How can I avoid being so eager towards him, so ready to "fall in love" and experience all that goes with it?
Q. Hey aunts, I've got guy troubles again. It's nothing too serious, but I find I'm getting a little down about it. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We go places together, hang out, and sometimes make out. Nothing is o...
A. 31 March 2008: hey bitterblue
thanks for the indepth answer. it has given me some things to think over.
1. i supose i am afraid that he doesnt like me that much. ive recently realised i am a little insecure which suprises me because i never used to notice m... (read in full...)
How can I avoid being so eager towards him, so ready to "fall in love" and experience all that goes with it?
Q. Hey aunts, I've got guy troubles again. It's nothing too serious, but I find I'm getting a little down about it. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We go places together, hang out, and sometimes make out. Nothing is o...
A. 31 March 2008: hiya jaymil,
thank you for your helpful answer.
i've learned from experience that guys get claustrophobic and run for the hills if you want too much too soon. that's why im trying to act casual and just take it as it comes with this guy im sorta... (read in full...)
I just want to be accepted by them...
Q. Ugh, this is so unfair. Bascially I'm 16 and I'm not a loser or anything. I do have friends and I'm socially accepted. I just don't hangout with anyone much. whyyyyyyy?? I try to initiate a time where we can hangout but really it doesn't ...
A. 30 March 2008: its hard to meet just to "hang out" sometimes. try and organise an activity that you can all participate in while hanging out. like, laser gaming/paintballing, going to the beach, having a bbq. stuff like that. i find that when i meet with friends ... (read in full...)
I'm 25 and my parents have banned me from seeing my boyfriend, where can we meet in private?
Q. Ridiculous as it sounds, I'm 25 and my parents have banned me from seeing my boyfriend. They're very snobby and he is from a less priviliged background and they don't think he is good enough for me. We had been seeing each other 6 months befor...
A. 29 March 2008: "Why is this website so rubbish for answers?"
Because we try and help you with the WHOLE problem, not just find temporary solutions.
If you only wanted to recieve suggestions about places to meet, you should have made it very clear. If you gi... (read in full...)
I found him in bed with another girl..we split, now he wants to get back together..Should I forgive and forget ?
Q. I've been really impressed with this site so far, so I'm hoping that maybe someone out there can give me some advice, or share a similar story... I met my last boyfriend about 8 months ago, and we clicked immediately. We had text book compatabili...
A. 28 March 2008: Hey Charmmy,
Thanks for updating us. I'm glad to hear you are doing so well. You sound very positive and strong. Well done. I'm sure you will bounce back fully in no time at all.
Take care
Scythe
xox... (read in full...)
His comments about other women make me feel insecure, and I want to be more confident!
Q. Am a 48 year old, attractive, intelligent woman. I have been seeing this wonderful man for 4 months. Just back from holiday with him. On occasions when we are out, he'll say things like "that barmaid was gorgeous, wish I could take her home" or ...
A. 28 March 2008: My dad makes comments like this infront of my mom and the rest of our family. Mom's just gotten over it by now I supose.
However, since you are dating and not married to him, I suggest you try and sort this out.
Tell him that you understand t... (read in full...)
I do all the work in my relationship with moody girlfriend
Q.
its seems in my relationship i do all the work! my girlfriend has become very moody lately, she will constanly get in a mood over nothing and some very trivial stuff. so i will try my best to please her and sort things out. Its seems one sided to ...
A. 21 March 2008: I'm a chick and I have recently been getting mood swings around the guy I'm seeing.
I know it't not normal and not natural and he shouldn't have to put up with me being like this so I thought I'de do some research.
After reading all the ... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 20 March 2008: Hey cutie_babe12
I spose it is slightly sick. But I'm to relieved to be mad at him. I did run over his foot, it's just not broken.... (read in full...)
The meaning of a Woman's Silence
Q. There is this girl who often flirted with me which I have recently grown to like. We corresponded on several occasions, but have never dated. Our conversations were always light and funny. We always complimented one another. Naturally, she is ...
A. 19 March 2008: maybe shes depressed about the tragic nature of your circumstances - you said you guys can never be together.... (read in full...)
I can't keep a straight face
Q. I work with a girl who I am really interested in, even though we've never had a proper conversation. So, I want to ask her to go for a drink with me and get to know her better. The problem is that I can't think about her, let alone look at her or ...
A. 19 March 2008: i think she looks down/stares at the floor when you look at her because she likes you too. she might even be trying to hide her own cheesy grin. i know that i used to do this when a guy i like looked at me.
don't worry about smiling when you talk... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Ok guys, I've got some great news
Firstly I'de like to say a thank you for giving me some sanity this morning when I was miserable (morbid is a good description, Toasty).
Basically, the three guys in question walked into the shop I work in t... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Hey Collaroy,
I know I will eventually laugh at this but right now its too depressing.
Ok - I just found out how bad it is. He needs surgery and can't walk for 4 weeks. I am an idiot... sigh. He's talking to me politely on msn. I spose that's s... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Hi Toasty,
Scythe isn't my real name (I wish!) but it is indeed spiffy (spiffy is an awesome word).
Ummm thanks.. yeah I'm totally stumped. And we were just getting close (its taken a month!) and then I go and run over his foot. One of his... (read in full...)
I accidentally ran over my potential boyfriends foot. Where to go from here????
Q. Hey aunts, I really need your help, advice and wisdom here. It's complicated, but basically there is this guy I'm seeing/dating. We've been seeing each other for about a month now. Last night we went out for Saint Patrick's day. It felt like we ...
A. 18 March 2008: Thanks SouthernBelle,
I love how you aunt's always take my side, but I'm feeling so guilty and horrible right now that I can't think bad of him.
I just rang Interflora Flowers to get a quote on delivering flowers. Do you think thats too much? ... (read in full...)
Am I being stupid for getting upset coz we aint even an item?
Q. Hiya! There is this guy i really like, we aint in a relationship but we meet up whenever he has time and shows alot of affection etc. Been doing this for 5 months. well what it is he has gone away to ireland for 4 days with the guys, he will be...
A. 8 March 2008: hey darl,
i've just entered a similar relationship and its been going on for about a month.
i think that guys our age will act like guys our age - so dont expect him to be an angel while he is away, even though you would like him to. especial... (read in full...)
I love a song, but it reminds me of a bad time in my life. How can I stop associating it with a bad incident?
Q. I have a bit of a strange question. The answer is probably as simple as I think it is, but if somebody could guide me further, it'd be great. There's this song. The first time I heard it, I loved it straight away. I listened to it over and over, I...
A. 7 March 2008: in highschool was going through a rebellious and difficult stage, i used to listen to an album by good charlotte over and over again. recently, i listened to it again for the first time in a few years. when i first heard the songs, they conjured up ... (read in full...)
He snubbed me but said something was weighing on his mind, should I try and help him?
Q. Hey aunts, this is a bit long and confusing but please stick with me here :) There is this guy I met a few weeks back... we had sarcastic and flirty conversations, and he saw me every day for 4 days (he was really persistant), one of which was spe...
A. 3 March 2008: Thank you for your opinions Ask_oldersister and Laura. I never really thought of it like that, I supose I always try and give people the benefit of the doubt.
In reply to his message I asked him what was wrong and if he wanted to talk about it... (read in full...)
How can I make him understand that this is a pointless argument?
Q. I had a fight with my BF. He gets so upset each time the issue is brought up, but he's the one who brings it up so there's no way for me to stop it. Anyway... I had a friend with benefits when I was 15, and years later, he introduced me to...
A. 29 February 2008: Wow, he sounds extremely pigheaded honey! Since you appear to have put up a fairly conclusive argument and he still doesn't agree, I'de say that he will never see things your way. He is just being stubborn and trying to make himself feel better by ... (read in full...)
Does anyone find French Kissing weird or are you ok with it? (done right)
Q. Does anyone on here NOT like to French Kiss? I have met some people who don't like to and I find that pretty disturbing and weird. I am talking GOOD, sensual, non-sloppy kissing when each partner has clean teeth and good breath. This can be ...
A. 29 February 2008: That's alright, it's what we're here for. What exaclty did you have in mind when you asked this question?... (read in full...)
Does anyone find French Kissing weird or are you ok with it? (done right)
Q. Does anyone on here NOT like to French Kiss? I have met some people who don't like to and I find that pretty disturbing and weird. I am talking GOOD, sensual, non-sloppy kissing when each partner has clean teeth and good breath. This can be ...
A. 28 February 2008: A while ago, I absolutely hated french kissing. I didn't get turned on or enjoy it at all. However, I do like it now if it is with a guy I love and care for. So I supose you could say that I only like french kissing if there is an emotional ... (read in full...)
I found him in bed with another girl..we split, now he wants to get back together..Should I forgive and forget ?
Q. I've been really impressed with this site so far, so I'm hoping that maybe someone out there can give me some advice, or share a similar story... I met my last boyfriend about 8 months ago, and we clicked immediately. We had text book compatabili...
A. 27 February 2008: Wow honey, thats a tough one - especially because you thought you might eventually get married to him.
But since you are questioning yourself about if you are even still in love with him, I'de say this indicates your heart isn't fully there an... (read in full...)
Which is usually the best pillar for a decision, ration or sentiments?
Q. I made a big decision after fighting my head with my heart for some time. I chose to go with what my head was telling me after months of questioning what I should do. The actual day of my decision I had felt the strongest, that what I chose was the ...
A. 26 February 2008: Usually your head makes the smartest choices, which are not always pleasant. But when you choose with your heart it always hurts more, wether at the time or later on.
To love and loose or not love at all?
Sometimes there isn't a right answer. ... (read in full...)
Does anyone out there agree with staying a virgin until they are married?
Q. heyx I was just curious, is there anyone out there that agrees with me when i say i want to stay a virgin til im married? Does anyone think thats good? Im 15, and believe that you shouldnt have sex untill you have had your wedding. do you think th...
A. 24 February 2008: I agree with you darl. It is a good idea, and it's definately not pathetic. I'm 18 and I believe in this philosophy too. I see two main rewards for waiting until you are married:
1. Your first time will be with someone who loves and cares for you ... (read in full...)
Should I ask her out! help me
Q. I need help really badly, as I feel emotional right now, but theres a girl I've known, she joined my uni last year before summer, and she sat across the classroom from me, and we looked at each other a lot, first week I did ignore it, but the next ...
A. 23 February 2008: wow... you're so kind and honest. i think that if you explain to her that you want to be closer to her, but you are worried about causing problems for her, she will see how sincere and considerate you are and you guys can work from there.
sitti... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 17 February 2008: To O Connor
I always thought you shouldn't need to talk about it, and so I just assumed me and my "ex" were a couple. I mean, we did all the coupley things, went on dates, went out with friends together, were intimate (not sex), he invited ... (read in full...)
After how many dates should you discuss your relationship?
Q. If you go on a few dates with someone new, and see them alot during the week, talk on the phone, go over each other's houses etc - would you be bf/gf? I was wondering, what is the usual amount of time before you should start assuming you are...
A. 16 February 2008: I'm not refering to anyone at present, but about a past relationship that went wrong. I assumed we were a couple but he evidently had other ideas.
Just wanted some insight into what I should assume next time :)... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to wish my ex "Happy Birthday"?
Q. I was wondering what you would do in this situation: I went out with a guy during January this year. He was my first boyfriend (I'm 18). We were strangers, but we worked at the same place, and he was the one who asked me out. A couple of weeks ...
A. 15 February 2008: Hey again,
Thank you sugar_sugar and Jamer_07 for the advice. I think you are right in your assumption, sugar_sugar about guys that age.
However, in the end I decided to send the message, "Happy Birthday :)" anyway. Thanks for the suggestions ... (read in full...)
Would it be wrong to wish my ex "Happy Birthday"?
Q. I was wondering what you would do in this situation: I went out with a guy during January this year. He was my first boyfriend (I'm 18). We were strangers, but we worked at the same place, and he was the one who asked me out. A couple of weeks ...
A. 13 February 2008: Thanks for the advice guys.
I still haven't decided what to do yet.
Last night I had a dream that we got back together (basically I saw him and we held hands) and it felt really nice. But then I remember the times that we never talked and... (read in full...)
Site News: We hit another milestone :-)
Q. For the first time we broke the 400,000 visitors mark over the past month! We had 412,222 people visit the site from Jan 13th 08 - Feb 14th 08 according to google analytics! Thanks to all the mods, the aunts and everyone who shares their pro...
A. 13 February 2008: Awesome :D Thank*you* for giving us this brilliant website.... (read in full...)
What to do about telling my mum
Q. I am wondering if I should tell my mum about this new guy im dating. I am 18 years old and yes I know that since I am an adult I do not have to tell her, but it would be nice to be able to open up to her and have her blessing. And also my mum is ...
A. 13 February 2008: Hey there, You sound alot like me two months ago. Except I never had a boyfriend before (I'm 18 too). I can understand your nervous about telling her that you are dating again. You sound very mature and have thought this through alot, so I don't... (read in full...)
Does he miss ME or having girl company?
Q. hey aunts Just wondering, how do you know if you're over your ex boyfriend? I mean, we were dating for 2 years and after 2 days of crying I stopped.. it was only when I really really thought about him which made me sad.. Then even though he ...
A. 13 February 2008: Wow.. he's sending some mixed messages here.
Did you break up with him, or did he break up with you?
I find that if you do the breaking up, then you're not usually as sad as if you got broken up with. Also - you can care about a person but n... (read in full...)
What shall I do if it gets to the point where he wants sex??
Q. Ive been dating this guy for about 5 months now and here it comes.. hes 18.. im 14 . yes i know thats a big age gap but i really love him .. Everything has been great so far but lately we have been talking about sex alot (i have a extremely perverte...
A. 13 February 2008: hey honey!
i read your followup.
well done! im so glad you told him the truth. and now you've found out that he genuinely cares about you.
take care :)
xox... (read in full...)
Is it normal for my pubic hair to spread up to to my belly button??
Q. I'm going through puberty and my pubic hair is growing up by my belly button. i find this so embarrassing! I also have armpit leg and nipple hair and this is also so embarrassing. I try to avoid getting my shirt of at school and on holiday because ...
A. 11 February 2008: It is perfectly normal. Some people have more/darker hair than others. But most guys and some girls will have exaclty the same hair growth.
Don't be embarassed, it's just hair :) As long as you smell nice it shouldn't matter.... (read in full...)
Do I forfeit university to stay with him???
Q. I recently posted a question about my boyfriend ignoring me for the last 2 weeks, well I actually found out why, I have recently been accepted to a really good university which is 4 hours away from our home. He really doesn't want me to go, and ...
A. 11 February 2008: Hey darl,
I don't think he respects you enough. Imagine, if you do forgo uni and end up married, what it will be like. You might try and get a job but then he makes you choose between him and the job. This pattern might continue for the rest of ... (read in full...)
What was going through his mind? I feel completely rejected and bitter.
Q. Why would a guy tell you he " can't do the relationship thing at the moment " yet he carries on seeing you cos he apparently likes you sooo much, develops a bit of an obssession with you though technically you can only be 'friends'. Then, suddenly ...
A. 11 February 2008: Hey honey,
The same thing happened to me recently. It was my first relationship (I'm 18). Basically we dated, got touchy feely pretty fast (no sex), acted like gf/bf (he invited me round for dinner with his parents!) and then I get a text message ... (read in full...)
What shall I do if it gets to the point where he wants sex??
Q. Ive been dating this guy for about 5 months now and here it comes.. hes 18.. im 14 . yes i know thats a big age gap but i really love him .. Everything has been great so far but lately we have been talking about sex alot (i have a extremely perverte...
A. 11 February 2008: Honey, I've been there too and the only thing you can do is be honest. Tell him that you feel you are too young and are scared to have sex. Tell him no. Then see what he thinks. I know you are afraid of losing him, but I'm going to tell you ... (read in full...)
How to get over your EX.
Q. BACKGROUND Following breaking up with my EX a couple of months ago I’ve been finding it extremely hard to get over her. Sometimes I think about her still and I seem to go through periods of wanting her back, only to then go through periods ...
A. 10 February 2008: Hey,
Thanks for taking the time to share this great advice. I've recently experienced my first serious break-up (I'm 18) and I've been left really lost and confused. I've been through this before, so your article has really helped me get some per... (read in full...)
Looking to finally move on...
Q. I have been single now for about 4 weeks, I ended a 13 month relationship for the 2nd time and this time for good. The last time I eneded it we got back to together in about 4 days. I have gone through the hurt and the anger and now find myself at ...
A. 9 February 2008: I think that you should give yourself some more time before you start looking for someone else. I know I'm not you, but 4 weeks seems like a short amount of time.. you might still be on the rebound.
You don't necessarily have to share *all* yo... (read in full...)
I'm a 20yr old male virgin, am I weird?
Q. Hi, would this make people think i'm weird. i'm 20, about to turn 21, and basically i have had no experience with intimacy. Like i've never even kissed anyone intimately, let alone had sex. I've been kissed but thats when i was heaps younger, and it ...
A. 5 February 2008: hey there,
i think it's awesome too. there is absolutely nothing wrong with not having many intimate experiences. if you feel this may cause problems in a relationship, simply inform your partner of your history and then work from there. have fun... (read in full...)
I'm clueless as to how to tell if someone is genuinely interested in you as a person or if they are just trying to use you.
Q. A few months ago I ended a long term relationship. So newly single, I've been meeting new people. There is this one person I am interested in but when I rationally look at his personality and lifestyle, I know that it would be really hard for a ...
A. 4 February 2008: I think the fact that you are suspicious and wary should be an indication. If you feel like leaving every day then there isn't much point getting involved with him. And if you feel used then regardless of if he is using you or not, you still *feel* ... (read in full...)
Found out I was the rebound girl. Has this happened to you?
Q. Hey aunts, Yesterday I found out that the guy I have been seeing over the past month (my first boyfriend) was using me as a rebound girl. He had apparently just come out of an intense relationship and only wanted to have fun with me. It came as q...
A. 4 February 2008: Hey DevilishAngel, thanks for the answer. Flavour of the week certainly does count. Omg he had a fiance?! Geez, where do these guys come from! I can't believe that people can be so selfish.
Exercise is a great distraction :) And I'm sure I'll for... (read in full...)
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