Can Love Alone Make A relationship Work?
Q. Can Love Alone Make A relationship Work ? Hi ! I'm a young guy, just finished Uni, and I really have some issues about my love life that I hope some of you can help me untangle. Here's the situation. I'm in a long-term relation...
A. 5 December 2006: I believe that love can conquer all (yeah, I know I'm a hopeless romantic)...
But you have to get to grips with the differences, the niggly bits that have you staying up through most of the night... You see it's not what we have in common that we ... (read in full...)
I want to snog my boyfriend but I'm afraid I wont know how!
Q. i want to snog my boyfriend but im afraid i wont know how when it gets to it, although i've looked it up on many sites....
A. 4 December 2006: Just enjoy it. I know it doesn't seem like much advice at all but if you enjoy it then you will tend to play with him more.
Besides everyone kisses differently and you will kiss differently too with different guys. Take it slow at first, you might ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with someone else - but should I just settle for my less physical marriage or move on?
Q. I'm a 25-year old christian guy that married his first girlfriend 2 years ago (after dating her for 3 years). Before I met her, I spent most of my time behind a computer, not meeting girls. Although I was not a christian when we started dating, I ...
A. 4 December 2006: Dude, if there's one thing you need to do before you go to marriage councelling is to ask God to change your heart towards your wife [yes God needs to start with you first]...
My friend went through the same thing he married his childhood sweetheart ... (read in full...)
Is my vagina abnormal, or am I just worrying about it too much?
Q. im worriedthe skin around my virgina is to big! im 18 im sexualy active but im a virgin, am im worried when it comes down to me and my Boyfriend having sex or even giving me oral he will notice and think im odd and very unitractive! im i just over ...
A. 2 December 2006: Who you are and the way you look is what makes you perfect and unique. You fussing over it could become a real downer during those intimate moments. Just learn to become comfortable in your own skin (sorry for the pun).... (read in full...)
Why won't he orgasm when I give him a bj?
Q. I have tried giving my boyfriend oral and I know I am very good at this, But I want to know why he wont cum. I know he enjoys but it's upsetting me he always seems to worry more about my orgasm that his own what am I doing wrong?? Please Help I feel ...
A. 2 December 2006: My ex had the same 'problem' with me and I know it frustrated her, but I couldn't help it I was just having too much fun to spoil it by cumming. It might sound selfish but the pleasure is mostly in the act not the climax. She once gave me a bj that ... (read in full...)
I just can't seem to get over him - how can I be strong about this break up?
Q. Am finding it really hard to get over my bf...we've been 2gether since Febr. and we've been seeing each others everyday untill earlier this month when he gradually stoped calling or caring...until I ended things (they were already over though) but I ...
A. 2 December 2006: You deserve to be happy.
I had the same thing with my ex, I sent her txts and poems and stories for her to realise how much I cared, but she wouldn't budge. So I moved on, although we still stayed in touch. And last week she started warming up to me ... (read in full...)
My fiance and I have split, but we still love each other - how can I win her back?
Q. my fiancee recently split up with me and even though i know she still loves me, and i still love her with all my heart i cant seem to win her back!! we have always had a good relationship and now that she has finished university she is in limbo and ...
A. 1 December 2006: Just be strong and give her space. Stay on her radar and trust her.
She just needs time to see where she fits in, then she'll realise that nothing much has really changed (love wise). There are no guarantees, but to pressurise her now with your ... (read in full...)
I'm a single mom on income support. I feel so lost and alone - how do I get through the Christmas season this year?
Q. It's December, I'm a single mum on income support and just dread Christmas, my nerves are jangling at the thought of it! How do i get through it. I don't have any relative and few friends in the area and so i'm feeling so lost and alone. Money is ...
A. 1 December 2006: I'm sorry that you're going through this. Just know that christmas was never meant to be about how much you could spend. It's about sharing your time and love with your loved ones. Pls know that you're going through this, just for a season. In no ... (read in full...)
My fiance says our split is not permanent, but it's been three months. I cry everyday - I want to give him an ultimatum!
Q. I am really hoping someone can tell me how to deal with the emotions I am feeling, My fiance left me about 3 months ago, we had not been getting along for a while we argued over the most trivial things and the arguments got really nasty we hurt each ...
A. 1 December 2006: Hi there, I don't know if your fiance is a sensitive guy, but this might explain it from his point of view.
If he didn't care for you he wouldn't go out of his way to visit you. I think he's trying to give you space and is now afraid that you don't ... (read in full...)
He stands really close to me and pokes me in the waist - do you think he fancies me?
Q. hi im 16 and im friends with this boy and when i queue up to get my lunch in the canteen everyday we queue up together. it is quite crowded in the queue. i always stand infront of him while he is talking to me from behind me. he always moves right ...
A. 1 December 2006: Hi anon, I definitely think he fancies you.
But I can't make up my mind whether I'm troubled by it or relieved for your part!? lol ;-)... (read in full...)
I'm a Jew for Jesus, but he will only marry me if I renounce Christ! What do I do??
Q. He wants me to convert to Judaism and renounce Christ in order to marry me!!!! I am already Jewish but I believe in the son of G-d. I'm what you call a Jews for Jesus. He says he loves me and that I have to renounce my beliefs in order to get ...
A. 1 December 2006: Hi sweetie, I hope he comes around but expecting you to change something that is so close to you in return for his love, is no love at all.
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I'm cruel to animals and am genuinely seeking help. Please help me.
Q. I hate myself for this, and you're going to hate me too, but I need help so I'm posting it anyway. I own a cat and a dog, and sometimes I'm just evil towards them. I don't know why I do it, and every time a get a new pet I promise myself that I'll ...
A. 1 December 2006: Hi anon, I think you have some self-love or self-respect issues that only a trained therapist/psychologist can help you with. I think you're brave to ask for help, but pls ask to see a therapist.
Your pets never asked for you to take them, and ... (read in full...)
He forgave me after the first cheat...now I did it again! Should I tell him before we get married in 2 weeks?
Q. I have been with my fiance for three years and about a year and half ago i cheated on him...i told him and he forgave me. he recently left to the army and i cheated again! not because i dont want him, because i love him. i just made the worst ...
A. 1 December 2006: How many times are you still going to cheat on him (and expect him to forgive you) for you to be satisfied with a monogamous relationship with him?
Because if I was him, I wouldn't take you back the second time (although I would've had a pretty hard ... (read in full...)
He doesn't want to use a condom and suggested I go on the pill - but that doesn't protect from std's! What can I do?
Q. hey, i been goin out with my boyfriend for a while now and we have decided to go all the way. there is one problem though, he wont use a condom:( hes asked me to go onto the pill, but he's been really understanding about it and said if i didnt wa...
A. 1 December 2006: I agree with martini.
Remember if he cares for you he'll do the test or the condom, with the prevalence of STD's and HIV/AIDS you cannot not use protection but if there are alarm bells ringing in your head, then better still, try abstaining.... (read in full...)
I feel like she's having second thoughts... Is she?
Q. My girlfriends emotions seem very flip-flopped. When she has a very bad day, it's "impossible" for her to say "I love you" to me, even if I say "I love you" first. She claims that she does, but just can't say it... it's very confusing. Many other ...
A. 1 December 2006: Lay off her if you want her to stick around.
I had the same 'problems' with my ex, and she told me that she would say it when she meant it. Now that doesn't mean she doesn't care for you it just means that she's being honest with you.
Why would it ... (read in full...)
My cousin and I are having sex! Is this okay?
Q. is kissing my cousin ok? I mean she beautiful we both have feelings and we had sex is that ok?...
A. 1 December 2006: I'm not even going to touch on society's perceptions and moral issues.
Your cousin, especially first degree (ie. Your mom/dad and her mom/dad have the same 2 parents), and are the genetic or blood equivalent of a half-sister. If that doesn't blow ... (read in full...)
5 weeks until our baby is due, but I just found out he is cheating on me with his secretary!
Q. I found out that my boyfriend has been cheating on me for the past 3-4 months with his secretary. I caught him red handed. To top things off, my boyfriend and I live together and we are expecting to have a little girl in 5 weeks. I am at a loss as ...
A. 29 November 2006: I feel for you sweety, but I disagree with baby girl to an extent. Although he cheated and disrespected you, it is you who are holding the cards. No matter what anyone says the choice is yours whether or not to take him back. But if you do take him ... (read in full...)
Does this guy have feelings for me or not?
Q. I have feelings for a guy who goes to my college. I have the worse guy problems and I can never tell how a guy feels about me. When we first talked online he showed a lot of interest and even came to my dorm for the rest for the night (to watch a ...
A. 29 November 2006: Chill. You're going to get yourself in a flat spin.
Firstly, you must0believe in yourself.
But no matter who the guy is and you've shown interest (remember some guys are a little slow on the uptake) and he doesn't make his move, then you should just ... (read in full...)
Don't know what to do about christmas? Who do I go and spend it with?
Q. Hi I need some advice.... plz!!! sorry to be long but...... I live away from my mum and dad, my brother lives in ireland and me in england and my mum and dad in scotland, i dont know what to do for christmas. I moved to england with my boyf l...
A. 28 November 2006: Spend xmas with your parents and new years with your bf.
That's a compromise you can live with.... (read in full...)
My bf and I never had the spark that this new guy and I have - I'm torn on what to do!
Q. I've been with my boyfriend for five years, on and off. The off times have been because after a while I tend to get bored and think I'm too young for committment and that I'm missing out on something. I'm 22. I always end up back with my fella. I...
A. 28 November 2006: Sweety, that spark will soon fade after the dust settles and then you're left with someone that you might only be able to relate to on a physical level. Also remember that 95% of married life doesn't involve sex. That's when you need to have someone ... (read in full...)
Is it better to have a one night stand
Q. How do you open yourself to a person emotionally and tell you have little or no sexual experience despite your age? is it better to have a one night stand with an attractive bloke who offers but doesn't love you before you try to find stable ...
A. 28 November 2006: Sorry for being frank, but a guy won't have respect for you just because you shared his bed, he'll just think of you as an easy lay. Besides there are too many self-respect issues that you're going to have to deal with. If I were you I'd rather hold ... (read in full...)
Why does my ex treat me like I'm good enough to screw but not good enough to commit to?
Q. My ex and I made-out and fooled around. Help! So here's the deal... my ex-bf showed up at my place on Thursday night (unexpected) and we were talking and then he initiated a make-out session that included a lot of fooling around. My clothes were ...
A. 28 November 2006: For the life of me I have never understood the FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS thing!
Without any reservations let me tell you how your ex bf (or any man doing the same thing) sees in this kind of status quo.
"I like her but not enough to give her what she ... (read in full...)
I love him a lot but feel he doesn't pay enough attention to me! Should I call this a day?
Q. Please help. SORRY FOR LONG POST.. please read!!! How do you know when to call it a day? I have been with my boyfriend over two years, and my feelings for him have bordered on obssession at times. I believe a lot of this is down to his perso...
A. 28 November 2006: Well I have a twist on your story. In my relationship with my ex gf, I was the more affectionate and attentive one. And that was difficult for me, but I loved her and was willing to live with it, but it was especially hard when my self-confidence ... (read in full...)
He made a statement that has me confused...read it and tell me what you think?
Q. What does a guy's statement like this mean....... " i dont think that i could ever love her as much as she loves me" im so confused ...
A. 27 November 2006: He doesn't love her as much as she loves him.
I don't think he has or is willing to invest himself emotionally to the extent she has.... (read in full...)
My ex and my friend are dating! Should I confront him with my feelings?
Q. My ex of like 9 months ended it with me!! she said she just didnt feel the same way anymore n how she loved me but not in love with me etc etc etc, the usual stuff. but now my like best mate n her r getting too friendly for my liking, surely they ...
A. 26 November 2006: Take her and your friend's word that they're just friends until you find out otherwise.
You don't want to be known as the neurotic ex bf and if you see a future with her then give her space.
She being friends with your best friend might just bring ... (read in full...)
I'm 16..is masturbating 2 times per day too much?
Q. Im 16 and i think i have a problem. I masterbate about 2 a day or maybe more and finish everytime. I think i am doing it to much or is this normal? and all of a sudden i keep looking at porn sites again, can someone please help. Please....
A. 25 November 2006: I agree with Dr Pete, masturbating that often is normal (some guys do it even more often).
But porn is a definite no-no, cos it stops you from relating to women as people with feelings, interests, etc and more as objects. This is a dangerous place ... (read in full...)
I'm 20, in college-I'm lonely and am trying to figure why guys won't date me?
Q. i am a 20 year old going to college, for me its a lonely part of life. I work too much, i have hard classes and i am very shy. the only real serious boyfriend i had was 1 1/2 years and that was two years ago. i havent dated yet. i dont know what my ...
A. 25 November 2006: There is nothing wrong with you. You seem sweet & considerate. Just learn to believe in yourself - cos you have so much to offer. Often relationships develop out of friendships, so there's nothing wrong with that, and remember that guys can be quite ... (read in full...)
Is this guy playing me for a fool or...does he really want me?
Q. I broke up with my bf about 9 months ago. even after all this time, it still hurts as if it were yesterday. We have had alot of ups and downs since our break-up, things that have made the situation even worse at times. There are times when we can ...
A. 25 November 2006: I think he was hurt by the break up and is having problems trusting you with his heart again.
If you see a future with him, then let him know in no uncertain terms.
Otherwise just move on. By the way why did you break up with him in the first place? ... (read in full...)
How do relationships work?
Q. im a 16 year old boy and i've got a bit of a problem, i havent had a relationship for 6 years and i've basically forgotten how relationships work, so if anyone can give me ideas on this i will be vary grateful. i also need help in how to approach ...
A. 25 November 2006: First things first, the most important step is to love who you see in the mirror and accept yourself with all your 'flaws' because it's that which is going to make you special. Secondly grow a healthy self-confidence by doing sports or other things ... (read in full...)
Too many bf's in my life! Everything is going wrong and I need advice!
Q. I have loads of problems with relationships at the moment. I broke up with my boyf about a month ago and then went out with this other lad who is really sweet. That didn't work out so we broke up but about a week ago this other lad at my school ...
A. 23 November 2006: Yep, you've had too many boyfriends lately, but I'm sure there are lots more waiting to take you out, but you can't help it if you're popular - right?
Wrong.
By being the lovable, friendly and (dare I say it) sexy you, you are spurring the guys ... (read in full...)
After the break up, he just doesn't act the same!
Q. We broke up and and now we are back together. He treats me differently. What do I do? I know he still loves me but I think he is thinking that we are too close or something. He just doesn't act the same. A guy came to my highschool a few weeks ag...
A. 23 November 2006: He's probably trying to avoid making the same mistakes that led to you 2 breaking up.... (read in full...)
Can't get past her cheating! It's not the same anymore..what should I do?
Q. ive been with this girl awhile she cheated relized what she lost and were trying to work it out, its not the same we dont get along until we cuddle at night. i get mad about her cheating and im having a hard time getting over it and making it work ...
A. 23 November 2006: Ah the joys of love.
If you want someone faithful - get a puppy!
We (humans) have a natural disposition to hurt the ones we love.
But if you love her and believe you have a future together, then you're going to have to let it go cos it's going to ... (read in full...)
I thought everything was well with us but now I'm wondering--Does he still love me as before?
Q. Does he still love me as before? I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. I thought all was well between us until last week when he started this conversation.....can we manage to last to be together until we are old? We have a problem, we have to ...
A. 23 November 2006: Maybe he's just worried that you won't stay with him for the duration. Although this sounds hurtful, it is HIS issues. I'd sit him down and ask him what exactly it was that he meant. You guys can move on from this but not before you've set the story ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant and I think he's having an affair! Advice please?
Q. hiya, im 32 weeks pregnant and married for nearly 3 years and recently our sex life is non existant. i think my husbands gone off me!i also saw him texting some girl who i think he is having an affair with. help me please...
A. 23 November 2006: In my mind a woman is at her most beautiful when she's pregnant, and alot of guys also feel this way.
And I also know that alot of guys are afraid of getting intimate because they don't want to harm their wife or the baby.
So just take it easy like ... (read in full...)
Can I get my ex back after breaking up with him?
Q. Hi I'm a teenager that recently broke up with my boyfriend that I been with for almost two months. I want him back. What should I do?...
A. 23 November 2006: You sound guite young, and you are busy discovering who you are and where you fit in.
That's why I think you should stop playing with other's feelings. It is very hurtful to take someones heart thro your on/off rollercoaster. Just enjoy where you ... (read in full...)
I am distraught because my soulmate and best friend has walked out of my life
Q. I am distraught because my soulmate and best friend has walked out of my life. Twelve years ago I met and became friends with a man at university. Soon we were spending every day together, sharing everything in our lives. We dated briefly fo...
A. 23 November 2006: I absolutely agree with rhythmandblues (beautifully and compassionatly stated).
Although you refer to what you had as a friendship it was more akin to a relationship (or what one should be) just without the physical union, but instead you had ... (read in full...)
If a guy is crazy in love with you and you just want to be friends... Would that work?
Q. Can you be friends with a guy who's crazy in love with you or just tell you cant be anything to him ...
A. 23 November 2006: The problem is that you both have different expectations. But if you somehow down the line see a future with him or you don't want to loose his friendship, then the best thing is to have some space and time apart especially if he keeps hounding ... (read in full...)
She says I am more like her best friend than her bf. What should I do?
Q. Hi there, what should a guy do when his girlfriend mentions every few days that he feels like her best friend and not a boyfriend?...
A. 23 November 2006: If she hasn't tried to break things up you it can mean that she appreciates that she can confide in you.
Now the way to go is not to get neurotic and accept it as a compliment. If you're not already holding hands, smuggling together and kissing you ... (read in full...)
I feel so insecure and depressed, lately. I need my confidence back! Any tips?
Q. I feel so insecure. i'm depressed most days, don't want to go on medication. live with bf with his son and mine. Life is tougher than i thought it would be. I wish i hadn't given up my rented house so soon. I don't feel like the same person who walk...
A. 22 November 2006: I'm glad you decided against medication, cos all it does is dull the pain and leave you feeling worse when you come off it.
I'd say that you first take control of your emotions, going thro this yo-yo effect can play havoc with your self-esteem, he ... (read in full...)
I am female and over six foot tall! I'm insecure about it. Tell me-- Do men find tall women attractive?
Q. This is a stupid question, but I am very insecure as I am so tall. I am six foot and tower over people, especially when I wear heels. I am very slim and used to be a model so everyone thinks I am so confident, but the truth is I hate it so much. I ...
A. 22 November 2006: I am so sorry that you feel this way because tall women are quite attractive especially if they stay in shape.
It reminds me of the ugly duckling story - what makes you stand out (pardon the pun) is what makes you magnificent!
I wish in time that ... (read in full...)
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