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It is flattering but I believe it is better to work without them
Because it defeats the purpose of objectively answering your problem
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Why do people believe - or not believe - in God?
Q. Im just curious here, I wanna hear from people who are and are not in anyway, religious. To the folk who to believe there's a god, why do you believe so? A personal miracle happened to you, or some sort of experience that has made you believe? Or ...
A. 11 February 2009: Let us say, you saw a house in the middle of the desert
What comes into mind?
Someone must have built that house, right?
And it is impossible for some unexplained random accident, natural phenomena or the forces of nature to put together the... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love & be with my cousin?
Q. i am in love with my cousin since i was in my early age. he is soo handsome and a lot of girls likes him soo much, i am a simple woman not pretty not sexy, i dont really think soo that he would feel the same way,he likes me also,every day we were ...
A. 16 January 2009: A third cousin? A third cousin is a second cousin of your mother or father.
If we are going to apply an "inbreeding coefficient" the chance that there will some mutation in the cells of an offspring - it would be 1.53% better than the followin... (read in full...)
I want to get married soon.
Q. I am a 24 year old female and have been in a relationship with the same guy for four years now. He is 34 years and am hoping that soonest we will be engaged and get married. I am so close to his family and loved by everyone and I really love him ...
A. 15 January 2009: I went to the same situation your man is experiencing right now. When I went for it this "marriage thing" it only lasted for less than two (2) years. I wasn't ready. I preferred a quiet civil wedding but she preferred a festive reception.
Now t... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to love & be with my cousin?
Q. i am in love with my cousin since i was in my early age. he is soo handsome and a lot of girls likes him soo much, i am a simple woman not pretty not sexy, i dont really think soo that he would feel the same way,he likes me also,every day we were ...
A. 15 January 2009: I think you have a situation there, miss. Since we belong to the same country let give me give you something to think about. Legal stand point: Family Code of the Republic of the Philippines No. "Section 1, Article 38 of the Family Code proh... (read in full...)
I love my second cousin and need help telling my dad!
Q. hi i would like to know what pepole think about me dating my 2ed cousen? and i also need to tell my dad but i dont know how i need help? help me!!!!!...
A. 15 January 2009: All states in the United States of America, allow relationships with 2nd cousins. From a legal stand point, you won't have problems with that. However, there will be problems on family relationships and medical outcomes. Cousin relationships, w... (read in full...)
He doesn't believe that I am a virgin
Q. i am a girl of 23 years old. i never have sex before one day i was with my boy friend kissing each other he now then put his finger inside my vergina and told be look you are not a virgin why are u lieing to i started crying because i really know ...
A. 14 January 2009: Virginity is the state of never having had sexual intercourse. It is viewed positively or negatively depending on one's gender, one's age, one's culture and one's own personal beliefs and attitudes. In some cultures virginity has no special ... (read in full...)
What constitutes a stalker?
Q. What qualifies someone as a stalker? Is it considered stalking if the person in question continues to try to contact you, even after you have left the country to avoid them?...
A. 14 January 2009: What qualifies someone as a stalker?
Stalking refers to harassing or threatening behavior that is engaged in repeatedly. Such harassment can be either physical stalking or cyberstalking.
Physical stalking is following someone, appearing a... (read in full...)
I feel he is a bit distant and I think he still love his ex-girlfriend.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 3 months. We met in a online site and things are going really slowly. He says he is serious and wants a long term relationship. His ex-girl friend broke up with him 9 months ago. After 2 months he left the onli...
A. 12 January 2009: Q: Should I give him space?
A: Space is given only when the relationship is in the verge of breaking up. Space occurs when both of you have a relationship in stress. However, going full court press maybe a bad strategy.
Q: Let him to pursue me... (read in full...)
My ex is a beautiful godess and I can't find sexual pleasure in other women since I met her...
Q. I have a problem that doesn't seem to be going away. I broke up with my girlfriend of 3.5 years about 14 months ago (long story short: we were fighting a lot, neither of us were happy, I suggested taking a "break", and we never got back together- ...
A. 9 January 2009: "Charm is deceptive and beauty is fleeting..." Solomon, King of Israel, The Bible Proverbs 31:30 Solomon had seven hundred wives and three hundred concubines! But he knew what he was talking about. He had his hands full 365 days in a year with ... (read in full...)
If you start taking viagra when you're young will your body become dependant on using it?
Q. If you start taking viagra when you're young will your body become dependant on using it and will the dosage need to increase? ie. will your body become immune to it?...
A. 7 January 2009: I have tried Viagra when I was young and it was just out of the market then. I sliced half of the 500 mg tablet to test its potency and it really works. I was the man of steel, as in able to stop a speeding locomotive - at least downstairs and f... (read in full...)
Crazy crush.
Q. hello dear readers, Many already posted about their crushes or about their feelings for their teachers. and I am one of them. My question is if you have a crush on a teacher but you don't want to have to, what should you do?? please help me...
A. 7 January 2009: Wow, kala ko sa ibang bansa lang nagkaka-crush ang mga estudyante sa kanilang maestro. Hihihi. Hindi ako yun, malamang aurelius ang pangalan nun. =) Joke. I am a professor in one least known school here in the Philippines. I know what you are goi... (read in full...)
I don't want our friendship to go over the line, but he likes me!
Q. I am currently going through a separation/divorce as a result of my husband cheating on me. I have a male friend who is married, and is just that... a friend. He always seems to step over the line when it comes to our friendship. In the past, I ...
A. 6 January 2009: Is there a way to put him in his place, without losing the friendship?
The best way for keep your friend in his place is to visit his place and befriend your wife's friend and see his kids. The hunter becomes the hunted.
It is a good thing tha... (read in full...)
Will it make me sound needy if I tell him what I want
Q. Hey, I’ll start off with saying that I’m a 21 yr old virgin, not because of religion or because im waiting for the right guy to come alone I just work to much and really don’t have a social life. So the thought of having a boyfriend and ho...
A. 6 January 2009: You are on the right track when you say that you are keeping your virginity for the right man. Now is he the right man? Which is supposed to be your main question.
Q: Will talking to him about what i want out of this make me sound needy?
Why ... (read in full...)
Are there certain questions you can ask to see if I guy is true?
Q. Are there certain things you can ask a guy, to test if hes being true and honest and not putting on some fake act? I'm 19 years old, and have had two boyfriends, both who made me believe they were these nice, caring, respectful guys, but in the end,...
A. 6 January 2009: I have some bad news for you - There is no questionnaire or a check list to know if a guy has true love or not.
However, you ladies have this "female intiution" which is deadly to us males, to know if we are up to no good.
Rather than t... (read in full...)
Should I take the plunge or wait it out?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have been hanging out with this guy for a while and my feelings are starting to grow more and more for him. We aren't going out yet but I can't wait till the day we do. Now I know that if i wanted to have sex with him that he woul...
A. 6 January 2009: You are 13-15 years of age. Under the United States law you are defined as a minor. A minor is any person under the age of 18 years of age. Having this in mind, what are the legal consequences? If you have sex with your boyfriend and your parents ... (read in full...)
In love with my first cousin
Q. Omg... I'm in a big dilemma, so I fell in love with my first cousin. Yes I know it sounds nasty but it really isnt. I never knew who he was. I knew he existed somewhere in the map but we were never brought up together. One summer he came to visit my ...
A. 5 January 2009: Is it wrong?? Im scared of what people and family are gonna say. Please help I need honest answers.
Since you are in the U.S. of A, I have to qualify my answer. In my country cousin marraiges are not permitted. In the US, it depends on what sta... (read in full...)
How can I tell my parents about my White BF when they're so against dating other races?
Q. I really need some help. How can I tell my parents about my bf? I am black and he's white. My parents are totally against dating people of other races and I know they will be mad about this. How should I break the news to them? I am afraid they ...
A. 5 January 2009: Let me tell you about a man in your country who believed in change.
Change - we can believe in the motto of Barack Hussein Obama II
The first African American to be elected President of the United States, Obama was the junior United States Se... (read in full...)
If you like girls but get aroused looking at guys photos, are you gay?
Q. if you like and are strongly attracted to girls... and get arouse when you see nude guys..does dat mean your gay??? thanks...
A. 5 January 2009: a male who is attracted to girls as well as to men, is a bisexual.
For more information on the topic, visit this website:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bisexuality
It would be helpfull and entertaining if you could watch "Brokeback Mountai... (read in full...)
I'm hiding forbidden love from my mom
Q. im in a relation that im 15, and he is 18. its a forbidden love, and even though i am really pretty, and he isnt, i really like him(which no one really gets why i hang out with him)i really like him, he is himself, and when we USE to talk we talked ...
A. 4 January 2009: Young woman, be aware that if you have sexual relationship with this marine, you are placing him in violation of the United States Criminal Law on Statutory Rape. He might wind up in a Federal Prison, if you do that.
A minor is defined as a person... (read in full...)
I fancy my dermatologist... is she too old for me?
Q. Okay this is an add on to a earlier question I have asked! Once again I am an almost 18 year old virgin who hasn't kissed a girl. My Dermatologist who is also my regular doctor is quite beautiful. I know she is divorced and she has children. Sh...
A. 4 January 2009: Doctors and other medical professionals often encounter these things in the course of their duties. It is another day in the office for her.
As you have said, she has 2 children and I bet they are about your age. Surely they wont let there ma... (read in full...)
Wrong to date my half brothers half brother?
Q. my dad married a woman that had 2 kids, then had another child with her, which made me a step sister and half sister. my dad is divorces now, is it wrong to date my half brothera half brother even though im no longer a step sister???...
A. 4 January 2009: By virtue of the divorce, you are no longer related (by law) to your ex-step brother. However the offspring of your father and his ex-wife, you are still siblings to that child.
Complications might arise in the future, though. A divorce is usual... (read in full...)
Should I be getting married if I have thoughts like this about another person?
Q. hi i'm really confussed and don't know what to do, i'm 27 and have been with my partner now for 10 years and have 2 lovely girls and we are getting married next year. everything between us is perfect i love him and our life together is good, but ...
A. 4 January 2009: does this make me a bad person? should i still be getting married if i have feelings for someone else aswell?
calling off the wedding will mean i lose everything with my partner (wedding expensives, house, friendship, custody even) and i do love ... (read in full...)
UK 1st cousin love...
Q. what are the uk laws with being with your 1st cousins...
A. 4 January 2009: I have to revise my previous reply because there were changes to in British Law about Forbidden Marraiges. Previously, I came across a 1956 law which was modified by the Parliament in 2003.
Please visit this website for a complete verion: ... (read in full...)
Incestuous thoughts about cousin
Q. I am 20 years old and am thinking about acting on incestuous thoughts with one of my cousins as long as it is consensual. I personally do not consider it terribly wrong, just incredibly hot. II do not want to marry her; I just want to try to start ...
A. 4 January 2009: I have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterectomy a few years back and she is a bomb shell.
Heck with her hysterectomy, we can have sex 7/24 and there will be no worries of a... (read in full...)
Relationship with step brother wrong?
Q. I feel really confused and don't know what to do, me and my step-brother (not blood related) are kind of having a relationship, i always worry about what happens if my mom and step dad or dad and step mom find out, they kind of know somethings going ...
A. 4 January 2009: You have the right to resist such relationship under the British law because these fall under "Fobidden Degrees of Relationship"
Throughout the United Kingdom and the British Crown dependencies of Guernsey, Jersey and the Isle of Man, the law forb... (read in full...)
Am I really starting to fall in love with my brother?
Q. My older brother and I have been sexually active with each other for some years now. I know this started as him abusing me but I no longer see it that way and I think I might be falling in love with him. He is 4 years older then me and started uni 2 ...
A. 4 January 2009: I am sorry but you have to report your case to the police or some cause oriented group in your country. Your case is a Child Abuse case.
Your acceptance and developed affection for the brother who have sexually abused you is a common reaction... (read in full...)
Should it be allowed for teacher's to date students?
Q. I've been searching google and stuff, about the laws and reasons of teacher's not being able to date students. I was just wondering what people's views on the law was.... Because, I understand that teacher's are in high authority position and in ...
A. 4 January 2009: I hope the other responders do not confuse this topic. I am a college professor and I am not romantically involved in anyway with the students under my care.
Let me clarify this case,
This case is about a student who is falling in love with her... (read in full...)
UK 1st cousin love...
Q. what are the uk laws with being with your 1st cousins...
A. 4 January 2009: UK laws on forbidden love could be found at this website:
http://www.genetic-genealogy.co.uk/Toc115570145.html
On first cousins, the website has this notation:
Double first cousins of both types (first degree and normal), with R values e... (read in full...)
What do I do? Does this seem logical? Is he just pulling my leg?
Q. My boyfriend and I have been dating for 2 years and his mother just passed away in august very suddenly and her death has taken its toll on him. We're both only 20 years old but we care for each other very deeply and are like two puzzle pieces that ...
A. 3 January 2009: A death in the family is one of the top causes of stress. He isn't pulling your leg unless his mother is alive and kicking. Maybe I would feel the same way if my mother dies.
What do I do? Give time for him to overcome his grief, sorrow and stre... (read in full...)
Love at first sight - do you believe?
Q. do you guys believe in love at first sight? ...
A. 3 January 2009: Definitely, I believe in love at first sight. Some people were slapped a restraining order because of it. =)... (read in full...)
Why do people believe - or not believe - in God?
Q. Im just curious here, I wanna hear from people who are and are not in anyway, religious. To the folk who to believe there's a god, why do you believe so? A personal miracle happened to you, or some sort of experience that has made you believe? Or ...
A. 3 January 2009: I believe in God because the world is real. A house cannot exist if nobody put them there. Much more the galaxies of the universe and other universes would not be there if nobody put them there. The Big Bang Theory (its still a theory, not a ... (read in full...)
Worried I won't be able to perform!
Q. i've never masturbated because i can't climax. i just get bored (and sore). When i was about 8-9, i had an operation where they cut the foreskin away from the head (because i was unable to pull it back). i think this may have something to do with it ...
A. 3 January 2009: There is nothing wrong with you. You are in your puberty stage that is why you are having wet dreams. There is nothing wrong with that at your age.
Circumcision had nothing do with your worries. Its all in your young mind. Now when you play wit... (read in full...)
He's upset because I took the morning after pill!
Q. I took some emergency contraception pills yesterday after unprotected sex with my boyfriend. I told him that i need to take them and he sounded like he understood. Last night when i was talking to him again, he mentioned that he didn't really like ...
A. 3 January 2009: Maybe he is a devout Catholic or maybe he is trying to say something like - I want a baby.
The Catholic stance against contraceptives and other artificial means of birth control is strong among the devout. The irony is it is not the priests ... (read in full...)
Should I tell him how much I miss him?
Q. Recently I got back from staying with a friend who I really like, when we're together we act like we're a couple, hug, kiss and hold hands. Although we aren't together at the moment as I'm scared to ask him as we currently live nearly 3 hours away ...
A. 3 January 2009: A long distance love affair. Normally its bound to fail but with communication the world gets smaller. I just don't know what to do. Shall I tell him how much I miss him? Sending text messages wont hurt a bit. But dont demand a reply every no... (read in full...)
His parents don't like me because of my race
Q. so basically im seeing this guy and weve been together for a long time now so i really like him alot and the only problem is that his parents dont want him dating outside of his race ( which is white) how do i deal with the fact that they will n...
A. 3 January 2009: So your bfs parents are racist. Member of the KKK Canadian Chapter, I bet. Its quite a problem you got there, miss. Now to answer your questions.
"Is it worth it for me to keep going with our relationship? Or should i not continue it because ... (read in full...)
I feel he is a bit distant and I think he still love his ex-girlfriend.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 3 months. We met in a online site and things are going really slowly. He says he is serious and wants a long term relationship. His ex-girl friend broke up with him 9 months ago. After 2 months he left the onli...
A. 3 January 2009: So eye to eye, its 6 days. Thats not the way to build a relationship. He wont gain to know you and you, him. A long distance relationship has greater chances of failing. Would it be possible if you meet say thrice or once a week? If its not possi... (read in full...)
I don't know who to choose now!
Q. Hi I went to see a girl called Lucy, we said we loved each other and we talked about doing many sexual things however, we had a part at hers and I got with her best friend. It was the first time me and her friend met up. When she made the first m...
A. 3 January 2009: "the thing is lucy is ok with it?"
It is never ok when a partner becomes unfaithful. Hell has no wrath for a woman scorned.
"when lucy an i met up she wouldn't hold my hand?"
Maybe she knows. There are no secrets that are not revealed special... (read in full...)
Although I enjoyed his interest I'm not sure I want to meet him, as I am committed, so what should I answer him?
Q. Dear aunts and uncles I'm with my boyfriend for 4 years. We had some problems the last few month, but know, we want to stay together and may go further. At the beginning of our problems in October, I went to a advanced training course, where I ...
A. 3 January 2009: "So what to I answer this man? I don't know if I want to meet. I like him, but I am not interested, but I don't want to raise his hopes and I don't want to hurt his feelings. Probably the best way is to be honest. But how? What should I answer? What ... (read in full...)
My b/f now wants to be FWB
Q. my boyfriend of 1 and half years, told me that he wanted to be just friends with benefits, i agreed as i still love him, and it was a way for me still to see him. i cannot bare the thought of not seeing him, and i am hoping that he realizes ...
A. 3 January 2009: Words are just words, girl. You should know that.
To love and to hold. Till death do we part. - are phrases but do they really mean anything? Words are just words. When divorce comes what happened to those sacred phrases?
There is nothing perma... (read in full...)
My "boyfriend" is still seeing someone else, how can I approach the subject of my pregnancy without him freaking out again?
Q. Hi, I know this question has been asked a couple of times b4 but thought I Would put it in my own way. I Found Out I was 11 weeks Pregnant with My Second Child last week. Its Kind Of a difficult situation as my "boyfriend" Is still with someo...
A. 3 January 2009: "I am more than willing to bring this child up on my own as I did with my first child after leaving his father when he was 6 month old, his now 4. but last night he sent me a text saying whatever happened he will always love the three of us, does ... (read in full...)
I'd do anything to find a girlfriend, what should I do?
Q. Hi here is my question I'll do anything to get a girlfriend, iv run 18 miles with flowers to see them, for them to turn me down and not even talk to me. I take 3 hours on a train just to see them, i take them for nice walks, i hold there hand...
A. 3 January 2009: please i'd do anything to find a girl, what shall i do?
You sound desperate to find a girl. As in any girl? 13-15 y.o. geez, ok. If you can enumerate 10 reasons why you need a girl then it would be easy for you to find a girl.
Any girl will... (read in full...)
I can't find that special person and won't waste a kiss on someone else, am I normal?
Q. I have been told I'm romantic and an amazing catch,but no girls ever take interest in me. I'm 5'8 and weight around 160 pounds.I'm not interested in random hookups to which I've been called gay because of it. I want my first kiss as well as ev...
A. 3 January 2009: Is there anything wrong with me??? None.
16-17 y.o. still fresh from puberty. You will gonna experience things in the future. Don't be impatient. You will get there.... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn means I'm lesbian? I've never been attracted to girls!
Q. Dear ppl, Lately I've been thinking about my sexual orientation. I used to watch porn and I stopped because I hated it and I felt disgusted every time I do it. I watched lesbian porn and I felt sth during watching it but I HATED it afterwards and I...
A. 3 January 2009: Does that mean I'm homosexual? No.
Does watching lesbian porn means I'm lesbian? No.
or also straight people can watch it? Yes.... (read in full...)
I feel he is a bit distant and I think he still love his ex-girlfriend.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 3 months. We met in a online site and things are going really slowly. He says he is serious and wants a long term relationship. His ex-girl friend broke up with him 9 months ago. After 2 months he left the onli...
A. 3 January 2009: When you say 3 months, would that be a solid 3 months? Or less solid than 3 months of seeing him?
I have paid attention to what you wrote:
"I went to have to see him at his place two days yesterday and we watched a movie and he hugged me and wa... (read in full...)
In love with my first cousin
Q. Omg... I'm in a big dilemma, so I fell in love with my first cousin. Yes I know it sounds nasty but it really isnt. I never knew who he was. I knew he existed somewhere in the map but we were never brought up together. One summer he came to visit my ...
A. 3 January 2009: have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterectomy a few years back and she is a bomb shell.
Heck with her hysterectomy, we can have sex 7/24 and there will be no worries of a... (read in full...)
Should it be allowed for teacher's to date students?
Q. I've been searching google and stuff, about the laws and reasons of teacher's not being able to date students. I was just wondering what people's views on the law was.... Because, I understand that teacher's are in high authority position and in ...
A. 3 January 2009: Exactly the point. My advice are:
1. For xCharliix to finish her studies and school
2. During the process, she must have any relationship with the teacher but as a student
3. After her studies and school, she is free as a bird to do whatever she... (read in full...)
Should it be allowed for teacher's to date students?
Q. I've been searching google and stuff, about the laws and reasons of teacher's not being able to date students. I was just wondering what people's views on the law was.... Because, I understand that teacher's are in high authority position and in ...
A. 2 January 2009: Love has no boundaries. Age does not matter. If age does matter - well, Tom Cruise did it, Nicolas Cage did it, David Letterman did it, Harrison Ford did it - and I beg to disagree that these fine gentlemen are a bunch of pervs.
Society however ... (read in full...)
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