How could he be engaged so soon after our break up?
Q. What are the chances that my ex fiance's new relationship will survive? He left me after 7 yrs. 5 mths. ago and became engaged to her after only 3 mths. I know it seems like they were seeing each other before he left me but, that is not the case. ...
A. 17 September 2011: BTW read my answer below: The ex that left me didn't last 4 months with the 19 year old.He is now broke and clinging onto some other girl. The 19 year got too immature and he quicly dumped her for another. I still wait for the day that I hear he ... (read in full...)
In love with two women!
Q. I never thought I would go through this, especially not now, but I'm in love with two people, two women. I met this wonderful girl a couple of months ago, we see each other almost everyday and it's always great. I trust her completely and she trusts ...
A. 30 November 2010: if you are wanting something with girl B then you don't really love girl A. Infatuation and new is not love. Both girls are new and exciting. You don't love either. Stay single though as you are not mature enough to be faithful to someone yet. You ... (read in full...)
One day he said he would love me forever, the next day he hates me and has found a new partner!
Q. I Was in a relationship for 6 years on and off for a year because another person they went with we got back together 2 years now we became partners a month ago a week later they text me they dont love me and is with another person already! how can ...
A. 30 November 2010: because they are selfish pigs. Please don't get with him again. He is emotionally abusive and only seeks to please himself. He will do this to you as long as you allow it. Tell him you wish him luck and never speak to him again... (read in full...)
He's got all these girls falling at his feet, should I admit how I feel?
Q. Hello, i just need some advice. So basically my best guy friend and I have been close for about 9 years. We both study at different universities, so we don’t get to see each other much but since he’s come back I really don’t know what to do. Over...
A. 30 November 2010: life is short. Tell him and if he says no then stay his friend if you can. If you can't just be his friend then cut ties. Friends come and go and guys come and go but life is too short to be afraid.... (read in full...)
I cant deal with her anymore! What should I do?
Q. Hi there my girlfriend and I have been living together for three months, and in this period of time our relationship has fallen apart. I want to move out, but I feel that will wreak havoc on my schoolwork and that I will have to finish the lease and ...
A. 30 November 2010: she is what I have termed a "skankasorous". A skankasorous is a creature that is unable to clean up its own filth. It is aggressive and of low intelligence. This animal usually tries to gain control of higher animals in an attempt to gain access to ... (read in full...)
Unexpected father of a lesbian daughter. How do I deal with this?
Q. I am a 28-year-old single, straight, male, who is now a stay at home dad to a 14 year old girl, my niece, who was left with me when my sister and brother-in-law died 2 months ago in a car accident. The first month was definitely awkward as I have ...
A. 30 November 2010: Kudos for taking on this girl and sorry so sorry for your loss of your brother. Treat her as normal but if you happen to know any adult lesbians, it might be good for her to talk to someone who may understand what she is going through. ... (read in full...)
What is he thinking/doing? We are only casually dating but I have not heard from him in days!
Q. Right, advice again please.... I have been seeing this guy for about three and a half months. At the start, we had a chat, and we both said that neither of us wanted serious relationships as we had both just come out of relationships. ...
A. 30 November 2010: I would say you are not the only one he is dating. Careful with the non-serious relationships. They usually end up like this. I have a friend with benefits as we simply could not end up together for various reasons. We both know this but there is an ... (read in full...)
I keep finding texts on my husbands phone, am I flogging a dead horse here or should I try and make this work?
Q. three weeks ago i found some texts on my husbands phone (he had been out drinking all night with his mates again, and obviously got careless and forgot to delete them) they were not text that i would send to just a friend. "I would give anything to ...
A. 30 November 2010: KICK HIM OUT. my ex gave me the world to make me believe he was true and about 2 years later i found "text" messages from some whore who threw herself at him while I was working a lot. I threw him out and I am so happy I did. He is with that skank ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend has been slowly distancing herself from me, what should I do now?
Q. Im getting conflicting messages from my girlfriend. We have been together for 4 years and for past 3 she has slowly, bit by bit, distanced herself from me. She tells me she loves me, but only when I ask. However her body language tells me somet...
A. 30 November 2010: Well you are not going to like this but.....my ex acted the same way for about six days before I caught text messages from the bitch he was cheating on me with. I knew deep down that it meant something was wrong but I never thought it would be that. ... (read in full...)
Is he going to marry me? Or not?
Q. Please help! My boyfriend of one year seems unsure if he wants to marry me. This really hurts me because at this pont am ready to be married to him. He used to be so sure about getting married--but lately he said.. we didnt get along so well that he ...
A. 30 November 2010: sound like he is back peddling. Also some men are to scared to committ yet too scared to be alone. Not a good combo. You can give it all the more time you want but it sounds like it may be a lost cause. I hope its not though as every woman deserves ... (read in full...)
How could he be engaged so soon after our break up?
Q. What are the chances that my ex fiance's new relationship will survive? He left me after 7 yrs. 5 mths. ago and became engaged to her after only 3 mths. I know it seems like they were seeing each other before he left me but, that is not the case. ...
A. 24 September 2010: That crap won't work out. He is moving waaaay too fast and that is a huge red flag. He is doing everything in the honey moon phase and that means he will be divorcing one day and probably with a kid if she pulls the "oopse I'm pregnant thing" to ... (read in full...)
Was I right to send him to his ex?
Q. i met a guy that lives 8 hours away. we clicked fast. i went to visit him for a week and we had a great time. his ex girlfriend decided to come back and she waqnted him back. he became confused and sad he did not know what he wanted. i told him ...
A. 24 September 2010: NOt only did you do the right thing, KUDOS for being so mature and stong. No guy should have to decide if he wants you or not. If a guy can't figure out if he wants me or not than I make the choice very simple. You did the absolute most perfect ... (read in full...)
Will he ever make this official?
Q. Okay so I'm 18 and I met this 38 year old at my cousin's job. Age in relationships never bothers me to begin with and after we hung out for the first time I already started to see that I liked him. We've been "together" for about a month and a half. ...
A. 24 September 2010: age may not mean anything to you but I bet a million bucks it does to him. He may very well like you but he would be made fun and outcasted for dating a girl young enough to be his daughter. Its not something every guy is willing to tolerate. You ... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship?
Q. I asked this question once before, but now, I'm asking again, with more details, so it's more understandable. How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship? ~~~~~~ In detail: She's the average, silent, "I am keepi...
A. 23 September 2010: ok ok but it sounded like your whole world revolves around this girl and that is still unhealthy.You can't make someone like you all you can do is tell her how you feel and see what she says. You need to open yourself up to other possibilities ... (read in full...)
My ex, who says he wants to get dating other girls out of his system, wants to date girl number two. What do I do?
Q. So 3 months ago I caught my (ex)-boyfriend of 2 years (we started dating when he was 18, now he's 20 and I am 4 years older than him and 24) flirting with another girl (let's call her Girl #1--she happens to be your atypical "hot girl"). After a ...
A. 23 September 2010: If my man wanted to date another girl i would let him and when he wanted me back i would laugh in his face. You are letting him do this and you even have empathy for the other girl. Your are way too "nice" and you will not be treated right if you ... (read in full...)
How do I break away from him and this whole situation?
Q. Me and a guy had a fwb/buddy thing going on last year, this ended when he got a gf. He asked if we could stay friends to which i agreed at the time. A few months later he asks if we could meet up for a drink as friends so we did but we end up having ...
A. 23 September 2010: WHy don't you ask him why he gets a girlfriend and never wants to make you his girlfriend. He can't be that serious with her if he is cheating on her without regret. It is probably best to not be his girlfriend but it also sucks to be the "side ... (read in full...)
I'm scared to put myself out there because of my height!
Q. Well anyways im 6 foot 11 and 19 years old around 180-190 pounds to be honest quite skinny. ive only had around 4 girlfriends and im scared to put myself out there mainly because of my height. any suggestions or comments would be appreciated on what ...
A. 22 September 2010: Tall girls have such a hard time finding a guy. I'm not tall but I can't date a guy shorter than me. Just how it is. Imagine how hard it is for a girl like me who is 6'2". She would be on you like white on rice. Be happy cause u are some tall ... (read in full...)
If he wants to end it, why can't he tell me?
Q. Hello all, I have been dating these guy for 8 months now and he has even expressed interest that he would want to marry me and asked to see my parents. Last month, no quarrels or anything, he just stopped picking my calls or returning them and ev...
A. 22 September 2010: He is a DOUCHBAG COWARD get someone else cause it is definately over. You can get a better guy easily... (read in full...)
Does my internet date like me or not I'm confused!!!
Q. hi hope to get some advice as im confused about a guy i met on an internet dating site. we exchanged a few emails on the site and for 3 months have been chatting on the phone once a week, we finally met up and it was fantastic! he held my hand all ...
A. 22 September 2010: some guys just fade out. I don't know why. I have had this happen once and he would eventually make contact again. we would have a great time (he would hold my hand too and brush my hair from my face and all that crap) but then poof ....disappears. ... (read in full...)
Was he just looking for a reason to break up with me so he could date this other girl?
Q. I have just come out of an upsetting breakup with someone I was deeply in love with. We broke up over a very silly reason, which I'll get on to in a minute, and yet, though he often told me he loved me, he has a new girlfriend, someone I was ...
A. 22 September 2010: your welcome. :)... (read in full...)
I don't think this woman is as innocent as my b/f thinks she is!
Q. I hope you guys can help me, i'm drowning in my own am i paranoid question.. I met a colleague (A) from a different country 5 years ago. We had this connection and both of us felt it as we discovered 2 years ago when we met again. Anyway i told him...
A. 22 September 2010: I would never risk a good relationship to keep someone around who I hang out with when I'm bored. He sounds like he likes the ego boost but ask him if he would like it if you hung around some guy who liked you. He would not like it I am sure. If he ... (read in full...)
I don't want to put any pressure on him... help!
Q. A friend of mine and his girl broke their relationship off and he is still kinda in recovery, or more he just isn't really interested in anyone. I feel the same way about my ex I broke things off with of many years. He goes to a college that is ...
A. 21 September 2010: Careful. He may just need a friend during the healing process and saying something could make him back off. I would just say that when he is out of the darkness that you will be there when the sun comes out. Tell him that remaining friends is fine ... (read in full...)
Should I just be content with what the ex and I have?
Q. Well my ex contacted me recently she wanted to be friends we have been talking for almost 2 months now and i still love her and out of the whole year that we havent talked i love her the same i was wondering should i try to get her back..tell her ...
A. 21 September 2010: I would let her lead a bit. Dont put yourself on hold forever though. Let her know your intentions of returning to a relationship but let her know that you are aware you messed up and it will be her decision. If she wants you back then you will know ... (read in full...)
Help!!! How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship?
Q. I asked this question once before, but now, I'm asking again, with more details, so it's more understandable. How can I take a busy girl's friendship further into a potential relationship? ~~~~~~ In detail: She's the average, silent, "I am keepi...
A. 21 September 2010: you sound very unstable. You cannot live for someone. If she knew that she is why you did not kill yourself, it would be way too much pressure. You have got to see that life is worth living in and of itself. Life craps on you and it has me too but ... (read in full...)
I know we are not a couple but I thought we were friends...
Q. We are having this 'casual' relationship for months now. I know this can never be a real relationship and maybe i would be happier if it finishes. It is a long distance thing so we set up our 'dates' where we can. And we do fairly often. I saw him...
A. 21 September 2010: i had a "friend" get close to me and then go silent. I basically sent a text that boiled down to "miss ya but won't bug you. good luck, you know where to find me". Sometimes if you don't get closure then u have to make your own. If he cares he will ... (read in full...)
Older boyfriend doesn't want sex so much and its making me feel insecure
Q. I have been dating an older man for almost a year. I am twenty seven and he is forty five. He is a good man as far as paying the bills and helping me raise my daughter. Our sex life has been dwindling lately and every time I try to talk to him ...
A. 21 September 2010: tell him this is not working. If he does nothing to change it then find a guy who is more into you. If he is having a medical problem though, some men will do anything to avoid dealing with it and lash out at people who may force them to see the ... (read in full...)
Girlfriend of 11 years pregnant but now I've found the girl of my dreams
Q. 11 years I've been with my girlfriend, didn't marry since I always suspected I'd find someone else, someone I knew the moment I lay eyes on her.. it came about 5 months ago, both the knowledge of a baby girl and love of my life started working ...
A. 20 September 2010: lol the dream person. SO amazing till about a year. Then reality sets in. You have some vision that you are meant for some great love and your current girlfriend must be beneath you because you don't seem to think she deserves this. If you got with ... (read in full...)
My ex is ignoring me and I had a weird dream about him. Does it mean anything?
Q. Argh - I dreamt about my ex last night (I seriously did not think of him yesterday) although a week before - I had sent him an email sayin i missed his company and was hopin we could talk soon - he read my E-card but didnt respond.I find it funny ...
A. 20 September 2010: many times dreams allow us to have conversations that will not occur in reality. sometimes they show us wwarnings that our conscious mind ignores or blocks. And sometimes they are about lazer carrying frog monsters trying to take over the world so ... (read in full...)
Should I just be content with what the ex and I have?
Q. Well my ex contacted me recently she wanted to be friends we have been talking for almost 2 months now and i still love her and out of the whole year that we havent talked i love her the same i was wondering should i try to get her back..tell her ...
A. 20 September 2010: well then she has a valid point but she may still have feelings for her but you first have to show her that you 100% trust her. I have been cheated on for first time recently and it truely sucks. There is no way to ensure it will never happen but if ... (read in full...)
I've asked someone to marry me... now I'm having second thoughts after we fought!
Q. I have met someone and asked her to marry me .... things couldnt be better until we had our first fight ... then 2nd then 3rd , all within 5 days ... now im really rethinking this thing . When we argue it is a nitemare ,,, i try every way i can ...
A. 20 September 2010: she seems to have changed with the ring on her finger and living with her mother sound awful. Tell that the arguments are giving u second thoughts and suggest counseling. If it starts another fight then bail out. Her kids are not your responsibility ... (read in full...)
Only married 6 months and already problems!
Q. My husband and I have been married for only 6 months and already we seem to be having problems. He says mean and hurtful things and when I confront him about it he acts as if there's nothing wrong. Some days he's the kindest, sweetest man I've ...
A. 20 September 2010: My ex became like this when I started working a lot. He then found company with someone else behind my back and I now see it was just a way to push me away because i couldn't make him the center of my universe anymore. He blamed me for his cheating ... (read in full...)
Did I love him or did I just want to be in a relationship?
Q. i just broke up with my bf and i dont feel sad. I'm 18 and im really attractive but i've never had a bf before him. We had been together for five months and he was my first bf. he is the most perfect guy ever, he is sweet, sensitive, smart, funny, ...
A. 20 September 2010: It is pretty clear that you don't love him. Let him go find someone who will... (read in full...)
My marriage is falling apart after only 2 and a half years!
Q. i have been married for only two years and a half.but my marriage is already falling apart.we fight and we also physical fight.he looks at other when i ask him he tells me hes admiring their beauty.is he the right man for me.because i think am ...
A. 20 September 2010: which came first? child or marriage?... (read in full...)
Can you still have your period even if you are pregnant?
Q. i have been with my boyfriend for four months and one month i didn't have my period but the beginning of the next month i had it but i still have the feeling that im pregnant. can you have your period even being pregnant?...
A. 20 September 2010: you can spot but a full on period is unlikely. If you were pregnant and had that much blood then there would be something wrong with the pregnancy. You can however bleed a little in first trimester but from what I have read it is far less and far ... (read in full...)
He played me now I work with him!
Q. I'm a gay 19 year old guy, I usually go down to the bar in city for a few drinks (its the only gay bar in the city I live). I got chatting to a bar staff that night and we hit it off instantly. About a month later we were both on a night out and ...
A. 20 September 2010: he sounds like a royal douche bag. u should just be friendly and poitely ask him if he's trying to gain weight. if he says no then reply...."huh? looked like you were sorry" lol go on and on to people you work with about other hot guys and if anyone ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm missing out on things!
Q. I have been in a long-term relationship (5 years) with a guy fourteen years older than me. We started dating when I was 16. I love him so much and he loves me. But I have been feeling lost lately - like I don't know who I am or what I want to do ...
A. 20 September 2010: i think u have to get to know who u are. I am thankful for my "stupid" years of youth and your relationship has robbed you of that. Have you talked to him about this? Maybe there is a way you all could take a break. if it would be too hard thenn ... (read in full...)
Why would he lie about having a girlfriend and why is he so persistant on keeping me in his life?
Q. a guy I've been talking to for 4 months lied to me about having a girlfriend,even though I asked him specifically if this girl was. we're only "friends" but we do have an intamate relationship.. when i found out i told him i didnt want to be his ...
A. 20 September 2010: sounds like he wants cake and icecream. tell him the ice cream just sold out... (read in full...)
How can I stop feeling like this, when I see him often?
Q. Hi guys. I posted on here a while ago about the fact that I've completely and utterly fallen for my best friend, http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-really-dont-understand-what-he-is-thinking.html. Anyway he doesn't feel the same way which is hard ...
A. 20 September 2010: Geez I don't know what to tell you cause the old saying "out of sight, out of mind" works fantastic for me. is there no way to not see him? If you can't not see him than try searching for the things that make you mad about him like coming to you ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for a guy who's in a 6 year relationship... help!
Q. ok so i am 21 years old and i am really attracted to this guy, but he has a girlfreind.. i know all of you would be like forget him, he is committed i agree and i have tried not liking him but i cant.. i am drawn to him every time i pull back.. this ...
A. 20 September 2010: normally (being a victim of a cheater) I would say leave him alone but a long distance relationship always seems so stupid to me. I would say his love for her is strong to keep that up but it won't work out in the end. Long distance stuff is a waste ... (read in full...)
HELP!!!! will she come back to me?!?!
Q. Hey everyone! Im going to be very discreet yet detailed in my situation so all you guys can completely understand everything and give me 100% honest feedback. My ex-girlfriend and I of eight months just broke up a few days ago (Sept. 16). She...
A. 20 September 2010: I would forget about it for now. She wants freedome so give it to her. Let her go. if its meant to be it will happen but u can't force it.Tell her she knows where to find you and wish her luck. Don't wait on something that may not happen and may ... (read in full...)
Was he just looking for a reason to break up with me so he could date this other girl?
Q. I have just come out of an upsetting breakup with someone I was deeply in love with. We broke up over a very silly reason, which I'll get on to in a minute, and yet, though he often told me he loved me, he has a new girlfriend, someone I was ...
A. 20 September 2010: he was cheating and he sounds like my ex he can only deal with one girl at a time but rest assured, he will do the same thing to her.... (read in full...)
He won't be clear with me about our relationship...do I stay or do I go?
Q. hi i have been seeing this guy for about 5 months now, at the first few months he would ask what would i say if he was to ask me out (as his gf) i replyed i would say yes! ever since then i have not heard anything more about it, just recintly he ...
A. 20 September 2010: you're on familiar waters to me. I cant say how it will end for you but i can tell you how it ends for me. Nothing Improves. I analyze the situation and think he will figure it out but he doesn't. I finally figure it out and leave. I can't tell you ... (read in full...)
I don't think this woman is as innocent as my b/f thinks she is!
Q. I hope you guys can help me, i'm drowning in my own am i paranoid question.. I met a colleague (A) from a different country 5 years ago. We had this connection and both of us felt it as we discovered 2 years ago when we met again. Anyway i told him...
A. 20 September 2010: no she sounds like trouble to me but men are usually very naive on how women can be. They act friendly and try to seduce the guy away. Most just end up with a guy that is seduced away from them sooner or later. However he says he does not want her ... (read in full...)
Should I just be content with what the ex and I have?
Q. Well my ex contacted me recently she wanted to be friends we have been talking for almost 2 months now and i still love her and out of the whole year that we havent talked i love her the same i was wondering should i try to get her back..tell her ...
A. 20 September 2010: what broke you two up?... (read in full...)
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