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I don't know what to do during sex!

Q.   HI. So ive been with this guy for a while. I rily like him and I want to have sex with him. He is really experienced there. While ive had sex ive nvr known how to act. If he is on top wat do I do? Im nt loud..nd I dnt make faces I just lay there. So ...

A.   27 April 2011: HM...kinda but it also was bcuz when the guys on top sex isnt generally that good...i dnt feel amazing so its hard for me to kno ho weelllll to react... (read in full...)

My fiancé found out he has cancer and left me. How can I go on?

Q.   My fiancé found out last winter as part of a physical exam for work that he has aggressive stage 3 cancer. His parents moved him into an apartment near the university hospital for treatment and he has been in chemo and radiation and there is some ...

A.   9 April 2011: dont let him push you out of his life. be there for him.... (read in full...)

My boyfriends wants to have sex with another girl!!!

Q.   My boyfriend, well hes a good guy over all but he has said and done some stupid s***, first of all he does say Im pretty and he loves me and he takes me out but then... he has this friend that he told me with these exact words "I want to f*** her, ...

A.   5 April 2011: I personally like your whole " shut up and show me some respect". it seems like he could be cheating on you, and his fall back is oh i only love you. i dont think you should be with him because it seems likely that he would cheat. if you tell him he ... (read in full...)

Why am I having a period right after I just had one?

Q.   Hey there, I had my period about a week ago and now suddenly I have started another one. Today is when I started it April 3 2011. What does this mean?...

A.   4 April 2011: Yup :) give it a couple months and itll go back to normal... (read in full...)

Why am I having a period right after I just had one?

Q.   Hey there, I had my period about a week ago and now suddenly I have started another one. Today is when I started it April 3 2011. What does this mean?...

A.   4 April 2011: If you recently got on or off birth control it can cause this. also having sex for your first time or plan b... (read in full...)

I don't want to have sex until he's committed, but will he commit if we don't have sex?

Q.   my question is..i have am in a relationship with this guy i have known for 3years.i truly love him.i have had a lot of failed relationships in the past and with him this might be our 4th time to try make it work.i have never slept with him before.i ...

A.   13 March 2011: if he wont commit because you wont have sex with him then he doesnt deserve you. end of story. dont worry about what ifs. if you dont want ot have sex til he commits then do that. dont change your ways... (read in full...)

My friend told me he likes, but I didn't realize I was gay until he got a girlfriend. What should I do?

Q.   Ok so this may be a little long so please bear with me. I've known this guy (I'll call him C) for a long time. In the fall of 2009, he told me that he is bisexual. I of course didn't have any problem with that. After he told me, I began to see ...

A.   8 March 2011: he does still like you,but even if he and her are always fighting you need to step back and let them work things out, and him decide to break up with her on his own account. I hope all works out with you guys. let time do its thing. maybe smile or ... (read in full...)

My exwife has trained my 9 year old daughter to hate my fiance.

Q.   My 9 year old daughter has been trained by my ex wife to hate my fiancé. My daughter refuses to be near her so, when my kids are with me, my fiancé is not. To make matters worse, my daughter's therapist seems to be enabling the hate. This has been ...

A.   8 March 2011: Are you sure your xwife and your daughters therapist are forcing your daughter to hate this woman? how do you knwo she just really doesnt want to lose her father, doesnt want to see her mother hurt, and hates your fiance of her own accord. divorce ... (read in full...)

Sex, I seem to really want it...

Q.   I'm a virgin, and I've been with my boyfriend for a while. And alot of the time when I think about him. I just think, that I really want to lose my virginity to him. And I havn't really done much sexually. I've only gave him one handjob and hes ...

A.   8 March 2011: If you feel that you are ready then simply tell him. or you could just make out with him and let him figure it out. let him know you want him to be your first. why do you want it before you turn 16 though? does your age really matter? will it be any ... (read in full...)

She called me small after sex...should I be worried?

Q.   I have never had complaints/worries about my size or performance in the past, but lately I've been feeling very insecure with my new lady. Sex seems great from my perspective, but the last week she called me small after sex. This comment came a c...

A.   7 March 2011: Im with caringguy this girl doesnt seem worth the time. you have no reason to be insecure. trust me, if she has a problem then its her problem nothing to do with you. ... (read in full...)

Why is he acting all odd,sleeping with other girls and then contacting me??

Q.   I live across the street from this cute guy, we were never really friends up until a couple months ago. The other day my phone rang, and it was my girlfriend telling me she slept with him, I ignored him, and tried to figure out what to do. The ...

A.   7 March 2011: Because you and him are just friends. Of course he is going to ditch you to have sex with a girl he is attracted to. Unless you have started going out etc you cant get upset by him doing this. in fact you really have no right to be mad. but maybe ... (read in full...)

Is he cheating or just stupid!

Q.   Hi I hope you all can help me. I've been with my husband for 5 years. We had a very healthy sex life. 4 months before our wedding the sex decreased drastically. We've been married for 3 years and it has dwindled down to every few months and it's ...

A.   6 March 2011: You haven't done anything wrong!!! he is acting weird. i'm not sure if i would trust him. i cant really tell you what to do. do you want to stay with him for this to continue? is he worth it. You obviously can't trust his word so you really have no ... (read in full...)

The man whom I had a baby with was never a part of our lives; now we're both married to other people and he suddenly wants to see his daughter after years of no communication

Q.   This is pretty long but please bear with me as I feel you need to know all the details. Six and a half years ago, I started a relationship with a pathetic excuse for a man; we were both 17. Four months in, I found out I was pregnant. He wanted ...

A.   6 March 2011: Hm well honestly screw him and what he wants. do you think your daughter can handle it. what is her best interest? I would say, if you did let him see her start it off easy, supervised visits. make sure he is proper... (read in full...)

He asked if I can shave down there, should I be offended?

Q.   if my boyfriend and i have agreed to try fingering and whatever else goes with that should i be offended if he asked me if i can shave my vaginal area because he hates hair down there? do most people shave down there??? is it more sanitary?...

A.   6 March 2011: A lot of women or men do it because they don't like hair, or their boy or girl friends dont. do what feels right for you. you can trim the hair short or shave it all off. But don't do it for him. shaving can be a pain, because it itches when it ... (read in full...)

How dangerous is fingering?

Q.   is fingering a bad thing? does it just happen to a girl? is there something else that goes along with that? how dangerous is it?...

A.   6 March 2011: Fingering is not a bad thing. it is supposed to pleasure the girl. It is not dangerous at all. just make sure the hands are clean!!! if it's your first time it may hurt a bit. fingering and oral usually go hand in hand but they dont have to. wha... (read in full...)

Nothing works to keep me from going too fast

Q.   i premature cum. i tried many many ways of trying to last longer but they all never seem to work for me not thinking about it, thinking some thing unrelated to sex, going slow, etc. and non of them really work. i need help. me and my gf had s...

A.   6 March 2011: the more you practice the longer you will last. also, if you have sex, cum, then wait five minutes and you can have sex again. it'll take longer for you to cum. That being said use protection. ... (read in full...)

He says I have to accept him so why cant he accept me?

Q.   Hi dearcupid.I need you to advice me.I'm so confuse now. I don't know what to do. Me and my fince been together for 3 and half years on and off.We're agure for 5 or 6 times aweek.That's a lot!He make the problem for every little things.If he kiss me ...

A.   6 March 2011: Leave him. He is wayyyyy to controlling. He cant tell you how to run your life. he wants you to be a slave not a wife. Dump him! ya you may be sad but you will b miserable if you stay with him. You will not be happy with him. you will eventually be ... (read in full...)

How do I show him it doesn't matter to me that he's poor? I want to date him.

Q.   This man i like said he wanted to date me and he has my phone number. I bumped into him in town yesterday and we hung out together. we also bumped into one of his friends. his friend asked who i was, and when i told him, he said the man i like h...

A.   6 March 2011: Yes generally men wont talk about a girl to coworkers/friends unless they rily like the girl.... (read in full...)

2nd date--showing some skin ok?

Q.   Is showing a bit of flesh during a date (number 2) acceptable...m just talking about a bit of my back . . .i dun wanna come across as too desperate or something...

A.   6 March 2011: Uhm if its a dress you are wearing or a shirt thats fine. if for some reason you plan on lifting up your shirt then thatll be awkward. but an outfit that shows a lil is perfectly fine and not desperate at all! Good Luck!... (read in full...)

How do I increase my sense of security in my relationship??

Q.   I am extremely jealous of my boyfriend's ex. We have been going out for a year now and have lived together for 6 months. It all started before we were living together she came to his house at 4 in the morning and made a huge scene cops were called ...

A.   5 March 2011: He cheated on you and you are still with him...why. you have every right to obsess. get out of this relationship its not healthy for you and you deserve better. He will most likely cheat again. ... (read in full...)

I have let myself be "molded" into what hubsand wanted in a wife,and now I don't know who I am or how to find me.

Q.   I am turning 30 in a week. I cant help but look back at my 20's and think the only good that came of them were my 2 kids. My relationship has been more rocky than happy lately. I only have a high school diploma no further education,no job in the ...

A.   5 March 2011: Find something you are interested in. like volunteering somewhere! it helps the community and will give you a sense of independence. you are still you. taking care of children is the hardest job there is. id say just find some hobbies that make you ... (read in full...)

Now that I'm older, I have no idea what he saw in me at that age. How can I process this?

Q.   When I was 18, I began dating a man who was 25. At first my friends and family were wary of the age gap, but we clicked and he turned out to be the love of my life. I'm 23 now, he's 30, and we're still together. Throughout our relationship, I ...

A.   18 February 2011: It could be that you were just mature for your age. but honestly you say you guys clicked, had a lot in common. If you met someone older/younger that had some of the same values or interest as you you would see age doesnt matter, esp if they can ... (read in full...)

What does this text my ex sent really mean?

Q.   I just wanted to get a little insight on my ex's recent text. Here's a quick background: The ex and I were living/together for 6 years. He left me 4 months ago for another woman. I was/am heartbroken. I began NC about 2 months ago and have stu...

A.   19 January 2011: He probably doesnt like the fact that now he cant keep tabs on you. Id change your number. The txt and pic is a way to get you to remember the "good times" hopefully miss him and respond. He will continue to txt you. Changing you number and moving ... (read in full...)

I want my wife back but the thought of her with him has made me think twice about it now

Q.   I broke up with my wife 14 months ago after a 2 year marriage,we are both professionals shes 28 and im 33,the break up was mutual and really shouldnt have happened,since then iv had 4 sexual partners none of which were serious relationships,my wife ...

A.   8 January 2011: Why is it ok for you to have sex, but not her??? Not to mention the guy was most likely just trying to make you jealous. He seems like a jerk. You wife is in danger if he gets rough with her. Try talking to her more!! Dont hold it against her...cuz ... (read in full...)

He broke up with me for another girl but he stares at me whenever he sees me

Q.   My x and i never seemed to have any problems but as soon as i had sex with him, he dumped me for some lame excuse saying "I dont want attachments in the marines" you see he is a sr. and i am a sophomore. He was crying over the phone when he broke up ...

A.   7 January 2011: He still wants you. He still likes you etc. But he crossed a line with telling people. And there is a really good chance he did cheat on you to move on so quickly. Just ignore him hunny.... (read in full...)

My girlfriend of two years suddenly wants to break up

Q.   Me and my girlfriend have been dating two years and now she wants a break up and doesnt want to be with me all of a sudden. i do not know what to do. i have been through so much. i do not know what i did. i think it might be because i am too jeal...

A.   7 January 2011: You move on. If she has done something to lose your trust and then she gets upset with you not trusting her and becoming jealous then its her fault. Generally if someone just randomly want to break up after such a long time then they are over the ... (read in full...)

Betrayed by my so-called friend, what should I do?

Q.   It all started about two years ago. I had a huge crush on a boy 1 year older than me. He seemed like the perfect guy. He was nice, cute, funny, athletic, and smart. My really close friends all knew that I liked him, and thought we would make a cute ...

A.   6 January 2011: Well wait for them to break up and then you get with him. And stop worrying about what she does. She is unimportant. Telling her, if she is the type that i think she is will just lead to her telling others to make fun of you. Just let it go. She is ... (read in full...)

Is this younger guy at school crushing on me?

Q.   Hi... straight to the point... there is a guy in school... he is 14 and i am 17 (and gay)... basically as its a small school I have become familiar with most of the faces and being gay I watch all most of the guys in particular. I don't know what to ...

A.   6 January 2011: Hm.. try talking to him! it sounds more like he likes you then making fun of. He he was making fun of people he would be around others and theyd all be staring at you, hed snicker etc. No one makes fun of others while they are alone (unless they are ... (read in full...)

He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.

Q.   My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...

A.   4 January 2011: He is talking about sex. Maybe thats his way of starting it... (read in full...)

Am I too sensitive to my mother's needs and too hard on my husband?

Q.   My husband and I have been married for 10 years. My 83 year old mom moved in with us about 6 months ago. My husband hates my mom. He only bids her the time of day and doesn't say anything else to her. This is very uncomfortable for me and my ...

A.   3 January 2011: Uhm I think your husband could be a bit more understanding, but thats no reason to leave the marraige. I understand his point of view. The best thing for you to do is sit your husband down and tell him how he treats your mom is wrong. If he loves ... (read in full...)

My ex boyfriend has become a stalker

Q.   there is a kid that i dated in 2008 - 2009 for almost a full year. 5 months into our relationship he cheated on me with my bestfriend, i didnt know because i never paid attention because i never thought that would happen, when i found out i ...

A.   3 January 2011: Tell him to leave you alone or youll get a restraining order against him. Change your number, email, block him from any facebook or myspace. Your not hiding if you do this. Your ending a stupid game that he is forcing you to play.... (read in full...)

Why do I always have to be the one to initiate sex?

Q.   Why do I always have to be the one to initiate sex with my girlfriend. And 99% of the time she comes up with some type of excuse not to have sex with me. This has been going on for the last year and a half and I am getting sick and tierd of ...

A.   3 January 2011: Well find out why she doesnt want to have sex? Maybe try to romance her? Take her out to dinner, get her flowers have her dress up, bring her home watch her favorite movie. If she still wont have sex with you then there is some big issue shes not ... (read in full...)

I don't think he is cheating but somethings not quite right

Q.   I started to date my best friend more than a year ago. Everything has been great except that right before our vacations get gets a sharp pain on his back, and it ended up being his kidney being almost useless and dead so they ended up removing it. ...

A.   2 January 2011: I would just tell him that he left his MSN thing open on your computer and you saw that she said she had visited him at the hospital so youd like to know who is lying (him). That seems like the biggest problem cause there is no reason for him to lie ... (read in full...)

My wife doesn't want sex and I don't want an affair

Q.   My wife has not wanted sex for over 2 years. Should i consider a prostitute. I do not want an affair....

A.   2 January 2011: Sit your wife down and find out why she doesnt want to have sex. Ask her what she would like you to do because you want to have sex and she doesnt. Have her give you an answer to that. Then you've got your answer. But ask her whats going on first. ... (read in full...)

How can I have safe sex without the use of birth control and condoms?

Q.   how can I have safe sex without the use of birth control? My boyfriend doesn't like to use condoms and I trust him to pull out but sometimes I'm afraid. I would like to be on birth control but I can't be prescribed because I'm on chemotherapy pil...

A.   2 January 2011: There is no other way. He can either use a condom, or not have sex. Let him make that choice. So many girls get pregnant because they trusted their bf's to pull out. Okay so say he is amazing at pulling out. There is still precum which he wouldn't ... (read in full...)

After 10 years, I've fallen out of love

Q.   I have been married for 7 years, with this guy for a total of 10 years. We have a beautiful 3 year daughter together. When I married him, I knew I would have to take care of him for the rest of our lives, 7 years ago I was OK with this. And when I ...

A.   2 January 2011: Well..first stop doing things with the other guy until you get everything figured out. You knew all this before you married him. He hasnt changed, you are just tired of it. Have you talked to him because of it. Have you taken him to a therapist? ... (read in full...)

He's not my type. Can it work?

Q.   This guy I met online about 7 months ago was in town over the holidays. We had a nice time and spent 2 das together. I like him but there are things that really annoy me about him and I am not sure if I should continue with the relationship or end ...

A.   2 January 2011: Go with the flow. By summer you should know for sure whether you like him or its just a fling. My bf and I are complete opposites and at first I hated it, but now I think its amazing. He opens my eyes to things that I would have never thought of ... (read in full...)

I don't think my family will approve of my boyfriend

Q.   hi i wouldnt write this on the internet if this wasnt really important.. im 17, hes 20... we met while i was on vacation, and he was working. at first we decided to just go with the flow and see if our relationship wil grow. eventually we were in ...

A.   2 January 2011: Introduce them. You are almost 18. The worst they can do is not like him. But honestly if they dont like him because he isnt as well off as them then have an bigger issues then who you date. If they go off the handle and force you not to see him you ... (read in full...)

We just want to sleep together and our parents won't allow it!

Q.   I'm 15 years old and my boyfriend is 16 and we want nothing more then to fall asleep in eachothers arms and wake up in eachothers arms.... But we can't do that. We've been dating for 6 months now and we love eachother. We don't even want to do ...

A.   2 January 2011: Well if you lie and get caught then your parents will never trust that you just want to sleep together. Try sleeping together during the day, like if you are at eachtohers houses? Your parents probably think you are going to have sex. But either way ... (read in full...)

I think I hate my boyfriend? How do I dump him w/o hurting him?

Q.   I hate him. I hate his personality. I hate how he makes me feel. He just got through telling me how it's ok for him to randomly give me negative comments about my appearance, even though he knows i wont change how i look for anybody and all ...

A.   2 January 2011: Tell him what you just wrote. Minus the hate part. Just tell him you dont want to be with him anymore because the way he has treated you. How he makes you feel. You'll be fine ok without him. And no matter how much you loved him at some point, when ... (read in full...)

He talks about sex all day but just goes to sleep when the lights are out.

Q.   My bf talks about having sex with me all day but when it's lights out he just falls asleep. Why?...

A.   27 December 2010: Have you tried having sex with him or do u let him go to bed?... (read in full...)

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