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I need ideas for a not-so-typical date!

Q.   My boyfriend and I have been dating for a year and a bit. We're doing well, I just want ideas of a not so typical date. So, i want both of us to sneak out of our houses at night (trust me not to do anything bad and whatnot) but to watch the stars, ...

A.   28 June 2010: I would go up to the moon and back down if someone that cared for me took me or accompanied me on a walk by the beach at night when its quite and all you can hear is faint sounds of noise and loud sounds of waves splashing. A slight breeze of cool ... (read in full...)

I want to move on but I still think about her a lot

Q.   My girlfriend broke up with me about 4 months ago, I never really got a reason why, but I've come to the conclusion she basically got bored of me and/or I wasn't good enough for her anymore. When we broke up we argued quite a bit, mostly because I ...

A.   28 June 2010: Move on, its what everyone is going to tell you.. and its the right thing, blah blah. But its really not that east is it? If it is then great! If not then listen up. Your going to be fine without her.. Your going to find someone else, its just a ma... (read in full...)

Should I let her know how I feel before she leaves forever?

Q.   Ive known this girl for 2 years now. At first things were kind of confusing and many awkward/embarrassing situations occurred. We got to know each other and over time, we became good friends and after a while best friends. During the first year o...

A.   13 June 2008: Thanks so much guys for the replies i really appreciate it. Yes i think the right thing is to let her know how i feel before she leaves, at least that way everything is out in the open and nothing is kept inside. Ill let you guys know what hap... (read in full...)

Ant tips, I need a bf

Q.   Hey, im a 6th grader but im never single. this school year i havent had 1 single boyfriend!!! i cant stand it, my friends talk about kissing guys, i havent kissed a guy yet. i feel so left out, im not sure if any one likes me. I NEED A BF!!! Any ...

A.   7 November 2007: I dont know if your serious or not... but um ... what you need a boyfriend for? its not like kissing is the coolest thing to do in 6th grade or is it? :o Well yeah when i was in 6th grade i went mad for all those pretty girls but it was never a big ... (read in full...)

I just want to be single, but then I want a guy.

Q.   Im a 15 year old girl and i have some major problems..well i am over my ex boyfriend, he left me about 2/3 months ago..and well i have a guy problem..im saying i cant stop thinking about guys and get them off my head, any guy will pop in my brain. ...

A.   7 November 2007: What i see is that you are not very active with your life as you could be, do you play any sports? do you have any time consuming hobbies? See we all think about guys and girls from time to time especially if your friends are all dating and your... (read in full...)

I love her but she has a boyfriend.

Q.   ok, there is a girl that im completly in love with, but she has a boyfriend, im completley in love with her and were best frineds. you can see how that makes it difficult. but she has found out that i like her. i am now talking to my ex-girlfriend ...

A.   4 November 2007: ok man im gona answer you right from the heart... Cause i myself am currently right in the same situation. But i may know a but more than you. This best friend of yours which is also my best friend and also the girl im crazy about. So lets see... (read in full...)

I like her, so should I tell her how special she is to me?

Q.   I really like a girl with me in school. I started to get to know her and liked her so became more interested and started talking more often. We were once talking and i dont know how i told her i liked her and wanted to know how she felt and she made ...

A.   28 January 2007: Thanks for your opinion guys, But xLEAHx wouldnt sending something on valentines seem to serious to her? I mean she might get like pressured or something... I mean i want to do it, but in the same time i don't want to spoil the friendship cause ... (read in full...)

Is he addicted to porn? Nor sure what to make of this. Advice?

Q.   Ok, my boyfriend has a huge collection of porn - i mean thousands of images on his computer - i knew he looked at porn when i met him - but it is now bothering me that he has such a big collection. We have been together about 18mths and live ...

A.   19 January 2007: I see what you mean... But honestly i can't give you perfect advice since i never experienced the need of watching porn all the time sure i do watch like once a week maybe more maybe less... Usually when someone thinks of waching porn on his way ... (read in full...)

I want to be able to kiss her and make up for all that happened...

Q.   Hello everyone im Ryder, I have this issue that has been a major problem for about 2 years and going.. Its about a girl that has driven a knife through my heart. I use to live in Qatar for all my life and 2~ years ago i moved to Egypt. When i ha...

A.   10 May 2006: I have spoken to her on the phone last night and she is very happy that im coming, ofcoarse i didn't mention anything about what happened. I think when i see her i will take her somewhere quite and settle this, tell her all that happened with my ... (read in full...)

I have a boyfriend I love a lot, but the other guy has come back to town...what should I do?

Q.   hi, I am with a boy who i love to bits,he is really nice to me and i have been with him for a while now, we are having a great time but things do get a little bumpy some times of course. But, about a year ago i went out with a lad, we went out...

A.   10 May 2006: Hello dreamer, I have been in this situation before except i was the girl coming back to the girl i loved so much... And she turned me down and i can tell you that my life since that has been a living hell not to mention my friends tell me shes ... (read in full...)

How can I get this older boy to notice that I'm alive?

Q.   hi, im 15 and in year 10. i have this huge crush on a guy in year 13, and he is 18. he doesnt even know i exist. how can i get him to notice me???? im sick of being ignored....

A.   10 May 2006: Hello :) To start off i don't like relationships at young ages to have an age difference of 2 years.. Otherwise things get complicated and stupid fights happen due to age. Hes older and more mature and will be doing activites with his friends ... (read in full...)

How can I be sure if this guy likes me?

Q.   I've liked this guy for ages, and I have the impression he might like me too, the trouble is I can't be sure and I don't want to take the risk if it turns out he doesn't feel the same. How do I know if he does genuinely like me?...

A.   10 May 2006: Hello :) Interesting question and also easy to solve.. Have you ever asked yourself the question: "What does everyone want in life?" well in my opinion everybody wants to be loved. I have a couple of methods of detecting whether someone like... (read in full...)

Should I get back together with this boy or just deal with the pain of breakup?

Q.   I need some advice urgently im so confused!... ok where to start from im a 16 year old girl.. have been going out with a 16 yr old boy for the past 5 months.. been through a lot together...such as him taking an overdose, my abusive family,we both ...

A.   10 May 2006: Hey IzzyStradlin :) Glad to see someone near my age has finally spoken :P I think its pretty good that the two of you teamed up and fought against alot of things together and got along for that time. But i am also sad to know he broke your heart... (read in full...)

How do I tell him he's not the one?

Q.   OK i have a problem. I have been with my boyfriend who is 32 and I am 20 for almost 10 months now. He is a great guy who i truly care about and he has done nothing wrong and has only been truly good to me. He is such a nice guy but I just dont feel ...

A.   10 May 2006: Hello, Well things seem to be going well there are no fights which indicates the two of you are good people who are compatible. Many couples get married and they never had fell in love and live their lives like 2 friends who have children but... (read in full...)

Where do I stand with this guy??

Q.   I have been very close friends with this guy for 4 months, although I have known him forever. (he is younger than me). I am not sure how I stand with him. We definitely both fancy each other like crazy, but there has been nothing physical...

A.   10 May 2006: Hello, I am quite familiar with this situation since i myself am shy and sensitive but to that extent :P He definatley is interested in you and no friend would ask a girl what do you look for in a guy? he seems a bit worried that he does not have... (read in full...)

Am I crazy for arguing like this?

Q.   The past couple of weeks, my boyfriend and I have been getting into aguements, and who doesn't but these arguements are not like any others. Lately, he's been telling me things, sometimes important, and when he asks me what was said, I can't even ...

A.   10 May 2006: Hello, I think this is quite odd haven't read any questions like this before :P I think this might be due to the following reasons: 1. You don't like talking on the phone much. 2. You are getting bored of his conversations what i know is women... (read in full...)

Am I crazy for arguing like this?

Q.   The past couple of weeks, my boyfriend and I have been getting into aguements, and who doesn't but these arguements are not like any others. Lately, he's been telling me things, sometimes important, and when he asks me what was said, I can't even ...

A.   10 May 2006: Hello, I think this is quite odd haven't read any questions like this before :P I think this might be due to the following reasons: 1. You don't like talking on the phone much. 2. You are getting bored of his conversations what i know is women... (read in full...)

Is my ex going to come back to me after her rebound?

Q.   Hey guys, It's becoming clearer and clearer to me that my ex and her rebound guy won't work out. You know how you can kind of tell when a girl really digs a guy or not? I feel like she's just kind of using him to get over me, it's just a matt...

A.   8 May 2006: Since you both are friends the best way to get back up the top of her list is working the best friend to lover methods. Just start over as if you are new friends forget the past, keep getting closer and closer to her like before and when you beco... (read in full...)

I can't tell if he likes me or is just really friendly...

Q.   I like a guy at the Territorial Army unit i belong to he is playful and picks on me (in a funny way) does he like me or just being friendly...

A.   8 May 2006: Sounds like he got a little bit jelous when you were resting your head on the other guys shoulder, i think that he is interested in getting to know you especially that he told your friend that he would love to go ! I think this could turn out grea... (read in full...)

We're together and fine out of school, but when we are at school he ignores me..

Q.   i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now. We first met at school and we became best friends talking all the time in class and just having a laugh. And then we moved things to becoming boyfriend and girlfriend because we got on so well. Thing ...

A.   6 May 2006: Hey xlittleredcutiex, This is a pretty interesting topic and quite easy to determine the problem.. Guys have a very important "thing" in school, its respect. Im sure your boyfriend loves you from the bottom of his heart and that he truly cares ... (read in full...)

I can't tell if he likes me or is just really friendly...

Q.   I like a guy at the Territorial Army unit i belong to he is playful and picks on me (in a funny way) does he like me or just being friendly...

A.   6 May 2006: Hey tilly1983, If he picks on you like you said in the funny way that means 2 things: 1. Hes flirting with you, he wants to make it obvious that hes interested in you or that he wants to chat or do something but he just doesn't know how so he runs ... (read in full...)

Is my ex going to come back to me after her rebound?

Q.   Hey guys, It's becoming clearer and clearer to me that my ex and her rebound guy won't work out. You know how you can kind of tell when a girl really digs a guy or not? I feel like she's just kind of using him to get over me, it's just a matt...

A.   6 May 2006: Hey shredordie, I get what you mean and i understand the situation but the whole concept still relies on the reason you two broke up.. Whether it was a serious fight ot just a silly one. You might wana try doing some tests to see if she still ha... (read in full...)

I like this guy and I know he likes me, how can I get us together?

Q.   a while ago i went to a party and this guy i like started givin me signals. unfortunately, i had a boyfriend and i didnt want 2 break up with him however, we broke up in march and i keep tryin to hook up with the another guy, but now he wont eve...

A.   6 May 2006: Well insuficient information it would be more helpful if we knew more about this guy you fancy... But i think the reason he picks on you is because hes shy or not good at talking to girls so he just acts silly and annoys you to attract your atte... (read in full...)

We keep breaking up and getting back together, what should I do?

Q.   my boyfriend and i have known each other for almost two years and within that time, we've broken up and reconciled for about twenty times. maybe i'm over exegerating but the point is i know he doesn't trust me and he keeps referring me about an ...

A.   6 May 2006: I hate deeply hate this situation as the right thing to do is what you don't want to do. A very dear and close friend of mine she is also a girl is in the exact position i have given her advice plenty of times and she doesn't listen to me and i know... (read in full...)

She's always having more than one guy, should I stay or go?

Q.   There is this girl I work with who I just can't seem to get over. We have had and on/off relationship for the past 6 months or so. I really care about her but she always gets drunk and does stupid things. I found out recently that she slept with m...

A.   5 May 2006: I think you are right on the tracks. You are wasting your time with her.. If she had slept with 16 guys in 9 months then she is probably just having fun being a player or so. She doesn't seem to be willing to be in a commited relationship and ther... (read in full...)

We broke up because he said I was cheating on him, what should I do?

Q.   I had been in a relationship with a classmate of mine and he called it quit alleging that I had been cheating on him with a close friend and a fellow classmate which is not true. In as much as i would say that I have let go, I don't know how to ...

A.   5 May 2006: Well not knowing your classmate there might be a couple of reasons for him accusing you of cheating: 1. He has a weak personality and got conviced by his friends that you are cheating and his friends which are yours envy you and might be jelous and ... (read in full...)

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