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writes:Right, so I went through a break up with someone called, lets call him D, I was heartbroken because I really did like him a lot, I was actually properly upset for a few weeks, like to the point where I stopped my studies and just stayed home in bed... Then realized better things come of life and move on. He asked for the bag back that I borrowed, which I thought fair enough it's his, but yeah I paid for it out of my own money, that btw I don't have a lot of, and it was like almost ten pound for the packaging, so the post has obviously fucked up and this bag hasn't come anyway... not the point.TODAY however, D decides to text me saying "Hey, hows things, look my stuff still hassn't arrived so could you text me that tracking number you had for it please? Also my camera has vanished which is even more upsetting :("Me and my mom seems to think he's accusing me of stealing his camera or what!? I have my own for starts and I don't need his. So basically, the last time we saw each other was at the middle of March time, I was really upset over our break up and he knows it. So, when between then now apparently .. not pushing the subject too much he thinks I've stolen his camera,A] The last time I saw him, I was WITH him.. and I still really liked him.B] I haven't seen him since the break up.So, what did I do climb through a window and take it?!C] I live miles away and don't even have access to his house, I wouldn't know where he lived without direction and a two hour train journey.Do you think it sounds like he's accusing me? And what should I say on the text back?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 May 2011):
 To me it does not sound like you think, at all.
He is simply saying : life is a bitch, not only my parcel has not arrived yet, I also am without a camera now.
Just text him back his tracking number.
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reader, hannah76 +, writes (17 May 2011):
 Hello,
Text back and say..."Hi, I'm good. The tracking number is dddcccvvv. I don't know anything about your camera. Thanks."
And then leave things at that. I see that its a LDR so let things go know and carry on healing yourself. And of course, you could track the parcel yourself just to make sure about things. Start the studies up again and write the ten pounds off to experience and move onwards with a view to forgetting about him.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 May 2011):
 my take on it:
he's just commenting on the loss of his camera
my reply:
sorry to hear about your camera, the tracking number for the post is: xxxxxxxxx
END of CONVERSATION
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reader, angelDlite +, writes (17 May 2011):
 text him back with the tracking number as that is all he is actually asking for. if you tell him you feel like he is accusing you for the camera he may START to think you're guilty if he doesn't already. if you want to be nice about it though just mention casually 'hey sorry to hear about your camera - i hope u find it' or just say nothing
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reader, Abella +, writes (17 May 2011):
 Yes, it does sound like he is implying distrust towards you. Tell him to tidy up his things and he'll find his beloved camera.
Just send him the tracking number without further comment. Since he already distrusts you, put him in his place by supplying the tracking number, because you did send the things.
His actions toward you suggest a very unforgiving personality. I think the break-up, no matter how distressing it was, has been a blessing in disguise.
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reader, Anonymous 123 +, writes (17 May 2011):
 Look,it could be either way. Either he's really lamenting the loss of that camera or he's trying to indicate you had something to do with it.
I don't think you should reply to that text message right now. What are you going to say anyway? How dare you accuse me of stealing your camera? He's just going to say he hasn't and then what? If you start defending yourself, it'll just make you look silly. Why should you bother about the camera when you have nothing to do with it? If you must reply, just message him the tracking number and nothing else.
Track his parcel yourself, make sure it reaches him on time and then don't have anything more to do with him. He doesn't sound like a keeper anyway; you're so much better off without him.
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