Will my gf lose custody of her kids because we're seeing each other?
Q. I am a 21 year old Female. I am completely in love with another Female who is 39 and she is in love with me too. She has two children and is afraid that if her ex husband finds out that she is with a 21 year old that he will take her to court and ...
A. 27 February 2009: her ex-husband may try to take away the children just to be nasty but, it will take more than a gay relationship to loose your children. Although that being said some states view same sex relationships differently. If you live apart and you are ... (read in full...)
Our families won't accept we're getting married
Q. I’m 26 years old and have been engaged for 6months to my partner of 4 years. I can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with this man who is truly the love of my life and want to start planning the wedding, but both of our families are against it. ...
A. 27 February 2009: you can't get them to see anything they refuse to open their eyes to. I was married to a guy 20 years older than me. He had two marriages behind him and a son a year younger than me. My family never liked it and never really welcomed my husband ... (read in full...)
Should I give the green light to my friend to have sex with my mom?
Q. Hello… My friend wants to have sex with my mum. They are both single. i care for them both and want them to be happy. I know my mum thinks my friend is cute. My friend said that he has liked her since we both were in high school. She is in her 4...
A. 27 February 2009: I cannot believe you are suggesting such a thing! Do you love and respect your mum? YOU do not have the right to give your mum any green lights. I am amazed that you think of sex as such a casual thing. Your friend will eventually have sex. You ... (read in full...)
I just realized I really didn't treat my husband the way I should have
Q. Afew days ago my husband told me he wasnt happy anymore. I was completely devestaded, and all of a sudden started thinking of all of the things I had done wrong. I asked him why, and he said he didnt know and that he had been this way for a few ...
A. 27 February 2009: babe show your husband the letter you have written. Then try to do all the things you know you should have done from the beginning. Hopefully he's telling you he is unhappy so things change and not because he wants to end things. This is your ... (read in full...)
He swears he won't hit me again, should I get back with my ex?
Q. Should I get back together with my ex? I dated this guy almost a year ago we were together for 4 years before that. While dating, he did a lot of things to me. First everytime I wanted to hang out with my friends he would try to guilt trip me an...
A. 27 February 2009: babe i rhink you have answered your own question, when writing it down surely you were amazed at how much you have put up with. Blokes like this do not change. You are worth so much more. A relationship is like a partnership 50-50 your ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend said he was bi-curious, but found out he's more... help!
Q. I am a female who wrote a question about my live in boyfriend. I wrote that I was worried because he had been bi-curious before he had met me. He and I had been dating for 4 months then moved in together. After several weeks I came accross some ...
A. 27 February 2009: ok, i understand your upset about not haing the whole truth from your boyfriend. However bi-sexual does not mean he's sleeping with two partners at the same time. Loving someone is about loving the person, regardless if they're male or female. If ... (read in full...)
My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian.
Q. My fiance won't let my friend come to our wedding because shes a lesbian. She says The Dike (that's what she calls her when my friend isn't around) will eye up all the bridesmaids and also she doesn't want her to come because there going to be a lot ...
A. 23 February 2009: I find it amazing that we still have people as narrow minded as your future wife! ask her if she fancies every man she see? I assume she, like everyone else actually has taste and simply being male does not equal love match! Do you really want to ... (read in full...)
I need to talk through this break-up with my boyfriend with someone, can you help me please?
Q. I know that everyone goes through a break up and I am now currently going through one as well. We were on and off a lot and it was officially over yesterday. I am falling apart. I have talked to him and he is hanging out with his friends and he is ...
A. 22 February 2009: ok babe, break ups are hard and i understand you r pain as i am experiencing my first broken heart at the age of 41! After 8 long weeks of crying and walking around upset i now feel more in control. Not over my partner, but not an emotional ... (read in full...)
I really like him, but he's bi and I'm not sure how I feel about it...
Q. i started seeing this guy, and i am really falling for him. i find out today that he might be bi. im totally straight, and i dont know if im really comfortable with the fact that he likes guys too. if i was left for a another guy, i wouldnt really ...
A. 22 February 2009: Labels, labels,labels isn't it amazing how we throw them around? If your man had been 'straight' would you worry about him fancying every woman he passed? Are you likely to run off with some other guy?. Exactly, there is no reason for him to stop ... (read in full...)
She's muslim and she's lesbian AND she's unhappy because of the flack she gets off her family!
Q. I have a girlfriend. She is so special to me, she is my everything. We have been through so much together. I love her and she loves me. There is only one problem. She is a muslim, so it is frowned upon on her religeon to be a lesbian. Most ...
A. 22 February 2009: congratulations on being such a loving girlfriend! I feel sorry for you, as you must become extremely annoyed with your 'mother in-law' and yet have to be careful how you react as your girlfriend obviously loves her mother.
There is no easy ans... (read in full...)
How can I tell my shy girlfriend that her pubic hair is turning me off sex?
Q. Hey I've been with a girl 18 months now, And everything is ok. Only thing is I REALLY have a thing against pubic hair, I'm not a shallow guy or anything it's just a REAL turn off for me. Everyone has things with make them excited and turns them off ...
A. 22 February 2009: I think complementing your girlfriend on all the things you love about her would be a great start. Get her to be less shy around you. Wehn her confidence is raised you could comment on women shaving, tidying up down there and say how you can ... (read in full...)
Is it weird that I'm a guy who likes to use dildos on himself when I'm with my girlfriend?
Q. for some reason i allowed my girlfriend to finger my anus during sex and now i love it but i feel as if im turning into a pervert. i first wandered was i bi but i have no interest in guys whatsoever. however i will admit to enjoying shemale porn. ...
A. 22 February 2009: i agree with everyone else. You are not hurting anyone so carry on. As for trying things with a new girl please don't. Stick with your girlfriend, maybe you could introduce a dildo into your love making for her and eventually it'll be her idea to ... (read in full...)
We want to be together but are pulled apart by different goals and plans for the future, what do you suggest?
Q. My girlfreind and i have been together over four and a half years. We both love each other dearly but there are problems in our relationship.We both want different things for the future. I want us to both live together, do some travelling then start ...
A. 22 February 2009: i think you need to let her go, we only have one life and shoudn't expect someone to change to suit what we want. That said, you need to find a soul mate, someone who wants to travel, experience the world and life just as you do. Then later settle ... (read in full...)
Dating a 50 year old woman, she says she's pregnant, another man may be involved, yeeks, what now?
Q. i was dating a 50 yrs old lady by the way iam 45,i knew she was seeing other men but now she told me she is pregnant i dont even know what to say iam pro life its just a mess...
A. 22 February 2009: firstly if she was dating other men the baby might not be yours, secondly i'm not sure that at 50 your lady friend would really want to go into motherhood. She has to decide what's best for her, it's her body and only she knows what's best for her. ... (read in full...)
Why do girls pretend they don't like to perform oral sex?
Q. why do girls pretend to not like performing oral sex , then you find out that they love it? whats up with that?...
A. 22 February 2009: it seems everyone feels the same way about the use of the word 'they' as though your experiences can be attributed to all girls eveywhere. Maybe your girl loves it now because it's with you! whereas before she was not so connected to whoever she ... (read in full...)
Pregnant, in undesirable relationship, what do I do?
Q. I had a one night stand got knocked up and moved in with him he doesnt love me or care he tells me he does but no sex no kissing has got physical I pay half bills and buy all food he gots out wiyh ex sleeps with her and others yet wants us to raise ...
A. 22 February 2009: I think you already know the answer mate. If you are hiding from his mum and sister, the nan and aunty of your baby then no-one knows he's going to be a dad. Doesn't that stike you as strange? Leave this person, now! what are you waiting for. It ... (read in full...)
Am I a financial convenience?
Q. Is it me? Married 24yrs and my husband is perfectly nice everyone likes him but I feel so neglected. I have taken a week off work and I am five days into it and have not held a conversation with my husband who is more intent on watching the horse ...
A. 18 February 2009: My first question is what did you book for his birthday? If it was a day at the races; which i'd expect he'd love, then i would have thought he'd have jumped to spend the day with you. If however you booked something you'd like then maybe this is ... (read in full...)
I'm freaking out after my horrible sex experience with my BF, can you help me?
Q. So i'm seventeen and my boyfriend and i had sex last night as a late valentines day present and now i'm freaking out. Well my boyfriend kind of pressured me into having sex at this camping trip and he didnt stop when i told him to stop being so ...
A. 18 February 2009: this bloke sounds like a brute. Babe sometimes people do bleed the first time they have sex so the bleeding is probably ok. If it continuees seek medical advice. You realy need to finish with this guy. He does not care enough for you. If you ... (read in full...)
I'm too overprotective of my girlfriend, but I'm willing to change - please help!
Q. Well this is the first time iv wrote on this forum so please be nice. There is a long background story to this so please be patient... We are both 18 and iv been with my girlfriend a couple of months now (officially) however we ...
A. 18 February 2009: I can understand you being annoyed when your girlfriend seems worried about her exs feelings more than yours. Maybe you need to work on your possesiveness, not for her but, for yourself and future relationships. To be truely in love is to love ... (read in full...)
Lost my girlfriend, lost my whole world... what am I to do?
Q. sorry in advance for the poor spelling ,puncuation and length.i have been with my girlfriend for almost 7 yrs now.we fell madly in love at first sight when introduced by mutual friends.she was divorced with 2 kids .i tried all i can do to be ...
A. 18 February 2009: not really sure how to help you here mate. Maybe the thing to do would be to open your heart to her in a letter. Explain that you now realise what you have done wrong (detailing these things) so she can see that you really understand that you are ... (read in full...)
I want to come out of the closet, but I'm extremely scared!
Q. i am a very confused individual.. im a lesbian, i think about girls in a sexual way 24/7 and find sex with a guy unappealing. guys just dont really do it for me i guess. but i am extremely scared of coming out, and to add to it i have just...
A. 18 February 2009: You could just break up with this guy as you haven't actually got a girlfirend to be with. Let him know that you love him as a friend and enjoy his company but being partners doesn't feel right to you.
Good luck mate xx... (read in full...)
I'm getting married, but I'm not too excited about taking his last name!
Q. I'm getting married this summer and I'm very excited. The only thing I'm really fretting about is the last name change! I'm really attached to my own last name. I asked my fiance if he'd want to swap his last name for mine, but he's not into that. ...
A. 18 February 2009: you can just keep using your name, there is not a rule that you have to change. When you are ready you can change your name if you want to. If he's happy with this then you really do not have a problem. Hope your wedding day is lovely xx... (read in full...)
Why wont he and how can I get him to?
Q. dear cupid, my fiance and i have been together for three years now and he has only perform oral on me three times whereas i lose track of how many times i heve gave him oral.i have asked why he wont do it and all he says is i just dont want to.im ...
A. 17 February 2009: I agree with the people who say stop pleasuring him and think hard about whether you really want to spend the rest of your life with someone who cannot/will not be honest with you and is selfish as well. Doesn't sound good does it?
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Can any one suggest a way to kill off unwanted emotions?
Q. Can any one suggest a way to kill off unwanted emotions? Long story made short, I'm married for 6 years with 3 gorgeous kids and a fabulous husband. We have a great life together, all except I seem to not fancy my husband any more, I love him ...
A. 17 February 2009: having 3 young children can make it difficult to see what you and your husband have. My advice to you is to let him know you are worried about loosing yourselves to becoming 'parents' with no time for just being two people happy and in love. ... (read in full...)
Should I hold on to her? Even if our relationship time is limited?
Q. I just need advice. Ok, so here's what's going on. I'm pretty much in my first real relationship, the girl I'm going with is great. But recently, she told me she plans on keeping her virginity until she's married which is a bit of a bummer because...
A. 17 February 2009: leaving someone because she doesn't give sex away freelyis pretty low! personally that would make me value and want my girlfriend even more. As for her going back home, that's a tough one but long distant relationships can work. My girlfriend left ... (read in full...)
Bisexual or lesbian?
Q. I'm currently in a relationship with this guy. I'm 17 he's 20. I like him alot. but i think i might like girls MORE than him? ive always found myself sexually more attracted to females. and i dont want to hurt his feelings...im confused! i love him...
A. 17 February 2009: it doesn't really matter mate, it's just a label. if you love him and at this moment are happy to have a boyfriend then go with that. If/when you finish and your next relationship might be with a woman or another man then that's ok. We don't need ... (read in full...)
He is also gay, I thought he liked me?
Q. hey, im 14 and gay. one of my classmates is gay too and i have a crush on him (we confessed to each other that we're gay). we were talking about getting together and stuff, but suddenly on one day he said he's going to meet someone else. what's ...
A. 17 February 2009: mate you'll just have to try to move on. It's great that you have a friend in him and hopefully you'll maintain that. ... (read in full...)
My b/f insists to have sex with me, I'm underage, should I give in?
Q. im 14 and i have a 18 year old online boyfriend, but every time we chat online he says that he wants to have sex with me, but i kind of want to have sex with him but im not sure if i should, so should i have sex with him or not?...
A. 16 February 2009: no mate you shouldn't as a matter of fact this sicko is probably much older than the 18 year old he tells you he is. You should tell an adult and let them deal with him.... (read in full...)
I have a desire to have sex with my sister, what do you think?
Q. i need help to sleep with my sister but she says that she is complely by say that that stuff is gross when ever its mentioned. i feel like she just say that to convince her self. when we were little we would alwaly show eachother our privite parts ...
A. 16 February 2009: what you are suggesting is wrong, you need to accept that what went on as children was innoccent, Now you know its wrong. Love your sister from afar as a brother. Get out and find someone free and not related to share your love and sex life with... (read in full...)
Dating cousins.
Q. My sister confided in me last night that her and our cousin have been dating. His great, great, grandfather married my great, great, grandmother and they had kids and those kids had his mom. Therefore, he is blood. As my sister told me about them ...
A. 16 February 2009: here in england 1st cousins cannot marry, your family line is far down the family tree mate i really do not think you have anything to worry about... (read in full...)
How can I change my sexuality?
Q. i think im gay but i dont want to be. how can i change my sexuality so that i dont think about men and stop watching videos....
A. 15 February 2009: you are who you are babe, we can't change that. All i can say to you is that our sexuality is only a small part of who we are. The person you are is so much more important. People are not judge as good people just because they're straight. I ... (read in full...)
Having sex with another girl, don't want my parents to know, don't want to stop either, what do I do?
Q. I need you help. Im 13 and i am having sex with another girl (16). I dont know what i shall do. I cant tell my parents, but otherwise, I cant end it because im so horny and i like the sex with another girl. I am afraid my parents could find out....
A. 15 February 2009: my concern is that you are only 13 and should not be in a sexual relationship with anyone male or female even more so when they are over the age of 16. You do not need to tell your parents anything but i would suggest you stop sleeping with this ... (read in full...)
I like my partner to urinate in me, is that wrong?
Q. i am a gay male that has finally hit 30 and my boyfriend of 9 yrs is 43, but that's not the issue. a little while after my b-day, all these thoughts came to mind. it has been a while since me and my BF have had sex, but i am not sure if that is ...
A. 14 February 2009: what ever turns your on........ however your man is doing something he really doesn't enjoy just to please you. Maybe you should think about him and how you could just ask for this once in a while. Might top up your sex life if he doesn't think ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to suck him off!!!!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to suck his penis... but when I try to do it I don't like it... I try to deep throat and stuff but I just don't know how to make him feel pleasure... I don't know how to do that. ...
A. 14 February 2009: any time you are asked to do something you do not like or really don't fancy doing, just don't do it. BRegardless of who its for. I always try to imagine that its a friend of mine with the problem and i'm advising them. This way a get the answer ... (read in full...)
I'm beginning to think my only attraction to him was physical.
Q. Hi, so i wrote a question on this site yesterday and i still have more questions. So my boyfriend HAS been dropping hints about sex for those of you who read my question and we sat down and talked about sex. But here are the things that set up a red ...
A. 14 February 2009: think you've anwered your own question babe, this bloke sounds like a prize dick head. Save yourself for someone worthy of you. This guy doesn't fit the bill. Get rid... (read in full...)
Does this mean my mum suspects I'm gay?
Q. Hey eveyone, just so you know right from the begining, I'm 15 and gay. Im still in the closet about the whole thing. Now, my mum always makes the comment of, "you will make your wife very happy" or "you will make your girlfriend really happy" j...
A. 6 February 2009: she's giving you a message that she loves and accepts you whatever. You are a very lucky person. I wish more kids had a lovely mum like yours. ... (read in full...)
Am I am Lesbian?
Q. I'm 15 and I think I might be a lesbian, but I'm not sure AT ALL. Last year, I started thinking about what it would be like to be with a girl and now, The idea of being with a man kinda seems distant. Theres only one guy I've been really attracted...
A. 6 February 2009: my daughter had exactly the same type of worries as you have. I told her that does it really matter?? you are not with anyone at the moment. You do not need a label to define who you are. And yes apparently it's true many people have crushes on ... (read in full...)
Has anyone 'come out' at this age (16) to friends and family? How did you do it?
Q. Hi, I'm nearly 16 and I live in Warwickshire in England. The question I wanted to ask is has anyone here came out at this age to their friends and family? If so, can you advise me on how to go about it? I usually would have little troubl...
A. 6 February 2009: I must start off by saying i never came out at 15 however i do know a boy who wrote his parents a letter. His mum cried and his dad who i would have bet money would go mad actually asked the mum why she was crying. His grandparents were relived ... (read in full...)
I need advice, my BF just confessed that he is female!
Q. I'm 16 and i've fallen for what i was made to believe a 17 year old boy, recently, a month into our relationship he has confessed he is a 15 year old female but mentally has always been male, he looks male, acts male and sounds male yet has female ...
A. 6 February 2009: you're boyfriend was wrong not to tell you from the off what the situation was but, that said it hasn't changed you're feelings. I have no real comments other than to say i love your openmindness and i wish you both the best of everything. ... (read in full...)
I like her but I'm terrified of going on a date with her
Q. I've always identified myself as bisexual. Even though I have fancied women and maybe shared the odd kiss, I have never been seriously involved with another woman, and have always dated men. I'm currently single. I've recently met a girl, who is ...
A. 6 February 2009: well it's only a 'date' there are no rules you don't have to sleep with her just because you go on a date. Take things slowly see what does or doesn't happen. You have nothing to loose... (read in full...)
Tell him how I feel or keep it to myself? We're boys.
Q. i feel really messed up right now 'cause i'm in love with this other guy. he's the sweetest yet most annoying jerk i've ever met. he's usually loud, boastful and just plain stupid but i can't get him out of my mind. the thing is that wit me he's ...
A. 6 February 2009: I would suggest you say nothing to him just yet. What i would do though is arrange evenings where either you stay other his house or he stays over yours( sleepvoers) If he really feels anything for you then somethnig might happen when you're alone ... (read in full...)
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