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female
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26-29,
anonymous
writes:My neighbour recently approched me online about the idea of friends with benefits. We had been casually talking for a couple weeks. At first I was totally offended he thought that way about me but lately I've really been warming up to the idea. He's the same age as I am but we go to seperate high schools even though he lives across the street. I was thinking it would be okay if I set the rules.eg. Only at his house alone, nothing farther than 2nd base, don't tell anyone, and I have the power to veto anything.I recently got out of an incident of love with someone because they were too clingly so I was thinking this might be a good change. If I keep conditions like that do you think it's alright? He seemed really into getting me to fool around with him so I don't think he'd object to any of my rules. I don't have any interest in have a real relationship with him or getting emotionally attatched at all.Any tips for a FWB relationship?Does anyone have any first hand experience with anything similar?
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reader, meestal  +, writes (12 December 2010):
If you can convince yourself that you will not die if you go without sex for a couple more weeks, and if you're not super attracted to this guy... why not just feel flattered that you have an admirer, laugh the whole thing off and tell the guy thanks for the compliment, but you are much too high class for this?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (12 December 2010):
 I agree he will only want more from you, and will try and pressure you in to more. You say that you dont want a relationship that you dont want to be emotionally attached, its ok to say that now, but being intimate with someone is an emotional act whatever way you look at it, and if you do this in time one of you may start falling for the other without wanting to and thats were it gets messy because someone will end up getting hurt. My advice would be to stay clear and wait for somebody who wants to be with you and do other things other than making out.
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reader, Dirk Pitt  +, writes (12 December 2010):
Yep, what Mjfbla said! And it works the other way. You may want to take it further eventually and he won't.
If it's what you both want to do, enjoy it while you can. But be prepared for changes in the situation and sit down and think where you want to go.
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reader, rivi  +, writes (12 December 2010):
If he's your age he more or less won't be able to stop before going all the way and penetrating ( and prob ejaculating into ) your vag..
If you are attracted to him physically you'd be better off planning for proper sex - ie you on the Pill; him wearing condoms .
Then enjoy one another why not ?
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reader, steph007  +, writes (12 December 2010):
It sounds good, but do not forget to deal with the question of your freedom to have other relationship if you want.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 December 2010): Hi. Hes got you thus far, while you have no attraction for him AND he offended you. Wisdom tells me, hes already 'in the driving seat' and you dont really have the control you imagine. You could quit while you are ahead with this young fella. And i hope you do!He only lives across the street, so any problems really will be right on your doorstep! FWB to 2nd base only, wont work for more than a few sessions. He will want more, trust me. And sharing yourself with someone shouldnt be such a cynical act. Its supposes to be something you do with someone you find special. Its for that reason, some people are put off when finding out their partner was previously in a FWB. Its not everyones cuppa. So think very carefully before you agree.If you were my sister or daughter, id tell you to turn him down politely and keep yourself for someone who cared about you, not just sex x
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (12 December 2010):
 Honey generally friends with benefits go further then second base...you can talk to him about it, but be prepared to get pressured into going further when things heat up.
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