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I had a heart sign twice and rated 7.14, since I joined this website
It is flattering but I believe it is better to work without them
Because it defeats the purpose of objectively answering your problem
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I feel he is a bit distant and I think he still love his ex-girlfriend.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 3 months. We met in a online site and things are going really slowly. He says he is serious and wants a long term relationship. His ex-girl friend broke up with him 9 months ago. After 2 months he left the onli...
A. 12 January 2009: Q: Should I give him space?
A: Space is given only when the relationship is in the verge of breaking up. Space occurs when both of you have a relationship in stress. However, going full court press maybe a bad strategy.
Q: Let him to pursue me... (read in full...)
In love with my first cousin
Q. Omg... I'm in a big dilemma, so I fell in love with my first cousin. Yes I know it sounds nasty but it really isnt. I never knew who he was. I knew he existed somewhere in the map but we were never brought up together. One summer he came to visit my ...
A. 5 January 2009: Is it wrong?? Im scared of what people and family are gonna say. Please help I need honest answers.
Since you are in the U.S. of A, I have to qualify my answer. In my country cousin marraiges are not permitted. In the US, it depends on what sta... (read in full...)
Should it be allowed for teacher's to date students?
Q. I've been searching google and stuff, about the laws and reasons of teacher's not being able to date students. I was just wondering what people's views on the law was.... Because, I understand that teacher's are in high authority position and in ...
A. 4 January 2009: I hope the other responders do not confuse this topic. I am a college professor and I am not romantically involved in anyway with the students under my care.
Let me clarify this case,
This case is about a student who is falling in love with her... (read in full...)
I feel he is a bit distant and I think he still love his ex-girlfriend.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 3 months. We met in a online site and things are going really slowly. He says he is serious and wants a long term relationship. His ex-girl friend broke up with him 9 months ago. After 2 months he left the onli...
A. 3 January 2009: So eye to eye, its 6 days. Thats not the way to build a relationship. He wont gain to know you and you, him. A long distance relationship has greater chances of failing. Would it be possible if you meet say thrice or once a week? If its not possi... (read in full...)
Does watching lesbian porn means I'm lesbian? I've never been attracted to girls!
Q. Dear ppl, Lately I've been thinking about my sexual orientation. I used to watch porn and I stopped because I hated it and I felt disgusted every time I do it. I watched lesbian porn and I felt sth during watching it but I HATED it afterwards and I...
A. 3 January 2009: Does that mean I'm homosexual? No.
Does watching lesbian porn means I'm lesbian? No.
or also straight people can watch it? Yes.... (read in full...)
He is asking me for no strings sex, what should I answer him?
Q. This guy is with me since 2 years ago. We have kissed and caressed each other. He is asking me for sex, but without love and emotions. On New year eve he called me up and again asked me for sexual relations. I said him that i love him, and i also ...
A. 3 January 2009: Typical male. He has mistaken you for a ho. Tell him to get a ho. If you fall for him, you become a ho.
Christmas is over. Santa is not saying ho ho ho anymore.... (read in full...)
Do men like virgins?
Q. Do men like virgins?...
A. 3 January 2009: Definitely, virgins are women to be appreciated. If I find one, I'll marry her right away. Even Allah promises 73 huge breasted virgins in heaven for followers who died in jihad or a war for the cause of Islam. Do men like virgins? I don't... (read in full...)
He wants me to change my PROFESSIONAL name after marriage and I don't want to
Q. Hello all, I have been in a relationship my boyfriend for 2 years and have run into some problems. We have discussed our future many times, trying to sort things to make our relationship work into a marriage, but I have some issues with what...
A. 3 January 2009: "(We're Asian) I wanted to compromise with my social name taking on his, and my keeping my maiden name as my professional one. Am I being selfish?" No your are not being selfish. Changing names would require time and some government appro... (read in full...)
I don't want to cheat--how do I stay faithful!
Q. Ok so ths is kind of hard to explain. im 22 and is engaged with two kids. One daughter adopted who is 18 months and my newborn son who is 8 weeks old. I love my fiance and my family to bits but we have had troubles and low points in the past ...
A. 3 January 2009: Stay focus on your family. Talking to yourself would help kick in the conscience and awareness. If you are religious, start praying for help. If you are not religious, distance yourself from the object or source of becoming unfaithful.... (read in full...)
I always lose! Bullies win!
Q. why is life so unfair fomr some of us and not others. im sorry the bullies always and i always lose. and don,t say the bullies get their came ups on because they don,t . The bullies always win always always always win....
A. 3 January 2009: Your problem is quite generalized, probably you should be comprehensive of how bullies win and in what way.
Is this a geo-political statement or is this a female bully case or a male bully case? I am at a lost here.... (read in full...)
I"m afraid to trust men and I keep sabotaging budding relationships
Q. I'm a 56 year old woman, divorced with 3 grown up children. I've been single for 15 years, having been married for nearly 20. I'm slim, attractive and look much younger than my years. I look after myself, dress fashionably, go to the gym ...
A. 3 January 2009: Do you think there is a way I can 'unlearn' these behaviours, or do I have to accept that I will have to remain single and make the best of that?
Do you really like to "unlearn" these behaviours which you have exercised for the past 15 years? D... (read in full...)
Why does he keep texting and calling and emailing me?
Q. dear cupid, i need your help. robert and i have been best friends for about three years i mean this boy would kill over me and he doesn't do that for everyone.about a year ago i told him i wanted to be more. hes had it bad for me since he met me but ...
A. 3 January 2009: Its confusing.
"what does this mean? why does he keep texting and calling and emailing me? it kills me he is not mine. and i know it kills him im not his. i know him too well. he misses me. bad. what does all this mean? and why does he suddenly... (read in full...)
Love to hear about the past!
Q. Hi There, This is the first time I have done this sort of thing so here goes. I want to know if anybody else feels the same way I do about my wife's sexual past. I have known her since we were in high school. We dated a bit in high school and ...
A. 3 January 2009: "Does anybody else feel the same way?"
You mean the negative side effect of hearing and role playing your wife's past sex adventures?
Well, I haven't heard those before but I did inquire about my ex-wife's sexual adventures. The reason for m... (read in full...)
I feel he is a bit distant and I think he still love his ex-girlfriend.
Q. Hi I have been dating this guy for 3 months. We met in a online site and things are going really slowly. He says he is serious and wants a long term relationship. His ex-girl friend broke up with him 9 months ago. After 2 months he left the onli...
A. 3 January 2009: When you say 3 months, would that be a solid 3 months? Or less solid than 3 months of seeing him?
I have paid attention to what you wrote:
"I went to have to see him at his place two days yesterday and we watched a movie and he hugged me and wa... (read in full...)
Am I doing something wrong dating him I'm 17, he's 27
Q. Well I am a 17 year old girl soon turning into 18 and the guy whom I am in a relation is 27 year old. And only thing that strikes in my mind is that am I doing anything wrong? As the matter of fact love is blind. But still I think there is too long ...
A. 3 January 2009: Love has no boundaries. Age does not matter. How old is Tom Cruise 45 and Katie Holmes 26?
As long as you are consenting adults and as long as you genuinely love each other then where is the age gap?
People denounce and even mocked at age ga... (read in full...)
Should I be worried about my husband running around with his cousin? He's a known cheater.
Q. my husband and i have been together for almost 5 years now, we have a 2 year old and another one on the way. i have always had a problem with him running around with his cousin. his cousin is a known cheater, and going through a divorce because of ...
A. 3 January 2009: The top reason of why husbands cheat their wives, according to some major internet survey, is that they have friends who are cheaters.
I hope that answers your question.... (read in full...)
2 guys dunno who to pick!
Q. re posted as wrong info included! 2 guys dunno who to pick! New Year = New Start - - Should I make it a brave one? towards the back end of 2008 i found myself in a right muddle!! Theres this guy at work that i really do like i like him soo...
A. 3 January 2009: Do you really have to pick up one right now? Listen to your heart. He must be in love with you and you must be in love with him - if one is missing, then there will be nothing. Love is mutual and ever ready.
My advice, friendship first before l... (read in full...)
Should I tell him what I feel about him or should I just forget everything?
Q. 2 years ago, I broke up with someone..Well we actually weren't official lovers but we date and talk often and are intimate. You know, that part in a relationship that is complicated and you're somewhere between going up the next level or remaining ...
A. 3 January 2009: Since you are from the same country, I have to superimpose on me the average Filipino male mentality when it comes to relationships.
You have not mentioned why you had fights or arguements with your exes. But whatever it is, it really turned o... (read in full...)
We liked each other, we dated, we talked, then he wanted to end it, what happened??
Q. OK, so, I liked this boy for ages, and he liked me too, but neither of us could pluck up the courage to ask the other out. We had always been friends, so it's weird how we both started fancying each other after we'd known one another for so long ...
A. 3 January 2009: 13-15 y.o. if you fall in these bracket, chances are this is the period of experimentations.
No need to be confused, girl.... (read in full...)
I am involved sexually with a friend of a very good friend, should I tell the very good friend or keep it a secret?
Q. A few years ago, before I had my son, I was "talking" to this guy .J. but it didnt get to serious because he was in his first year of college and I was in my senior year of high school. We had the arrangement that when he was in town we were ...
A. 3 January 2009: Oh my. You have some complicated stuff, girl. You have a son but not J. You had sex with J. J introduces C. You had sex with C. J and C are friends.
Dump them both J and C. Why on earth will you have sex with C, when you had J on the first pl... (read in full...)
How do I get over my former teacher, I really like him, but don't know what to do, please help??
Q. I had this teacher, Senior year, (08') and as the year went on my feelings changed for him and I am pretty sure his changed toward me. He would say he loved me and that I will always have a special place in his heart. Or he would say..I love you, I ...
A. 3 January 2009: Lets do away with "the teacher" thing for a while because it will only confuse the situation. I am an accountancy professor and crushes are but part of the hazzards of trade.
To provide you with a rational answer, I will based them with my exper... (read in full...)
My fiance is almost always staying over at his sister's house.
Q. My fiance is almost always staying over at his sister's house. Yes, she's married and has kids. Should I have anything to worry about?...
A. 3 January 2009: Should I have anything to worry about?
None. You worry too much.... (read in full...)
Would it be okay to date my mother's half-sister's son?
Q. i was wondering if it would be inappropriate to date my mothers half sisters son ???? we meet once when we were 14 and now again 14 years later??? would nt the blood relation be considered more distant that first cousins because of the half sister ...
A. 3 January 2009: Sad to say, you still share the same DNA blue print with your mother's half sister son. And he is your 1st cousin.
But tell you what, I have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterec... (read in full...)
How do you know when a relationship is over???
Q. Hay guys, advise please. I found out 2 months ago that I was pregnant (5 months to date) and I'm not entirely sure if I want to be a mum. Don't get me wrong I don't want to get rid of the baby it's just that I'm not sure if I want to be a mum - ha...
A. 3 January 2009: I think your situation is temporary. He will be back. You being pregnant and worrying about these things are but manifestations of hormones exploding in you in different directions.
I bet he will be back when the baby is due.
... (read in full...)
I am worried about my relationship, what should I do?
Q. hey guys, i have a girl i love so much. she is muslim and am chirstian so it took a long time for us to get along. i gave her all the time she needed to think about it when i told her i wanted a relationship. she eventually agreed. after almost 2 ...
A. 3 January 2009: The difference between your religion and hers is the problem. In Islam, women are conservative because it is what their faith requires. I have read at TIME magazine that if a woman defiles her sexuallity, her family is to exact revenge against her, ... (read in full...)
Should I call him or his friend???
Q. So my boyfriend and I broke up on the 28th after a really happy day together full of cuddling, laughing, and watching tv...but that night he said "lets just be friends" I was so confused and upset...he says he still likes me...and I really like hi...
A. 3 January 2009: So my boyfriend and I broke up on the 28th after a really happy day together full of cuddling, laughing, and watching tv...but that night he said "lets just be friends"
And friends you are. The prospects of romance have ended on the 28th. Time to ... (read in full...)
What could this guy be thinking?
Q. We were good friends for a long time. then we got involved. We still hang out from time to time. I think he might be seeing someone now, though he's only seeing random people and no girlfriend that I can think or know of. he says he wants to go do...
A. 3 January 2009: Anybody have a clue about this? also, it seems like there is some sexual tension but when I kinda say something sexy it seems he doesn't want to talk about that either.
Your man is practicing some self control because some deep problems that he ... (read in full...)
Too many guys, what do I do? Who do I choose?
Q. I started seeing a married man (S)from work four years ago. I don't want to go into details, but when we got together I was suffering from post traumatic stress. He was a good friend and there for me and I guess even though I was only 24 and him ...
A. 3 January 2009: Age does not matter when you are in love. Whether you are younger or older than the other guy is entirely irrelevant.
However, being "the other woman" isn't right in all respects.
Listen to what your heart tells you. Get rid of (S) and choose e... (read in full...)
Should I tell him what I feel about him or should I just forget everything?
Q. 2 years ago, I broke up with someone..Well we actually weren't official lovers but we date and talk often and are intimate. You know, that part in a relationship that is complicated and you're somewhere between going up the next level or remaining ...
A. 3 January 2009: What am I supposed to do? Move on.
Should I tell him what I feel about him or should I just forget everything? Forget everything.
Never live in the past, live the present while you have to move forward to the future. Now if your feelings ar... (read in full...)
Torn between two boys - how do I break a heart?
Q. help i am torn between two boys and im only a teenager. i have known this boy a while and he`s my best friend. he helps me out all the time and recently he told me he loved me and wanted to be more than friends. then the other boy came in and swept ...
A. 3 January 2009: The truth always hurts but sets you free. Its better to break up with the other guy than you being called a "two timing biyatch"
You cant play basketball with two balls in court. It will confuse the whole game. One way or another, you gotta le... (read in full...)
Confused between feelings for b/f and cousin
Q. hey i have a bf who is 17 and he has a cuzin that is the same age as me 14 i have met him loads of times i see him every time im with my boyfriend and well the point is i kinda like baida more hes funny nice caring and understands me more we meet up ...
A. 3 January 2009: I have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterectomy a few years back and she is a bomb shell.
Heck with her hysterectomy, we can have sex 7/24 and there will be no worries of any i... (read in full...)
How do I get him to be more passionate with me?
Q. I'm with a man i adore but our sex life is not so good. I'm the one who always makes the first move, i touch him but he dosn't touch me back. theres no foreplay, don't think hes had much experiance. I try and move my hands to where i want to be ...
A. 3 January 2009: There are many blanks to your case.
1. Is he religious, like a fundamental Christian?
2. Do you have kids, like they are there to disturb you couples every now and then?
3. Is he in some sort of crisis, physological or psychological perhaps?
4.... (read in full...)
I don't believe in getting intimate with any boy just to satisfy sexual needs, I want to wait for the "one". What do you think?
Q. Hello friends. I am a 29 year old unmarried, virgin girl from India. I would like to discuss one of my beliefs with all of you. Hope you don't call me a psycho as all others call me. I have been a very outstanding student, always a topper. I am wor...
A. 3 January 2009: Thats the problem with tradition and culture when it gets in the way of love. I have read some things about India's tradition and culture being the same 50 years ago. If an Indian woman marries she must have an acceptable dowry to be offered to the ... (read in full...)
I'm very scared of being hurt again.
Q. Hello all, I'm a 22 year old female and I have been seeing a 21 year old guy for around a month now, and a couple of days ago we decided we were pretty much boyfriend/girlfriend and made it official. I really like this guy, I'm really happy! Howeve...
A. 3 January 2009: This is a little bit fast right? Yes its a bit fast. He's such a loving guy, and I'd like to know how I can say that I don't love him yet without hurting his feelings? Take a cue from a Janet Jackson song which is appropriate for the situation yo... (read in full...)
True love at 18?
Q. have read, quite a few times on here, about wanting to find true love at such a young age (or feeling someone had met 'the one' and thus didn't want the relationship to end despite the fact something is going wrong etc etc...) and therefore I felt ...
A. 3 January 2009: True love at 18 - its a fallacy. There is no such thing. There is only love but I would not go for the adjective true. Maybe romance should be the right term.
True love is not found even at 28, 38 and what ever age. True love is an illusion... (read in full...)
How do I break it to her?
Q. can men change their minds in one night about love beetween two diffrent girls? cause one night when i went to bed i loved emily but the next morning i loved rowan. so i tolled my mom and she said i talk more about rowan than emily when we w...
A. 3 January 2009: One thing about love is the hurt that follows. If you are going to break up with Emily, then tell her the truth why you should break up with her.
Now to your question: "can men change their minds in one night about love beetween two diffrent... (read in full...)
Should I tell him my feelings or am I wasting my time?
Q. I really like this guy, we met up in the city recently and hung out, had a good time went to the movie and madeout. Its sort of been a little awkward ever since, but i could be looking into it. Then he tells me he hooked up with his Ex over new ...
A. 3 January 2009: I believe it is proper in all respects that men should make the first move. It wouldn't hurt if women could give a hint for the man to make the move. But if the man couldn't get it because he has a different motivation in mind, I believe you should ... (read in full...)
In love with my first cousin
Q. Omg... I'm in a big dilemma, so I fell in love with my first cousin. Yes I know it sounds nasty but it really isnt. I never knew who he was. I knew he existed somewhere in the map but we were never brought up together. One summer he came to visit my ...
A. 3 January 2009: have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterectomy a few years back and she is a bomb shell.
Heck with her hysterectomy, we can have sex 7/24 and there will be no worries of a... (read in full...)
Should it be allowed for teacher's to date students?
Q. I've been searching google and stuff, about the laws and reasons of teacher's not being able to date students. I was just wondering what people's views on the law was.... Because, I understand that teacher's are in high authority position and in ...
A. 3 January 2009: Exactly the point. My advice are:
1. For xCharliix to finish her studies and school
2. During the process, she must have any relationship with the teacher but as a student
3. After her studies and school, she is free as a bird to do whatever she... (read in full...)
Should it be allowed for teacher's to date students?
Q. I've been searching google and stuff, about the laws and reasons of teacher's not being able to date students. I was just wondering what people's views on the law was.... Because, I understand that teacher's are in high authority position and in ...
A. 2 January 2009: Love has no boundaries. Age does not matter. If age does matter - well, Tom Cruise did it, Nicolas Cage did it, David Letterman did it, Harrison Ford did it - and I beg to disagree that these fine gentlemen are a bunch of pervs.
Society however ... (read in full...)
I'm 15 and want to have sex with my 14 year old cousin
Q. Hi i am 15, and I have these really deep feelings for my 14 year cousin who i badly wanna have sex with, i did it with her once when i went to her place out of town for a week, and it was great, and it brought us closer, she didn't resist, but we ...
A. 2 January 2009: I have the same feelings like what you are feeling right now. I have a 2nd cousin, 39 y.o., she had a hysterectomy a few years back and she is a bomb shell.
Heck with her hysterectomy, we can have sex 7/24 and there will be no worries of any in-b... (read in full...)
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