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writes:i have been with my boyfriend for 10 months now. We first met at school and we became best friends talking all the time in class and just having a laugh. And then we moved things to becoming boyfriend and girlfriend because we got on so well. Thing is its great between us outside of school when we see each other he's sweet and treats me really well, but now at school he dosen't talk to me anymore and its really confusing me when he is totally different outside of school when we are out. He's always saying he loves me but at school its like i don't exist. We have talked about this many times and its the only thing we argue about, he say's he hates it at school and he can't be himself, and he does try and change but after a couple of days it goes back to how it was. What do you think i should do? Or am i over-reacting and shouldn't be bothered?We are both 16.
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reader, xlittleredcutiex +, writes (6 May 2006):
xlittleredcutiex is verified as being by the original poster of the questionthank you all for your advice.thanks ryder your advice has been great. i should appreciate what i have got with him and i should respect him if thats how he wants to be in school.
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reader, Ryder  +, writes (6 May 2006):
 Hey xlittleredcutiex,
This is a pretty interesting topic and quite easy to determine the problem.. Guys have a very important "thing" in school, its respect.
Im sure your boyfriend loves you from the bottom of his heart and that he truly cares about you but infront of people he cant be himself or he cant express his feelings correctly.
In school having a girlfriend is tricky business, if he is not respected to the extent that no one will make fun or talk about him and your then im sure this is exactly why he does this.. Its not a bad thing he is trying to protect you and to keep you and him out of troubles and rumors.
Not any guy is born with the power to rule his school but if he has the brains he can counteract the problems he has.. this is one of them he doesnt want anyone talking about you because it will truly hurt him and therefore he hides the relationship.
My advice just go with it, in school be as if you guys are friends and out school you are lvoers.. You will not be able to change him into being normal in school its who he is and how he acts so cope with it.
He sounds like a nice guy so dont let this tiny problem cause a ravel between the two of you.
Good luck and take care hope this helps :D
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reader, Sis6372 +, writes (5 May 2006):
I would chalk it up to its a guy thing and just be happy your with him, trust me school romance is nothing, be glad that you have him out of school and be your own person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 May 2006): Is he like this when he's with friends? Because if he is, it might just be the "guy thing" they don't like to show their girlfriend love infront of their mates because it's "not cool"
If it's not when he's with his mates, and it seems to be all the time, there must be an underlying reason which you really need to get to the bottom of.
But i suppose, if he's ok with you outside of school, there is nothing to be worried about.
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