My life is in utter shambles...Filing for Divorce
Q. This is a long and painful story that I will post here, but I need to get some opinions from some "disinterested" third parties as my friends/family have pretty much weighed in on this issue. First, some background to "set the stage" for what's to ...
A. 13 November 2007: hey,
great to see you doing great and finaly going out there ( you really deserve the best)!
what happened with that girl is normal:S i think she doesn't wanna be involved with a married man!maybe for her, you won't get a divorce, just lie to her! ... (read in full...)
My mum thinks my girlfriend is screwed up, what should I do for the best?
Q. I'm not sure what to make about my girlfreind, she lives about 30 miles away from me and I have to always pay for hotels when I stay up there, she occasionally comes down to me, but lately I have gone up to where she lives, she says she loves me and ...
A. 4 November 2007: why don't you just talk to her and make her go to professional help( she needs it)..but what she needs the most is you next to her .
take good care of her..
good luck and byeXXX... (read in full...)
Have I gone too far?
Q. Hi i'm 20 years old, happily engaged to an amazing girl and have a daughter that I love so much. I work behind a bar in a busy nightclub and recently a new girl has started her and no matter how hard I try I cant keep her out of my head, and with ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
i don't think that is a good way of acting because you have a child and a fiance. don't stop talking to the other girl, but be just her partner at work DON'T PLAY THESE SILLY GAMES ,
you have your responsibilties and if you love your fiance y... (read in full...)
Should I let her know how I feel?
Q. i recently posted a question which really relates to this one but time has passed and im still in the same situation, i recently told you that this girl i like talks to me when i see her on nights out. her friends come up to me and yell me she likes ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
i think she likes you so why don't you go for it? what do you have to lose? if you stay like this and don't take the first step nothing will ever happens...
and if she doesn't like you well at least you tried, if you don;t try you will nev... (read in full...)
I love him, I don't want to feel this way
Q. Recently i lost both my grandparents on the same day with whom i was extremely close to after this extreme blow my father emmigrated to new zealand. I obviously was hurt and lost my mum was dealing with her own greaving and alike my brother was. ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
you deserve much better then him YES LEAVE HIM.
and good luck byeXXX... (read in full...)
Should I keep holding on to him when he's with this other girl?
Q. I dated this guy for a year and a half. We broke up and hadn't talked for a while when he started texting me, he has a girlfriend and has only been dating her for 2 months. He always calls me and texts me even when he is with her, He tells me that ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
maybe this guy is only playing with you BE CAREFUL.
and if you belive that he loves you ask him to leave the other girl , cause it makes no sence him going out with her if he loves you.
BE CAREFUL he might be another player.
good luck and... (read in full...)
Should I ask him if this relationship is going anywhere?
Q. I am a 26 year old women who has recently been spending a lot of time with a 23 year old man who is a friend of a number of my close friends. We are having a really good time and have been sleeping together for four weeks. The problem is that I ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
don't rush into anything . but be firm( don't need to have sex a lot:S)don't be soo easy!stand your ground and show him that you are not only for sex but you need more then that...
don't ask him where this is going cause it is too soon to ... (read in full...)
My mum thinks my girlfriend is screwed up, what should I do for the best?
Q. I'm not sure what to make about my girlfreind, she lives about 30 miles away from me and I have to always pay for hotels when I stay up there, she occasionally comes down to me, but lately I have gone up to where she lives, she says she loves me and ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
it is clear that she has some problems if you really love her don't leave her cause now would be the best time to show her your love and affection, she is so sad and maybe screwed up like your mum says but you shouldn't leave her when she need... (read in full...)
Are relations about sex or love?
Q. earlier my families were planning for me to have arranged merraige and now they seem like they drop the subject as a result i stayed vergin till now. the thing is i don't know how to choose the first guy to have sex with plus my past ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey, for starters i don't beleive in sex before marriage, so for me relationships start with love and after marriage sex! so relax you are doing the right thing, there is a sayin that says'keep it clean, and don't worry about people being mea... (read in full...)
How can I earn her trust again?
Q. i love someone and our relation was perfect, but she left me coz she feels for someone else now, i respected her feelings but l found out that the other guy is just playing when i told her we had a fight and i lost her completly tell me what to do ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
if you are sure that he is playing with her that means that he will hurt her, it isn't your fault you already warned her .
if this guy hurts her she will see that you were right and she will talk to you again for sure:S but if you aren't s... (read in full...)
I want to make my family work, but I don't know if I can anymore.
Q. I feel torn right now because one minute I want to leave my husband and the next I don't want to break our family up. We have been together 14 years and have 4 children together. We argue way too much and don't see eye to eye. We don't make eno...
A. 4 November 2007: heyyyyyyyy great to hear good luck byeXXX... (read in full...)
I try to forget about him, but it's so hard because I love him.
Q. so, i liked this guy all summer and we ended up going out. After about a month we started getting into arguments. 3 days befor we broke up he told me he didn't want to be exclusive anymore. And then he broke up with me saying he wanted to take a ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
i think being freinds with him isn't the perfect idea because it will just kill you everytme he is with another girl or talks to another girl, and it will make it ten times harder for you.
maybe it is hard for you to get over him now but it w... (read in full...)
Why does she not realize I spent half my life thinking about her.
Q. i've been chasin this girl for over a year now. As soon as i try get step closer (by askin her to catch a film as friends) she moves away. I than give her space. 9months later after our friendship is stronger i ask again. She accepts but i find ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
i really don't know why girls like the boys who don't show them any attention and who don't look at them ,so why don't you try to show her that you don't care any more (if talking to her doesn't help) ...
show her you aren't intersst... (read in full...)
Every girl I like rejects me.
Q. i've never had a girl friend. I'm so desperate to get one. I just wanna be loved. I see my mates in relationships over 3years and they are so lucky to have someone care for them. They have the looks i don't. But i do have a good personality, i've ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
you will be just fine make the girls chase you and that is by plauing hard to get( don't pay her any attention and don't show her you real feelings) and you will see soonner or later that you are the one who is gonna be rejecting her:D.
bye X... (read in full...)
My life is in utter shambles...Filing for Divorce
Q. This is a long and painful story that I will post here, but I need to get some opinions from some "disinterested" third parties as my friends/family have pretty much weighed in on this issue. First, some background to "set the stage" for what's to ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey.
this woman is married to you and this isn't a way of acting even if she isn't cheatting!
so why are you feeling soo bad about someone you tryed helping! when all the other cares about is going out and teenage stuff!
don't feel bad about so... (read in full...)
I have to see her everyday, but afraid to get rejected.
Q. i go to the sports centre everyday and see this beautiful girl workin at the reception. I really fancy her. I've spoken to her about twice just sortin my account out and jokin around with her. She calls me names for a joke. Everytime i walk in ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
well if you come to her you have nothing to lose!
but do it in a way that she can't resist( romantic way).you have to have confidence and take the risk.
good luck and take care, and tell us what happens next:D:D byeXXX... (read in full...)
My own personal soap opera... I'm in love with 2 men from 2 different countries
Q. I've been dating this guy for over 3 years (2004-2007), we've been very serious and have been living together for 2 years. I actually moved from the US to NZ to live with him at the beginning of 2006, and we've been inseparable ever since. Howe...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
your biyfreind loves you and you love him too so what do you want from the other guy!? maybe it is difficult but i can never beleive that someone can be in loce with 2 people (i wouldn't call it love)....
i know for a fact that you will fee... (read in full...)
I can't get it out myself!
Q. my mates havin problems with his girlfriend. And he tells me nearly everythin and i always comfort him etc. I always give him advise on what he should do. Anyway his my friend so i can say what i want as he actually asks me. Well his girlfriend ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
everyone never mind so what! you will someone who loves you much more as well so relaxxxxx noone is worth it!
there are many other men so stop waisting your time and get on track good luck and tell us what happens next byeXXX... (read in full...)
Should I block him?
Q. this guy ive known since joinor school, well ive got in touch with him. everything was going ok till yesterday. his mate was round his house and we were talking on msn. all of a sudden he was like oi f***er, you are ugly as hell, i dont want to ...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
this turned out for the best good for you byeXXX... (read in full...)
Fear and Jealousy of losing my girlfriend during "open" stage of our relationship.
Q. Hey everyone! Im 23 male..I appreciate all you people who answer questions on this site...its soo great to be able to collaborate on this crazy game of love and life!! I am in an open relationship right now with a girl I absolutely adore...
A. 4 November 2007: hey,
her idea is killin you!if you didn't have this you have nothing! sorry but i think you have nothing!because noone can call this a relationship!
if she is such a great person then you have t talk to her and tell her how you feel!
good luck... (read in full...)
Should I move or not?
Q. My boyfriend lives in London, and I live in the US. Im willing to move there for him. but I dont know what I should do. Should I stay here and find someone else, or do I move to his country to try living with him?...
A. 3 November 2007: hey .
i see that you are 16-17 so i think you are still very young to move in with a guy, maybe you should wait when you are older and really know what your want.
good luck bye XXX... (read in full...)
I want to make my family work, but I don't know if I can anymore.
Q. I feel torn right now because one minute I want to leave my husband and the next I don't want to break our family up. We have been together 14 years and have 4 children together. We argue way too much and don't see eye to eye. We don't make eno...
A. 3 November 2007: hey, i think you need to relax and look at what you are at,i have parents and they fight a lot and many other things but it would kill me if they split up. you have made a commitment to that man, so for the sake of your children and this family d... (read in full...)
Should I go for it?
Q. i like this guy and he is a bit older than me... he's 16 im 11. i like him sooo much i think im in love with him. he does show signs that he likes me too but im not so sure about it... a lot of people think we're not good for each other, so should i ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
to tell you the truth i don't think you should go for it because at the age of 16 he wanna have a girlfreind nearly his age. sorry, but that is what i think.
5 years isn't a big difference but i think you have to wait a little longer( ... (read in full...)
I can't get it out myself!
Q. my mates havin problems with his girlfriend. And he tells me nearly everythin and i always comfort him etc. I always give him advise on what he should do. Anyway his my friend so i can say what i want as he actually asks me. Well his girlfriend ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
i think she got a little angry and very carried away.
don't pay her any attention or whatever she does, she is just jelous that her boyfreind comes for you and tells you everything before he tells her that..
so don't be upset for something th... (read in full...)
My ex is getting engaged and I don't know what to do?
Q. I dated my first love off and on for five years. After finding out that he had been lying to me and hanging out with this girl I flipped out and we broke up. He told me that he wasn't ready to settle down yet and that he needed five years to do ...
A. 3 November 2007: i agree with eddie 100% you are soo right .you said what i wanted to say but didn't know how .
bye.... (read in full...)
Should I block him?
Q. this guy ive known since joinor school, well ive got in touch with him. everything was going ok till yesterday. his mate was round his house and we were talking on msn. all of a sudden he was like oi f***er, you are ugly as hell, i dont want to ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
i think you have to face him blocking him won't be the answer.
and see what happened , and after that you should pick up your answer on what to do next.
good luck byeXXX... (read in full...)
I am very lazy, and can't seem to control myself - to study or exercise.
Q. I want to be a good boy, but it seems that it is very hard for me to realise it. I am too lazy, I cannot control myself.Each morning,I want to get up to do excise,but I fail all the time;I can't put my heart into study;I don't have a good temper I ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
rome wasn't built in a day so take it easy . each step in it's own time.. don't start very hard exercices ,so i say call some freinds and invite them to go walking or take anyone with you and when you go walking you won't realise it beca... (read in full...)
He can ignore me for days and speaks only when it suits him! I feel unloved and used.
Q. oh someone please please give advice as soon as... i am in a relationship with a man for 1 1/2 years. In the beginning he moved in and did pay his way for 3 months, he lied about a lot of things and it has now ended up with his family hating me a...
A. 3 November 2007: oh dear god! what are you still doing there !
look this isn't your fault even a little bit so please stop blaming yourself and please stop crying:(.
don't let him see your weakness , please walk away maybe it is hard for you but you have no futu... (read in full...)
My bf broke up with me, feeling humiliated I was successful while he was not. How do you forget your first love?
Q. Dear Cupid my boyfriend broke up with me for a reason that is way unbelievable, his reason was I had a future and his life was a trash, because of this I humiliated him, but then I apologized; after this I heard from my friend that he was cour...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
sometimes sorry isn't enough to make someone feel better you have to prove it anyways ,maybe it is really hard to forget him but you have to do it anyways.
good luck byeXXX... (read in full...)
What does he want from our relationship?
Q. my dilemma is i'm in a long distance relationship. when my boyfriend proposed to me, i refused as it was just not possible but he was too adamant and persistent. after much persuasion, i finally accepted his proposal and we went steady for 2 years. ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
i had the same exact situation 100% the same , what i did is that i stood up and told him that i want a break up( even thow i loved him so much) but trust me i am a lot happier now because he made me feel that it was my fault that the rela... (read in full...)
My ex is getting engaged and I don't know what to do?
Q. I dated my first love off and on for five years. After finding out that he had been lying to me and hanging out with this girl I flipped out and we broke up. He told me that he wasn't ready to settle down yet and that he needed five years to do ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
i am really sorry to hear your story but i think you have lost your chance with your ex 3 months ago , so why go back to him?? you have a boyfreind so don't hurt him by doing anything stupid, and i think that you love him but too busy thin... (read in full...)
Is it unfair to think my husband should stand up for me?
Q. My husband has a new business partner, who I sense does not like me. We are in each other's company a lot. Last night the partner made a very negative comment to me and about me, in front of my husband. My husband obviously knew I would be upset, ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
he is your husband he has to stand up for this ... it is unfair to you .
why don't you talk to him about it?? maybe he didn't want to make a very big deal out of it(in which he must have ) .
tell him 'if you care about me soo much why did... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a boy that I know has a girlfriend.
Q. im in love with a boy but its not simple. he has a gf. he has told me many times that he is in love with me and we are sort of together in secret. hes too much of a decent guy to be lying, ive known him too long. his gf is going thru alot of stress ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey, i see no point for him going out with the other girl if he loves you . so ask him to tell her the truth and leave her before he hurts her any longer and then you will be together but not before that, because you might really hurt her if you ... (read in full...)
Trying to move on without thinking about who he may be with next.
Q. Why is he doing this? I broke up with my ex a month ago, but he has already added lots of friends to his myspace that are girls and adds lots of pictures of him with girls to his other website. I know I shouldn't look at it but it hurts me terribly ...
A. 3 November 2007: hey he just want to make you jealous and make you think that he moved on and by telling him that i am 100% it made him soo happy that you cared to look over myspace . so i say leave him alone and stop thinking about him and maybe he will just lea... (read in full...)
Fear and Jealousy of losing my girlfriend during "open" stage of our relationship.
Q. Hey everyone! Im 23 male..I appreciate all you people who answer questions on this site...its soo great to be able to collaborate on this crazy game of love and life!! I am in an open relationship right now with a girl I absolutely adore...
A. 3 November 2007: hey, to tell you the truth you can't get over your jealousy and thoughts because of this thing called 'love'. tell her how you feel and if she doesn't accept then........ i know what i will say might be hard to take but i will say it anyways 'lea... (read in full...)
How do I stop him from falling for me.
Q. I am at it again. Yes, somehow, I manage to break up with the married guy that i was with. Yes I am still with my boyfriend of two years.what it is is that I met this guy, he works around the area that I work at. He is actually an army guy whom I t...
A. 3 November 2007: hey, i think you shouldn't go any further with the other man because you have a boyfreind( i guess you already know that) but how would you feel if you knew that your boyfreind is talking to another girl and he didn't say anything about you to h... (read in full...)
I have just started my period and don't know how to tell mom...
Q. ok i am 14 and have just started my period how can i tell my mom without cringing....
A. 3 November 2007: hey,
that is you mum, she won't be mean to you or anything because when she had you as a girl she knew that one day you will have you period and it is nothing to be embaressed about she should feel happy because her girl is now a lil woman so don'... (read in full...)
I may be left behind, if I don't change the way I am.
Q. im 21, and been single for a year. this time last year my girlfriend of 4 years split up with me. i was totally heart broken and it took me months and months to get over. anyway, now i am over that and want to meet new girls. but, because i ...
A. 2 November 2007: hey,
i think that you are a great guy, because you dont sleep around cause u have something called feelings not just meaningless sex .
you need a very good girl to treat you nicely and stop trying to change something you already are, cause ma... (read in full...)
We may not see each other for a long time, can this still work?
Q. i'm in a long distant relationship. my boyfriend is in atlanta georgia, and i'm in st. kitts(in d caribbean). we've been dating for 3 months now. he plans to visit me but not this year. we want to be together but i don't have the US visa yet and i ...
A. 2 November 2007: hey,
to tell you the truth i don't think it will work but you can still try and see , maybe it does and i hope so ,and you can make it work but it will be hard , i have tried it once before and it was very hard for me because i couldn't see him ... (read in full...)
My best friend and I became lovers, now he's back with his ex, its breaking my heart,help please!
Q. my bestfriend and i eventually became lovers after 10 long years of pure friendship.. however, our relationship as lovers did not even last a month.. i broke up with him on the 3rd week of our relationship because he was acting kinda cold on me.. ...
A. 2 November 2007: hey,
some people have a chance in a relationship after freindship and some people don't. the thing is that you should have talked about what might happen if you broke up before you started going out but that something happened and there is noth... (read in full...)
I really like this guy, but I'm worried about making a fool of myself
Q. I need help. i really like this boy in school and i have had recent boyfriends before but I feel that he is different. He makes me laugh when everything else seems gloomy, he thinks thinks outside the box when i have problems, and he is really sweet ...
A. 2 November 2007: hey,
i think that you have to be yourself around him as if you are near a normal guy , even if he means a lot to you , you should feel relaxed next to him, and great he likes you too :D so you have no problem, always let him see you are fun to be a... (read in full...)
Is a 5 year age difference a problem for boyfriend and girlfriend or is it just right?
Q. Is a 5 year age difference a problem for boyfriend and girlfriend or is it just right?...
A. 2 November 2007: hey,
i think 5 years isn't a very big age difference but i still that you always have to watch out from anything unexpected.
bye take care. good luck... (read in full...)
I've suffered a traumatic experience, now I've put on weight, how can I get myself back on track?
Q. hiya, I'm 17 and 6 months ago i was raped. I started eating loads and i have gained so much weight i use to be a size 10-12 and now im a 16-18. I hate my body so much and i have lost all my confidence, i was woundering if anyone can give me any advi...
A. 1 November 2007: we all wish you the best ,but with time you will have confidence again we have all been betrayed by our freinds maybe not in the same way ,anyways goood luck and remember we will always be here ... bye XXX... (read in full...)
I've suffered a traumatic experience, now I've put on weight, how can I get myself back on track?
Q. hiya, I'm 17 and 6 months ago i was raped. I started eating loads and i have gained so much weight i use to be a size 10-12 and now im a 16-18. I hate my body so much and i have lost all my confidence, i was woundering if anyone can give me any advi...
A. 31 October 2007: am really very sorry:( sorry about your rape.. i think the best way to lose weight is lot of sports and healthy food and drinking a lot of water .... wish you all the best and please tell us what happens next and i wish you all the best .
good luck... (read in full...)
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