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anonymous
writes:I just recently found out that three months into my relationship my boyfriend went online and Googled two of my ex's. My boyfriend is not a controlling person and he is self confident - not needy our insecure. I'm not really sure what to think of that? Can any men share some insight? Thanks :)
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reader, lifesgreat  +, writes (16 August 2014):
From another guys point of view , I would say curious !
He might not be as self confident as you think and just feels that way when with you.
I wouldn't worry about it unless he does it again
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reader, Honeypie  + ♥, writes (16 August 2014):
 I'd say curiosity.
Though, I've been married for almost 17 years and I don't know all the full names of my husband exes, nor does he know the names of mine, so... not much googling going on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your responses. I shouldn't have specified males only. I just assumed that they may have a male perspective on things which may be different than females. That was poor judgment on my part.
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reader, jls022 +, writes (15 August 2014):
He was probably just curious. I don't understand why you are asking - are you worried about it in some way?
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reader, eyeswideopen +, writes (15 August 2014):
 This is what happens when you just question to just the uncles. Now if you had included the females you would have had a ton of responses.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2014): Okay - so you've only been dating 3 months. He might SEEM confident, secure and not controlling but sometimes these traits don't become obvious until a couple have been dating quite some time. Some people don't notice until they're married! Is there anything else that is a potential red flag?And anyone who is normally confident and self-assured can have an insecure or needy moment sometimes, especially if they've been drinking or have had a hard day. Maybe he's just plain nosey (or curious if you want it to sound more polite)How does he know your exes names to Google them? Are you still friends with them? Or have you been particularly vocal about about them - maybe one of them hurt you badly and you've been telling people what an asshole he was? Do you keep talking about one of them to friends or family or colleagues? Any of these can pigue someones curiosity. And would explain how your current b/f knows your exes names.If he's had to hunt to find out their names (not by asking you) I would see this as a red flagWhy don't you ask him why in a conversational non-confrontational manner. His reaction might let you know if you need to be worried.Sorry I'm not a guy though
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