My crush hasn't responded to me on facebook. Do I give up?
Q. I have a crush on my PE classmate that I only meet every Monday and I think he likes me because he shows lot of signs (like always looking at me and when I look back, he looks away, always near me, saw him talking to a friend while looking at me). I ...
A. 20 December 2012: yeah i figured as much. not everyone cares about facebook :)
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My crush hasn't responded to me on facebook. Do I give up?
Q. I have a crush on my PE classmate that I only meet every Monday and I think he likes me because he shows lot of signs (like always looking at me and when I look back, he looks away, always near me, saw him talking to a friend while looking at me). I ...
A. 17 December 2012: Thank You doesn't always require a your welcome. I have said thanks to people and never expected a reply. Also guys don't really do the your welcome to each other. They also don't thank each other for FB adds. Guys are direct. It would be better to ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has outbursts of anger but says he's only expressing himself. These episodes make me uncomfortable!
Q. So I asked a question about my boyfriend a couple of days ago. We're on holiday and he was telling me my top was see-through. We got over that and had a really nice day, sightseeing and enjoying our time together. Then yesterday he wanted to go and ...
A. 17 December 2012: This guy is a straight baby. He throws temper tantrums and you say you are sorry?! For what? You didn't do anything wrong. Who cares if there were couples there. He is obviously delusional and thinks everyone was looking at him and thinking he was p... (read in full...)
Should I leave my husband or not? I don't know how he will survive if I leave him....
Q. I have to make a decision regarding leaving my husband. We have been together 18 years and have no children. Life prior to marrying was magical. I could not fault him in the least but on returning from our honeymoon he became grumpy and sulle...
A. 17 December 2012: So let me see if I understand....
you are unhappy.
you have been unhappy for years.
no sex.
he doesn't work but claims to be too busy to do anything.
He was at one point screaming at you.
He acts like he can't survive without you (manipulatio... (read in full...)
Breakup came out of the blue and the hurt from it is so intense. How do I get over it?
Q. just looking for a bit of help. Im 18, and i've just broken up with my first serious boyfriend (together 6 months). I thought everything was perfect so its very out of the blue that he decided to split up with me as i wasnt expecting it at all. The ...
A. 17 December 2012: This is going to sound so terrible and cliche but....TIME HEALS ALL. I was once cheated on by the man I lived with and was supposed to be getting married to. Talk about a punch to the gut. I threw him out of my house and he shacked up with the ... (read in full...)
Ladies: questions about sex on the first date.
Q. I would like to know two quick things about women ************************************ 1) how often do women have sex on the first date, If you have had sex on the first date... 2) what does it take for you to have sex on the first date?...
A. 17 December 2012: Are you asking what type of woman does this or how to get a woman to do this? I hope you are not trying to pull a pump and dump. that is very damaging to someone. ... (read in full...)
What's your opinion about "Nice Guys Finish Last?"
Q. Hey there dearcupid girls. Hope your having a great time right now and being prepared for the holidays. Anyway, I just have one question. Why is it that like I'm treating girls so nice that they won't be my girlfriend or like me more then just ...
A. 17 December 2012: OH WOW can I help you out. I currently suffer from being attracted to the guys all the girls want. I hate it but it is what it is. You might wonder what attracts them so much. It is very simple and very stupid. People want what either A-they ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 17 December 2012: I forgot about this happening as i have not been on this site in soooo long. This guy actually tried to text me a couple weeks later but I was in New York on training. I told him that I was in New York and he never said anything further. I can't ... (read in full...)
Is he a player? Have I done the right thing?
Q. For convenience, I am going to call the guy Matt. Matt and I got to know each other at the end of September at a house party. We are both on the same course at uni and therefore spend a lot of time together due to being in the same lectures an...
A. 16 December 2012: If he is at a university then he is prob early 20's and out for sex. They can't help themselves (some can but I bet its not the attractive ones)life sucks like that. I will say that most of them eventually want more than that but i just got played ... (read in full...)
Do I persist? Or break up? We argue quite frequently.
Q. okay so I would appreciate some good advice. I got into a relationship extremely quickly a couple of months ago, in hindsight I wish it wasn't as sudden as we didn't have time to get to know each other better. We argue quite frequently and h...
A. 16 December 2012: I would talk to him and tell him something is missing. He may feel the same. You guys could also try and figure out what is missing and work on that together. However....if it simply that you are not in love with him then you need to let him find ... (read in full...)
Seeing his old messages brought up my insecurities
Q. Well this morning my boyfriend left me alone in his flat as he went to work. I wanted to watch tv online so I turned it on but before decided to check my fb. As he never usually is logged in I didn't expect it when he was. I then began looking ...
A. 5 October 2011: who cares what he did before you started dating. If you are this insecure about that then you will end up driving him to do exactly what you fear. Don't freak out unless there is something to freak out about. The only one here who should freak out ... (read in full...)
I understand not being in the mood, but for 8 months??
Q. I feel that I've become unattractive to my girlfriend. We've been going out for two-years. At the start of our relationship, we were all over each other all the time. We would have sex basically everyday, sometimes two or three times (or more) ...
A. 5 October 2011: Everyone is giving great advice and I hate to say this but many times when someone does not want to be intimate, its because they are being intimate with someone else or have lost interest, but don't have the courage to break it off. You need to c... (read in full...)
The relationship has lost its spark
Q. I am 20 years old. I have been with my boyfriend who is 25 for a year and a half. We moved in with each other pretty much straight away, about three months in... for the first 3 months of being with him we had sex maybe twice a day... always t...
A. 5 October 2011: You definately need to change something. HIM. My ex got this way before we split. It was hard to see what an ass he had become while I was with him but now I simply pity whatever girl gets with him. He is romantic in beginning and a prick once ... (read in full...)
Is this guy just a time waster?
Q. About 1 year ago I met this guy at work and we briefly worked together for a few months. During that time, it was clear (or so I thought) that we were interested in each other, but nothing ever developed further. We would speak at work and ...
A. 5 October 2011: I know a guy friend who did this with people all the time. He had a million friends and simply forgot he was texting someone. He made a lot of girls mad but he had so many waiting that it didn't matter. I wouldn't think too much on it. If a guy ... (read in full...)
Why do guys act interested, then ignore you?
Q. I met this guy while I was at a club on Friday. It was his friend who was chatting to me more during the night and he was just more into the music (it wasn't like a trashy club we were all there to see a big DJ) so I had to make the effort to speak ...
A. 5 October 2011: he might have relationship ADD. he might have been completely into you then went out the next night and was completely into another girl. Its hard to establish anything in a club. He could have even had a girlfriend and was using u as an ego boost. ... (read in full...)
We work together, we kissed and now things are awkward!
Q. Okay so I started working at this restaurant when I had a girlfriend, and this beautiful girl I'm involved with now had a boyfriend. We both ended those relationships at pretty much the same time (not a planned thing, just a coincidence). We started ...
A. 5 October 2011: well first off, she should not have kissed you if she had something else going on unless you were both open about it to begin with but you seem to have been under the assumptions that she was single when you kissed her. She should have said ... (read in full...)
I think my b/f wants to break up with me and I don't know what to do
Q. Dear Cupid My bf of 3 years is avoiding my lately, cause of that we had a fight. I called him and we made up, but he avoding me more now. I have a feeling that he wants to break up with me, not sure why he hasnt done that yet. I am trying to ha...
A. 5 October 2011: some men don't break up they just break contact. its spineless and pathetic. Send a message stating that you feel he is trying to end it. If he doesn't respond then obviously he is trying to end it in a very immature and cowardly way. then move on ... (read in full...)
Is is wrong to date a 17 year old? I'm 26
Q. Hi there. So basically I've got 2 questions here. 1/ I'm 26 and there's this girl I like but she's 17, would you think there is anything wrong with that? If not then read question 2. 2/ I've been talking to her for a few months now, but have never ...
A. 5 October 2011: I'd wait till 18 and even so, you will find that the maturity level will come out once the newness is gone. Guys always think they want younger till they get it lol
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If we form a living arrangement he says he will only help with the food bill. Is this fair?
Q. Im a 46 years old woman just divorced my husband. I have got my own house and a part time job but earning just enough to support myself. I've met this man 16 years my senior and we gets on well and we've been together for 3 years. He has a good job ...
A. 24 September 2011: Um how can you think that this is acceptable. I would tell him that you can't afford his company and he can live in his own house. He sounds like a selfish prick. Tell him to F off. Men who don't pay their share are bums. You deserve better than a ... (read in full...)
He's changed his password on Facebook? And not mentioned it to me. Am I over-thinking this?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for just over 19 months now. He cheated on me after about 10 months and after that he completely changed his attitude and I could honestly see that this mistake was something that he regretted, so I took him back ...
A. 24 September 2011: Id like to say that I believe in second chances for people but I don't. Its not that I don't believe he is sorry as people do make mistakes that they regret however, the trust is gone. The purity is gone. After that it just deteriorates and degrades ... (read in full...)
Am I being demanding or is he being uncaring, and doesn't love me as much as it appears?
Q. I have been dating my boyfriend for almost half a year. Things are generally well, but I occasionally feel he doesn't love me as much as he says. We live quite a distance apart so have to be in touch mostly via text. He replies to them fairly well, ...
A. 24 September 2011: I have fallen fictim to the text message relationship. Hate to tell you but text messsages are no judge of anything. If you want to connect, talk on the phone. Texts can be misunderstood, lost, received at a busy time and then simply forgotton ... (read in full...)
The love of my life has been online cheating. I've never felt sadness like this before. Please help.
Q. Last night my heart was broken. I found out the girl that I planned to marry and live happily ever after with, has fallen for some online with someone else and spends hours each day flirting with and getting emotionally close with him. I'm in shoc...
A. 24 September 2011: you are on two dangerous trains of thought
1- you say that she is the love of your life.
NOPE. the love of your life would not do that. She fell for a guy online which is immature and stupid and unrealistic. There is no way to judge ch... (read in full...)
I am in a long-term committed relationship. Is it ok to see my former FWB?
Q. So I'm in a relationship with someone I love, 2.5 years now, living together, and everything is going really well. The thing is we're long distance for a few months due to work and I'm back where I grew up and my FWB wants to hang out and I'm not ...
A. 24 September 2011: I had a FWB once. It was fine because we both did not want to be with eachother in that way due to us being in different places in our lives. He is a good friend but once one of us dates we have to break contact. Its not a good idea to keep in ... (read in full...)
Its easier for us to be mean to each other rather than nice!
Q. i have been woth my boyfriend for 4 years and we have a 3 year old son. recently i dont want to have sex with him and dont like it when he tries to kiss me. we argue alot about nothing and i cry alot.we both say very hurtful things to each other and ...
A. 24 September 2011: you had a child way too soon. I think this is the problem. If you all would rather be mean to eachother than it is setting a horrible example for you child. You may be much better apart and get along better apart which may be much better for the ... (read in full...)
He is such a tight-wad in everything. Should I stay or go? It bothers me that he thinks women are after his money.
Q. I am a 46 years old woman. I've met this man 16 years older than me after my divorce. He is a wealthy man with his own house and car and still earning a good income. Im in a low paid job and just earn enough to support myself. I've got my own h...
A. 24 September 2011: expecting a man to take you out and pay for dates does not make you a gold digger. it is highly unattractive to be with a cheapskate. It doesn't mean you can't reach for the check every now and then but if he only pays his share then he does not ... (read in full...)
I'm not sexually attracted to my girlfriend!
Q. I've met a fantastic woman, she is funny, intelligent, thoughtful, sweet with a heart of gold... doesn't sound like much of a problem does it? The problem lies in attraction, I met her from a dating site, we hit it off immediately as we are both of ...
A. 24 September 2011: If you are not attracted to someone than be their friend. You seem to have led her on a bit. You can't help who you are attracted to. I have met many great men but if there is no spark or no attraction then there is no need to waster their time. ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 24 September 2011: I have a feeling our paths will cross again and I will relish putting him in his place but for right now I need to get over it and meet other people. Thank You so much for all of your advice as it is highly theraputic to see different view points. ... (read in full...)
I'm suspicious of what went on at this bachelor party
Q. My boyfriend went on a bachelor party out of town for the weekend with his friends recently. He's already gone on a few of them before during our relationship and has always been good about communicating, even if it's just at the end of the night to ...
A. 23 September 2011: yeah this is pretty classic. Dump him. Hell he cheated on you with a "4". and his buddies were making fun of him for it. he didn't text cause he was cheating. Its so obvious to an outsider. DUMP HIM NOW. I caught my ex with texts. my ex was a moron ... (read in full...)
He just turned off his feelings
Q. My boyfriend just recently broke up with me. He essentially turned his feelings off like a light switch. His father is an alcoholic, so he has learned to become very disassociated from situations that would normally be hurtful. He started letting go ...
A. 23 September 2011: In order for you to heal you cannot be "friends". the person who is not hurting can be friends. its unrealistic and stupid to try and remain friends because on some level you will always have the hope that he will turn his feelings back on. Get aw... (read in full...)
Should I break up with my boyfriend for being jealous?
Q. Hi I was for a week on vacation with a girlfriend to Italy. First days my boyfriend texted me said he missed me and asked me how I was doing. When I said that I met French and Polish guys and was going out with them that night he starting asking me ...
A. 23 September 2011: well it seems like a pretty reasonable reaction on his part. Why on earth did you tell him that you were going out with guys that were flirting with you. I would definately start sweet talking him and saying that you had no eyes for these guys and ... (read in full...)
I honey-trapped my own boyfriend.....he doesn't know it was me and hes broken my heart!!
Q. I am in bits right now.....really need some help. Ive been seing my long distant lover for 9 months. Hes in the army but we saw each other when we could. Latley he had become really distant from me though......his calls and texts became very rare ...
A. 23 September 2011: well he is surrounded by men who are probably filling his head with crap. I would tell him that you know he is being distant and that you are sensing something is wrong so you will let him go and have his freedom. If he freaks out and tries to win ... (read in full...)
I cheated on him, now he wants me to pay
Q. Hey! So, cheated on my bf and I know it was bad and all. So, please, please, please, no judgment. Trying to win him back. He says he loves me, but his trust is gone. Then he came over to my place tonite and tried real hard to have sex.I refused cos ...
A. 23 September 2011: Your relationship is over. sorry. dont cheat on the next one but you can't be some kind of sex slave with this guy. Just tell him you are forever regretful and end it. He is dealing with it in a very odd way. Its over. move on and don't cheat ... (read in full...)
How do I deal with this irritating man child whom I had been dating?
Q. I'm really mad. I was seeing this 40 year old man child for 5 months. He tells me he really likes me, sees us together but needed time to get himself together after a break up. He wasn't married or engaged to this woman. This guy would only call ...
A. 23 September 2011: LOL?!?!!? might as well not even respond. Go get a younger hotter guy and ignore him from now on. I guess I'm not the only one who magnetizes jerks lol and seriously, at 40 years old come on. He probably broke up with that girl and just uses the ... (read in full...)
How can I move forward from my ex, when all I have is this urge to go up to her and beg for her to come back or at least talk to me?
Q. My ex-girlfriend and I broke up at the end of this summer. Long story short, she told me over text, in these words, "I think I dont like you anymore," ending our year long relationship and crushing my heart. Since then, I've begged, I've tried to be ...
A. 23 September 2011: First off you sound so needy. If you want to get her to notice you...sadly.....you have to NOT notice her. I know it seems hard but if you were smothering, always let her pick where to go, got her gifts, was always the first to apologize, then I'm ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 22 September 2011: its not the call that scares me. Its the "hey what happened where did you go" call answered by a voice mail with no call back. Or the ignored text message. NO GUY goes from texting everyday to nothing if he is interested. Perhaps my pride does keep ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 20 September 2011: I DID make contact after the sex. he responded and we talked back and forth for a week and then he went silent. When I say I don't chase guys, it means I don't keep texting/calling after i made the last contact. It seems so pathetic. I guess I will ... (read in full...)
How do I trust him again? I don't want to be controlling and jealous!
Q. so I’m having a problem with my relationship I’ve been with my boyfriend for 10 months he’s perfect well sometimes... I’m very jealous and controlling I honestly want to stop being that way.. I don’t know to tho the reason I’m so jealous is because ...
A. 19 September 2011: He is obviously not worried about ir feelings if he tries to make u feel low . Him constantly talking about his ex is disrespectful as at this point why do u still need to hear about her? He doesn't seem to respect u and appears to treat u like a ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 19 September 2011: Well I wanted it under the assumption that it was headed somewhere. I guess I assumed wrong. He did not have a girlfriend but if he was hung up on someone I wouldn't know that unless he told me. He made me think he liked me and I stupidly slept with ... (read in full...)
I'm pretty sure my boyfriend cheated but I don't want to leave him!
Q. Hi, Just need some help with my cheating boyfriend. Im pretty sure he's been lying and cheating on me. I saw the girls facebook and his name is all over it. She talks about him a lot. I'm stuck right now. I was too upset to talk to him ...
A. 18 September 2011: you don't even have proof he has done anything. Maybe this girl likes him but it isn't his fault. If he has cheated then ditch him but until you have solid evidence, don't accuse him of something like that. If I didn't do anything, and someone kept ... (read in full...)
My wife has started telling lots of lies. She I confront her about it?
Q. I always believed my wife to be a very honest person. She would never steal, cheat, or otherwise be unethical. She works with large amounts of money as part of her job. I have never really caught her in a lie to me and we have been together...
A. 18 September 2011: She probably is only telling them to either spare feelings because she doesn't want to see someone or to get out of work. Everyone has pulled the sick excuse but if you think its increasing or spilling over into other areas, then talk to her about ... (read in full...)
Did I do anything wrong by not contacting him?
Q. I dated a guy for 4-5 months a while ago. After a lot of mess he ended it with me. He wasn't always nice to me, said bad things and made me feel bad about myself. But we had great chemistry in many ways, and I was very much in love, but everything ...
A. 18 September 2011: would you even have had contact if it were not for the party. Ditch this douche bag. If he didn't try to apologize or make contact before the party, then the party was just an easy hook up for him. Don't worry we all get fooled believe me I know but ... (read in full...)
Does Internet dating actually work?
Q. I thought I'd share my experience - I guess I'm probably not alone. I've generally not had a problem in getting first dates with women on dating sites: although my looks are fairly average at best I've got a good profile and can write witty emails. ...
A. 18 September 2011: The probem with online dating is this. People look at a picture and 2 hours with someone and expect it to be this amazing thing. The truth is, when you meet people in real life and get to know them, you find yourself later attracted to them when you ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 18 September 2011: If I had a time machine I would have not had sex so soon. Its not fair that men chase you and if you let them catch you and its possibly too soon or before a connection has been made enough, he counts it as a stike against you. Such crap. I learned ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 18 September 2011: well my last text to him was Monday and I said some joke about me not being able to drink that much. He never responded and has not made contact since so obviously he doesn't want me I guess. I mean It is aleady Sunday now. He used to never go one ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 17 September 2011: well that is just it. I did initiate the text after the sex. He responded then it eventually died off with me saying the last text. I just think the ball is in his court now. I said I had a good time and I made contact after the fact and Monday was ... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 17 September 2011: oh yeah also it had been like 7 months since he split with the ex so I figured he had enough single time but obviously he did not or he just isn't into me like that or worse yet............bad sex lol I sure hope its not that last one... (read in full...)
It seems like everything died because we had sex!
Q. i hit one wrong button and deleted everything I wrote so here is a reduced version. I was talking to a guy for two months via text and hung out a few times. He works at the same place I do but don't see him hardly at all so I wasn't worried about ...
A. 17 September 2011: well he did reply but he hasn't spoken to me in 5 days. he used to never go one day and the only thing different is sex so that has to be the problem. I have not bothered him and I'm definately giving space but i can't help feeling rejected and a ... (read in full...)
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