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writes:This man i like said he wanted to date me and he has my phone number. I bumped into him in town yesterday and we hung out together. we also bumped into one of his friends. his friend asked who i was, and when i told him, he said the man i like had been talking about me to him during the week and said that he wants to date me, but he is ashamed of his current situation. his hours at work have been cut down, so he doesnt have much money. i told him that i'm not a snob and i dont judge people. do you think he really likes me with him saying that to his friend ?.
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reader, Abella  +, writes (6 March 2011):
 i does sound as if he likes you.
So it may be up to you to suggest outings and events to attend, visit that do not cost big dollars.
Examples visit public gardens and walk through beauty spots.
If you live where there is public transport then use it.
Some cities allow people to hire public bicyles for either a refundable deposit or a small cost - this could involve you also bringing a packed lunch in your backpacks and then a cycle back
Do some hiking through the nearest available area for same
Visit the family history area of the nearest big public public library and check out how difficult it might be to start researching your respective family trees - if you get interested this could result in lots of fun together
Build up rapport by suggesting that you both volunteer to work in/on the same community project. This has a multi
beneficial outcome because:
1. He builds job ready skills that he can enter on his CV to help him get a better jib
2. You get to see how altruistic he can be,
3. You get to see how well he works with other people
4. You get to hang out together at minimal cost to him
5. You build rapport together doing good for others
The idea that dates have to be expensive, wearing expensive clothing and receiving expensive presents or involve the consumption of huge amounts of alcohol to enjoy yourselves are fallacies
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (6 March 2011):
 Yes generally men wont talk about a girl to coworkers/friends unless they rily like the girl.
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reader, SweetSmoochy +, writes (6 March 2011):
 If his frien approached you like that, it's most likely a safe bet that he was telling the truth. This guy probably really likes you, but doesn't feel like he's "worthy", and his friend is trying to help, seeing how much his buddy likes you. Did you tell the man you like that you don't care about material things? Or his friend? If you've already told the man you like, then reaffirm that by keeping in touch with him and suggesting that you guys hang out, even just as friends, doing things that don't cost money like hiking, walking through parks, or other no cost things. Make sure he knows you're having a lot of fun an that the fact he is with you is the main reason. Then, maybe he'll get over his shame. If it's taking him a while, you may want to kiss him, should a moment present itself. Best of Luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011): I think he does like you because he talked about you to his friend. Maybe if you live in a small town you could start going for walks where he'll see you and you two could walk together and get to know each other. Tell him you're frugal and that will go a long way with him. Talk to him about things you value such as honesty, integrity, faithfulness, things that don't cost money and this will also have a positive impact.
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