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anonymous
writes:Hi folks,I have known this woman online for 4 years, she is happily married with a 1yr old daughter.Over the last few months our reletionship has changed dramiticly, the normal talk of hows you and little un turned into full on flirty and very sexual discriptive messages. From the offset she allways said this is fun and never wanted it to seem anything else or for it to hurt me. Having swapped intimate photos and multiple phone sex calls, i decided to go and meet her on the other side of the country and she accepted without thinking. The weekend approached and i was really nervious and the daily chats turned into hourly contact but more and more discriptive. We met had such a great time together, went the cinema like a couple hugged and kissed openly and then had the most fun I have ever had in my life back at the hotel room.Since then things were weird, but soon after we were both chatty again with eachother and back to how we were before the flirting occured. She says that she wants to visit me in a few months and im being honest i cannot wait for it, I am not the worlds greatest looking guy and have never been in a relationship without being rejected and can never find a match like this woman.I dont know how to react, I am scared that I am doing wrong as it was for fun or im acting weird but she is still interested in me but not at the discriptive message sort of way but i do not know how to react. I am confused and dont want to loose her as a friend or as an affair but I feel I am doing stupid things like sending her random texts for a reply, looking at websites for gifts, suggesting concerts to get away for and excuse for meeting.Should i talk to her about this? or run far away from it? i am afraid to say though that I do love her :(would why be so unfair somtimes :PCheers
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi folks
I'm sorry but it has been 5 days since I have not made contact and it's killing me doing so. To the point of I'm afraid to admit but I am depressed. I know she is married and will never go for me as I'm a looser but I close my eyes I see her, I dream about her and want the best for her and that is without me in her life but I have never been in love like this.
I've gone out, got new clothes, been around mates and instead of going after girls I sulked about and wound myself up more with the beer not helping.
Any help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 June 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks folks, indeed I knew the answer in my head but I am going to try to stop contact with her. It is so weird, she is not the normal type of woman i would go for, shes bigger, more open, has a kid and married but I want to hear how her day has gone, whats happend, can I help in any way and its driving me mad to why I am having these feelings and why not with someone else.
I have never been in a long reletionship before tried who whole dating website thing and never found anyone close to how i feel now :(
Thanks again folks
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reader, rivi  +, writes (17 June 2010):
Get well away from her and this situation.
End it politely and then block her emails / texts etc..
You have no right to cause the unhappiness of her husband and child just for your sexual pleasure.
Go for someone who is free - put this down to experience and move on .
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 June 2010): I feel for you. It sounds like you have really fallen for her. However you did state that she is happily married. Therefore she has made it pretty clear that this affair would not progress further. I dont know about you but I would hate to be the one hanging around wasting my time while someone else is having a happy married life, raising their child.unfortunately you are a fling on the side and it seems very unlikely she would leave her husband to be with you only. Sorry
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reader, raiders +, writes (17 June 2010):
 Leave it as a friendship, she is married. Don't cross any boundaries respect her, respect her marriage. Unfortunately for you all you can offer her is your friendship.
If its hard for you to be friends with her because of your feelings it might be a great idea to cut all ties with her. Keep your distance, don't text, don't email her just vanish from her life. You will soon find someone for you just keep your doors open.
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