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He asked if I can shave down there, should I be offended?

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Question - (6 March 2011) 13 Answers - (Newest, 20 March 2011)
A female United States age 26-29, *onfusedgirl18 writes:

if my boyfriend and i have agreed to try fingering and whatever else goes with that should i be offended if he asked me if i can shave my vaginal area because he hates hair down there? do most people shave down there??? is it more sanitary?

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A male reader, PeterNorth Australia +, writes (20 March 2011):

Hey give it a try you might like it anyway. At the end of the day its just hair and it'll grow back. I shave my balls and trim the rest super short, sometimes i even shave the whole lot. I guess its just personal preference at the end of the day :)

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A female reader, confusedgirl18 United States +, writes (19 March 2011):

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thanks for all the advice

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A reader, anonymous, writes (8 March 2011):

Yes shave away, but don't forget the shaved vagina originates from the porn industry. 18 year old teenies,school girls, daddies little girls and so on are all shaved to make them look 12!

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A male reader, ClearEyes United States +, writes (6 March 2011):

To clear up my perspective, most all the guys I hang out with prefer shaved for visual purposes, I myself don't care, but I like being able to see all the anatomy so I find it more practical to be shaved.

And yes, I as a male shave. So I am not a hypocrite.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011):

Ok, I think I need to clear this up... Everyone does not shave! Yes, some people do, and I shaved it all of for years until my boyfriend told me that he actually preferred me natural! I think a lot of girls think that EVERYONE else is shaving, so they have to as well... This is what I thought, so I asked a bunch of friends (all attractive co-eds with boyfriends) and NONE of them shave. Even in porn bushes are coming back! LOL!

HOWEVER, if you are like me, you don't really care one way or the other, you just want to make the boyfriend happy... So just go for it. It's not really very difficult. It was actually easier to just go totally bald than to "trim" as I do now. If you don't like it, or it's too itchy or whatever, just grow it back!

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A female reader, LustyLisa United States +, writes (6 March 2011):

I've been shaved to have my children and to have female surgery because removing the hair lessons the chances of infection. However, I was completely offended when my husband asked me to shave. I personally don't like the feeling nor the look of shaved genitals, too juvenille looking for me and the physical irriation of shaving and regrowth was agonizing for me. I even had to get my legs lasered to remove hair because my skin does not tolerate any other form of hair removal.

Bald genitals is a preferance of many these days so it's entirely up to YOU as to what you want/like, not you partner. He has stated that he hates hair, but if that's the only motivation for removing your pubic hair, then that sounds one sided and selfish on his part to me.

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A male reader, ClearEyes United States +, writes (6 March 2011):

My girlfriend originally didn't, I asked her to do it and the sexual stuff actually improved as a result, it exposes more sensitive areas. I don't think it really plays a role in sanitation/hygiene unless you carry louse, which I'm assuming you don't.

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A female reader, CindyCares Italy +, writes (6 March 2011):

CindyCares agony aunt No,no need to be offended and yes,most people do shave down there these days.

Regardless of that , if you don't want to shave, don't shave. Your bf just expressed his preference,- it does not mean you MUST comply.

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A female reader, Luv_doc United Kingdom +, writes (6 March 2011):

If shaving seems like a lot of hassle, just trim it neatly. Or to avoid the irritating itchiness of regrowth, use a good depilatory cream such as Nair. It works a dream and is much easier to use. Alternatively if you like your pubic hair the way it is, say so! :) And if he wants you to groom your pubic hair, he had better be willing to do the same!! Good luck. Xx

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011):

Yes, you should be offended. He should have given you some subtle hints, not flat out ask you to do it. If you don't want to do it, then don't! It is your body.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2011):

He should have worded his request a bit differently I feel... and not sound so demanding.

He should have stated why he likes it and also what benefit you could receive from doing it... that being sexual pleasure most likely.

For myself, it's common for women to shave and I love it cause I camp down there with my tongue lol... last thing I want is a hair ball... i love skin. Its his preference and if you decide to do it, yeah do it for your own comfort. Good luck.

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A female reader, Mjfbla United States +, writes (6 March 2011):

Mjfbla agony auntA lot of women or men do it because they don't like hair, or their boy or girl friends dont.

do what feels right for you. you can trim the hair short or shave it all off.

But don't do it for him. shaving can be a pain, because it itches when it grows back. You constantly have to shave it. if you don't shave it right, then you can get in grown hair. basically, before you do anything, look up how to shave it properly.

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A male reader, C. Grant Canada +, writes (6 March 2011):

C. Grant agony auntIt isn't because of sanitary reasons. Shaving there seems to be a fashion these days. He's been watching porn, and almost every girl in porn is shaved. It's entirely your call as to whether you want to bother. But he's told you what he likes.

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