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anonymous
writes:I took some emergency contraception pills yesterday after unprotected sex with my boyfriend. I told him that i need to take them and he sounded like he understood. Last night when i was talking to him again, he mentioned that he didn't really like what i did... Because he feels like i had killed his baby. I explained to him that taking an ECP is not aborting the baby but it kills the sperm from actually getting you pregnant. But i could realise that it was kinda hard for him to understand and said that maybe God will forgive me cause i did a wrong thing! Why does he have to think like that, i wouldn't kill our baby, even if it could be an accident i'd make sure that i have it, its mine anyway and i contributed in makin it!
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reader, dasonras  +, writes (3 January 2009):
I understand that different religions and cultures have different beliefs on contraceptive. However, coming from a "western" point of view, you did the right thing.
You need to look after your body and your welfare.
I WOULD NOT UPSET YOUR BF FURTHER BY ANTAGONIZING HIM WITH NOTIONS OF HIM MURDERING BABIES FROM MASTURBATION.
You want to be reasonable, clear, and direct. Don't stoop down to his level and use idiotic statements as means of pay back.
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reader, Honeypie + ♥, writes (3 January 2009):
 Start using either the pill full time or him a condom. You explained it perfectly.
And Emily is 100% right :
*****Tell him that every time he masturbates he is killing possible babies, and that if he feels that way then he should not have sex with you again until you are both married and ready to have a child.****
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reader, NITRAM BLUE  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 Maybe he is a devout Catholic or maybe he is trying to say something like - I want a baby.
The Catholic stance against contraceptives and other artificial means of birth control is strong among the devout. The irony is it is not the priests who suffers the pains of nurturing a huge family but the parents. Their hidden agenda is population control is church contributions control.
Anyway, maybe you should give some sort of reading materials to your partner about Family Planning. These materials are usually given out free from the health clinics in South Africa. Education is the cure for ignorance.
Maybe he is not ignorant, maybe he is saying something indirectly. Maybe he aspires to be a father. Maybe you should talk to him if he willing to become a father and take that huge responsibility.
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reader, a_decent_1  +, writes (3 January 2009):
 WHAT...? That's NONSENSE that he is talking.. !!
How many times does he Masturbates..? Isn't that Killing Babies then..? ECP is not Aborting.. !! You are right.. !!
Is he 14 years old or what..? He sounds Immature..
G'day
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (3 January 2009):
 He obviously doesn't understand human reproduction very clearly. You explained it to him very well. He'll get over it.
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reader, Little Lisa  +, writes (3 January 2009):
What!?!
Maybe god will forgive you! How dare he judge you, if he's so religous what's he doing having unprotected sex with a women he's not married to. I'd get rid of that one if I was you, what a tool!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (3 January 2009):
Tell him that every time he masturbates he is killing possible babies, and that if he feels that way then he should not have sex with you again until you are both married and ready to have a child.
What you took was contraception.
If he is not happy with it, that is his problem.
Good Luck!! xx
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