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writes:im 14 and i have a 18 year old online boyfriend, but every time we chat online he says that he wants to have sex with me, but i kind of want to have sex with him but im not sure if i should, so should i have sex with him or not? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 March 2009): If he demands to have sex with you, that is not good. If you feel you are ready to have sex with him, and you feel you are mature enough, make sure you are well protected i.e. ask him to wear a condom.I hope this helps!MissTiddlypom x
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reader, QuartzKitty +, writes (9 March 2009):
Age has nothing to do with it. Readiness does. THey are not the same thing.
If you are ready, you will know. If you have any doubts at all about your readiness, you are not ready.
Don't let him pressure you into anything. You should never do something just because somebody else wants you to. You should do it only when YOU want to.
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reader, loving arms  +, writes (16 February 2009):
no mate you shouldn't as a matter of fact this sicko is probably much older than the 18 year old he tells you he is. You should tell an adult and let them deal with him.
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reader, Olivia(Y). +, writes (15 February 2009):
 It is illeagal if you do have sex with him as you are under age and he isn't.
I'm the same age as you and my boyfriend is 17 but he never pushed me into doing anything.
If you want to have sex with him then be carefull and use protection but you sound unsure, don't let him push you into anything or you will regret it.
Good luck.
Olivia.
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reader, nikkibby ; +, writes (15 February 2009):
the people below are right that doesnt seem right just tell him no I dont want to and whatever you dont give him your number or meet him cuss he just might someone you want in you life . you aren't ready for sex or any of that you are soo young .hope I helped .
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reader, Tomas +, writes (15 February 2009):
Normal guys will not repeatedly tell a girl (especially one as young as you, especially when he is older) that he wants to have sex with her, in a way that makes her feel pressured to do so. Also, normal 18 year olds look at 14 year olds about the same way a 14 year old looks at a 10 year old. As much as you have changed since you were 10, you will change that much more by his age. It can be very flattering to be treated like an adult by someone older, but everyone here who is older can see and will tell you that this guy is 100% without-a-doubt using you. I'm sorry to tell you that, but it's good you were smart enough to ask other people for advice rather than give in to his pressure. Recognizing when you might be in over your head is actually a good sign of maturity.There are lots of guys your age who will want to get to know you, who will see you for who you are, and will not make you feel pressured.You are worth much more than an adult who would try to take advantage of someone still growing as you are. My advice is to stay far way.
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reader, aunty_rach +, writes (15 February 2009):
NO! next time he insists just tell him that if he keeps insisting you will report him to the police as he could face jail time he he does sleep with you.
i hear too many girls saying they are not ready, yet there bf's want them to do it, so the girls give in and loose their self respect!
if you are not ready then you should not have sex with him or anyone else. you will only regret it!
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (15 February 2009):
Wow this sounds like CLASSIC predator behaviour.
He is doing what they call GROOMING.
I would put MONEY on the fact that when you meet him he confesses to being a little bit older than 18... like 10 years older. But he only lied because he really liked you.
Please please please do not meet him. If you are even considering it then take an adult or 3 friends and do not go anywhere other than public places.
But the safest thing of all is to realise that this guy is after one thing and that means he is a scum bag and doesn't care about you or love you.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (15 February 2009):
 Your question isn't very clear do you mean real sex, or cyber sex? He's an on line boyfriend. Don't meet him and don't have sex with him! He sounds like a typical internet predator (Paedophile who tells girls he's younger than he is to have sex with them)Chatting with people is fine but once they start asking for sex cut all contact with them. If he genuinely cared for you he wouldn't ask for sex as he knows you are underage and not ready for that yet.Also if you do have sex with him he can be arrested for RAPE of a minor and get sent to prison.
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