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Soon we will be in a LDR. So far one month together. Is it too soon to say "I Love you" ?

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Question - (26 November 2014) 5 Answers - (Newest, 27 November 2014)
A female United States age 30-35, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend and I have been together for a month now. We started talking online and we talked for about two weeks before we met and we went on 3 dates before we started dating.

He is an amazingly sweet guy, he makes me feel amazing, and I have never dated a guy who has treated me this well before.

I have looked online for this answer, I don't want to jump the gun and ruin things, but I really feel for him.

The problem I have is that he is graduating in 2 weeks and moving back home for awhile, I read you should wait 3-6 months to say "I love you," but soon we will be in a LDR, and I am nervous that if I wait too long to say it, things may not be the same.

I have never really done a LDR before, so that makes me nervous.

I just really want to go by this relationship right.

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A male reader, lifesgreat United Kingdom +, writes (27 November 2014):

personally I would say it is too soon. But that is me.

Also some blokes may be scared by it .

If I was you give it some time and then say it also in regards to him feeling it , he may do.

But usually the blokes fall in love at a later stage but when we do , we fall harder then the women .

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2014):

Got to agree with Flynn, if you mean it, if at this point in time you feel love for him then just say it. It you don't, but you really like and care for him then carry on as you are just enjoying what you have. If things are going to work out they will because you'll both make the effort xx

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A male reader, CMMP United States +, writes (27 November 2014):

If things with this guy are meant to be you won't have to stress over little details like this. Just be the best gf you can and forget about these trivial details.

But, the truth is that what you feel is probably not love as much as it is infatuation which feels a heckler of a lot like love. It takes time to really get to know someone, which is necessary before truly falling in love.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (27 November 2014):

Not at all. Sometimes you know after 5 minutes and sometimes it takes years even.

And all of this 'wait until he says it' stuff is crap. If you feel it, if you mean it... say it. He might say it back, or he might take longer to reach the conclusion, so don't offended if he does or doesn't.

Flynn 24

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A female reader, Ciar Canada + , writes (27 November 2014):

Ciar agony auntYes. Way too soon and I recommend you let him say it first.

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