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writes:Dear ppl,Lately I've been thinking about my sexual orientation.I used to watch porn and I stopped because I hated it and I felt disgusted every time I do it. I watched lesbian porn and I felt sth during watching it but I HATED it afterwards and I stopped watching that and then I stopped watching pornography completely. I'm always afraid of being homosexual while I'm not. I'v never been attracted to girls . I love men and I had a boyfriend and right now I have a big crush on a guy. I never feel anything toward girls. But I always wonder what if I like them while I don't and I feel extreme discomfort around lesbian girls. Thoughts that if I like girls are killing me because I hate that n I became obsessed with this kind of thoughts. Does that mean I'm homosexual? Does watching lesbian porn means I'm lesbian? or also straight people can watch it?I need serious answers. Please don't tell me it's ok to be gay because I HATE THAT.
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reader, natalieejanex  +, writes (12 February 2011):
 straight people can watch gay/lesbian porn and still get turned on. it could also be a sexual fantasy. if you don't feel emotionally or even physically attracted to girls then you aren't bi or a lesbian, it just turns you on and its something you like, don't be ashamed of it.
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reader, deikailo +, writes (29 March 2010):
Everyone is different. You might be gay, you might not be. I'm a lesbian and I only like gay porn. I can't stand the idea of two whores going at it, although I think I'm just angry that straight girls get more than I do...It could also be penis envy.
Best solution: offer a threesome to your man and compare it. Grab another straight girl and go at it. If you like your man more, you're straight. If you like the girl more, you're bisexual. I doubt you're full gay.
You're around college age so you won't look gay if you have a threesome, that'd just be considered hot and progressive among your peers.
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reader, Red Green 0289 +, writes (26 July 2009):
1,000 times more straight people watch lesbian porn than lesbians. Most true lesbian porn is not quite what you'd expect, and only real lesbians would get off on it...Relax, your of the age where the idea of two beautiful naked girls getting it on is exciting... it's a fantasy. If you're lucky one day you'll meet another girl who's fantisizing the same way, hook up and have a great time - and then you'll both go back to dating boys...
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 July 2009): Don't stress at all! Loads of straight girls people watch lesbian porn. It's just a turn on. When in teenage times we feel we waant to try everything and your hormones are just telling you to watch lesbian porn for fun! Don't worry, watching lesbian porn doesn't make you a lesbian
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 January 2009): g'day!
im the same, really the only porn that turns me on is lesbian porn, except i dont think im gay, and these answers have helped me realise that just because lesbian porn turns me on (big time!) it doesnt mean im gay...
thanks everyone for the great answers!
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reader, elisa_lee +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Lots of people like watching gay porn and aren't gay. It's fine! And btw, that lesbian porn isn't really lesbian anyway. for the most part, it's commercially produced for straight men and doesn't turn me (a lesbian) on at all.
But I disagree with everyone here. You really might be gay. I was terrified of being gay, felt intense discomfort around gay girls.. didn't really become obsessed but was afraid. and OMG I was GAY. Well bi, anyway.
Or it might not be your gayness causing your fear. Best way to tell? If at all possible, be willing to accept it... think positively about being with some girl you think is pretty and like as friends. Just for a few minutes, relax about it, see if
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 January 2009): It's ok to be gay. Sorry I couldn't help that!
You don't fancy women, therefore you're not gay. Lots of women like watching other women, to be honest they're a lot prettier than men. Just because you appreciate the female form doesn't make you gay. I am straight, I've had lots of male partners. I've only ever gone as far as kissing a women and that was only for a laugh when me and my best mate at the time though it would be funny to see what reaction we got in the middle of a pub (which by the way was a load of guys gathering round and cheering). Don't get me wrong, kissing my mate wasn't a repulsive experience, but it just didn't do it for me in the way it does with a guy. I like looking and pictures of naked women and even fantasise about being with women, but all it is, is fanasy. The reality is I like guys. Your the same, if you enjoyed watching lesbian porn, watch it. Don't beat yourself up about it, it doesn't make you a lesbian, it's what you do in your real life that defines your sexuallity.
Have fun, relax!
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 January 2009):
 Stop watching porn, you don't even enjoy it. Watching so much porn already at your age I bet is desensitizing your understand of sex. Why do you want to ruin something so amazing ?
No, watching 2 girls having sex doesn't make you gay.
Get over the whole gay thing. It's not contagious. And if it's not for you then it's not for you.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 You're not Gay girl.. !!
Even i used to watch Lesbian Porn, and i am a Man.. !! We love watching them but it does not mean we are GAY.. !! It's who we are attracted to in REAL LIFe.. !!
You Straight and I am happy to announce that coz i hate gay as much as u do.. !!
G'day
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Does that mean I'm homosexual? No.
Does watching lesbian porn means I'm lesbian? No.
or also straight people can watch it? Yes.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 January 2009):
Why are you watching porn. You aren't old enough and you say you don;t enjoy it so why do it?
Your question seems to be "If I watch a film about giraffes and don't enjoy it, am I a giraffe?"
If you aren't attracted to girls then you are not a lesbian.
Having said that you really need to get over your homophobia. It's not cool.
Good Luck!! xx
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