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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:I am dating a guy I REALLY like. When we are together I feel great, and when we are apart I feel happy about the times we spent together. Because of this I want to really take it slow with him and allow both of us to really get to know each other well.So, my problem is, that during the in between times, what can I do to help myself stop obsessing over him?I don't know how to "take it slow" and tend to fall hard and fast. That doesn't work! So how do I NOT do that?Please, I need concrete examples and specific ways to cope with this situation.Thanks. Reply to this Question
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reader, Who +, writes (29 April 2009):
 Tell him you want to take it slow.
Don't tell him about any of you past experiences of falling hard and fast, and how you know that does not work. Just tell him you like how thing are going so far and you don't want to lose that. You know things may develop further but you don't know when or how far.
What he says next will help you stop obsessing over him when you are apart.
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