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writes:i have a problem, embarcing one by the way,,,, i keep trying having anal sex with my boyfriend but i end up crying and shivering , i don't know why,although i want to but the moment i know it's gonna happen i could simply jump off , can any one help....
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reader, Who +, writes (25 May 2009):
 Another vote for if-you-don't-like-it-stop-trying-to-do-it.
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reader, pebble  +, writes (25 May 2009):
 If you feel that bad about it then you obviously don't want to do it. So don't. Seriously, seeing you in this state doesn't turn him on does it? It's not essential that you have anal sex so just.... don't.
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reader, dundundun +, writes (24 May 2009):
get it on there SLOW AND STEADY
once your in that comfortable motion
you guys can go faster haha
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reader, silvershocker123 +, writes (24 May 2009):
Anal sex is like sky diving, if you do it right you'll be in seventh heaven but if you don't it can leave you trumatized. Well anal sex is not that severe since your partner can pull out...lolOk so here's the thing try and have a lot of stimulation prior to um... well that. And if your boyfriend is quite large then try a smaller vibrator or something like that a few times untill your body gets used to it. But if you don't like any of it and you don't get any pleasure from it don't try it at all cause that can leave you disliking sex alltogether.
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reader, loloutloudagain  +, writes (24 May 2009):
 you shouldnt do it if you dont want to....
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): You need to take it slow, and so does he. As much as you might both be in a 'hard, fast, now' mood, it just can't work that way instantly, but with plenty of practise, time, patience and understanding, the sky's the limit! Don't go there unless you're 200% on fire with lust, and when you do, use LOTS of lubricant. Be patient, don't rush, breathe in and out deeply, take your time and go SLOWLY in and out - whatever you do, DON'T let him just ram straight in. You can go faster as and when you feel more comfortable. The best position starting out is with him sitting on the bed while you gently lower yourself onto him. (If he's much bigger and stronger than you, you can take this to a standing position). If you feel any pain, stop, pull back a little, and adjust the angle. Once he's inside you, don't stay still: move up and down on his cock. By now you'll likely be in heaven - he'll know from your noises and facial expressions. But you have to go at your own pace, it isn't as if he can just stick it in and pump away. TALK and let him know, whether with words or other verbal communication, whether it's going good. Let him know what's going on in your body, he needs to know if you're enjoying it and wanting more. Hope this helps, have fun!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): its obvious you don't want to and are ignoring this fear. its unhealthy, you must wash the area first and after, there has to be plenty of stimulation on his end first, and there has to be complete trust and patience. this doesn't seem to be the case. you don't need to try it, your not ready, besides you have a perfectly good pounding hole right next door.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): If you're crying during anal sex, you're doing it wrong. If you're actually into and not just doing it for your boyfriend, then buy some good quality lube and a book on anal sex and try again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 May 2009): you should not be trying if you feel this way. I think you should tell your BF and say no thank you. if he persists find someone who will love all the other parts of you ...
Star.x.
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reader, kellyxxx +, writes (23 May 2009):
 Don't do it then, simple as that! X
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