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writes:This is my long distance relationship. We are dating 6 months. I met my girlfriend through my cousin. In our relationship, she is always showing to me that she is nice girl, and a faithful wife in future. She treat me very nice.About my girlfriend: a 31 years old Asian woman. She looks younger than her age and she's working in a small local supermarket. She's not beauty but a cute girl. She's type high sex demand, and she likes good-looking guys. At the third dating day, she offered me sex.This is a long distance relationship. I am living in USA and my girlfriend is living in Vietnam. During past 6 months, I met her 2 times, each time in 2 weeks. The rest days, we contact via phone and text. Last week, I found out that my girlfriend was cheating on me. My brother saw my girlfriend with a guy on the lobby of a motel. They were booking a room in a front desk of that motel. My brother saw them there, but he didn't take a picture of them. When I talked about the cheating to my girlfriend, she negated at all. She asked the proof. My brother didn't make it up. He explained the time, location motel, and her appearance, her clothing accurately.1.Now I want to break up with her. However, before that, I want her to admit her cheating event though I don't have a proof and she knows it.2. The cheating in long distance relationship. I wish to know advice from experience from other people, especially people in the same issue as mine.3. The reality of Asian women dreaming come to USA by marriage via citizen guys. It's is fastest way. My girlfriend treat nicely to me and she easily had sex with me. She did all these things to me for hoping that I would marry her and take her in USA as a fiancee?Thank you for reading and I appreciate your advice on my 3 ideas above. And if my English grammar makes you hard to understand, I'm sorry.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (11 May 2017):
 I am sorry that you are hurting. I am afraid that their are cruel people in the world that use people to get what they want and don't stop to think how they are hurting people. So I am sorry that it seems you have gotten scammed by this woman.
Drop all contact with her now, do lot allow her to use you any more. In future take things slower with women you meet. Try meet women who are local so that you can spend quality time with them. Get to know them before getting serious with them. I wish you all the best.
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reader, malvern  + ♥, writes (9 May 2017):
 Long distance relationships are very difficult for both the man and the woman. I often wonder if they can really be called relationships at all. There has to be a very strong bond between two people to keep a relationship going when they are miles apart. 6 months is not very long at all and I don't think you have really had time to get to know each other properly. From a womans point of view she wants a man to be there with her, to care for her, take her to places etc. and it's not much fun if he's half way accross the world. It is better to concentrate on meeting somebody who lives near to you and I am sure there are plenty of lovely women who deserve you.
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reader, N91 +, writes (9 May 2017):
 Block her, delete her, move on with your life.
You know she is cheating now so you have your answer, don't waste anymore time on her. Fill your time with productive activities to stop yourself thinking about her.
Best of luck
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reader, tom2017 +, writes (9 May 2017):
tom2017 is verified as being by the original poster of the question thanks Bim Bim.
The true I found out that she is a hooker. She date me for hoping I would take her to USA. After I talked about her cheating to herself, and I want to stop to sponsor her as finacee. She turned face. In her facebook, she posted pictures that she hang out with another guy to make me hurt more. She dressed sexy when being with that guy.
I am hurting, how can I stop this bad felling? I have much the hatred to her now.
She cheat on me, and keep hurting me by showing off that she has new guy.
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reader, Aunty BimBim  +, writes (9 May 2017):
 This woman is not going to admit she was cheating. There is no benefit to her for doing that.
You already know that this girl has sex very easily with men, you already suspect her reason for being your girlfriend is to get into the US, and you trust your brother's word.
The smart thing to do will be to stop going round and round in circles with this girl, you insisting she admit she cheated, she insisting you provide the proof.
So stop that. She is not going to admit she cheated. Better to say to her the short "goodbye" and "have a nice life" then block her number, her email, all her contacts and have no more to do with her.
I am sorry you are hurting, it will take a while for the pain and anger to go away, but it will eventually.
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