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writes:How do you kick a disfunctional relationship to the curb, without ever going back?My and my boyfriend constantly have problems.. and nobody wants us to be together.Truth be told, I don't know why I love him, but I know something is keeping me hanging on.. I feel like after all of this is over and done with I'll probably need counseling..I'd rather just put up with it, then have to deal with the pain of loosing him.. Reply to this Question
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reader, Renee okc  +, writes (20 June 2009):
I think you should start counseling immediately to get focused on yourself your probably just so beat down that you dont have enough confidence in your decision making and think that if you let him go you wont be able to make it but you will you have asked the right questions so put it into effect and get on with your life and move on find yourself then worry about being with someone
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 June 2009): You are asking some very mature questions for your age, now let's see if we can't put your actions to a mature level as well.
If you think you will need counseling after this relationship is over then that is a sign right there that this relationship is damaging your self esteem and worse your perception of your own values judgements and decisions.
You have already made the decision to end this relationship recognizing that it is not healthy for you, but your lowered self esteem caused by this relationship makes you fearful to let go.
Someone told me that faith is fear turned upside down. You have to have faith that your life will be OK, even better without this person in it. After all you do not need him to be happy.
So go ahead and do the mature thing and kick him to the curb, make a counseling appointment and focus on YOU not HIM. Ask your friends and family for support to keep you focused on your own goals for your own life.
You don't need this weighing you down, you are much too young to feel like this.
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