In love with a woman who is an abusive relationship! Should I wait for her?
Q. So I met this girl at work a few months ago and I developed feelings for her. Come to find out she also developed feelings for me. Problem is, she has been with a guy for 5 years and has two children with him. He is emotionally, and on occasion, ...
A. 9 February 2011: You shouldn't close yourself off to the possibility of being with her in the future, but neither should you emotionally invest yourself entirely in this woman who may never leave her husband. Keep your perspective, keep yourself available to other ... (read in full...)
Whatever happened to holding hands and watching the sunset?
Q. So, alot of things have been hard to adjust to since I got out of the Army. Not the least of which has been dating, or...not dating, I suppose. I like to think I'm a nice guy, outgoing in public, but private at home. I own my own house, and c...
A. 7 February 2011: People love texting, and I think it's partly because it is impersonal like you said. People feel awkward about everything, and texting is a way to communicate without being so in-your-face and immediate. And no one loves texting more than young ... (read in full...)
Whatever happened to holding hands and watching the sunset?
Q. So, alot of things have been hard to adjust to since I got out of the Army. Not the least of which has been dating, or...not dating, I suppose. I like to think I'm a nice guy, outgoing in public, but private at home. I own my own house, and c...
A. 7 February 2011: So what you're saying is that you're in the habit of telling girls on the first date, "I'm celibate"? And this means what? That you want to wait until marriage? Or that you want to never have sex? Regardless of what exactly that word means to you, ... (read in full...)
Wondering about cigarettes....
Q. Im 15 and love the smell of second hand smoke, so just wobdering wat they taste like and is it strange to get aroused by the thought of smoking? Abd dont give me rubbish like they bad for you plz!...
A. 2 February 2011: Telling someone who's never smoked what a cigarette tastes like is like trying to tell a blind man what art looks like.... (read in full...)
Why would a guy move slower, sexually, with a girl?
Q. I'm 24F and I've been dating a 26M for a little over a month now and things are going great! We see each other a few times a week and we seem to be content with the amount of time we spend with each other since we both work and I go to school ful...
A. 1 February 2011: Relatively inexperienced guys sometimes think sex is something that just happens, or is initiated by women, as opposed to realizing it's basically up to them to make it happen. Or, he could just be scared. You can either patiently wait, or you can ... (read in full...)
Both virgins, on birth control pills.... do I REALLY need a condom?
Q. Me and my girlfriend are both virgins but we are planning on having sex in a couple of weeks. She's started taking birth control pills so there is no chance of her getting pregnant. We havent had sex so STI's are also out of the equation so do i ...
A. 31 January 2011: There are other methods.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rhythm_method
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Fertility_awareness
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coitus_interruptus
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/... (read in full...)
Just need advice on how to lose the weight and tone up and also how to get rid of stretch marks.
Q. I'm 17 and about 5ft. I've wrote on here about my weight and everything but I need some advice of diets and losing weight. When I was 14 I weighed just over 7 stone and then put a bit of weight on when I was 16 so I was nearly 8 stone. I didn't p...
A. 28 January 2011: I have two simple points to share with you, and each of them goes against the mainstream understanding of diet and exercise.
The best exercise is extremely intense, very brief, and fairly infrequent. For instance, one workout routine might ha... (read in full...)
We hit it off and now she's cold!
Q. Hi Guys Small problem. I got to know a girl at dancing lessons and we got to get friendly there. As the lessons progressed, we got to know each other and had long sessions chatting afterward. We also went to a restaurant after last week's lesson a...
A. 26 January 2011: Girls are like that. Hot and cold. Playing games. You've just got to play them too. Ignore her for a day, or strike up a conversation with another girl in the class, and see if she doesn't warm right up to you. If you're staring at her wishing she ... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my ex?
Q. My ex bf and I broke up 2 weeks ago. I initiated, but he agreed so it was mutual. We want different things in the future and it's for the best. Our relationship was short-term. I don't want him back. I do miss talking to him and miss his friendsh...
A. 26 January 2011: Good, honest sex with someone you care about is never a bad thing. Bad things can come of it, like misunderstandings, hurt feelings, unfulfilled expectations, etc. For instance, you say you "miss talking to him." If pillow talk and quality time is ... (read in full...)
Would this gesture of mine seem romantic or creepy?
Q. Hello, I would like to know if this would be cute or creepy. I this girl and I have been talking and we are really into each other I mean really. Anyways I am seeing her this Saturday and I am going to ask her to be my girlfriend. I want to make ...
A. 24 January 2011: You say you "have been talking." Have you spent a lot of time alone? Have you kissed? If either answer is no, you should not ask her to be your girlfriend. And even if they're yes, forget about the ring.... (read in full...)
Would watching gay porn bring out these feelings in me?
Q. : Ok i hav been masturbating on gay porn and i feel so horny looking at all these buff guys naked, i also hav developed crushes on boys at school and i dont like girls anymore that much! Plz help! Im 15!! Is this because i watched gay porn?...
A. 23 January 2011: Rest assured that porn cannot turn you gay. Either you're gay, or you're not, or by some people's theory, you might be in between. I don't believe it's something you can change. So watch your porn and enjoy it and if you're gay, be thankful it's the ... (read in full...)
Wedding bells or I'm outta here...
Q. After 7 years of living together my boyfriend and I split up and he moved out. We had been fighting all the time, I was very unhappy mostly due to his underemployment and lack of motivation. Three weeks after he found a good job we had another big ...
A. 23 January 2011: You've been fighting regularly for a year, and you're just dying to marry this guy? Can you blame him for being hesitant? I'll never understand women.... (read in full...)
I love her but don't want to be one of her sex slaves
Q. Hi everyone, In short I know a girl who I care for and think I love, the problem is she is beautiful and younger and does not want to settle for any one man. She has a string of open relationships where she is sexually intimate with a few people. ...
A. 3 January 2011: I don't understand how sex with a beautiful young woman could possibly be demeaning to you. If you have any self-esteem, you should recognize that she's getting something out of the relationship as well. Something about you is so appealing that this ... (read in full...)
Bad marriage, potentially new guy.
Q. I'm in a bad unsuccessful marriage, have a 1 y.o. son. I know that a single co-worker has a big crush on me. I'm attracted to him as well. Should I give it a try? I don't even think he knows I'm married. My marriage is a total joke, we don't even ...
A. 2 December 2010: I would give it a chance, but I would consider it my responsibility to be up-front with my spouse, even if the marriage is a joke. If you want to move on, he deserves to be clear about that.... (read in full...)
Boyfriend proposed a day after my 16th birthday!
Q. please help i am a 16 year old school girl in the uk so i am in a relationship with my boyfriend of 2 years who is 4 years older that i am. any ways my parents have known about us since the start but for my 16 th birthday he told me he wanted to...
A. 28 November 2010: Don't do it. If you think you might want to do it, you should move in with him. Then you'll see how strong your relationship really is, when you're dealing with his dirty socks on your bed and he's dealing with clumps of your hair in his shower. I ... (read in full...)
How should I go about resisting my new step sister?
Q. How should I go about resisting my new step sister? My dad recently remarried and he and his new younger wife are building a new home, so they are staying in my guesthouse for privacy, but I've let my new 19 yr old step sister stay in the main...
A. 18 November 2010: Vindication is mine!! :)
"The consequences will ensue." Fuck if that ain't the most obvious thing ever said. Relationships are complicated. There is good and bad to come of everything. Roll with it.... (read in full...)
Help!!! He wants to be with me but doesn't want to put a label on it. What does this mean?
Q. so i have been seeing this guy for a few months and we are planning on moving in together (his idea). but last night we were talking and the labelling subject came up and he said He doesn't like labelling relationships. basically it is what it is ...
A. 16 November 2010: I hate labels. The reason is that labeling is just a way to place expectations on the future. The reality of the situation is that you spend time together, you do certain things together, and it's good, right? You're moving in together. There's no ... (read in full...)
We can't date anymore because I'm so amazingly, dependable, caring, and kind?
Q. Asking for help is hard to do... but I've found my way here, where it seems good advice is all around. A little about me: I'm a solid guy, no emotional baggage or other major life issues hanging around me - been there, done that, learned my lesso...
A. 13 November 2010: I'm similar to you. I have everything going for me. Looks, intelligence, money, and a genuinely good heart. But I was a virgin until 22 and usually go months and months without getting horizontal with a girl.
She's a "risk-taker" and does "crazy s... (read in full...)
I want to send him something to knock his socks off!
Q. i want to send my boyfriend some naughty and sweet.. something to turn him on;) what i would do to him next time i see him..but am not good with words..please help me thanks..xx...
A. 13 November 2010: Looking back on things that girls have said to me over the years, the sexual ones were nice, but the ones that I can actually remember are the genuine, non-sexual things like "I like you."... (read in full...)
This new guy is clingy, needy, and cheesy!
Q. i broke up with my boyfriend about 3 months ago. we had been together for a year and it started to get really routinaire. i needed time and he wouldn't give me time so we ended it. i started dating this other guy inmediately after we broke up. at ...
A. 13 November 2010: You "needed time," and couldn't get it, so you ended it.
Now the new guy is "clingy" and "needy" so you want to end it.
Both were "nice," but you couldn't be happy with either long-term.
The problem is, you've got player love. It's very c... (read in full...)
Got quotes?
Q. got good quotes ? any kind . love , life , dark , light . you name it . I need some good ones for my class . lol . help me out . post one or more(: thanks ....
A. 13 November 2010: "Live, Laugh, Love!" Just kidding. That quote makes me gag.... (read in full...)
Average woman likes a penis 7.2 inches plus? Is this survey correct?
Q. i read something that says the average penis size is 6inc by 4.75inc around. I also read a survey that said the average woman likes a penis between 7.2 and 8inc by 6inc around. If the mean average for a man is as above and only 20% of men have ...
A. 12 November 2010: Most men want slim women with big boobs and curvy hips. Does that mean most of us are unhappy with what we've got? Well, in a way, yes, but in a more important way, no.... (read in full...)
Girlfriend seems to be slipping away, what to do?
Q. Ok me and my girlfriend have been dating for 2 months now. I have never felt this way about anyone and she has told me over and over that she has never fallen in love this quickly before and already knows that she wants to spend the rest of her ...
A. 12 November 2010: "The only time she acts like she wants to be with me is when i say something like im deleting your number or im not talking to you till tomorrow then she gets all lovey dovey."
She's scared of losing you, or scared of being alone. That doesn't ... (read in full...)
Swinger wanting to be monogamous with me!
Q. ok this is gonna sound really weird but anyways. i met this guy a couple of months ago and we both hit it off. a few days later he told me that he was a member of swingers club i was like oh cool. it doesnt really bother me i was happy that he was h...
A. 12 November 2010: I guess he's tired of the swinging scene or being with you is just more exciting than doing that. If he's already had the attitude that it's okay to share women he's involved with, he's probably not going to revert all the way back to being your ... (read in full...)
What do I tell her when I ask her out?
Q. Simple question. Do I tell her exactly how I feel, or do I just ask her out? Or both? Thank you....
A. 7 November 2010: I'm no expert, but one thing I know is you don't want to pour your heart out and tell her exactly how she makes you weak in the knees or whatever. Guys might like that; girls will run for the hills. You can safely do that kind of thing when she is ... (read in full...)
Does anyone wait till marriage to have sex?
Q. I know that in our culture, sex is made into a large part of life, from what we see in movies, to what hear in music, there's no getting past it! so my question is, does anyone wait until marriage anymore? I firmlybelieve that waiting is the best ...
A. 5 November 2010: There's good reason to wait until you're in love, or at least in a relationship with a lot of trust in it. I don't see much reason to wait until marriage. What's the difference between the day before your wedding and the day after your wedding? ... (read in full...)
How should I go about resisting my new step sister?
Q. How should I go about resisting my new step sister? My dad recently remarried and he and his new younger wife are building a new home, so they are staying in my guesthouse for privacy, but I've let my new 19 yr old step sister stay in the main...
A. 2 November 2010: You should flirt back, or hook up with her, or bang her. Or ignore her. Whatever feels best to you. You want to know the cure for feeling like you can't stop thinking about her and can't stop looking at her? Bang her. Hang out with her a bunch. Find ... (read in full...)
Voice your opinion on giving 12 year old children iPhones and the access to FREE PORN that Safari browser gives them.
Q. I would just like to know what parents out there or any one for that matter thinks about the fact that in our society we protect our children from movies with inappropriate sexual content with NC-17 ratings, but we hand them and iPhone as young as ...
A. 17 October 2010: Here's what I think is the ideal situation and how I plan on raising my kids when I have kids:
Children and young teens do not need to have privacy when it comes to electronics. Whatever device your child has should have software that lets you... (read in full...)
Simple question on asking someone out.
Q. Hi, just a simple and quick question: If I make an excuse to enter this girls office at work (Any excuse will do) - is it too rash to, after I strike up a conversation, say "Blah, blah, blah.... by the way, I know this is quite out of the blue ...
A. 15 October 2010: The phrase "I know this is quite out of the blue" is no good. It's almost like an explanation or an apology. Your attitude should be that you are a winner and any girl in her right mind would enjoy hanging out with you. Instead of asking her if sh... (read in full...)
Says he wants to be just friends and then he flirts
Q. Why would a guy insist that he just wants to be friends (he has a gf) but maybe only contact you once or twice a week to chat and when he does it's usually in a flirtatious manner? For example he calls me "hot" and stuff like that....
A. 12 October 2010: Because flirting is fun and exciting and a useful skill. And that skill can be sharp, or it can be rusty. If you want to, you can use it as an opportunity to have fun and flirt better. If you don't, you can either tell him straight away or you can ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my work colleague?
Q. hey i like this girl at work but i dont know how to ask her out... once i asked her she said no... i might think she like me too... but i dont know how to approach her!!...
A. 9 October 2010: Petina's a little bit of a wet blanket I think. There's nothing wrong with a second try.
Do people from work ever go out in groups after work? That's your best bet. If you are going somewhere with a group of people she knows and you make it a poi... (read in full...)
Help... I don't feel like I fit in because I don't drink or go out partying!
Q. I began college a month ago (I went early, I turn 18 in a few months' time) and I'm having trouble relating properly to people because almost everyone else here is going out drinking and partying till really late and I can't. It doesn't seem like ...
A. 1 October 2010: Sometimes life is about being there. I'm very introverted and even antisocial. Sometimes when I hang out with friends I honestly would rather just sit home alone. But I go anyway. It's important to be able to relate to people. For Joe Six-Pack, ... (read in full...)
Why do they all say "lets just be friends?"
Q. Hello, I personally have problems getting past the friend zone in terms of relationships with girls. I don't know what it is or I am just too nice or so unoriginal that I come off unattractive. I am slightly over weight which is usual in this ...
A. 1 October 2010: If you think you're too nice, you probably are. By "nice" in this context I mean eager to please and eager to show her how much you like her. Further along those lines, you've got neediness and clinginess. Women for some reason need to be kept ... (read in full...)
How do I control my thoughts about my future sister in law?
Q. Hello, I'm a 22 yo student, happily engaged with a beatiful girl, currently living at her parents' place. This is a choice we mae a couple of years ago, because we know we couldn't get enough money to live in an apartment while we study, so we st...
A. 30 September 2010: Sounds like quite a free-spirited girl you have there. If she has a good relationship with your sister, maybe you should just suggest that she be the one. Don't tell her you're fantasizing about her sister. Just present it like, "hey here's ... (read in full...)
Can't climax with my husband
Q. my husband has an average penis, he's a 61/2 and i'm 71/2-8 length. is that the reason i can't climax? we tried oral stimulation and it doesn't help. he's often asked me for threesonmes and we have in the past but not the right sizes. i'm tired and ...
A. 30 September 2010: You measured the depth of your vagina? I've honestly never heard of a woman doing that. And you think maybe because his penis doesn't reach the very back of your vagina, that's why you're not climaxing? Not likely. Are you able to climax when ... (read in full...)
I had an abortion. Will getting pregnant help me ease the pain I feel?
Q. I had an abortion two months ago, now I am so depresed, nobody knew about my abortion, and I live in a place in the united states with my two kids and my husband. I feel really bad after my abortion, I has been thinking about getting pregnant again, ...
A. 30 September 2010: Maybe you can explain why nobody knows about your abortion. Did you cheat on your husband? It would probably make you feel better to talk to someone about it.... (read in full...)
When we were together he seemed interested.. but now is not making an effort to talk to me.
Q. I met a guy at a college party and he ended up giving me a ride home.. turns out we lived really close so he invited me to his place before taking me home and we ended up watching a movie. He slowly did the whole putting his arm around me and was ...
A. 29 September 2010: Don't microanalyze everything. He likes you. He's probably worried about getting into med school. Some guys don't want to just chit-chat if they're not going to see you, and clearly his studies are a priority.... (read in full...)
Is this boy normal, and should he date my daughter?
Q. I am worried about my daughters new relatonship. My daughter is 17, she is a great kid , we are very lucky that we have never really had any trouble with her. Normally I don"t judge the people she chooses to date but I am a little concerned with her ...
A. 27 September 2010: Are/were his parents very strict? Maybe he thinks utterly passive, blank behavior is what's appropriate when parents are around. And maybe that's part of the reason why he had a rebellious phase after his father died. Try telling your daughter to ... (read in full...)
Is there any way I can keep the space I love and keep a guy interested?
Q. I'm a 26 year old female, and I've never had a boyfriend. I've barely been on a date! I've had guys interested in me, but usually I'm never interested in them. There are only 2 guys that I regret dismissing before we really started anything, and now ...
A. 27 September 2010: Guys are used to working their asses off trying to figure out what's going on in a woman's mind and really not getting anywhere. Being remote and aloof and wanting to be alone is usually going to come across as you trying to signal that you are not ... (read in full...)
How can I initiate a kiss?
Q. Hi,everyone. This is a bit weird problem. I'll appreciate your help. I,m 21, my girl friend is 18. Its first relationship and practically first love for both of us. In my country things are kinda back dated. We love each other so much. The problem ...
A. 26 September 2010: It may be hard for most people here to understand your culture. If you were American, I might just say, "Next time you are having a quiet intimate moment, just lean in and kiss her. She's probably waiting for it." And that advice might be good in ... (read in full...)
I recently came out and want to have a male date at my graduation
Q. Hello, I am a 17 year old gay male and live in a small town in Saskatchewan. I came out when I was 15 and all I've been able to think about is how happy it would make me to have a boy as my grad escort. But as I said, I live in a small town, and ...
A. 25 September 2010: The world needs people who stir the shit. Just the other day I saw a cross-dressing man in a neon pink wig in my city. I live in a fairly large city (Tampa, Florida), but this is still quite an unusual sight here. I personally am a little ... (read in full...)
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