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writes:Am I paranoid or is he up to something? I recently have noticed my boyfriend is acting like he's up to something lately. We haven't been intimate since January. I put this down to him having a low sex drive and he had made comments about not getting hard. So I haven't pushed it, although I know he watchs porn when I'm not at home. Recently he changed his password on his laptop so to stop me going on it, didn't mention it at all. Then the other day he left his mobile at home and when he was on his lunch break came back for it. He never mentioned he'd come back for it as I was collecting our son from Pre school at the time and was out. Then the following night he had a text at around 9.40pm and claimed it was from his sister who he doesn't actually get on with. And last night I get home from work and he isn't at home, my eldest son who is 16 said he got home at around 5 45 and he wasn't in. He later came in at 8.30, he been dressed up i his nice jeans and boots and looked as though he'd obviously made a effort, never said where he'd been and I just went to bed. He got up in the morning left for work then came back on the house and went into his wardrobe and was looking in his jeans he had on that night.A few weeks ago I noticed he'd googled his ex girlfriends name...odd. He said if I want sex with him I've got to beg him which I replied forget it. Am I being paranoid? as instincts say he's messing about but hides things. How can I be sure of it??
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reader, mistique  +, writes (22 May 2013):
you should keep an eye on him. try to get proof of him cheating, and if u are succeful in getting a proof, go ahead and confront him.
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reader, oldbag +, writes (22 May 2013):
 Hi
Sounds like he has another woman/women providing sex. Few men go without, especially for months. Add all the other behaviour and it shouts that something's not right here.
You need to have a good talk, somewhere other than home because of the children. Ask him if he has something to tell you. Get to the bottom of it.
Good luck
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reader, gigolojone  +, writes (22 May 2013):
 You have all the signs written on the wall.
He is getting all the sex that he needs from someone else.
As your husband,its his obligation to perform his marital duties and you do not have to beg him.
He is surely trying your patience and should you confront him,he is going to blow it out of proportion. Try and see where you are going wrong. Many times we as men may hold back when we really have pressing issues or when we constantly have arguments and take long to kiss and makeup.
According to how you have put this across,you seem not to be the confrontational type which is also good.
The decision is now yours to make.
But i also believe you deserve much better. and if you really want to make things work,try to run your mind through the early years of your marriage when that spark was still there.
You need to find a way of luring him back to bed.
Allow me wish you the best of luck.
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