Wide hips: good or bad?
Q. I have an average body type, I'm 5'6, I'm athletic and try to keep in shape and I'm content with my body ..... Recently while getting dressed, my friend (a male) said to me that my "hips are wide" ... should I take that as a compliment or as insul...
A. 19 August 2010: Scientists have objectively determined that a fairly narrow waist and fairly wide hips is most appealing to most men.... (read in full...)
What other things can you use to masterbate??
Q. instead of dildo, vibrator,etc. what other things can you use to masterbate?...
A. 18 August 2010: I think the hand-held massaging showerhead is an old standby for the ladies...... (read in full...)
Is it odd that I can't remember the exact age I lost my virginity?
Q. Basically, I lost my virginity sometime between the age of 11-13 and I'm wondering if it's overly odd not to remember the exact age I was? No-one ever believes me when i say I can't really remember it at all. (No regrets, plenty of sex since but ...
A. 18 August 2010: Uh, well most people lose it much later and so the memory is much clearer. I mean I can't remember some specifics from 11-13 either. That is really young! Was it a traumatic experience at all? Like something maybe you've blocked out a bit?... (read in full...)
What do guys lookfor in a girl?
Q. Guys confuse me. And i dont know what they want. So i would like your opinions on what attracts a guy to a girl, what they look for in a girl, and how to keep them happy. Give me your answers pleasee....
A. 18 August 2010: A big, big part of it is looks, to be honest with you. Not so much dressed-up and made-up looks, but natural beauty. The kind of thing you can't fake, but can improve upon with good diet, exercise, and hygiene.
We want women who are cheerful... (read in full...)
How can I build up my confidence around women?
Q. Hi how can I build confidence to ask a girl out. A couple of years ago my mum died and I lost contact with alot of people got heavy on weed and I aint had a girlfriend now I dont no how to go about it...
A. 17 August 2010: Try spending more time with your friends and their friends. Any chance to be in a group setting with some people you know and some people you don't know is a good opportunity. Just start saying yes to every invitation. I go off and on weed myself ... (read in full...)
Am I too young to date this boy, I really like?
Q. i am 13 and i have been going out with this lad who is a year younger than me but acts and loooks a lot older ;... i only think this is a teenage crush thing but i do love him... he always tell me he 3s me ...the thing is 1. am i too young 2. i...
A. 15 August 2010: You're not too young to be spending time with a boy and holding hands. Just take it slow. It doesn't have to be a secret either. If your parents bring it up, be honest with them.... (read in full...)
He's 39 and I love him, but he has a real questionable history! What should I do?
Q. First off: I know it's impossible to judge, but PLEASE try to help me. I don't need to be punished more than I have been recently. I've fallen in love with a 39 year old man. I met him online two years ago, and we have been talking practica...
A. 15 August 2010: First of all, it's not "wrong" for a 39 year old man and a 16 year old girl to be attracted to each other. However, it is immensely complicated, especially in this situation. He's trying to keep his life manageable by telling you that you can onl... (read in full...)
We're dating, so how do I get to the point, where I can actually kiss her?
Q. dear Cupid... ok I know how stupid I am going to sound but I just need to get this off my chest. ok I'm going out with this girl and I love her with all my heart and I want to kiss her but I don't know how to get into the situation in which I can k...
A. 15 August 2010: You don't want to do it completely out of the blue. Do you ever hold hands, or cuddle, or have her sit in your lap, or run your fingers through her hair? That's a good time. Don't ask permission. Don't do it too fast or too suddenly. If she ... (read in full...)
Is my teacher really flirting?
Q. [OP original title] My AP US History teacher is very friendly with everyone, but he seems to be a little extra friendly with certain girls, including me. He's extremely attractive, and I wouldn't mind going for it, but I don't want to make thin...
A. 15 August 2010: Yes, he really is flirting. It is normal for you two to be attracted to each other and not "wrong" in any way. Part of the attraction is because realistically you know the chances of anything happening are slim. And it should stay that way. A ... (read in full...)
I've been with 40 sexual partners, how can we get past this?
Q. My partner 25 and i 23 have been together for a year, i have been with 40 sexual partners and he has only been with me we have always stuggled with this and seems to be getting worse the closer we get has anyone got some advice on how we can get ...
A. 15 August 2010: Props for being honest with him. Is he a jealous man in general, like if he sees another guy talking to you or sees that you find another guy (like a movie star, maybe) attractive? It's all part of an attitude of jealousy, and speaking from ... (read in full...)
Does it take men longer to miss a partner?
Q. This is a love poll. I am having a break from my 3 year boyfriend. I don't know why but they say men take longer to miss their woman then the other way around. Is this true? And when do you think the amount you miss someone peaks? today is day 1...
A. 15 August 2010: It's a matter of whose idea the break was, who likes the other more, who has other romantic options lined up, who is simply busier with their everyday life, etc. If he just went on a date with a girl he likes a lot, he's probably not missing you ... (read in full...)
Ex wants me really bad, but I'm thinking of dating this new, super nice guy..? Help!
Q. hi, i have been on and off with this guy for almost a year, alot of the time he walks out then comes back in.. i mind when he leaves but when he comes back im ecstatic.recently he left, but he left to be with another girl. So i started talking to ...
A. 15 August 2010: You're saying that because you're "talking to" your ex, you shouldn't pursue this other guy? Why let him have that kind of control over you? You're in control here. You've got two guys pursuing you. There's nothing stopping you from hanging out ... (read in full...)
He's a great supportive guy...but he has a pot smoking problem...
Q. My current boyfriend right now is 46. He smokes weed at most 2 days out of the week. It really bothers me, but he doesnt become a bad violent person or anything like that. I think weed is a bad example for our kids, we live together, but he doesnt ...
A. 15 August 2010: Do you occasionally enjoy a little something that alters your consciousness? Maybe get a little tipsy on wine? Most people do. Most people have done it one way or another since prehistory. I know plenty of people who smoke seven days a week and ... (read in full...)
22 and Romantically Challenged
Q. [Mod Note: OP's Title] Hi. I'm a 22-year-old woman in Canada and I've never had a boyfriend. Ever! Not even close! In addition, I'm more than a little overweight (I've been fighting it literally ALL my life) and I have a really hard time dealing ...
A. 13 August 2010: You ought to try online dating and be specifically welcoming to older men. Plenty of older men are going to be into a curvy young woman with mature tastes. Plus they have the money to take you to nice dinners and ballroom dancing and stuff. Try ... (read in full...)
He says there are girls out there, but there's none on his phone! Is he a liar?
Q. Hi this is a message for both guys and girls. Guys: I have been going out with a good guy recently and he's told me he knows many women that are available. I went through his phone but in his phonebook there was barely anyone there. He didnt ev...
A. 13 August 2010: Just because someone "knows" women doesn't mean he has their phone number or is exchanging sexual texts with them. What exactly made you so concerned about him "knowing" available women that made you have to go through his phone?
And... let me g... (read in full...)
Help! I need help with my marriage!
Q. Please, please could someone help me? I have been in a relationship with my husband for 11 years and married for 5. He has always had difficulties - he doesn't like watching me eat or drink, he doesn't want to sleep in the same room as me bec...
A. 13 August 2010: Wow, I am so sorry that you are going through all this. It really sounds awful.
Clearly he is depressed and sick. But it's not wrong to leave someone who is ill. It's not wrong to be selfish. You only have this one life. It is wrong to want ... (read in full...)
She says she feels like I'm her soulmate, but that I'm too young for her, what should I do?
Q. Hi all, I met this amazing lady about 2 months ago.....we met on the dating site.....and it was a fluke as she doesn't go there often and she was about to log off....I instant messaged her and she replied and we hit it off from the start....nor...
A. 13 August 2010: If it were me, I'd say let's spend time together and make each other happy and have great sex but let's both pursue other relationships at the same time. No reason a woman who can't be your everything has to be your nothing. But most people don't ... (read in full...)
I'm nervous about messing this up on the second date, any tips?
Q. Ok so there’s a woman I met via on line dating, we had our first date last week, we met up for drinks and I paid for a meal, then went for more drinks afterwards. We seemed to click, were not short of conversation and I do like her (a lot). She’...
A. 13 August 2010: "I think past relationships for me have failed because I exposed my feelings too early on probably scaring them off."
Very common. I've done the same thing. I'd say handholding is a maybe, goodnight kiss or brief makeout is a yes, and putting ... (read in full...)
Should I remove myself from this situation with the girl from my dorm?
Q. Me and a girl on my dorm floor have fallen into this weird pattern of one-sided oral, and I don't know what to think first off, she is HOT beau prettier than any one I have been with. Here it goes. We make out, she let's me feel her up, and ulti...
A. 13 August 2010: Hmm, that's a tough one. Almost all of it sounds like if you're okay with it then there's nothing wrong with it. But she made you stop touching yourself while pleasuring her? I don't like the sound of that. If you want something to happen during ... (read in full...)
Guys: Would you rather a girl was honest about her sexual past?
Q. Would guys prefer a girl who is honest about her past sexual life or is that a bad idea?...
A. 13 August 2010: Deception is never a good thing, so I would not want a girl to lie to me. A lie has to either be maintained forever, over and over, or has to be revealed as a lie at some point.
On the other hand, if you have an extensive sexual history that you... (read in full...)
Sex after dating just 2 weeks?
Q. its bad to have sex with your boyfriend if you have date him only for two weeks?...
A. 10 August 2010: Do you WANT to have sex? If so, do it. If not, don't.
The only "bad" sex is sex that makes you feel bad about yourself or gives you a disease or an unwanted baby. Anyone who will tell you not to have sex is making a moral judgment, probably... (read in full...)
Why does my man treat me like this?
Q. my by of three years is confusin the hell outta me. He proposed when we'd been together two months. I moved into his place let mine out. Then he changed. . Rumours of him cheating, calls on his phone, whispering comin from downstairs. Whenever i ...
A. 10 August 2010: Why are you still with him? Are you trying to fix him? He can't be fixed, he's crazy. People on this website have been told to "run for the hills" when they have boyfriends HALF as crazy as this guy. On the other hand, you must be more than a ... (read in full...)
My bf's mistrusts me and his paranoia is getting to me! Help
Q. Ok... So I'm to the point now where I could really use some advice, I just don't kno what more I can do to make my fella see sense and for once in our whole bloody relationship trust me! He's so paranoid about everything... Thinks I'm not good ...
A. 9 August 2010: Okay, fair enough. But you've tried helping him by being completely open to his invasions of your privacy and his restrictions on your freedom, right? And you say he's getting worse, not better. So it's time to try the opposite. Tell him that it ... (read in full...)
My bf's mistrusts me and his paranoia is getting to me! Help
Q. Ok... So I'm to the point now where I could really use some advice, I just don't kno what more I can do to make my fella see sense and for once in our whole bloody relationship trust me! He's so paranoid about everything... Thinks I'm not good ...
A. 8 August 2010: Listen, because this is important. The ones who cannot trust anyone are the ones who are not trustworthy. My guess is he cheats on you all over town, all the damn time. I'm sorry, but that's what I think. You need to turn the tables on him. ... (read in full...)
Did having sex wth my good guy friend...mess up our friendship?
Q. Okay, I am kind of confused about this whole situation. I went out on Friday night and met up with my friend, we was out drinking and when we get together we always end up kissing. But on Friday we ended up having sex, everything was cool and he ...
A. 8 August 2010: Maybe the idea of sex without a relationship is a foreign idea to him. Maybe he assumes the idea is foreign to you. Anyway, I think you can just set him straight and say that sometimes relationships don't have to go with the sex. Sounds like you ... (read in full...)
Hate myself for being a virgin at 19
Q. [OP original title] Well as the title says im a virgin at 19, never had a girlfriend and never even been kissed and i cant stand it. everywhere i go i see couples and all of my friends have had girlfriends and boyfriends a hundred times over, its ...
A. 8 August 2010: Been there, dude. I'm 30 now and I'm still usually single and dateless, but life gets better all the time.
"I couldn't approach a woman if you held a loaded pistol to my head." You need to embrace the fact that approaching women and getting ... (read in full...)
I like watching guys, but I want to have sex with a girl. Am I gay?
Q. I dunno whether im gay or not. You know what? i like watching the handsome guys, i like their strong bodies with muscle. Thats why i reckon im a little bit gay. But when i imagine if i have sex with a male, that will be disgusting! Yuck. And i ...
A. 8 August 2010: A fit, strong body is usually visually appealing to people of any gender or orientation. Particularly young people, who tend to have raging hormones. Humans are extraordinarily sexual animals and we may feel sexually inspired by someone of the ... (read in full...)
I'm 14, but my bf is 25, is it legal/wrong? Should I break up with him?
Q. [OP original title] I'm 14 years old and my boyfriend is 25. I really liked him before we were going out and he liked me too, he even dumped his girlfriend because he says he can't be with her when he loves me. I love him too but I'm soo scared abou...
A. 8 August 2010: It appears to be illegal until you are 17:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ages_of_consent_in_Europe#Ireland
Your boyfriend could very well be decent and sane. My instinct is you should explain it to your family, including the part about him sa... (read in full...)
Any ideas for adventurous sex?
Q. hi. my boyfriend is sexually adventurous and I will love to please him in all the kinky ideas possible. I'm a very sexual person, I'm up for everything but I'm from a country were sex is only allowed after marriage, I know how boring and mistaken, ...
A. 30 July 2010: "Be nude when he's around." Haha, that's awesome. Yeah, I would say if you're always clean, smelling good, shaven/trimmed, naked, and ready for sex whenever the mood strikes him, that would be a pretty big turn-on.... (read in full...)
Any ideas for adventurous sex?
Q. hi. my boyfriend is sexually adventurous and I will love to please him in all the kinky ideas possible. I'm a very sexual person, I'm up for everything but I'm from a country were sex is only allowed after marriage, I know how boring and mistaken, ...
A. 29 July 2010: Hire an escort or pick up another girl to watch, touch, or participate? That would be at the top of my list of how to spice up a relationship.... (read in full...)
Just my type
Q. Mod Note: Poster's Original Title Is it possible to attain an online love without planning to meet them in real life? I'd be willing to share pictures(I'm a little short but not unattractive) and have things to discuss that sort of thing I'm also...
A. 29 July 2010: Well, rest assured there are many, many lonely men out there who are not perverted losers. Even if you ended up talking to a perverted loser, you probably wouldn't even know it if you never met him in person. The hard part is going to be finding ... (read in full...)
My Sister Bullies Me, But I've Been Forced to Invite Her to My Wedding
Q. hey i need some advice. my problem is i hate my sister and my mum made me send my sister an invite to my wedding. i dont want her there! shes always been so jealous of me, to the point she used to physically, mentally and emotionally abuse me. ...
A. 27 July 2010: Accept the fact that your sister mistreats you not because of who you are, but because of who she is. She obviously thinks very little of herself and measures her success in life against yours. If you honestly believe and accept those things as ... (read in full...)
Whenever I'm Not There, This Girl is All Over Him Like a Rash!!
Q. I just want to begin by saying I trust my boyfriend totally. We have been together 9 months and he has never given me a reason to doubt him. I am not generally a jealous person when it comes to boyfriends. There's a girl who is in the same circ...
A. 27 July 2010: I have to disagree with NiceGurl. There is only so much a person can do. It's not as if he can hit her to make her stop flirting with him. You started out by saying you trust your boyfriend totally. So I'm not clear on what the issue is. Maybe ... (read in full...)
Wife's weight is becoming an issue...
Q. I'm having a hard time figuring out what, if anything, to do or say about the situation with my wife and her weight. We're in our mid to late 30s. When we met about 5 years ago, we were well-matched. Both around the same height (I'm 5'9", she's...
A. 26 July 2010: Your wife wants to lose weight, and you want her to lose weight. She just needs to figure out how to do it.
Your wife needs to eat less food.
Probably, like about 90% of people who want to lose weight, she's avoiding certain foods, emphasizi... (read in full...)
Is my partner correct to want me to ask for his permission to answer the phone late at night?
Q. 22.15hrs I was having a talk with my partner about an important matter to us both. My mobile phone rang in the room next door, and he got up first to fetch it and brought it to me for me to answer which I did. It was a short message from a friend. ...
A. 26 July 2010: It's a single incident. You were discussing heavy stuff. Maybe you were rude, maybe he was oversensitive. He's not telling you to ask all the time. Just let it go.... (read in full...)
How do I introduce someone to the kinkier side of sex???
Q. I have been in an intensely sexual relationship for 4 years... unfortunately things didn't work out and we parted. I have a new (lovely) man... seems slightly inexperienced in the bedroom, and certainly never practised any kinky stuff like I have ...
A. 26 July 2010: When you're in the middle of some foreplay, take out some silk scarves and say, "You know what really turns me on?" He's going to want to turn you on, and will be happy that you want him to do it to you. Silk scarves on your wrists is fairly tame ... (read in full...)
23 and always single...
Q. Well, I have a problem. I am always the single girl. I've always been the single girl, always. Save for a few dates, I've never had luck with men. And I don't see that changing. Truth is, I've got an odd look to me that you either love or hate. I ...
A. 26 July 2010: Well, at least you love the way you look. That's important.
Maybe just work on smiling and making eye contact with guys that you wish would approach you. It's a nice way for a girl to stick her neck out just a little without any possibil... (read in full...)
Ready to throw in the towel!!
Q. I have known my girlfriend for 15yrs, we have been in a relationship for 6yrs. this month I asked the big question and bought her an engagement ring. My co worker family owns a jewelry store so i bought a second hand ring that has been appraised for ...
A. 26 July 2010: Personally, if I spent $5000 on a ring for a woman (which I would never do) and she said anything negative about it, I would be ready to discuss an immediate breakup. Hell, I'd feel like that if I spent five HUNDRED dollars. I personally am very ... (read in full...)
I want to know how to ask her about how she feels about this guy and not ruin the great friendship we have
Q. Ok so here's the story I about 1 or two months ago I met this girl at church. We started talking and we have become really goood friends. She knows about my life and I know about hers. I really like her nd I'm starting to have fellings for her but ...
A. 26 July 2010: Keep being friends but don't give her all your attention or free time. Pay some attention to other girls that she knows. If she likes you, she might come running to you. Don't burn any bridges, but don't chase her endlessly either.... (read in full...)
He's 3 steps ahead of me emotionally, how do I get to where he is?
Q. Alright, so there is this PERFECT guy who likes me. I met him online and we went out on a date and he seems too good to be true. Personality wise. He opened doors for me, paid for the entire date, actually listens to what I say. He seems ...
A. 26 July 2010: That's one for the ages, lady. Why do women go for the badboy when the gentlemen are beating down their door? I hope someone here knows the answer, because I sure don't.... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pays a lot of attention to our roommate!
Q. My boyfriend and I live together with two other roommates. Whenever the female roommate is around, he gets excited because she is usually at her boyfriend's house. He always tries going by her room to initiate conversation with her. Also, if it is ...
A. 26 July 2010: It's natural for your boyfriend to want to look at other attractive women. That will never go away. I don't think he really wishes she would cover herself up, either.
As for whether or not he would cheat on you, that's hard to predict. Most guy... (read in full...)
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