Partner questioning our relationship now that he seen his ex
Q. I'm gay and have been dating a guy for almost a year. We were making plans to move in together and start a life together. The problem is an ex boyfriend came to town for a weekend, and I was out of town at the time. This ex stayed at his house. M...
A. 4 June 2009: Take him at his word. If you two are going “start a life together” you are going to have to trust each other. A lot of the romance business cannot be figured out, you just have to close your eyes and jump. If he is the right one for you he will ... (read in full...)
Do you think our relationship is meant to be cursed?
Q. Dear Cupid, Its been 2yrs that i have a relationship with a man who lived for 7yrs with her wife and 3 kids..he is married with the girl when he was 19yrs. due to his immature he was only afraid to skip away on his responsibility.....
A. 3 June 2009: Well, I am not sure I understand all of the question, but since no one else has tried to answer in 2 days, I will try.
“Do you think our relationship is meant to be cursed?”
No.
“he end his relationship with his wife and he take care of thei... (read in full...)
Why is he acting immaturely?
Q. my ex is really confusing me, he told me to get over him and move on, so i started to move on.. and there's this boy i like and he likes me.. my ex saw us flirting and had a go at me calling me a..slag and telling the boy to back off, but he was the ...
A. 1 June 2009: “Why is he acting immaturely?”
He is a teen age boy and is by definition immature. The quicker you can get used to this the better, because for a lot of boys this lasts well into their 20s. It is going to be hard on you and you girl friends ... (read in full...)
Every time I ask a girl out I just freeze!
Q. i'm 18 and single because every time i ask a girl out i just freeze, she then asks if i'm ok, so i lie to her and say "i'm fine, just forget it" and walk off, i feel like such a failure and it's tearing me apart on the inside, how can i be more ...
A. 1 June 2009: With practice you can do it.
Start practicing with women you are not trying to pick up, especially women who are expecting to talk with you, like sales girls and check out ladies in shops, or waitresses. See if you can start a short conversa... (read in full...)
Boys and grad parties!
Q. K i have three things to ask!! : 1- can i invite the guy i really like to my grade eight grad?? Or is that too weird.... I like him and want him to be there but i dont know..... He has a sister that i babysit could i invite her and then say he c...
A. 1 June 2009: “can i invite the guy i really like to my grade eight grad??”
Yes.
“...is that too weird....”
No.
“I like him and want him to be there but i dont know....”
What’s not to know? Do you know you like him? Do you know you want him to b... (read in full...)
I can't stop staring at other girl's bodies!
Q. This is really embarrassing. Ok here goes. I think I might be a Bisexual. I mean I really like guys and that'll never change (in fact I'm kind of in love with this guy, and I think he likes me too) But here's the thing. I get turned on by girls....
A. 1 June 2009: “When we're changing for PE, I sometimes can't stop staring at the other girls bodys. It's really embarrassing!...What shall I do?”
Well, in the changing room, learn to be cool and sly. Stare at the floor and just look out of the corner of your ... (read in full...)
I regret sleeping with him now and feel so stupid for doing so!
Q. Hello. I am extremly worried. I done something that I feel completely silly about. I feel like such a silly little girl. Any feedback and comments would be very much appreicated. I have known this guy for a while and deicded to meet up with him...
A. 28 May 2009: “The follies of our youth are, in retrospect, glorious when compared to the follies of our old age.”
I agree with all the advice below about taking this as a learning experience and not worrying about it.
I would also add many men behave the w... (read in full...)
Party, boys and Fear
Q. Please help me! So, I have liked this boy for over a year and half. About 6th months ago I admitted it... and now we have become closer and relli good friends. My friend said that he has changed around me recently. So we were all on the bus... an...
A. 28 May 2009: "Then he said no i dont fancy her and your my lover....He has said to me that he is going to dance with me and is excited about dancing with me.
If he says he likes you and is excited to dance with you, believe him. If he knows what he wants an... (read in full...)
Can't have anal sex
Q. i have a problem, embarcing one by the way,,,, i keep trying having anal sex with my boyfriend but i end up crying and shivering , i don't know why,although i want to but the moment i know it's gonna happen i could simply jump off , can any one ...
A. 25 May 2009: Another vote for if-you-don't-like-it-stop-trying-to-do-it.... (read in full...)
I hired a prostitute... but couldn't get an erection!
Q. Hi, I'm a 27 year old guy. I'm a virgin, and for the last few years have been getting concerned about my situation. I haven't really gone out much in my twenties. But do enjoy it when I do get out. I have kinda withdrawn a bit. It's not that I'm...
A. 24 May 2009: “I've never wanted to do this. ... I wasn't really horny of sorts.… I just drunk a bottle of wine before I saw her.”
I’m guessing that this is what caused things to go wrong.
“I can get a good hard on when masturbating on my own.”
I’m not... (read in full...)
How to make a good wife to my husband during sex time?
Q. How to make a good wife to my husband during bed or sex time?...
A. 22 May 2009: La Señora Interrogador;
Si es difícil que usted lea las respuestas en Inglés, yo puedo intentar traducir a Español, tal vez. Mayo tarda una cierta hora. ¿Usted tiene gusto? ... (read in full...)
I'm bisexual but should I try being in a relationship with a man?
Q. im a bisexual who prefers girls.. i've never fell in love with men (i only "like" them and their bodies) but have loved many women. im in closet..have never been into relationship.. there's this guy who has been chasing me for the past year...he's ...
A. 22 May 2009: I agree with lazy guy. make sure he understands how you feel and see if he still wants to be bf/gf under those terms, knowing things may not devlope futher and you 2 may not last.... (read in full...)
How to make a good wife to my husband during sex time?
Q. How to make a good wife to my husband during bed or sex time?...
A. 22 May 2009: The advice below about communicating with your husband is good. Only he knows what he wants and likes; no one on this site does,
However in your culture and society it may be difficult to talk about these things, even for couples married for a wh... (read in full...)
How do I tell her that she needs help on her technique?
Q. How do you tell your babymother that she needs help with giving head. Is there an easy way, and what do you tell her to do. Even though you know that she says just tell me anything, and you know it will hurt her feelings to where she might not do it ...
A. 21 May 2009: Might want to start the conversation with asking what YOU can do to be better. She may not want to tell you, so gently encourage her without haranguing. After you two have talked through what she wants, I bet she will ask you what you want, and ... (read in full...)
Could my crush find out the email came from my computer?
Q. My friend sent an email to a guy I like (telling him someone "liked" him). She created a special gmail account to send it using my macbook at my house. She used a fake name to create the account. She sent the email from another computer, but she ...
A. 21 May 2009: One last thing. If you used MS Word or another program like that to write the e-mail and sent the e-mail from the program, not the e-mail system, or if the message was a MS Word .DOC file attached to the e-mail, he may be able to find out something ... (read in full...)
Could my crush find out the email came from my computer?
Q. My friend sent an email to a guy I like (telling him someone "liked" him). She created a special gmail account to send it using my macbook at my house. She used a fake name to create the account. She sent the email from another computer, but she ...
A. 21 May 2009: "The IP address will be the same, it's easy to check. So yes he could tell if he looked."
Web site administrators can see the IP address of viewers and posters on their sites. This does NOT tell them what computer is being used; only what Int... (read in full...)
Could my crush find out the email came from my computer?
Q. My friend sent an email to a guy I like (telling him someone "liked" him). She created a special gmail account to send it using my macbook at my house. She used a fake name to create the account. She sent the email from another computer, but she ...
A. 21 May 2009: Not an IT person, then no, no way he can trace it. Even a person with a lot of hacking skills will need to look on the computer it was sent from and your macbook to know. You can’t tell just from the e-mail where it came from, you have to know ... (read in full...)
Do guys like tall women?
Q. Im majorly tall, as in over 6ft (6ft 3 to be exact). i cant seem to find any guys taller than me who are at all attractive to me, and i worry that im not attractive to anyone else. I always feel out of place in any public place, and people stare at ...
A. 21 May 2009: I do.... (read in full...)
Is it normal to feel this way or am I weird????
Q. Am I weird? Some girl at my school was caught giving head and it went round school, and when i saw her i got an errection, i kept picturing her giving it to me and i almost climaxed without even touching down there. She always has this really ...
A. 20 May 2009: For most teenage and 20-something guys, it will have a mind of its own sometimes. Standing at attention at the wrong moment, etc. It is not weird it is normal. When you get older it will stop acting up so much; I don't know if that is a good ... (read in full...)
Why does sex still hurt so much?
Q. Ok, So i recently lost my virginity to my bf whom I am very much in love with. I am pretty sure I was ready and have no regrets. I've done it five times now and it's not very fun. The first couple times it hurt alot, and not it hurts for like a ...
A. 19 May 2009: Well, lots of good info on your questions in this article:
http://www.dearcupid.org/question/thinking-about-losing-your-virginity.html
Look through the article fow what that applies to your situration.
I can also suggest talking about th... (read in full...)
He proposed to me in the shower and then did doggy style!
Q. Like many couples, after sex, my boyfriend and I shower together. This usually leads to more erotic play; oftentimes it is the highlight of sex for me, especially since I find the water incredibly stimulating. My boyfriend is aware of this and ...
A. 18 May 2009: Tell him he has to try the proposal thing again. Tell him you will put the ring away in a safe place and not wear it until he comes up with a better way to propose. Or you will give it back to him and he can try to give it to you again, his ... (read in full...)
I want to make a move on my friend but I'm afraid
Q. I am 25 y.o (i think bisexual) female - who has never even been kissed by a girl or a guy. I am completely in love with my same sex best friend, and would like nothing more than to make a move on her, but am scared that I will scare her off. I d...
A. 18 May 2009: “…overseas and communicating with her in a language I am still learning…”
Suggest you learn about the attitudes and acceptability of lesbian and bisexual women in her culture, society and religion before talking about or trying anything. Might wa... (read in full...)
How do I get through this break up and still be her friend?
Q. I'm sorry if this is too long for you to read, but I'm just giving the whole story so you can give a more cogent, well thought out answer. Okay, so in the beginning of the school year (september 2008), this new girl came to my school (which on...
A. 18 May 2009: “…it just sounds like I'm a newbie to all this which I am and like she probably won't even matter a year or two from now.”
Exactly. You are in your early teens. No one, repeat no one is born knowing about this romance business, we all have to ... (read in full...)
Cheated on b/f with best friend
Q. i cheated on my bf with my best friend......... now i don know how to tell him as i reli jus don wanna lose him at any cost.. i love my bf a lot... should i tell him...???? if yes, how????? plz help........
A. 18 May 2009: Well, if you were from a western country or Japan, I would say you are young and just starting out in the romance business, and you don’t know yet what you want. I would say most teen agers have several different love interests growing up, and you ... (read in full...)
Why do people stare at me wherever I go?
Q. When I go out with family or by myself, people look and stare at me like i'm an museum exhibit. This really irritates, upsets, and angers me. They stare at me for more than 3 seconds. When i'm at a restaurant with my family people just stare at me ...
A. 17 May 2009: To paraphrase Oscar Wilde, “The only thing worse than being stared at is not being stared at.”
Several decades ago, Sports Illustrated had an article about their top swim suit model that year, (Elle McPherson?) She had learned to how to “frump-u... (read in full...)
We're becoming closer friends... I don't know what to do!
Q. I have a problem. Ii like this guy who just moved to my school this year. We always text each other, but don't talk much face to face because I'm to shy. When i first met him, I helped him hook up with this girl he liked at his old school. Now i ...
A. 12 May 2009: You should relax.
You should continue to see this boy you like as a friend. You should be friends with other boys as well. You should remember teenagers are just starting out in the romance business and it will take a little time for you, thi... (read in full...)
I'm scared to have sex with my boyfriend who is 11 years older than me
Q. I'm 19 year old and since i've been 14 im attracted to older man. My first boyfriend that lasted 2 years and half was 28 and i was 14, he was the best he used to take me out to eat, picked me up at school, took me out ect. We kissed, hugged and ...
A. 12 May 2009: Tell him you do not have a lot of experience and he is going to have to go slow with you; take thing a little farther each time you are together. He is going to have to give you a little time to get used to things. Don’t worry, you two will figure ... (read in full...)
Insecure broke up,now are friends
Q. The following may seem wierd and overhyped but it's just a small part of my life which I need help in, and I have given everything you need to know in detail (thats why so long) so that no wrong opinions and conculsions are there...it's long but if ...
A. 12 May 2009: "...it's long but if you have time please read..."
Well, sorry, I did not read the entire question. And a lot of what I did read I did not understand. But this question has been here 2 days without an answer so I'll take a crack anyway. ... (read in full...)
How do I know if he is experimenting or really interested?
Q. i met this guy and we have alot of steamy attraction between us...however we have 2 different cultural backrounds.and i think he shows me alot of attention but i dont think he wants to risk his friends and family knowing he is stepping out his ...
A. 10 May 2009: “What do i do?”
1. Decide what you want in your relationship.
2. Ask him what he wants. He may not know right away; if so give him a little time to think about it.
3. When he tells you what he wants, you tell him what you want.
4. Discuss th... (read in full...)
He always moans about money and never has enough to pay bills. But he has enough for booze and drugs!
Q. Help! I've been seeing my boyfriend for just over a month now and we've already moved in together. I know that seems quick but we really get along and it seems like we've been together for years. The relationship is great, we get along just fine and ...
A. 10 May 2009: "If he knew he was financially unable to support the two of us, then why did he ask me to move in??"
I have 2 guesses:
1) He did not know he is unable to support the both of you; he is not good at math and finances.
2) He did now and wanted y... (read in full...)
I have very strong feelings for my son's teacher.
Q. I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years and I do love him very much but he won't commit, but now I have really strong feelings for my son's teacher. I asked him for a drink he said no but every time I see him he gives me a certain smile and ...
A. 6 May 2009: Just got back here and noticed the latest response.
“…but its driving me mad cant get him out my head…”
If asking for a way to have this stop driving you mad, I can suggest telling your partner now would be a good time for him to put some roma... (read in full...)
He's financially stressed out and I have higher expectations
Q. I've just started dating a guy that I've known for about 5 years. I've been mates with his older brother and a family friend for approx 10 years. I'm 2 years older than him, and although I initially had an issue with this I've allowed him to take ...
A. 6 May 2009: I try my best and I’m glad to hear that is sometimes all right.
“To make matters worst, the few times we have been intimate I've bleed unexpectedly. Initially he accused me of being on my cycle, however when it happened again he rational... (read in full...)
Is it wrong of me to want her ex gone from our lives?
Q. Okay so..I have run out of options and need advice. This might be long so sorry ahead of time. My gf and i have been together for a year and 4 months. Now the problem is that my gf is moving to a new place and her ex is her friend that is m...
A. 1 May 2009: “I'll take any advice anyone can give me.”
Any advice? Buy low sell high. Never play cards for money with a man called “Doc.” It is unwise to over tip.
Oh, you mean advice on you gf and her ex.
My guess is something in the history... (read in full...)
I cant get this girl out of my head....Am I just feeling rejected or is this something more?
Q. Right... now I can't get this girl out of my head. We met about a year ago, I was going to the pub she worked at to see a friend play guitar. The first night I saw her I’d mentioned to a mate that I thought she was hot and that I was going to h...
A. 1 May 2009: Whoa there, bro.
I did not read your entire post, and I'm afraid I did not understand all of the parts I did read. But since it is going on three days without a response, I'll try to answer the parts I understand.
WARNING! Much of this wil... (read in full...)
Lies, don't know where I stand, friendship doomed?
Q. I'm at uni, a popular girl in my final year. We've all had exams and work sabbaticals and I've been away from my group of friends revising and working. I'm about to return to uni and my friends. In the time I've been revising for exams and wo...
A. 30 April 2009: Relax. Your friends will know the truth about you. Take the high road do unto others as you would have them do to you. Don’t say anything bad about the ex-friend, no matter what he may or has actually said about you. If anyone tells you what the ... (read in full...)
Deteriorating relationship already?
Q. Two months ago I started dating my boyfriend, and it was going pretty well. We live about 2 1/2 hours away from each other, so we would talk on the phone every night and then take turns visiting each other on the weekends. He hasn't really ever ...
A. 30 April 2009: “I don't understand why he acts like this! Does anyone have any ideas on why he may act like this…”
Well I have two guesses:
1) He is not that into you, or into a relationship with you, or into a relationship with anyone at this point in hi... (read in full...)
My long distance girl wont commit to me
Q. help! my long distance girl wont commit to me, we act and do everything a couple do in a long distance relationship but she wont take that extra step and put a label on us! Her reasons are...shes scared of heartbreak and she does not want me to make ...
A. 29 April 2009: Well, on the one hand;
"Do i trust her and continue this or move on?"
Trust is an important part of a commitment. If you love this woman, want to commit to her, and she is truly that one for you, you should trust her automatically.
... (read in full...)
Can you trick a pregnancy test into showing a positive result?
Q. Is it true that you can trick a pregnancy test into saying "yes"? If so how is that even done?...
A. 29 April 2009: I'm thinking there is no way any good can come out of answering this question. Suggest no one answers it.
If the asker of this question really is a male age 16-17, and someone is showing them a postive pregnancy test, saying he is the cause, t... (read in full...)
I don't know how to "take it slow" and tend to fall hard and fast.
Q. I am dating a guy I REALLY like. When we are together I feel great, and when we are apart I feel happy about the times we spent together. Because of this I want to really take it slow with him and allow both of us to really get to know each other ...
A. 29 April 2009: Tell him you want to take it slow.
Don't tell him about any of you past experiences of falling hard and fast, and how you know that does not work. Just tell him you like how thing are going so far and you don't want to lose that. You know thi... (read in full...)
Friends or more?
Q. Ok so me and this have been friends for a really long time. and when we first had sex it was in Nov. of 07 and we didnt sleep together again until jan. of this year than we had sex again in march. and i threw a party for his birthday the 18 of this ...
A. 29 April 2009: "i threw a party for his birthday the 18 of this month and he gave me earrings with a matching necklace....so what does it mean, the necklace and earrings?"
I guess it means he appreciates throwing the the party and was saying thank you.
... (read in full...)
Told him I loved him, he cut contact, now he's back but just as a friend. What can I do?
Q. OK I posted a question a while ago about having a fall out with one of my closest friends because I loved them. Unconditionaly and irrevocably. (thanks for the replys) He wants us to be friends again and this is all I've ever wanted after mo...
A. 28 April 2009: Relax, all he needs is a little time. He feels a little funny about things after finding out how you felt about him. It will take while to get used to this, but not too long. ... (read in full...)
I have very strong feelings for my son's teacher.
Q. I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years and I do love him very much but he won't commit, but now I have really strong feelings for my son's teacher. I asked him for a drink he said no but every time I see him he gives me a certain smile and ...
A. 27 April 2009: "I've been with my partner for nearly 3 years and I do love him very much but he won't commit..."
Decide what you want/need from your current relationship. Ask your partner what he wants/needs. Tell him your wants/needs and you two should d... (read in full...)
He's financially stressed out and I have higher expectations
Q. I've just started dating a guy that I've known for about 5 years. I've been mates with his older brother and a family friend for approx 10 years. I'm 2 years older than him, and although I initially had an issue with this I've allowed him to take ...
A. 26 April 2009: Oh, and one last thing. Don't tease him. When he meets your expectations, you meet his.... (read in full...)
He's financially stressed out and I have higher expectations
Q. I've just started dating a guy that I've known for about 5 years. I've been mates with his older brother and a family friend for approx 10 years. I'm 2 years older than him, and although I initially had an issue with this I've allowed him to take ...
A. 26 April 2009: “How do I express my needs at this point without sounding condescending?” Start by telling him what YOU want to bring to the relationship. Do you think the woman should keep the house, shop, cook? Keep the couple in an active social life? Wh... (read in full...)
He's financially stressed out and I have higher expectations
Q. I've just started dating a guy that I've known for about 5 years. I've been mates with his older brother and a family friend for approx 10 years. I'm 2 years older than him, and although I initially had an issue with this I've allowed him to take ...
A. 24 April 2009: “I really want this to be a successful relationship….However things are financially difficult for him at the moment being that he was recently made redundant”
This seems to be your only sticking point, correct? If so, any idea how long until he... (read in full...)
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