreciates you more.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (26 December 2013):
 Who knows what hew is doing with his family, maybe he EVEN left his phone in his room and just enjoy their company.
CHILL. Let him enjoy his holiday with his family. If you ALREADY texted him a Merry Christmas, the go about YOUR business and enjoy YOUR holiday. Don't sit around ans WAIT for his texts.
I had no idea that if a person volunteer to take someone to the airport they are automatically ENTITLED to texts.
Now if he IGNORES you his whole holiday there, then I would assume that he doesn't see you as his GF. Because ANY lad who is dating a girl would check in on her, just like you tried to check in on him.
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