How do I tell her about my deep feelings for her?
Q. I'm a male 16 and i have been speaking with this girl for about 3 months, about 1 month ago i fell in love with her, and i would like to tell her about my feelings, but don't have the guts to do it, i am afraid that this would ruin our good ...
A. 18 May 2010: Women do NOT want men to pour their guts out. Action, not words! Next time you see an opportunity to kiss her (like walking in the rain, or walking her home), just do it. Take her hand and kiss her, on the lips, with purpose, with a closed mouth, ... (read in full...)
What would you think about this if it was your girlfriend and your roommate?
Q. Folks i would need some advice.The one i get from my buddies always involves alcohol :s this is the first time i do this kind of thing but here we go. Found out a couple of days ago thanks to a lost email that my girlfriend of 2 years with whom ...
A. 18 May 2010: Really, the shitty thing is not that they seek out affection from each other. Humans need affection. The shitty thing is that they didn't have the balls to tell you what was going on and sort it out like adults. I think you're saying she knows... (read in full...)
If the person I like doesn't feel the same should I give up to prevent rejection?
Q. Okay, this is a bit of a general question although it does apply to my current situation. If you feel as though a relationship with a girl isn't going to work for some reason, ie you aren't compatible, should you forget asking that person out, even ...
A. 18 May 2010: Getting rejected is part of being a man and going after what you want. If you only pursue girls when you are certain that there is no possibility of rejection, then really you are letting the girls do the choosing because you'll only move forward ... (read in full...)
Accidentally discovered my fiance had been loking at porn online - should I worry?
Q. ok, well i'm very much in love with my fiance, who I have two beautiful kids with - our eldest who is 19 months and our new arival who is just 11 weeks. I feel so close to him and can't imagine my life without him - i can't wait for him to be my ...
A. 17 May 2010: Men have a biological drive to spread their seed to multiple women. A man's sexual desires come from a part of the brain that is eons old and does not know the difference between the computer screen and reality. And so the sex drive is partially ... (read in full...)
I am desperate how can I get him off my mind?
Q. im desperate... i dont know what to do anymore. how on earth can i forget someone that i love so much but cant be with?? i have tried to go out with my friends, have fun, keep myself busy at all times, unfortunately there is nothing i can do to ...
A. 17 May 2010: Only one statement will always and forever be true: "This too shall pass." Some day you won't remember his name.
Trying not to think of something makes you think of it even more. Think positive thoughts about him and about yourself. It will mak... (read in full...)
"Stuck in the wrong relationship"
Q. "OPs own title" hi, i have a really good friendship with this guy and i talk to him a lot but recently its been told that he fancies me and then he asked me out and well i said yes and everybody says were cute and great together but i don't feel ...
A. 17 May 2010: You describe it as a "friendship" and you "talk to him a lot," but then you also say you are his "girlfriend." Let's be clear: is he buying you meals/entertainment/gifts? If so, he needs to be told that the relationship is going nowhere and you ... (read in full...)
Does this prostitute have feelings for me or is she just using me for money?
Q. I have meet a prostitute and enjoy her company immensely, her being a prostitute does not bother me, i am married not happly married, and prefer her company allthough it is on occaisionally, i think she likes me. the only thing when we go out out ...
A. 17 May 2010: What a lively and interesting discussion!
The one thing you can count on is that if she is human, she is conflicted. It is a biological fact that regular sex with someone tends to create feelings of love, so if she feels any natural attracti... (read in full...)
Why am I torturing myself with memories of my ex?
Q. I've got the most amazing boyfriend who treats me so well and I basically couldn't ask for more. But I still think of this guy I dated briefly before I met my boyfriend. This guy was so into me, pursued me so much and I fell so hard for him. We...
A. 17 May 2010: I agree that your preoccupation has to do with not understanding his motivations. And I agree that the path to mental clarity is in forgiving him, in knowing that you are worthy of love, and in knowing that good people can do inexplicable and ... (read in full...)
I want to message him but I'm scared people will make fun of me!
Q. Ok i have this group of mates that ive only started gettin to know for the past year, they're all practically the same, pretty snobbish. One had a quiz night a few nights back all was fine and i met my mates boyfriends mate, and kinda liked him i ...
A. 17 May 2010: People will disrespect you until the day you die and it merely reflects their own insecurities and shortcomings.
I can't imagine why you shouldn't text him regardless of how you got his number. Just say hello or something. I personally would fi... (read in full...)
Attraction killers?
Q. What things do men typically do that kill any attraction a woman may have felt for him?...
A. 17 May 2010: Ha, I struck a nerve and even got a little psychoanalysis to boot! Cool. I see that most of the women's responses basically center on men not knowing how to show respect. This, I'm sure, comes from their personal experience (maybe anonymous... (read in full...)
Attraction killers?
Q. What things do men typically do that kill any attraction a woman may have felt for him?...
A. 17 May 2010: They seize upon an initial mutual attraction as an invitation to fast-track emotional and physical intimacy. They open up and explain who they are too fast in the hopes of being accepted and liked. They give the woman too many compliments and ... (read in full...)
I love sex with women but like giving this guy bj's!
Q. I am 27 years old and I am dating this woman right. We have sex all the time and please each other all the time. But thursday night I was at my apartment and I got on craigs list and posted that I wanted to give a guy a bj. Well I did not think any ...
A. 17 May 2010: Other people are going to try to label you enough to last a lifetime... you don't need to worry about how to label yourself as well. You like having sex with women, good, keep doing it. You like giving this guy blowjobs, good, keep doing it. ... (read in full...)
He couldn't stay hard and now he won't see me!
Q. Hi! My boyfriend and I are together nearly a month. We tried couple of times to have sex, but it all end up before we even took our cloths off because his erection was gone. The last time we tried, he told me that we shouldn't see or talk to each ...
A. 16 May 2010: Probably he's embarrassed and thinks you don't want to be with him and he's just doing you the favor of ending it so you don't have to. Text him and tell him you miss him and you want to see him soon.
In bed, tell him you don't even want to try t... (read in full...)
How to pleasure a guy without removing his clothes...?
Q. When me and my boyfriend hug or kiss, he generally gets a boner pretty fast. I've had my hands down his pants and all that, so I know he's comfortable with me, but I was wondering, is it possible to rub his boner through his trousers? and if it is, ...
A. 16 May 2010: Squeeze it, rub it, sit on it and grind against it, whatever. You'll know whether you're making him feel good.
"Never put it in your mouth"?? That is a weird thing to say.... (read in full...)
Should I see if the other guy can satisfy me?
Q. I`ve had three lovers in my life and the biggest of the three was my ex hubby just at 5inches and 5inches in girth before my bf now witch is almost 4inches long and 4.5 around. I noticed the difference the first time he put it in and I was let ...
A. 16 May 2010: I agree with everything riv said. Well done, riv.... (read in full...)
Is my clingyness causing him to act distant?
Q. So i've been with this super great guy for a year now -- and i had feelings that he maybe is losing intrust in me due to me being super clingy. I do know that i have been some what clingy buy not to the degree that he and my friends have stated. I ...
A. 16 May 2010: By your own admission, you are "super clingy" and "everything is due to" that. So obviously you need to stop being clingy, but also you need to figure out why you're being clingy. What specific things do you do that would be characterized as ... (read in full...)
Do I ask him to apologise or move on?
Q. i fell in love with my teacher last year and Ihonestly didnt want to stop these feelings whatsoever but i decided i had to let go for summer otherwise i would have a horrible summer and a depressing year when he wasnt my teacher again. but then he ...
A. 16 May 2010: Don't ever ask anyone to apologize to you, because if you go through life expecting things of people, they will just disappoint you over and over. If your feelings are hurt, it's usually okay to express it. The key is to remember to talk about ... (read in full...)
He's the only person I've had sex with, should I have a fling?
Q. I asked a question on this website nearly 2 years ago whether to stay with my boyfriend or move on, I decided to stay with him. We subsequently moved to a different area. The problem started exactly this time last year where I was starting to have ...
A. 16 May 2010: If you want to branch out sexually, you should do it. Going behind your man's back seems wrong to me, and tempting a married man is questionable. But if you're not attracted to him, you should probably end it while you're still young and ... (read in full...)
Should I have him choose... pool playing or me?
Q. I'm hoping that someone can provide some words of wisdom... It's been one year since I got out of a terrible relationship where the person was a constant liar. I'm in a new relationship but it's long distance and so we only see each other on the ...
A. 27 April 2010: The problem is not him playing pool. Asking him to stop will not help anything. The problem is he doesn't want to tell you the truth. If the truth is he's playing pool when he's not answering your phone call, then he either doesn't want to ... (read in full...)
Does he want me to take my shirt off during sex?
Q. So whenever me and my guy have sex, he never takes my shirt off or tries to get me to take it off. I have had a breast reduction a few years back, and I think he probably knows that I'm a little self conscious because of the scars from the surgery. ...
A. 27 April 2010: Confidence is always sexy, even when the body isn't perfect (and it never is). Take it off!... (read in full...)
Is there something wrong with me if I think about sex all the time despite being a virgin?
Q. Is there something wrong with me,I think about sex all the time,and when I like guys I generally think about shagging them rather than being in a relationship,as I don't really like the exclusiveness.but the thing is I'm a virgin,I masterbate but ...
A. 15 April 2010: If you had to HAVE sex before you WANTED sex, humans would be extinct. Think about it.... (read in full...)
Is he too good to be true?
Q. i have been dating a guy for six months. he seems amazing. he doesn't want to have sex yet and accepts im not ready. he never pushes me into anything. he also says he wants to marry me. is he too good to be true?...
A. 15 April 2010: Keep seeing him, but don't get married before you're, like, 20 or so. He may yet find out he wants to sleep around.... (read in full...)
I really want to like him, but I've been told he's a man-whore.
Q. A little background, I've always fallen for the man-whore. Even if I didn't know it. There's this guy I met a couple weeks ago who goes to my school. He's a senior in High School and I'm a junior. He invited me to a couple of his volleyball games ...
A. 15 April 2010: Probably most of the other girls he's hooked up with would also have said "he definitely doesn't seem like the type".
Sounds like you're pretty clear on what he is, now you just need to decide if you're a girl who likes man-whores.
(Also, ... (read in full...)
Am I the bad guy for not wanting these people as guests?
Q. Hello. My girlfriend and I have been together for almost two years and living together for almost one year. Today she asked me if it is OK for her son and her X brother n law to come stay the weekend with us. I was totally shocked she aske...
A. 15 April 2010: She wants her son to come visit too, right? So probably she just wants to put up with the druggie in order to spend some time with her son? Sounds reasonable to me.... (read in full...)
Why do I keep cheating on my boyfriend?
Q. I keep cheating on my boyfriend. It's as simple as that. I feel like crap, it's happened twice and i've told him twice. The real problem is that I keep flirting and looking for more outside attention. Me and him don't spend very much time together ...
A. 15 April 2010: I give you props for telling him. Many would not. I don't think it's a matter of how much you love him. You just want attention from multiple guys I guess. I don't think there's anything wrong with that. It's more common among men than women, ... (read in full...)
I confronted him about another girl and he spat on me and shoved me down the stairs. How do I move on from this?
Q. I am not sure how to get over this so im asking for everyones opinion. I just recently broke up with my ex saturday because I confronted him about texting this girl and deleting messages from her. he got all pissed off kicked me out of his house ...
A. 15 April 2010: He probably is one of those people who is able to shut unpleasant thoughts out of his mind--thoughts like "I am cheating on and disrespecting a girl who cares about me". It is a sign of a weak mind, not a strong one. When you confronted him a... (read in full...)
I cant imagine feeling this way about anyone else, what should I do?
Q. I have a really bad problem. I am in love with my nurse and I know there is no way I can be with her. I have no idea how to stop feeling the way I feel for her. Everytime I see her I just realize how special she is, quite honestly I feel as if I ...
A. 13 April 2010: I disagree with marieclaire for telling you what is and isn't love. I have loved women for smiling at me when I was having a bad day. It's not romantic love, but it is brain chemistry, and that's all love is anyway. Nevertheless, ... (read in full...)
She keeps bringing up the past
Q. i am 30 years old married to my beautiful wife for the last 7 years and just wanted to know are all women the same my wife keeps bringing up the past about when we first met i can say this on here because i don't know anyone on here she keeps ...
A. 13 April 2010: I agree with raiders, it sounds to me like maybe she cheated on you. The girls I've been with who were the most concerned about me being unfaithful were themselves the least faithful to me.... (read in full...)
Am I gay because I sometimes have weird fantasies?
Q. Basically im 14 and not sure if im straight, bi, whatever. I know that i am attracted to girls and have even had occasioinal girlfriends. when i have masturbated i've only ever used straight porn the thing is I dont get at all hard from gay po...
A. 13 April 2010: It's probably just a matter of looking to the men for sexual inspiration, to show you how to be a more sexual being. I think it's clear you're straight, but if you're not, hey there's a whole wide world out there.... (read in full...)
Opinions on this please. Does this girl like me?
Q. Does the girl like me? I am a mute (verbally impaired). I say this, because it will come up. I can't figure out if this girl likes me and I really don't want to ask. Every time I see her she smiles at me and stares (kinda.. Hard to explain. I'm ...
A. 13 April 2010: She likes you. If you don't go after her, you will regret it forever. Go.... (read in full...)
We're both virgins, should he wear one?
Q. Dear Cupid, I am a 21 years old virgin, have a 22 years old boyfriend who is also a virgin. We have been dating for 2 years now. Right now, both of us are deciding to lose our virgin to each other as we love each other so much. But my problem i...
A. 13 April 2010: "The blood of your virgin will not be on him"?? Yikes. You know, not all virgins bleed. I hope he doesn't freak out if you don't.
You could go on some form of birth control, and if you use it correctly, the chances of getting pregnant are smal... (read in full...)
Did I do the right thing by forcing his ex away?
Q. my boyfriend of ten months is close to his ex who was also his first sex partner. Lately I have seen text messages that were flirty but nothing too much..BUT enough to set me off!! And about a week ago I read a text to her that he sent about a very ...
A. 13 April 2010: Be sure to understand that it's possible he'll just cover his tracks better from now on, and keep on doing those same things. Plenty of guys do.
If, like me, you feel like being lied to would be even worse than the fooling around, then you need... (read in full...)
How can I stop that from happening?
Q. I'm 17 and have had my first proper girlfriend for 2 weeks now. I've got to second base with girls before but have never actually had my penis properly touched, and my girlfriend has jerked me off twice. The first time she had been rubbing my ...
A. 13 April 2010: Try masturbating right before you're going to meet up with her.... (read in full...)
How do I show how much more I like her than her boyfriend does?
Q. Okay, so my friend calls me the other night around midnight. She's drunk and crying hysterically because she'd recently split with her boyfriend, who she's been on and off with for months now (it's ridiculous, but that's besides the point). I ...
A. 13 April 2010: Being a shoulder for her to cry on is for her girlfriends to do. Buying her lunch is for her boyfriend to do. You are being a nice person but I don't think those things are going to get you anywhere with her.
Think back on the times she hooked u... (read in full...)
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