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My roommate wants to have a both sexes sleepover! I don't!

Q.   My roommate wants to have a... sleepover of all things. We're both 20 so it feels kind of weird. It's a small apartment too and she wants to invite a whole bunch of people including guys! I'm not that comfortable around guys in the first place, ...

A.   13 December 2008: If you have a lock on your bedroom door, I suggest you place everything valuble (sentimental or otherwise) from your apartment into your room, lock it, and perhaps sleep at your parents/friends place for the night? It seems very unfair that she has ... (read in full...)

How to convince her not to doubt our future so much? We are good together now.

Q.   Alright so heres the deal. Me and my girlfriend used to be friends for a few years before we decided to move it to the next level. Now we've been together for almost a year and its been great..up until recently i havent had any worries. At the...

A.   2 December 2008: Well try telling her that in 5 years she might be looking towards children and neither of you will be spending as much time in clubs or pubs - more like family friendly places. As long as you both make an effort to fit in with the others friends and ... (read in full...)

What birth control makes your breasts grow?

Q.   I have been on yasmin for about 9 months now and im still getting period pains so i friend who is a pharmacist recommended that i go on Diane, just wondering if anyone is on it does it make your breasts grow? And has Yasmin made anyones? i have had ...

A.   27 November 2008: I started yasmin earlier this year (never been on birth control pills before) and my cup size increased from a B to a C. I think it is mostly water retention though. I've now switched to levlen and the effect is still the same. Everyone has ... (read in full...)

I'm in love... and I HATE it!

Q.   I hate feeling this way, I'm in love and I HATE it... I think it's because my parents split up after 30 years together so it's drilled it into my head that nothing lasts and eventually everything will crash and burn. I hate to let my guard down and...

A.   18 November 2008: My parents have sort of drilled the "nothing lasts" into my head too which I hate. However, you are not your parents. You choose who you love and how long you love for. Don't let other people tell you that your relationships won't last. Go your own ... (read in full...)

Any tips for doing a good back massage?

Q.   I really want to give my boyfriend a good back massage-the last time didnt go very well as it was my first time doing it. Any tips?...

A.   18 November 2008: Try different movements with your palms and fingers, and vary the pressure. Ask him "does this feel good" or tell him to nod if he likes a certain action. Feedback is good! ... (read in full...)

What should I say or do to get my necklace back without being suspicious?

Q.   I have been seeing this new guy for a few months now, and we are doing really good so far. I have recently found myself in an awkward position though and I need some help. I am best friends with my ex-boyfriend (don't worry he has a girl now) and we ...

A.   18 November 2008: The best advice has been given to you already. Tell the truth to both of them. You will be embarrassed and they might both be annoyed at you, but it will pass. On the other hand, you could just nick the necklace and toss it into the nearest ... (read in full...)

He doesn't need to use a condom, how can we find a compromise?!

Q.   Hi aunts, I need some ideas from you. My partner of 6 months and I enjoy what we think is a healthy sex life. I am on the pill and take it between 6.30 and 7am every morning (rain, hail or shine). The problem is, my partner insists on putti...

A.   12 November 2008: Thanks for your thoughtful replies :) I like the umbrella analogy. I lost my virginity to him, but I have also been tested for STD's. He had one previous partner before me and he offered to get tested but based on his history I didn't pressure... (read in full...)

These rides to work are really pissing me off!

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 21 years. He has started a new job and is giving a female co-worker a ride to and from work. He picks her and her kids up in the am and takes the kids to daycare. Then after work around 3:30 he hangs out ...

A.   31 October 2008: I don't understand why he would prefer to quit his job?! Men! Well done for confronting him, and letting him know where you stand. I admire you for that. I hope he realizes that he has been making a huge mistake, and works with you to turn thi... (read in full...)

I want some sort of commitment from her, is her moving in with me the answer?

Q.   Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now and we have had mostly a very good and happy relationship but there has been one thing that has been missing and that is us living together, I asked her after 2 years if she would move in wi...

A.   17 October 2008: Well done mate, that takes strength. I hope you find the answers you need. Take care and keep us updated... (read in full...)

Do other girls have hairy breasts?

Q.   Right I have a bit of a problem I have some hairs on my breasts and although their not like armpit hairs or anything I think their quite noticable am I the only one with this problem or do other people have hairs aswell??? ...

A.   13 October 2008: Yep, I do. It's natural and normal. Most people have fine, barely noticable hair all over their body (depends on your ethnicity). I have slightly larger hairs around my nipples.. i tent to pluck the obvious ones out, but the rest can stay. Its ... (read in full...)

I want some sort of commitment from her, is her moving in with me the answer?

Q.   Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now and we have had mostly a very good and happy relationship but there has been one thing that has been missing and that is us living together, I asked her after 2 years if she would move in wi...

A.   12 October 2008: I'm happy for you that she finally told you a decent reason for her actions. However, you are still stuck waiting for her... It might be easier to wait now that you know the reason. Give it a go. And maybe ask her for a compromise about the 'sta... (read in full...)

I want some sort of commitment from her, is her moving in with me the answer?

Q.   Hi, I have been with my girlfriend for over 5 years now and we have had mostly a very good and happy relationship but there has been one thing that has been missing and that is us living together, I asked her after 2 years if she would move in wi...

A.   10 October 2008: I'm with AskOldersister on this one... perhaps SHE wants some form of commitment too? Perhaps talk to her about what each of you consider commitment to be (ie: you = living together) and she might surprise you with her answer. Talk about it!... (read in full...)

I need gift ideas for this female friend. Any tips?

Q.   Hey all, I'm just wanting to know gift ideas (preferrably comments from girls). I have a good friend I have known for almost 4 years. I've always liked her a lot, but thought I was out of her league, about this time last year I found out she ha...

A.   30 September 2008: Make her a card, with a pic of her pet/fav pic/hobby on the front, or even a pic of the two of you. She seems to like gifts that have sentimental value and are personal, so dont buy a generic card. Its hard to recommend a gift for a person like this ... (read in full...)

How can I feel I have purpose on the planet?

Q.   How can I feel I have purpose on the planet? When I was in high school, I was a big dreamer. Oh, how I was going to change the world!! I didn't have many friends, didn't party, and didn't date. I didn't really have opportunities to date and was ...

A.   24 September 2008: I can relate to the feeling expired part.. when I was in highschool the future looked so bright and I could become anything, go anywhere and just be far from where I am now! It's not all that bad though, sometimes we have unrealistic expectations. ... (read in full...)

Occasional intimacy issues, need advice from the ladies

Q.   I've been dating a girl I really like for 3 months now. We decided we want to be exclusive with each other. We're both mid-to late 20's. We get along GREAT, she hasnt been in a r'ship in 3 yrs (because she claims to not have found a guy she wants ...

A.   9 September 2008: I too have had my thyroid out, and am on thyroxine for the rest of my life. I never realised it might be effecting my moods, emotions and sex life! I must do some research! Anyway, back to your question... Firstly it sounds like she doesn't ... (read in full...)

Why can't I bring myself to tell her "I love you"?

Q.   I'm in hs and my girlfriend and I have been together for almost a year. We are close and in the early stages of our relationship use to tell each other that we liked each other a lot. Now I feel like I love her... not necessarily that she is the one ...

A.   8 September 2008: It's a tough one hey.. I find myself in a similar position. I do love my boyfriend and I've told him before and he tells me too, but sometimes I look him in the eye and want to say it, but it just doesn't feel right or I can't bring myself to say ... (read in full...)

Beard or Sheared?

Q.   I am trying to get close to girl at the moment and am hoping to make a move over the few times we go out but i am wondering if i should shave. I have about 10 days worth of growth and like to keep it that way because i think i look far too young ...

A.   5 September 2008: it all comes down to personal preference!! seriously :) my boyfriend kept shaving when we first started dating because he was afraid i wouldnt like his beard or stubble. infact, i absolutely love it now that he has let it grow a bit. from 1-5 days... (read in full...)

Do you think I'm spending too much on her so soon?

Q.   My girl's bday is coming up. We've been together for a little under a year. I was thinking of taking her to a $$$$ place for dinner(est $300 for 2), I'm wondering if that is too much too soon. I also bought her a gift that cost $100. Should I take ...

A.   1 September 2008: Hmm, perhaps both the resturant AND the gift seem like alot, but then again me and my partner's bithdays are comin up (3 days apart) and ive spend around.... $150 on gifts for him (im turning 19 he is turning 23) and im guessing he has bought me a ... (read in full...)

Help Being emotionally supportive?

Q.   I am currently in a relationship with the most wonderful woman. We've been going out for almost two years now and ive been the happiest man alive. Untill the other day. For a while ive noticed something was wrong but put it down to stress as she...

A.   1 September 2008: Emilysanswers has given you some good advice. Also, you should try and open YOURSELF up to her. Talk to her about your worries, fears, joys, etc. I don't mean that you should come home after a bad day at work and start waffling on about how bad it ... (read in full...)

I don't get the popularity of the doggy style position! Care to shed some light?

Q.   Hi, I don't know if this is in the right section What makes doggy style so enjoyable for people? Me and my boyfriend have tried it a few times, I personally don't like it because I find it too impersonal and it doesn't do anything for me...

A.   28 August 2008: I'm in the same boat as you, and so is by bf by the sounds of it. Who knows! It's another of those undecipherable guy things :P... (read in full...)

She's a virgin and we can't have sex because it hurts her too much. Any tips?

Q.   Alright, so me and my girlfriend are getting hot and bothered and ready to have sex, catch is, she's a virgin. So I try to be gentle and all, because I hear it's sometimes really painful. I try, she says "OW!" really loud and I stop because I don't ...

A.   4 August 2008: "go in fast, and get out as fast as you can. This way it's not drawn out, and the pain of you stretching her out inside is also over fast." do not do this! ow! you should let her go on top, and gradually envelop you a little bit at a time, wi... (read in full...)

I am having a difficult time choosing between two men, I love, how do I make up my mind?

Q.   i have to choose between two men who i love but i am unsure which one to choose can anyone help with this ?...

A.   4 August 2008: pick guy B... duh... (read in full...)

Poll: When did you have your first kiss and the first relationship?

Q.   Hey just a quick thing. Can you guys/girls tell me when you had your first kiss and when you first had a boyfriend/girlfriend? I'm 16 and never been kissed, never had a boyfriend, nothing. Just wanna know when you guys/girls had your f...

A.   3 August 2008: hmmmmm i would say my first proper kiss (french kissing) was in breif "highschool" relationship (if you could even call it that) when i was in year 10, so i would have been 14 or 15 (woah i didnt realise i was that young!) and just for the record i ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to not enjoy sex after losing your virginity?

Q.   I was wondering if it is normal to not enjoy sex for the first 10 times after breaking the virginity?...

A.   28 July 2008: It's normal for me honey, I've had sex 6 times with my long term partner after recently loosing my virginity to him. The first 4 times hurt, and its only just starting to not hurt. However, its not physically a turn on which is quite dissapointing ... (read in full...)

Are girls turned off if guys have hairy asses?

Q.   I've been complemented on having a nice and big ass, but the thing girls don't realize that i have a hairy ass. So here's my question, is it a turn-off, or do girls mind if guys have hairy asses??...

A.   28 July 2008: nope, not if the girl in question cares about you. you're a guy.. it doesnt really matter if you have body hair. and if a girl does mind then i dont think shes the type of chick you wanna be with ... (read in full...)

How can I stop my hormones getting in the way of finding a great girl?

Q.   I am a teenage guy, sixteen years old now, and I want to find the right girl for me in the future. I find that hormones really get in the way of finding who I truly like for personality and who I like just because of sex. Can I find true love, or is ...

A.   21 July 2008: hey mate, well done on realising that your hormones are making you physically attracted to many girl who may or may not be right for you. since you've got common sense and seem to be a decent guy i think you will be able to find the right girl for... (read in full...)

How did you meet your partner?

Q.   Hi everyone, I've had a lot on my mind today so to lighten the mood I wanted to find out somthing dreamy. You see, every guy I have ever been with I have met after a big night at a party or the pub/club. Im not an alco or anything I just like (well ...

A.   15 July 2008: He was the nice guy, the one you'de never look at twice. He was too perfect, he had to be gay, right? We became friends through a car club. Being the only motor-minded girl among 20 revv-heads, I had my fair share of attention. He watched quietly ... (read in full...)

I need a female perspective: Should I contact her or not?

Q.   Hello, Preferably i would like a females view on this matter that has been through this experience or something similar. But guys, feel free to give your opinions. Me and my girlfriend split up about 6 weeks ago, she ended it because i was ma...

A.   4 July 2008: hmm your situation sounds very similar to what two of my good friends are going through. they had been going out for 6 or more years, but she recently broke it off with him because of his increasingly posessive and jealous behaviour. its sad because ... (read in full...)

Will I ever get a girl being a gentleman? I need some brotherly advice!

Q.   i recently got turned down by another girl for a date by a girl ive been friends with for years and normally id be fine but its how she did it that has me flustered, she said think of you as more of a big brother and someone who would stand up for ...

A.   1 July 2008: mate, just keep on being a gentleman and you will find the right girl for you - one who appreciates a man who respects them. dont change just because of one chick. personally, i was suprised when my boyfriend asked me out since he was a friend b... (read in full...)

How can I get him to initiate sex?

Q.   been with my boyfriend 4 years, and in the last 6 months or so have discovered it is mainly me that initiates sex, as soon as i touch him sexually or kiss him passionately he gets an errection so there is no problem with attraction (i dont think), ...

A.   1 July 2008: hey honey I have a similar problem with my boyfriend. It seems as though i am always initiating our sex related activities. The most he will do is kiss me occasionally on his own. He even won't be ontop without me asking. We haven't had full sex... (read in full...)

How do you sleep when your partner isn't there?

Q.   Not really a problem, just curious. This spring my girlfriend took a trip to see her family and she had been preparing her luggage and I noticed she had put in some t-shirts of mine. She frequently wears them as night shirts but there were from ...

A.   20 June 2008: I can't answer honestly because I don't have a long term partner, but I do like to borrow some possesion of my boyfriend (ie: jumper, gloves, beanie) because it reminds me of him (smell, or otherwise) but that might just be because its winter here ... (read in full...)

I am all confused about the way he feels about me!!

Q.   Last week I started talkin to this guy and we were really getting on well and i asked him if he was single and he said "yeh but im not really looking because ive just come out of a relationship" which was understandable and more or less the same as ...

A.   15 June 2008: try and not enter into a relationship with him too soon. you will only be his rebound girl. he has told you that he isnt ready for a new relationship, and he might have not gotten over his ex yet. you dont want to be the chick he uses to fill the ... (read in full...)

Do you think an Anime Convention would be a good place to meet girls with similar interests?

Q.   I have somewhat of a strange question but hopefully someone can answer. In a few weeks I will be attending an Anime Convention for 2 days, does anyone know if this would be a good place to find a girl due to similar interests in anime? I've foun...

A.   11 June 2008: yup yup, go for it mate :) be friendly and chatty, and you never know where it might lead. perhaps check out the convention earlier in the day and then offer to show some chicks that look lost around. try not to come onto anyone too hard or fast... (read in full...)

Is it true that what you say drunk is actually what you think sober?

Q.   Is it true what you say drunk is what you have been thinking when sober?...

A.   6 June 2008: hmmm based on personal experience i would say that drinking makes me say things i normally wouldnt say if i was sober. this includes lies and truths. i usually blab about secrets too. i think that alcohol can make you think things that aren't true, ... (read in full...)

Will I pee if I have an orgasm?

Q.   I have never had an orgasm before. When I think I am going to get one I have to go to the bathroom. They say that is what it feels like, but I really have to pee. Is their something wrong with me? Is their something that I can do in order to exper...

A.   4 June 2008: Try it again in the shower so then even if you do end up peeing its not such a big deal.... (read in full...)

Lately, I've been thinking. About relationships, love... What do you think we need in order to be satisfied in a relationship?

Q.   Lately, I've been thinking. Everyone here has an ideal type of relationship, different things work for different people; but, I do wonder, how many of us really get the things we want/have the type of relationships we enjoy. The golden standard ...

A.   25 May 2008: This is a really interesting and thought provoking question. I myself have often pondered if it is possible to be in a relationship where both parties love each other equally. In my experience I've found that one person in the relation... (read in full...)

I want our relationship to work but it's just the thought of her going to clubs that has overtaken me...

Q.   Hi I was with my girlfriend for a year and a half before, we split up and found different partners for about 4 months, you got back together and its been about 5 months now. I feel our relationship is collapsing and I can see it, well it is all ...

A.   9 April 2008: woah mate you sound just like my overprotective parents. firstly - a) you yourself are not 18 so you've never been in a nightclub right? how on earth can you tell her that you know what happens in there?? sure you might see the bad press on the n... (read in full...)

I have this lovely boyfriend but I hate kissing!

Q.   ok, this is really retarded!! I have this lovely boyfriend but I hate kissing! even just a tiny lil' peck on the check and I woud be so uncomfortable with it! We've french kissed once, but after that I was like no way am I doing that again! That ...

A.   8 April 2008: hey darl, i never used to like kissing at all. but as i grew closer to my (now ex) boyfriend, and developed a stronger emotional attachment, i found that i really enjoyed kissing. it might be easier for you to consider the other sexual stu... (read in full...)

He was "smitten" with me but now avoids me! Do I remind him of his psycho ex?!!

Q.   -He's friends with my friends and is a well known figure on campus, but we had never met until one night in dining hall. -We talked for a long time and after he left my friends told me how impressed they were with the chemistry ap...

A.   7 April 2008: woah, ok i nearly read it all.. so ill comment on the stuff i have read i think that when you told him there was an emergency, then you ignored him - was the point where he got sick of chasing you around. no offence or anything but you seem to ... (read in full...)

SITE NEWS: Over half a million visitors in March!

Q.   I'm pleased to say that according to Google Analytics, March 08 was the busiest month ever for Dear Cupid! We had 519,747 unique visitors (i.e. people!) visit the site from 1st March 08 to 31st March 08 inclusive. Over HALF A MILLION people.... ...

A.   1 April 2008: well done :D thanks for creating this great community... (read in full...)

How can I avoid being so eager towards him, so ready to "fall in love" and experience all that goes with it?

Q.   Hey aunts, I've got guy troubles again. It's nothing too serious, but I find I'm getting a little down about it. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We go places together, hang out, and sometimes make out. Nothing is o...

A.   31 March 2008: hey bitterblue thanks for the indepth answer. it has given me some things to think over. 1. i supose i am afraid that he doesnt like me that much. ive recently realised i am a little insecure which suprises me because i never used to notice m... (read in full...)

How can I avoid being so eager towards him, so ready to "fall in love" and experience all that goes with it?

Q.   Hey aunts, I've got guy troubles again. It's nothing too serious, but I find I'm getting a little down about it. I've been sort of seeing this guy for about 2 months now. We go places together, hang out, and sometimes make out. Nothing is o...

A.   31 March 2008: hiya jaymil, thank you for your helpful answer. i've learned from experience that guys get claustrophobic and run for the hills if you want too much too soon. that's why im trying to act casual and just take it as it comes with this guy im sorta... (read in full...)

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