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She acts all sexily around me, even though we broke up because I cheated, I want to be more than friends but what is she telling me ?
Q. I broke up with my long term girlfriend after 7 years when I cheated on her and confessed. I then moved away for 6 months and came back. She still calls me to hang out and do things together. She says things jokingly like "Don't try to seduce ...
A. 10 June 2006: sticky situation from a guys point of view but from a girls point of view its a brilliant plan! she is trying to play hard to get, im moving on and happy go lucky but in actual fact she just wants to see if you will start dating other girls or f... (read in full...)
Will this guy work out long-term??
Q. My fiance and I have been together for 4 years but just recently I've realised he and my dad have many similar characteristics. When I was 12 I was given the choice of living with either my mam or dad. I choose my mam because I felt she needed me ...
A. 10 June 2006: maybe it will because you need a support pole in your life as well as abest friend, lover and husband... you are lucky to have found a guy who wants to stickaround and help.... (read in full...)
Gone from loving me to not wanting contact in a week. What do i do??
Q. HELP!!! 6 weeks ago me and my girlfriend of 5 1/2yrs (i'm 25 and she's 22) made a decision to split up - we both agreed 'something was missing' from our relationship...we weren't unhappy - but the fact this 'thing' was missing was causing problems...
A. 10 June 2006: you guys need to access your relationship and decuide what to do maybe she is realising now that you guys are really serious and you could even get married in a year or two and now she is scared because she doesnt know if she is ready to settle down ... (read in full...)
I really cant handle my mums new relationship!!
Q. My mother has been divorced from my father since i was three. He was a bad person, and ended up in prison for sexual harrassment (he was not charged for harrassing her, although she has admitted to me that he did). 13 years on and she has joined a ...
A. 10 June 2006: wll you basically just answered yourself. your not happy with your moms relationship and shes not happy with yours, so what you waiting for?? take a chance, if your mom can do it then why cant you??... (read in full...)
We always seem to end up together but now he has a gf and im distraught!!!
Q. Ive liked this guy for a really long time and we have been sexually involved but have now gradually grown apart, although we still have the occasional kiss and one night stand! We've both seen other people in the time we've known eachother but we ...
A. 10 June 2006: if you love him then never give up but let him go and if he comes back then its meant to be remember guys dont always know how they feel about someone until its to late... make him see how great you really are and then hopefully youll get him al... (read in full...)
I'm dating a much older guy, would it be okay to bring it into public?
Q. Im dating a guy who is 18 years older than me. Im 17 he is 35. Iv been with him for 2 nearly 3 years now and thinking about coming out in public and letting everyone know because i really dont want to keep it bottled up inside anymore. I really do ...
A. 10 June 2006: my gran is 18 years older than my grandpa and they are still happily married so no this age group is fine. if your family and friends love you then they will understand and accept it. ... (read in full...)
His previous GF cheated on him, he keeps accusing me, but is infact cheating on me ?
Q. In January my boyfriend of a year had accused me of cheating on him (it was a HUGE misunderstanding). Background: His ex-gf of 3 1/2 years had cheated on him. I figured it was stimulated from his past pain. He later told me” I believe you I know ...
A. 10 June 2006: he is probably guilty, he sounds guilty or in denial. just go to him and say youd never cheat on me would you and see how he reacts if he is casual and says no and acts all cute then its past pain but if he over reacts then he is guilty.... (read in full...)
My daughter's father is really mean to her, help!
Q. hi,i have an 8 year old daughter,she is a beautiful,kind,loving child but the problem is HER DAD,he will not take her anywhere or give her affection he wont buy her anything and is constantly on her back about something.this has been going on all ...
A. 10 June 2006: he needs to start treating her better otherwise your going to have a rebelious daughter on your hands who will then look for affection from older guys and then end up pregnant or even worse. try family councelling or family outings where you go with ... (read in full...)
Breaking up with my ex has been very hard
Q. I know I'm being stupid, but I need the opinion of someone in a relationship that was the one that "broke up" the relationship. I'm keeping my distance from my ex and its really killing me, and I haven't called or been in contact nor has he even ...
A. 10 June 2006: its so hard when someone breaks your heart especially if you have kept things he gave you. i used to keep everything and then if they broke my heart id burn it, but hey thats just me.
you are hurting and in a way you want him to feel the pain but... (read in full...)
I just don't like kissing guys
Q. hi i was wondering if its normal to not enjoy kissing at all. i havent had many different guys, but i just get really bored with it very quickly. i dont mind him kissing me other places, but actually making out is so boring to me. is this weird, ...
A. 10 June 2006: that could mean alot of things, maybe youd prefer kissing girls or trying new techniques with guys or getting dirty.
kissing is supposed to be passionate and foot popping...
think about it.... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: you need to take her with you to your next dovctors appointment and let the doctor explain everything to her while you are there then afterwards tell her that you love her and that you need her there for you.
let me know how things go...
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How can I tell if she likes me ? I keep getting mixed signals!
Q. K, Mixed signals? What are the telltale signs of how much a girl likes u? - How many x's in texts - Wud she say i luv u unless she ment it - Her friends tell u she still loves u - what does this mean? Is she jst winding them up? etc etc i re...
A. 10 June 2006: you need to tell her how you feel and see what she says. dont ask her friends or ask silly questions just get straight to the point. you have nothing to lose....... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel like anything!
Q. Hi my name is Maya. Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend, I don't feel a thing. I just feel normal and I never told him that. Is there anything wrong with me? I don't know what sex feels like. Please help me....
A. 10 June 2006: try doing it differently. if he stands behind you and enters you you will feel it, i promise.... (read in full...)
I live with her, but she won't leave her boyfriend
Q. You's have probably heard this scenario a thousand times over, but here we go again! I've been friends with this girl for a few years, and recently we moved into together. All was goin grand but then i started developing these feelings for her. I ...
A. 10 June 2006: you guys have obviously fooled around so therefore she has cheated on her boyfriend with you so she must have feelings towards you and not to great feelings towards her boyfriend. you dont cheat on someone you love so questipn her about it and then ... (read in full...)
We broke up after 2 years he said he was too young, but we are still in contact, he needed space, but now I dont know where I stand
Q. please really really need advice!!!!!!!!! hello i have wriiten before about this but i am still very confused and its not getting any clearer. Basically about a week and a half ago my fiancee of 2yrs broke things off saying he was too young ...
A. 9 June 2006: give him space but hold onto your memories because theyll help you get through his 'space time'.
your fiance is obviously at a cross roads in his life and he doesnt know if he is ready for life right now, it happens a lot with guys.
just fo... (read in full...)
Alone after abortion and feel so low.
Q. I have recently split up from my boyfriend of a year because he wanted to go back to his home country. I offered to go with him but he said he wasn't ready for that kind of commitment because we would have to get married. This was back in feb that i ...
A. 9 June 2006: abortion is one of the hardest things for any young women to go through and i learnt that the hard way.
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I asked her to be my girlfriend, and she said yes, but for the wrong reasons. Can we still go out?
Q. So here it is. I have been hanging out with this girl for about almost two months. About three months ago, she got out of a year and a half relationship. So I figured I should wait a while before I ask her to me my girlfriend. Well coming up after...
A. 9 June 2006: give her a bit of space but keep hanging out. things should just happen naturally, wait till she starts needing you and then ask. ... (read in full...)
Just a caring friend, or is he actually interested in me?
Q. I like this guy who is just fantastic. Really nice and smart and funny and sweet. Anyway, I'm not really sure if he likes me but in the past few weeks he has made a lot of effort to see me and speak to me. He is a mate but recently he has been ...
A. 9 June 2006: sounds to me like this guy is a bit shy... ask him some where where itll just be you and him and then who knows. kiss him and see what he does. you have to take chances to achieve in life...... (read in full...)
I'm bi-curious. Can someone tell me what it's like to be with another woman?
Q. I'm bi-curious... I've looked at other girls and I know it is normal for most teens (I am 18) but I keep wondering what it would be like to be touched by another woman... When women have sex with each other what do they do?...
A. 9 June 2006: youll never know until you try but only a women can touch you in the right places because they know exactly where they are.... (read in full...)
BF of 3.5 years was with me but phoning other girls!
Q. Hi, I was with my guy for 3 1/2 yrs. I was always very jealous and suspected him of two timing with his female friends. I lived far away from him, he always stayed at mine and met my family.I was an open book,but he never introduced me to his family ...
A. 9 June 2006: youknow whats funny is that iv been there except mine was a year and then one day he just left me and went overseas to grow meanwhile he went to another girl and now he wont talk to me at all.
guys are pigs, they have no feelings for anyone e... (read in full...)
I want my own life, but I do want my baby to know it's father!
Q. Im having a baby very soon. The baby's dad left me as soon I fell pregnant and is now happily attached to a new woman. When he left he told me i should find someone new to bring up the baby and that he didnt want any contact with it. Now he has chan...
A. 9 June 2006: te guym you were with is in the wrong here he should understand that the baby needs it s father. maybe your ex will fall in love with the baby and then fall back in love with you...anything is possible when a child is born...... (read in full...)
I got pregnant but I had sex with two guys
Q. i have a question i had my last period the 8th of january to the 14th . I broke up with my ex january 8 and then got pregnant in january the doctor said but my ultrasound is exaclty 2 weeks off the doctor said thats ok i keep on worrying cause i had ...
A. 9 June 2006: id say your ex is the father but you can always get a paternity test when the baby is born?
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I don't know how to tell him I'm scared about getting pregnant, what should I do?
Q. i'm 15yrs old and my boyfriend is 23 he's already got a daughter, and i've been pregnant before but miscarried. when we have sex he doesn't use condoms and i don't want to get pregnant again, he says he wants me to have his kids but only when i'm ...
A. 9 June 2006: firstly this relationship of yours is not even legal, you are far too yopung to be having sex never mind sex withjout protection!! if you sit your boyfriend down and tell him how you feel he should understand. why dont you just go on the pill??
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Too late for the morning after pill...and early on my period!!!
Q. me and my bf are both 15 we had sex without protection 3days ago so its 2 late for the morning afta pill he tried to pull out b4 he came but im sure theres sum up there im on my period but its 2weeks early cud i still be pregnant plz help ...
A. 9 June 2006: your too young too be having sex without protection. yes you could be pregnant, i had my period for 2 months then i found out i was 3.5weeks pregnant! go get a test and then remember every action has its consequinces.
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How can I get this boy to notice me?
Q. Hi. I really like this guy and I think he likes me too. He just doesn't seem that interested in having a girlfriend at the moment. What can I do to get him to notice me - really notice me??????????...
A. 9 June 2006: get a new haircut or start wearing your hair differently. start being realy friendly towards him and his friends. start going places where you know he might be and where you may just bump into him. just start being a more friendly and appealing ... (read in full...)
I want to stay secret with our mutual friend, but I also want to know what my Ex is up to!
Q. Right, this is my situation, I've written in several times pertaining to my breakup from my ex. I haven't contacted him or sent emails nor texts to regain my dignity and self respect, and it's so damn hard, it feels like months. I'm trying to r...
A. 8 June 2006: just spek to him and tell hi mthat you want nothing to do with your ex and that your ex has no right to know who you do and d ont talk to anymore. its your life now, so go out and enjoy it girl!... (read in full...)
Am I going off my girlfriend, or is this just a bad time for us?
Q. I am having a very confusing time of late. I have been with my girlfriend for 6 months and up until about 4 and a half months, and had been really happy. I still am, but it doesn't feel as much which I'm confused about. In late March, I was feel...
A. 8 June 2006: maybe you need time apart so you can decide whats up and exacty what you want. maybe the problem is that you are not allowing yourself any alone time and there fore you are rejecting yourself but taking it out in your feelings towards her?
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I'm not quite sure if I'm reading too much into going out with him since he has a girlfriend...
Q. I have a slight issue-arranged to go out with this guy (as friends!) next week. The other day I was out with my friends and spotted him from a far and sent him a message telling him I was also there, he sent me one back saying he couldnt meet me ...
A. 8 June 2006: seems to me that boy wants more then just a friendy get together.
watch out you may just be playing with fire.... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 8 June 2006: he is a spitefull, disgusting, pig of a man in my opinion! how dare he hurt you like that! id press charges, he has probably done that before so you'll prob be doing other woman a favor!... (read in full...)
I felt like she did trust me by what she told me....what's going on?
Q. Please can people help me because im kind of confused. I was talking to this girl online and she was telling me about how she got depressed and that she was once in love and told me about it and how it ended in heartbreak. The next week i asked her ...
A. 8 June 2006: maybe she just needed to get it out.
everyone needs to talk sometimes otherwise they bottle everything inside and get even more depressed then before... (read in full...)
In love with one guy but thinking about somebody else
Q. I have two questions...firstly I think I am in love with my brother's best friend. He is 25 and I am 19. I asked him out once in an email, but it was just after he had split up with his girlfriend and he said it wasnt the right time. I have seen him ...
A. 8 June 2006: try again with you rbrothers friend, maybe he just feels a little awkward coz ur his best friends little sis.
secondly, leave that guy be dont get involved because then someone will get hurt even if its not you his girlfriend will get hurt and... (read in full...)
Abused as a 6-year-old, but the abuse came from a woman!
Q. I was abused when I was 6 years old. The thing is, it was done to me by a woman. I told my boyfriend about the abuse (as there were certain things I don't like doing because of what happened to me) and he automatically assumed it was a man that had ...
A. 8 June 2006: anyone of any sex can sexually abuse someone. i believe you should tell him everything and then maybe he can help you over come that. abuse is one of those terrible things in life that leaves perminant scares and im sure your boyfriend will be ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and never had a boyfriend! Am I just too old, or too intimidating?
Q. Dear Cupid: I'm a 20 yrs. old female and have never, and I mean NEVER, had a boyfriend. I've been told I'm attractive by several guys; in fact, yeah, I feel attractive...so, appearance doesn't seem to be the problem. Two years ago, I managed t...
A. 8 June 2006: maybe you should take a chance and ask a guy you fancy out! maybe they are scared they dont match up to your standard or something. start going to knew places and mixing wityh different crowds.
its never too late for you to find love or love to ... (read in full...)
My ex and I aren't in good terms, but should I send the picutre of my pregnancy scan anyways?
Q. hi i just wanted some opinions.i am 13weeks pregnant and have recently had my scan although me and my ex fell out over the fact i am pregnant and have not spoken since do u think it would be a good or bad idea to send him the picture of my scan...
A. 8 June 2006: a good idea due to the fact that he must pay child support. surely he wants to see the liottle life he is going to be paying towards every month for the rest of his life...
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I just want friends, but it isn't happening.... I need advice please!
Q. in skool i am always alone n i neva have any1 to talk 2 but when i do talk to this one girl called lucy her 'friend' victoria says im tryin 2 steal her. But all i wanna do is make friends. also i am being bullied by victoria and a girl called s...
A. 8 June 2006: what you need is a big sister.
life is s o hard when your young, i too had no friends at school but then i went to college and now i have too many friends. maybe you just need a self esteem boost...
tell me more about your school life and any... (read in full...)
Great relationship, and we live together. Will he ever want to marry me?
Q. I have been with the same person for 2 years and 7 months. When we met, we were both going through divorces. My divorce was 2 years in the making and his only a few months. I had fallen completely in love with him within a couple of month. It ...
A. 8 June 2006: your man needs to step up or ship out but maybe he is just not ready yet...
everything takes time...
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Friends-with-benefits. Will he be put off if I ring him for a booty call?
Q. Truthfully, when in a friends-with-benefits relationship, do guys prefer to still be the one to call the girl for a booty call? I figure, since we're both using each other, technically it's OK if I call or text sometimes, since it's not about like ...
A. 8 June 2006: absolutely! if guys can do it all the time so can we. girls also have needs and wants not only guys so go for it...
after all, what do you have to lose??... (read in full...)
We broke up and are back to being mates, but I want more!
Q. Me and my ex are close and have been fighting a bit lately, as we have only just broke up really. But we are now back to mates. I really want more. I know he likes me still but should I stay mates for a while and see what happens or tell him how ...
A. 8 June 2006: iv always said that a life long friendship is better than s short regret filled relationship...
think about it carefully. in the end its up to you.
just follown your heart and everything will be ok... (read in full...)
Not even dating a year yet, and my boyfriend has proposed! What do I do?
Q. I am 17 and my boyfriend is 18 and he recently asked me to marry him! We've only been going out for 11 months and I love him but I'm only 17 and have my whole life ahead of me, plus he's in the Marines. I'm really confused. I dont know what to ...
A. 8 June 2006: you are really lucky to have a guy that is so committed to you. just because your engaged doesn't mean you have to get engaged this year or even next year. you could get married in 5 years if you want. being engaged is just the next step to a ... (read in full...)
What kind of penis would women rather have?
Q. What is it that women prefer when having sex with a man? A long penis is or a thick one (in diameter)?...
A. 8 June 2006: if a women loves a guy then it shouldnt matter. but the thicker it is the more it hurts because its more pressure. the longer it is the deeper it can go which can be good and also a bit painfull. it depends what the girl wants...... (read in full...)
What is emo?
Q. Im sorry if this offends people like it did when i asked this girl. I asked her 'what is an emo'... and she was saying she didn't want to tell me because everyone called it her when she kept on saying that she wasn't. So can any one else here tell ...
A. 8 June 2006: it probably means someone who is loose. or someone who isnt a virgin. just go to her and say that your sorry if you affended her but you actually have no clue what it means and you were just curious.
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