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writes:hi i have been seeing this guy for about 5 months now, at the first few months he would ask what would i say if he was to ask me out (as his gf) i replyed i would say yes! ever since then i have not heard anything more about it, just recintly he told me he cant see me anymore because too much of his feelings had gotten involved and it was to much trouble to keep seeing me. but he said i do like you alot. i fighted for him back but wasnt too clingly and annoying and eventually he wanted to start seeing me again. so here i am again in the same situation i desided to ask what he wants from me, he said i want to keep doing what were doing but thats all i can give you.... i love him and i just dont know where i stand or what hes thinking. i ask him and he says i dnt know what i want but he says hes not interested in looking for other girls. and doesnt want to me to see anyone else eather.... what do you think? should i give up or have i got a chance if i hang in there as hard as it is? Reply to this Question
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reader, xanthic  +, writes (20 September 2010):
 He's being vague because he wants to date other women and keep his options open, while still having you around as a backup plan. It keeps you hooked because it's confusing and makes you think about him more often than you should while he keeps playing the field.
Don't take what he says at face value or give him the benefit of the doubt. If he's not willing to call you his girlfriend or claims he doesn't want to put a label on the relationship, it really means he doesn't want to be tied down in case something better comes along.
End this relationship and move on. If he won't respect you enough to stop playing games and make a definite choice, he's not worth the time.
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reader, Red591 +, writes (20 September 2010):
 you're on familiar waters to me. I cant say how it will end for you but i can tell you how it ends for me. Nothing Improves. I analyze the situation and think he will figure it out but he doesn't. I finally figure it out and leave. I can't tell you to do this but if he has no pressure to be anything more than he won't be. You have to let him go and if he comes back then he is yours. I have yet to see one come back though....sorry
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