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writes:hi i wouldnt write this on the internet if this wasnt really important.. im 17, hes 20... we met while i was on vacation, and he was working. at first we decided to just go with the flow and see if our relationship wil grow. eventually we were in a long distance relationship. problems come and go, but never really serious ones. now that i have came back and spent more time with him, we feel that we really do want it to be a serious relationship and that we really need each other. we would look at each others eyes for so long, and he would hold me when i cry thinking of how impossible it is for my parents to accept him.my parents dont know about him yet, but i guess they have had thoughts about me having a relationship without telling them, cause ive been going away a lot lately. I cant even imagine introducing them because my family expects the best. they would want me to be with a high educated guy with perfect future laid out for him. on the other hand, he is struggling, he just got a job with a decent pay to save up for college cuz he said he doesnt want to ask for money from his parents. He's hard working and never complains, he said he would talk to my dad immediately but i dont let him. The thing is, our family background are so different, im the daughter of a successful bussinessman and he's here, struggling in life. what can i do my heart is in pieces...
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reader, Kimbochikk  +, writes (2 January 2011):
I'm in that same predicament. I'm afraid to even tell my parents that I'm dating an 18 year old, and I'm not gonna be 16 for 3 more weeks. I've only told my parents about two of my boyfriends because they made everything awkward. Unfortunately, for you I would suggest (if you can) wait till you turn 18 to tell your parents. Once you're a legal adult, they can't do anything about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2011): hey..
i have very similar situation right now....
ur post has been really helpful 2 me too...
thanx a lot dear.. i knw how it feels n i shall definately pray for both of u...
loads of luck 2 u...
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reader, archykins  +, writes (2 January 2011):
honestly i dont see a problem here. he wants to talk to your dad, then let him. as a successful businessman he should be able to respect the idea of struggling from the bottom to work his way up to the top.if you explain to your parents that you love him and they love you. they will understand. they just want you to be happy afterall.
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reader, partyprincess2011 +, writes (2 January 2011):
 heey hunni, maybe you should just talk to your parents and explain the situation, and how there must be something there as you kept up a long distance relationship! Hopefully they will see that it doesnt matter about your background but your future! Good luck hun xx
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reader, Mjfbla +, writes (2 January 2011):
 Introduce them. You are almost 18. The worst they can do is not like him. But honestly if they dont like him because he isnt as well off as them then have an bigger issues then who you date. If they go off the handle and force you not to see him you can always stay really close friends til you turn 18 or go back to hiding him. On the otherhand you could just wait til you are 18 then it doesnt matter
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