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writes:I broke up with my boyfriend around a month ago. we've dated for 2 and a half years, though i was the one who suggested a break up, i miss him so much, and i actually want him back. The reason why, i suggested a break up was because we always had arguments and i thought we're not working well.. i thought i was going to be fine without him, but obviously not. I've asked him, and he says he misses me and that he still loves me however he doesn't want to get back because he says i never do change. But i'm trying to.. what frustrates me the most is that, he's always trying to make me jealous.. ( by, flirting with other girls, help them carry their bags..etc.)how he treats me is just so different compared to how he treats other girls.. He'll sit with other girls but look at to see my reaction.. and stuff like that. I asked him, if he has ever considered getting back together with me, he said he did. I asked him what's keeping him away from taking me back.. he said 'real friends', i don't know what he meant by that though. I really don't know what to do, if he still loves me, why won't he get back together with me? I don't get it...
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2013): I am about the same age as you are, and I can tell you now, if he is trying to make you jealous, he cares about you, but he doesn't necessarily want to be with you. He needs his space and time to clear his head as much as you do. He will try to make you jealous, but once one of you comes to your non-hormonal senses, you will figure out what to do. If he thinks that you want him back, he will try his hardest to make you literally run back to him and do "things" you really wouldn't be doing if you weren't so focused on him.
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reader, CMMP  +, writes (22 May 2013):
Advice won't work here, you're going to do what you want, which is fine. It'll be a lesson you have to learn by yourself.
That lesson will be that you have to be compatible with someone to have a decent relationship. It doesn't mean you have to be identical, far from it. But you do have to be able to work together to solve problems and work on your relationship.
In your case I see blaming (on both sides). That's not going to work, and shortly after getting back with him you'll remember why you broke up with him.
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reader, potato73 +, writes (22 May 2013):
potato73 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice... He told me that he will take me back but he wants some time but i was very impatient and asked him if he actually wanted to beback together as i didn't want to force him if he didn't want to and also asked him how long he needed... he just said can we be just friends? I really hopes he doesnt loose interest in me :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013): Tell him you want to fix your relationship. Be nice to him. Help him with things. Show him LOVE. Im sure he will take you back. And if he doesnt, well, his loss. ;)
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 May 2013): Don't worry, because it is very obvious that he still loves you (By flirting with other girls to make you jealous, etc) So the only problem is you need to show him that you will change (whatever the issue is), show him through your actions. Make him understand that you still want this relationship a lot, that you treasure it. You will get him back in no time. Besides, many guys are like that: HE'S PLAYING HARD TO GET. Make him know that you still love him, but don't make it too obvious that you can't live without him, because he will make this as your weakness. He will be the one who is controlling the relationship if you guys get back together. Good luck!
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