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writes:Hey, this is just my personal opinion. This isn't a question, just an opinion, and I would be happy to hear yours :DI believe, firmly, that you should not change who you are for anyone. I think that everyone is different and unique and different and that's a good thing and we should embrace being different from one another, because if we were all the same, life would be really boring. I don't like it when people change for other people, if they're changing because they believe it's better for them (example: Jail, alcholics, tired of their style, drug addicts...ect), but it has to be your honnest choice and not what you feel someone else wants you to do. 'Be who you want to be, not what others want to see' this is my icon, and I love it lol.I honnestly and truely believe that if you like something, if you are interested in something or like a certian style or music, that you shouldn't hide it. You shouldn't hide being yourself because you think someone else thinks it's better for you, or they don't like it, becuase they are just bored and want to be hurtful or just hate different things, but that doesn't mean you have to go along with it. We can't let other people live our lives for us, if people want us to change, that's there problem, not yours, you don't have to do anything except enjoy life to the fullest, and the only way you're going to do this is by being yourself. So don't be ashamed of who you are, be happy that you're different and not following everybody else in the world, everyone has a different style, different music taste, different opinions and different everything, nothing, and I mean nothing can ever be the same in the world, that's just the way it is, there is always something different, even if it's so small you can't see it. Yeah, sorry this is long, but it is something I firmly and strongy believe in and I thought I would share lol :D Reply to this Article
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (13 April 2009):
vamp-gal is verified as being by the original poster of the question Anonymous: Hey, I'm not saying that there aren't small bad habbits you should change, just firm beliefs and who you are as a person.
If you were happy the way you were before you met the man you're in a relationship with then you shouldn't have changed because you felt you had to, make him happy. If you wanted to change then thats fine.
This guy you're with obviously doesn't appriciate what you've done for him and should be willing to change a few tiny bad qualities.
The thing is you shouldn't change who you are for anyone else, I firmly believe that. However, being spoilt and selfish I don't know, that's not right.
Thanks for your answer
(Hope things work out between you and the man you're with)
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2009): I couldn't disagree more.
If you chose to be with someone and something you normally do bothers them you should be willing to change it.
If we all were exactly as we were no one would ever grow and really very few couples would be happy.
I'm in a relationship with a man who refuses to change at all and i can see it ending us. I love this man with all my heart and have changed my whole life for him and have changed a lot of how i was because he asked me too. He on the other hand is very spoiled and selfish. I have asked him to change some things and he tells me it's how he is and he wont change. I don't know if i can live with that and i don't know if any other woman with any self respect could either. If he changed some of these thing in the end he would be happier because people would actually want to be around him.
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (29 December 2008):
vamp-gal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionscythe: Exactly, obviously, if there are any small habbits that are annoying, you could, maybe, change the, but never, ever your beliefs, or morals, or anything like that. I agree with that, if you don't know yourself, it's impossible for anyone else to.
Thanks for your opinion :D
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reader, scythe  +, writes (28 December 2008):
 Nice article hun. I too believe that I shouldn't change myself to suit someone else. However, sometimes you need to compromise or make small adjustments to help things work smoothly... but I'm not talking about core values because that will only make you confused. And if you don't know who you are, then how can anyone else?
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (23 November 2008):
vamp-gal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHey,Thank you!!!Don't worry I won't! :D :D :D
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reader, Oblivia  +, writes (23 November 2008):
 This is a very nice article, vamp-gal. And never let go of those thoughts as you grow older! :)
xx
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (18 November 2008):
vamp-gal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionLol,
Thank you!!
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reader, Phsyciatrist-to-be +, writes (18 November 2008):
 hey, wow, I totally didnt know this article existed until after I posted mine, lol. Nice article :)
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reader, vamp-gal +, writes (10 November 2008):
vamp-gal is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI agree, we should really think about whether what we are doing is right. Yeah, that really does suck, about your parents wanting you to be like your cousins, I'd hate it, no offence to my cousins, lol, but if I were being them, I definatly wouldn't be as happy as I am now :D (They're nice, just different style ect.)
I am agreeing with you 100% on all you said :D
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reader, RON_499  +, writes (10 November 2008):
 i completely agree.u should definitely be yourself but at the same time,we should be sure that what we are doing is right.if we are sure about that then hell yeah we should be different.i am and well my parents seem to get pissed off about it.not that i'm rebellious or like i come home with piercings but my parents just want me to be like my cousins which seriously sucks.i recommend that u go for it always and believe in yourself and everything always works out...see ya!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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